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Well, my sister is 16, and she's pregnant by her 20 year old boyfriend. I want to help her, I really do. She is about to turn 17 next month and she wants to move in with him. However, my mom told me that she wasn't going to let her and not to tell her that because she would get upset. So, I don't wanna upset her about it, so I am keeping my mouth shut.
I try to help her the best I can. If she wants something to drink, I'll get her something to drink, if she wants something to eat, I'll get her something to eat. However, it seems like whatever I do isn't good enough. She always complains that its too hot, or too cold, or she doesn't like it. She has the biggest mood swings ever. She cries constantly; when she's not crying she's screaming.
I just want to help her out so much. She's young and we have birth defect problems in our family. I want her pregnancy to go well. I just don't know how to help.

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aww youre a great sibling! just be there for her...im sure she appreciates what you are doing but you cant help the mood swings. i think her boyfriend is old enough to help take care of her and her child. all you can do is comfort her and just be understanding. are you sure she wanted to get pregnant...she doesnt seem thrilled, but ok. hope this helps!

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does anyone know a site that has like away fades
thx

http://www.robotic-heart.org/quotemania/Fifteen.html
^they have all kinds of cool stuff.

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My hair is medium brownish reddish and I have light brown eyes and somewhat pale skin. I find myself always wearing the same boring old makeup. What are some good makeup ideas when I want to change my look around that would go with my skin color? I would like some looks that are punkish, preppyish, dressed up, or just really nice. Whatever you think would suit the look.

well i guess i cant really picture the description (braindead) but try all different colors. i would try bronzer with some gold. if your tired or the look, add eyeliner in black, brown or darkblue. hope this helps!

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I am going to be staying in a small village in Northern Italy this summer as an exchange student for 6 weeks! I know I should dress modestly there as to not offend who I am staying with, but what are some cute ways to dress and stay in style while abroad?

well i would go with nice pants or bermudas. they dont have do be like dress pants but i dont think they should be ripped up or anything. try a fitted tshirts that doesnt show your stomach, some cute button downs and throw in some tank tops too. bring a peasent skirt too. hope this helps a bit.

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okay..
there is this guy and ive known him for 2yrs and we've always been close as freinds like i can help him with problems and vice versa but we always flirt and i think he likes me hes been droping signals and i think i like him to. schools out and i dont see him as much but when we talk or hang out we flirt im goin to a party next week i think he'll be there--could u tell em somthings i could do to really send the message

well its hard to tel wih really close friends...im trying to imagine this with my friend of 2 years ad its like..flirting with my brother kinda..ew. ok well if you want to let him know you like him smile, laugh at his stupid jokes (oh they LOVE IT), just overall flirt with him and tell him by the end of the night.

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I always wear jeans CONSTANTLY...and I'd like to "spice" up my style alot..I'm into a lot of different styles, I'd just like some tips of things to wear besides jeans that are still really cute..you know..new outfit ideas!

wow sounds like me. to jazz up the jeans, roll em up as capris, cut them up a bit, or add some funky belts or chains. i say try skirts or bermuda shorts in all different colors.

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Is 13 old enough to wear makeup? I mean like light makeup, not really heavy makeup cuz I'm 13 and I want to, but I'm not sure if it would look weird on a 13-year-old?

ive worn makeup for as long as i can remember. go with basic eyeshadow and maybe some foundation. dont over do it, it looks bad. try reading "bobbie brown teenage beauty" for some good ideas to start off with.

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I have 16 fat, ugly pimples on my face. I wash my face 3 times a day but nothing works. Anyone have suggestions?

over-washing is soooo bad for your acne! go to a derm, they will get rid of the scrubs and put you on some meds that can actually help it, trust me!

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if you have a heavy flow, do you break out more?

note: i do struggle with some acne issues

i really dont think so...i used to break out a ton and didnt have my period at all. now i take treatment but it has nothing to do with that.

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ok, i here from my friends its ok, but im confused, are girls allowed to masterbate? like how many girls do? does anyone here? please help!

yes girls do it..even the religious type because many dont know what it is when they feel good down there. i looked it up on the about.com site and here are "10 things you outta know about masturbation" hope this helps with the confusion!

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Tonight I have a swim meet and I have to swim 100 yards Butterfly. I'm terrible at butterfly and I can only do about 50 yrds before collapsing. It's an important meet so I want to do well, but atleast finish. Any tips, hints, or advice on how to do well tonight? I'll rate verry high!

just tell youself that yeah youll get tired but the quicker you do it with all your might, the faster it is over and done with. what jess said it very true, streamline as much as possible. swim like its the last time you will swim...i swear it works magic!

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ok i am really scared because i was playing about with my ex bfs school website and i requested a new password for him,Then it came up with my i.p address OMG can he find out it was me??? how can i avoid him thinking it was me?

i doubt he'll be able to trace it back to you. to avoid it, deny it. oh, and dont do it again....next time it might be worse!

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hey this i a very weird question to ask you guys out in public but my bf and i want to start having sex. But idk if he wants my "pussy" shaved or not and im not going to ask him because it would be awkward. What do you think i should do?

hey first of all its ok to ask on here because we get questions like this all the time, no biggie. shaved or not shaved...it depends on the guy. if you trust him enough to share your body with him, then you should be comfortable enough with him that you can ask him what he wants.

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There this girl she likes this guy and this guy likes her but see I like her but I just can't show it how can I show it to her so I can prove that I love her?

well if they like each other, i wouldnt get involved. one of my bfs friends did that and it mad him look bad. if you do something, tell her and make her feel special, pay attention to her, remember what she says and just be really sweet to her. it worked on me...

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Ok this morning, I woke up and there was this tiny blemish/zit thing down there..idk what it is!! Please help me..im freaking out..It's like a dot smaller than a zit but bigger than a blemish and there's a whitehead or something in it...I've never had sex..and no one has been "down there"..please help!

well if you shave down there, its probably an ingrown hair that can be caused by stuff like underwear rubing against skin or just by irritaion.

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once i found the music link i like and i copy it were do i paste it at on my personal settings

well i put it at the bottom of the profile thing that shows up on the column. thnx 4 askin!

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my girlfriend latly has been ignoring me, and she has a real short fuse with me. Whenever i try to do somthing that shows i love her, she takes everything the wrong way and is like "why are you doing that" or somthing. we thought it was PMS a while back but she's been like this a while now. then i cant ever really show any affection for her, because (well i think anyway) that she feels crowded with this girl, who might i add is completly obsessed with her...the girls name is Ally, and all is CONSTANTLY hugging on, or holding onto my girlfriend and i think thats part of the reason she is acting the way she is. i cant pull her away for a long enough time to give her our first kiss and we've been together for 4 months. she doesnt ever really want to cuddle durring any movies at my house, because if ally happens to be there then ally is on her, and she doesnt want to leave/be rude to ally...sometimes she will blow me off for no apperent reason at all or with some excuse. is there anything i can do to make my girlfriend pay a LIL more attention to me, or is it pretty much hopeless?

ok im gonna answer this anywayyy, someone has a bit of an attitude problem. most would call this a "tease". the relationship needs to have 2 sides ptting forth effort for it to work out... hard lesson learned. i can see how ally is a big problem...restraining order! lmao, no just dont invite her over. sure, it might get people mad at you but since when since when has that stopped you? something to make her pay attention to you...well, by the looks of it, you could put an amusement park with fireworks in her front yard with a band to serenade you guys for a lovely night out and she would blow you off because shes tired or ask to invite ally so they can enjoy themselves while you watch. movie night...enough said. thats rude. do whatever you want tho, i cant tell you what to do nor do i plan to.

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Can you get music on your advice column?

yes you can. you can find a page then copy the music code into you personal settings.

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I always seem to ask my self this question..

Why is it that im only visible when people need something to do?

Its seems to always be true that people are really nice and stuff to me only when they actually need something to do..why is this?
thanks a bunch! ill rate you for a good answer!

oh thats awful! i guess they dont think of you as that good of a friend i guess or it couldbe that they forget you in plans...it happens especially if your shy or just not very loud. theyre using you..thats the verdict. alrighty, i hope this helps! oh, 1 more thing, if they dont call you, then run your own plans and invite people that are really your friends!

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I was three days late for my period so I took two home pregnacy test and they both came up with a very faint positve. I then got my period like an hour after I took the second one. Is it possible that the test were wrong or can you be pregnate and still get your period?

no you are not pregnant.

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