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How to help a teenage pregnant woman?
Well, my sister is 16, and she's pregnant by her 20 year old boyfriend. I want to help her, I really do. She is about to turn 17 next month and she wants to move in with him. However, my mom told me that she wasn't going to let her and not to tell her that because she would get upset. So, I don't wanna upset her about it, so I am keeping my mouth shut.
I try to help her the best I can. If she wants something to drink, I'll get her something to drink, if she wants something to eat, I'll get her something to eat. However, it seems like whatever I do isn't good enough. She always complains that its too hot, or too cold, or she doesn't like it. She has the biggest mood swings ever. She cries constantly; when she's not crying she's screaming.
I just want to help her out so much. She's young and we have birth defect problems in our family. I want her pregnancy to go well. I just don't know how to help.
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Well, i was a pregnant teenager at one time as well. Just give her time, shes just going through a stage. You may still help her like your still doing, which is a very great thing =) It's not like she doesn't know that your helping her out, she will thank you in the end. Mood-Swings are very normal during pregnancy, especially if shes only 16. You can help her by letting her know you've got her back for whatever happens, and tell her that your there for her. I promise she will be happy. Good luck, and take care!!
♥ KRiSTEN
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I'm probably going to annoy someone here but here it goes.
You're sister sounds very selfish to me.
She wanted to get pregnant at a young age even though she couldn't provide for a baby as well as she could have if she waited and she is taking your wonderful treatment for granted.
You are the best little sister ever for wanting the very best for your sister but your sister has taken a big step into adulthood and you need to let her learn how to cope on her own.
Being nice is one thing, but please make sure you don't become your sister's doormat. That wont help her in the end.
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I know how you feel, my sister was pregnan at 17 but the difference being her boyfriend ran off when he found out she was pregnant so she was left with me while my parents worked and no matter how much I tryed to make things right for her she cryed and screamed and cryed some more.
It's absolutely natural for her to cry or scream and have mood swings, her hormones are going haywire which is normal.
You should try and talk to her sit her down when you're both alone (and when she seems like she's in a good mood QUICK! while it lasts, lmao) and let her know that even if sometimes she might feel like she hates you because of her mood swings that that's okay and you understand and let her know that you're there for her if she ever needs you.
Once you get her trust (if my plan works that is) you should see if she'll live at home for a while, that way your parents and you can help out with the baby.
If you have room in your house and if you think it's a good idea you should suggest to both your mom and your sister that her boyfriend moves in untill things are settled and they both have enough money to move out, because babies are expensive!
(if you're going to do that, ask your mom before you ask your sister, your sister might agree and get her hopes up and then your mom might disagree so to avoid getting her hopes up and then letting her down, don't let her know untill and if your mom agrees)
Like I said, you just need to let your sister know you're there for her.
When my sister gave birth she told me that all the time she was pregnant and having mood swings, all she wanted was to know she could trust someone and that someone would be there for her no matter what.
So you should give it a go.
Good luck :) and congrats on becoming a future auntie!
♥Em
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aww youre a great sibling! just be there for her...im sure she appreciates what you are doing but you cant help the mood swings. i think her boyfriend is old enough to help take care of her and her child. all you can do is comfort her and just be understanding. are you sure she wanted to get pregnant...she doesnt seem thrilled, but ok. hope this helps! <3
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Pregnant women are naturally emotional. It's not her, or your, fault. It's probably stressful for her, too: being a teen AND pregnant.
Maybe if you get her something to eat/drink, be more specific. Like, if she asks for a soda, ask "What kind? Do you want it with ice?" Just remember that that it's not your fault.
You can also be there for her. Let her know that if she needs advice or just someone to talk to and get support from, you'll be there for her. Let her know that you love and care for her.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave a message in my inbox!
♥ Manders
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Aww that is so sweet of you. All of her crying and screaming is just from mood swings and you cant help that much. Just let her know that your there for her to help her and that you love her very much. Just help her out the best you can. It is great that your trying so hard to help you sister out. And you are, even if she crys and screams, you still are trying your best. It's the right thing not to tell your sister. It will make her more upset about the moving in and everything. Good Luck Hun. Hope I helped.
~Brina~
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