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About a year ago I was working as a care aid in a long-term care home. We were scheduled to take a group of seniors out to shop, and I was washing up this resident, around then she was 101 I believe. I realized that I was about to be late, so I dried this resident up as fast as I could and covered her a bit, and left the room to try to find another care aid to take over for me and finish washing her.

When I got back with another care aid the resident was obviously upset about being left alone (she said, "don't leave me again!" or something like that). I felt really bad about leaving her because I knew she would get cold very easy, and she was basically helpless (bedrest, couldn't get her up). This has really been bothering me, I feel very guilty and I've been trying to decide whether or not it'd be worth it to apologize to her.

On one hand: I don't even know if she's still alive (I could call and ask, but I don't know if they'd tell me), I don't know if I'd be allowed to see her, she's completely blind and 90% deaf (have to yell an inch away from her ear to communicate), maybe has dementia by now, she might not remember what happened, maybe it's been too long, maybe I'm blowing what happened out of proportion.

On the other: It would give me peace of mind, and maybe her.

What do you guys think? Is it worth it to try to apologize? I don't even know if they'd let me talk to her (not a family member).

Apologizing to her would be nice of you. You could probably call the place and get information if you worked there.

Should I be worried by my loss of the "good" emotions as they are. Empathy, love, symnpathy all those are lessening each day some I don't even feel at all anymore. Should I be worried though I don't seem to care much at all about them?

It's probably what you are going through. Did you have a traumatic or depressing event? You could talk to a family member/friend about it and you might feel better. If not, you might want to see a counselor of some kind.

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I really like incubus,311,sublime, and kotton mouth kings. I heard slighty stoopid is a good band too but I'm not sure which album of theirs to buy..any suggestions? So basically I want to mostly get advice on what other bands I should check out that you guys think i would like that are similar to this type of music.
Thanks (:

www.pandora.com

Check out that website. It's a radio where you type in your favorite song/band and they give you ones similar to it.

16/f
i've been friends with this girl for a few months now and ive known her cousin,anthony, for almost a year. i never really had the time to talk to him because i was with my longterm boyfriend who ended up cheating on me a couple of months ago. so i've been single for a while and i associate with a lot of people at school i've never even noticed before (my ex got kicked out too) and it's pretty great. No, I'm not a flirt but if you were to see me a few months ago I was always with my boyfriend and he didn't like me talking to everyone, now if you see me i'm always talking to everybody. well I used to talk to anthony every great once in a while while i was taken but now i talk to him a lot and i've grown to like him as more than a friend and it seems like he likes me too because everyone always tell us we always flirt with each other. i don't even notice because i get soo nervous when I'm with him and my mind goes blank haha. My friend hasn't been at school so she doesnt know but i'm planning on telling her. What are some questions I can ask Anthony to get to know him better? What would be the best way to tell me friend I like him? I don't think she'll mind since she just found out he was her cousin a few weeks ago and they don't really talk. Any other advice about Anthony will be greatly appreciated. Thank you guys in advance! :)

Ask him questions about his personality. What are his hobbies and interests? What does he want to do have high school? Is he going to college? What is his favorite food or band? Stuff like that. Be yourself.

wht does the number 11 mean? is it kind of like 69 or what!? i dont know.. anybody have an answer!?

Maybe I am wrong, but I don't think it means anything in a sexual way. Did you try Googling it?

If your doing your own snake bite piercing's do you put the needle in your lip or under it?

Bad idea. You could get a nasty infection. Go to a tattoo shop and get it done. It doesn't cost that much.

I honestly can say that I am not perfect. A lot of people think I am though, and its embarassing. I have a larger house in a wealthy neighborhood, I get straight A's, and I am extremely thin! But to counter, I am not good at sports and I dont think I am attractive. When people tell me that I am perfect, I say stuff "No, I am not" and that makes people think I am snotty for some reason. What can I say that makes them see I am not perfect, and not a snob!?!?

You should just tell them "think what you want". It will probably come across better because it will seem like you don't care. If you wanted to be perfect, you'd care what they think. Try it.

I work in a department where most employee have been there 10 years of more, an new employee started and seems to have problems understanding that we have developed friendship and have private conversation that we do not feel we need to include them in. I do not feel that they have a understanding as to the difference of gossip and private conversation. Many times they have accuse us of gossiping; large egos!! How do we explain this clearly? It is getting old fast!

Gossiping is talking about someone and their problems behind their back. It's hard to tell the difference but you should just tell them to butt out.

Hi im the biggest JB fan and i want to meet him so bad how can I...cuz for some people he do supprises thx for your help xoxo

Check out his tour dates/concert dates and see if he's going to be in your area. Sometimes there's backstage passes and things like that.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. We've been friends for a while though. We are around each other almost 24 7 and if not together we are on the phone.

Sometimes I think about it. I know his likes, his dislikes, where he's from, his middle name, etc, but I feel like I do not know him enough for real. It doesn't scare me, because we have the perfect chemistry, but I want to know him more without crazy questions like a dating site!

Any tips?

You should tell him that you're interested in him and want to know more about him. Don't hound him with questions but ask them randomly and spread them out.

Hi, i had sex for the first time with my friends ex boyfriend. I am 14 years old, and now she doesn't talk to me anymore. (if she would find out about the sex shed probably kill me.) We used protection, but he doesn't seem to love me but i think I'm falling for him. What should i do to get him to like me (BTW he isn't my boyfriend) I am Female and 14 years old. I am from America

If he had sex with you but doesn't love you, not sure why you'd want to have sex with him again. You can't do anything to get guys to like you but be yourself.

i need a decent paying job. so i can get my apratment n its bout 350-600 a month and i want to know how many hrs do i need to work so i can pay my apartment n other stuff like food, elctricity, n cable.. I NEED HELP!!:) please help

Usually landlords want you to make 2x your rent. Therefore, you should get a job where you're making at least $1000 per month. You should probably work full time. If you can't then you should try to get two part time jobs.

This is a very complicated story. It's also very long, but I'm going to make it as short as I can. Last Saturday (the 5th) I was talking to this guy on facebook. (I know him personally, I wasn't talking to some random creeper). We talked for about 5-6 hours that night, which is a long time. I was listening to the song "beauty in the breakdown" by The Scene Aesthetic. Heard it? No? Look it up :) Anyways, he liked my status and then he sent me the next part of the song through chat. Then I sent him the next next part. See a pattern? Haha, we sent it back and forth for a few minutes. About two hours later, we were talking about how everything strangely happens for a reason. So, as my status, I put "Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." then he asked, "do you like my status?" So I looked, and his status was "....but it's the biggest things that will ruin your life forever." I was like, shocked haha. About an hour later, I got tired of my status so I put another part of the song as my status. Later, I went to his profile (cause I'm a creeper like that) and his status was the entire following verse. He kept like, finishing my statuses. I didn't hate it, haha. We talked for a few hours after that, then he had to go. On Monday in school, he kept looking at me in lunch. Him and his friend stared at me for like 9 seconds at one point. I got scared. haha. Then afterschool on facebook, I asked his friend why they were looking at me. He told me that "steve" (the dude is "steve", obviously) said something about me so he turned around and looked. I asked him what "steve" said, but he said he 'didnt remember'. So when I didn't believe him (lol) I asked "steve" about it. He said that his friend looked because he asked him what he was staring at, then turned around and looked. Then I asked "steve" "what were you staring at?" he said "who do you fucking thing i was looking at?" "me?" "no shit." (he's funny). So I ended up talking to him for a while. While I've been talking to him, I've had a boyfriend. Don't yell at me. I'm not a cheater. The thing is, my boyfriend never acted like he cared about me, and that sucked. I told "steve" that I was having trouble deciding between my boyfriend and this other guy I've been talking to. On one hand, I dont wanna lose my boyfriend. But on the other hand, I don't wanna be with someone who doesnt care about me. But I was afraid that if I lost my boyfriend over "steve" then "steve" wouldn't like me and I'd end up alone. So I was telling "steve" this, and he said "hmm... thats quite a pickle you're in" (he's so funny). He told me that if my boyfriend was like that, then I should get rid of him.. and he asked who the other guy was. I told him I couldn't tell him. So I told him it was him (of course). He said that he needed to focus on school and stuff, and that having an "in school" girlfriend would distract him. I thought that was just an excuse.. wouldn't you think that? So I told him, "you dont have to say stuff like that. If you really don't like me like that, then just tell me. Don't make up excuses though." and he replied "well, if you think about it, I'm saying the opposite." He told me that he thought I was cute, but he had to get to know me better before anything happened... and I understood that. And then when I had to go, he said "goodnight cutie(:" which was cute of him to say.. OH JEEZ. Tuesday. The most complicated day. He kept looking at me and smiling at me in lunch, right? Then I started talking to him afterschool on facebook (again). He talked to me, but then after a while he just ignored me. Long story short, my boyfriend ended up dumping me that day. I told "steve" "Look I dont know if you're busy or anything, but I really need someone to talk to. Could we talk? Please?" He didn't say anything for the rest of the day. Wednesday.. he still looked at me in school. Then on facebook, we talked then he ignored me.. again. Thursday.. he did not look at me at all. Of course, we talked on facebook for a while, then he ignored me. Big surprise there. I had this idea. I told myself that I'd just give him his space for a few days, you know, so he didn't get annoyed. I didn't talk to him on friday or saturday. Then on sunday, when I logged onto facebook, I saw he had blocked me. (I have my ways of finding out). I didn't understand. My relationship was over just because this asshole that told me he liked me told me to end it. Then after he tells me he likes me, he just ignores me. We have a mutual friend, "steve" and I. Lets call him billy. (his name is billy). He's been my friend for a while, so I knew I could trust him. I told him everything that had happened. He told me that if "steve" talked to me for that long on saturday and did all those silly status things, then he must like me, because he doesnt waste him time with/for just anybody. Then, billy asked "steve" if he liked me or not. "steve" told billy he didn't like me. Then billy told me that they don't really talk about girls that much anyways... they're not "best" friends. billy also told me that "steve" doesnt really tell a lot of people who he likes. I just don't understand though. We talk for hours. He flirts with me. He stares at me. He spends his time talking to ME. He tells me he likes me. The next day, he ignores me. He doesnt look at me. He tells his friend he doesnt like me. He blocks me. Did I miss something?? Note: none of his friends know what his deal is. Hes not the kinda guy that normally lies to girls like this.

Men are just confusing. He might have felt that he couldn't pursue things with you because you had a boyfriend at the time yet you were flirting with him. Meaning if he was your boyfriend then he'd be afraid you'd flirt with other guys. He might also just be the type that likes flirting but doesn't really want to have a relationship with anyone. Give him his space. If he wants to talk to you, he will. It was immature of him of blocking you on Facebook but don't return that immaturity by chasing him down and bothering him.

how do you get to a girls g-spot

It's slightly different for all women. Ask her.

18/f

i'm a senior in high school and in about 3 months i will be going to college. Here's a quick update on my life

-have a boyfriend. dating for 7 months. he's absolutely perfect. my soul mate. we are wonderful together

-my mom moved FAR away for work

-my best friend and i used to be really close but about something happened and now we are really distant. i havent seen or spoken to her in like 2 months.

i feel really lonely. when i'm with my boyfriend, things are amazing. i'm happy with him and we have a ton of fun! :) but then when i'm not with him, like at night when he's working, i get really lonely. i live with my dad and we get into fights sometimes. he's really annoying and we dont really get along that well.

I'm really confused on what i want. I want a best friend because i miss having girl time. I miss doing girl things like shopping or having a girls night out. but at the same time, i really hate girls. they're either bratty, bitchy, annoying, brag, disloyal, can't trust, obnoxious, want attention, liars, there's always competition, jealousy etc.

i can't tell you how many best friends i once had, but then ended up separated. i just wish for once i could have a best friend who wont cause drama and trouble. who i can actually trust, who i can have fun with and not worry about jealousy between us or anything.

i'm so lost. By the way, I dont really have many regular friends either. I play a competitive sport so pretty much i dont have a life outside of school or sports. Its kinda hard to explain.. i have school friends who i see in school, but outside of school i dont have many friends who i can hang out with.

I just get lonely sometimes, but at the same time i'm so sick of girls being bratty etc. I want a real friend. i'm not really the "social butterfly" either.

also, i think i might be trying too hard to get friends.. like do you think i should just go with the flow? or should i try harder?

i'm so confused! please help!

Nothing is wrong with having friends. Although, if you're bored at night you should try finding something to do. There's sports, clubs, get a Netflix subscription, read books, etc. etc.

If you haven't seen my previous questions, I am fifteen and dating a wonderful guy. We have been dating for about two months.

Because I have been physically, mentally, and emotionally scarred from my past relationships, I am rather insecure. I get afraid my boyfriend will be upset over a strained subject and close me out, or I will lose him for a stupid reason. Even though I am fully aware he is only here to love me, and he tells me all the time there is nothing to worry about. He is helping me with my insecurities, and I feel like they are fading. Sometimes though I can feel it there, but I am keen to remind myself. I constantly worry he'll hurt me. It makes me so guilty too, because I know he would never ever hurt me purposefully. He is a respectful guy. I am so crazy.

Any ideas to cope with my insecure self?

Insecurity is very normal. Everyone goes through it. You shouldn't treat your boyfriend as if he were in those past relationships. He's a different person so he's different then them. If you're so worried he'll hurt you, he probably will hurt you because you pushed him away.

So basically I hooked up with this guy the first time we hung out. He was someone I've always had my eye on but thought I would never be good enough for. So when he initiated that he wanted to hookup I had no hesitation to do it. I'm friends with alot of people that know him and say he's a really good guy and not a player or anything like that. We've talked only once since then (it's been about a month). But I'm feeling myself actually wanting to date him. I'll see him during spring break but I'm not really the kinda girl to ask a guy out. I know you can't make someone like you, but I don't want to be remembered as easy because i hooked up with him so fast. I don't think he wants anything serious but me neither. I just want to get to know him better. Like a date.. What should i do?

You should just ask him out.

Well I resently found out a lot of things about my boyfriend. He doesn't speak to his uncle and his uncle wants to help him get a job. My boyfriend hasn't talked to his uncle in years and I want them to start talking to each other because his uncle wants to help him out. My boyfriend is very prideful and I fear that that pride will push him futher away from his uncle. He told me that if his uncle really wants to talk to him his aunt has his number so she could give it to him. The thing about this is that his uncle tries to get to him through his cuzins. I tell to call his uncle to let go of his pride for one moment and just talk to his uncle. His uncle can open a lot of doors for him but he doesn;t let go of that pride. So how do I get him to let go of his pride and have him let his uncle help him?

You can't make him do anything. You can just give him advice. It's his business. There's not much you can do about it.

A while back I met this guy. He was handsome, funny, outgoing, honest,reliable and everything else I wanted in a man. One problem he had though, committing to a relationship. He was 18 and had never had a girlfriend, been on many dates probably just for sex. First time we ever hung out he told me, "baby whatever you do, don't fall in-love with me". I should have ran away right at that but I didn't. He fascinated me. After seeing each other for a while. I slept with him. Then the next week, he called and wanted to hang again. I slept with him that night as well. I had sex with him a total of about 5 times. But for the past month. He wont answer my calls. He isn't calling me, nothing. It's like he dropped off the planet. I miss him. What should I do? );

It sounds like he used you for sex and told you right off the bat not to fall in love with him. Regardless, you can't be hung up on some guy who won't talk to you. You should really forget about him. You wouldn't want a relationship with someone like that anyway. If he does contact you again, you should not have sex with him. He might just be contacting you for that. There's a whole bunch of better guys out there.

my boyfriend and i have just started to have sex. He cannot finish during sex, head or hand jobs. He told me he has never finished from a girl pleasing him before just from himself masturbating. What do I do? Is it him? Is it me? He gets discouraged after about 15 minutes of sex and gets sad and thinks he needs to see a doctor. Help!

He probably has erectile dysfunction. He should see a doctor and definitely go with him as he might be depressed or embarrassed about it.

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