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Sex with a friends ex boyfriend
Hi, i had sex for the first time with my friends ex boyfriend. I am 14 years old, and now she doesn't talk to me anymore. (if she would find out about the sex shed probably kill me.) We used protection, but he doesn't seem to love me but i think I'm falling for him. What should i do to get him to like me (BTW he isn't my boyfriend) I am Female and 14 years old. I am from America
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Well you betrayed your friend. You need to own up to her before someone else tells her because inevitably, nothing ever stays a secret for long. If you tell her first then she can't say you lied or tried to hide it.
You can't make him like you. Sex is a thing you do. Love is a state of mind that happens. There really isn't any correlation between the two unless you only have sex with someone you love and you missed that boat, girly.
I hope you were safe and let this be a lesson to you. Also you might find it helpful to know that when you have sex your brain releases chemicals that cause you to feel more euphoric and even "in love." This is why it is often recommended that people in failing marriages boost their sex life. The next time you have sex (because you will if you want to, no matter what anyone says) go into it clearheaded and think about the consequences.
I also feel the need to tell you to always use protection and that abstinence is the only 100% guarantee.
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Eventually you'll come to understand you can't make or get anyone to do something they don't wish for. Plus, it's pretty normal to "fall for" the guy who took your virtue. I notice many young girls near your age mistake sex for love, and I want you to understand that love is not something you do it's something that happens. There can be ways of getting him to fancy you, like talking and hanging out with him more often, but it isn't a guarantee. Especially with now-a-days where the new thing with boys is sleeping with as many girls or taking so many firsts from girls. That kind of thing. I'm not saying this is what happened, but I want you to know just in case this way you aren't torn apart (figuratively speaking).
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Of course he doesn't love you, he's a 14 year old boy. There is nothing you can do to 'get him to like you'. It's really tough having sex with someone you have feelings for who doesn't return them but it happens to the best of us. You're 14, the chances of this boy being the love of your life are very slim. It's unfortunate that you didn't lose your virginity to someone who loves and cares about you but sadly that's pretty common too.
Personally, I think that at 14 you are far too young to be having sex anyway. If I were you I'd refrain from going there again until I was older and in a relationship but I know it's unrealistic for me to tell you not to have sex. If you're going to do it make sure you're safe and use contraception.
Learn from this experience and be a better friend in future.
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ok first with the guy.....he doest like you...straight up...he was just looking for someone to do..leave him alone...he is not worth your time, air, nothing...he is just one of those jerks who think that they are all cool because they had sex...no....not worth it...
Now with friend....if I were in this situation....I would have 2 choices..on my opinion...o.o....1-tell her straight up what happened....and if she gets madder? Leave her alone to think...she will come around.....eventually knowing that the guy is not worth getting into a fight if he...had sex with you.....2-don't tell her and risk her finding out by another girl probably hearing the jerk talking to his friends (like my mom always says...the worse can happen...and now I'm like her.. cause I think of the worst....XD..T^T)..but that would be me...its you who must figure out what is right....you'll think of something....we girls always do! XD in a good way of course!
15 years old/ female
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You're giving America a bad name.
Own up to your friend, apologize for being a bitch, and stop talking to that asshole. Then ask your mom to buy you a chastity belt.
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if she's not speaking to you then it's best that you don't tell her right now it could just make things worse and okay lets get to the guy
firstly he doesn't love you or probably doesn't even like you because he had sex with you knowing that you're his ex's friend and secondly the fact that you had sex with him and he's not your boyfriend makes it seem like you're easy to him he doesn't respect you, you shouldn't fall for someone like that he was just a guy looking to get laid, you deserve better
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It's better for you to tell her than her finding out by somebody
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Ok woah big problem I kinda had the same problem Im 16 male and had sex with this girl that my friend was with I told him then he punched me in the face so we got in a fight but months later it was cool between us but idk if it's the same between girls but I just wouldn't tell her. As for the guy not loving you forget about him. He just wanted sex trust me.
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If he had sex with you but doesn't love you, not sure why you'd want to have sex with him again. You can't do anything to get guys to like you but be yourself.
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