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Hi, i had sex for the first time with my friends ex boyfriend. I am 14 years old, and now she doesn't talk to me anymore. (if she would find out about the sex shed probably kill me.) We used protection, but he doesn't seem to love me but i think I'm falling for him. What should i do to get him to like me (BTW he isn't my boyfriend) I am Female and 14 years old. I am from America (link)
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Well you betrayed your friend. You need to own up to her before someone else tells her because inevitably, nothing ever stays a secret for long. If you tell her first then she can't say you lied or tried to hide it.
You can't make him like you. Sex is a thing you do. Love is a state of mind that happens. There really isn't any correlation between the two unless you only have sex with someone you love and you missed that boat, girly.
I hope you were safe and let this be a lesson to you. Also you might find it helpful to know that when you have sex your brain releases chemicals that cause you to feel more euphoric and even "in love." This is why it is often recommended that people in failing marriages boost their sex life. The next time you have sex (because you will if you want to, no matter what anyone says) go into it clearheaded and think about the consequences.
I also feel the need to tell you to always use protection and that abstinence is the only 100% guarantee.
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Well my boyfriends friend likes me, and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month and a half. I hung out last night with his friend and we smoked it wasn't just us my friend and his friend went too. Sometimes I tell him I love him, then again I do that to all his friends as in a friendly love cause I'm friends with all my bfs friends. And this morning I got a text from him saying he reallyl ikes me, expecting me to say something sweet in return but I said idk what to say cause I have a bf.. I really like my bf but in a way I like his friend. What do I do? His friends mad at me for not saying anything back cause he says I "flirt" a lot. Help? What do I dooo? (link)
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Chances are you're pretty young and if you are- then don't take relationships so seriously. While you're young you don't need to commit. You can be impulsive and you can play the field, this is how you learn. Tell the friend how you feel, that you're confused. You might even consider telling your boyfriend how you feel- but if you can't talk to him about it then you don't really love him. If you have feelings for his friend that's another sign that you don't really love him and that's totally okay. Whatever you choose to do, the world will not end. There are some bigger things you might want to look at though.
If you stay with your boyfriend, you might lose your shot at being with his fried. If you get with his friend, you might ruin their friendship with each other.
Personally, I say that if you have feelings for the friend then it obviously isn't working with your boyfriend right now and go for it. Don't hold yourself back just because you fear change.
Good luck!
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Sometimes I can feel a pulse in my abdomen, not hard but just there, (not pregnant) and I thought it was normal until I looked online and saw that it's a symptom of an AAA which I forget how to spell. Anyway it scared the living crap out of me as I fear surgery. Are there other symptoms I should look out for? I know it's more of an elderly thing but I'm paranoid sometimes. Is it normal? Thank you! (link)
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I have that, so do most people I know. Always have. Nothing is wrong. If you experience other serious symptoms then see a doctor but if you just feel a pulse in your abdomen it is totally normal.
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So basically I hooked up with this guy the first time we hung out. He was someone I've always had my eye on but thought I would never be good enough for. So when he initiated that he wanted to hookup I had no hesitation to do it. I'm friends with alot of people that know him and say he's a really good guy and not a player or anything like that. We've talked only once since then (it's been about a month). But I'm feeling myself actually wanting to date him. I'll see him during spring break but I'm not really the kinda girl to ask a guy out. I know you can't make someone like you, but I don't want to be remembered as easy because i hooked up with him so fast. I don't think he wants anything serious but me neither. I just want to get to know him better. Like a date.. What should i do? (link)
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Flirt with him, but don't just flirt, be friendly as well. You need to come off like you're truly interested in him while also displaying that you're worth interest as well. If it doesn't work don't assume you failed, he may just truly not be interested. Don't overdo it. If you give him time to get to know you then he may grow to be as interested in you as you are in him.
Good luck!
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I know it sounds ridiculous but all I can think about at the moment is getting married. I haven't even got a boyfriend and I'm only 19 but it's got to the point where I am actually researching venues and dresses and planning it in my head.
I'm planning the next few years of my life based around when I want to meet my future husband, get engaged and get married. I'm putting far too much pressure on myself and it's starting to bother me. My friends have started to find it weird too and don't think it's a good idea to be so set on one thing but the idea of not getting married in the near future terrifies me.
How can I stop obsessing over this and stop worrying about it? (link)
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It's completely normal and it's okay to plan and figure out what you want now because trust me, when the time comes you'll want to be sure and you'll still change your mind a whole lot. It's good to look forward to the future and plan. I suggest you stop obsessing by making flexible plans. Consider the changes life could throw at you and consider the possibilities and plan based on that. It's great to have a "dream wedding" planned out because often the male in the situation doesn't care so much about the tiny details and would rather leave it all up to you. Instead of obsessing and trying to plan life so rigidly, be flexible. Have ideas and general preferences but not plans that are written in stone. Welcome spontaneity.
If you keep looking for things to pan out the way you plan them, you may miss an opportunity that was staring you in the face.
Good luck!
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I have this friend. We've known each other since I was in second grade, and she was in kindergarten. Anyway, we've been best friends for about ten years. We're the kind of friends where we can not see each other for a long time and still remain friends. We have a good friendship, and we caught up about what's going on in our lives, etc.
We were supposed to hang out yesterday, but she ditched me for a friend she sees everyday. Today we were going to hang out, but she ditched me again. I didn't think much of it but now I feel so hurt. She never keeps her word and always ditches me. I don't see her very often since we are always busy, and even though we live about three mins away, she's always with other people and stuff. She's popular. But I feel like a loser when she ditches me for all the popular people, even though she's in 8th grade and I am a sophomore. I need some advice. What should I do? (link)
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This is called being the plastic/styrofoam friend or being the convenient friend. Everyone has them and it really stinks to be one.
This person is taking advantage of your loyalty to your friends and your kindness without even realizing it. If you back off, without a doubt, they will miss you. If they come back to you and try to reignite the old flame of friendship then that means they value you, and you can continue the friendship.
Communicate thoroughly, you don't have to sit her down and have a long talk with her. Just make a mention or two of how you feel and if she is a true friend then she will take notice and be more careful of your feelings.
With that said it could also be that you're too insecure about the friendship. Relax a little, be positive, don't smother. Just let things flow and come to you.
Best of luck!
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I have two really good friends. I'll call one Jen and one Lydia.
Jen is nice sometimes but other times (I hate to call her this) she's a real b****. Lydia is nice all the time, for the most part.
Well because of Jen (usually) they fight a lot. Recently they have been arguing because on V-Day Jen said to us 'I love you, no homo.' I understand that she doesn't want to seem lesbian. Lydia doesn't. She says that we know we're straight and it's ok without the no homo.
I don't want to take sides. I agree with Lydia that we're close enough to just say it, but I also think it's ok to clarify the no homo. Also, Lydia has a gay brother. (we all accept this.)
I hate when they fight and I want to help them resolve their conflict. Currently they are ignoring each other. What should I do? Thank you
Also we're all girls, Jen and I are in 9th grade and Lydia is in 10th. (link)
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Well it may be hard to accept but it just isn't your place to resolve this. It's their fight and it will only become yours if you involve yourself. I advise you stay out of it and let them work it out for themselves. In 9th and 10th grade you don't need to fight about such minutia. It's pointless, regardless of who's right or wrong. Fighting solves nothing and is the least constructive form of communication if it can even be called that. Just refuse to be any part of their drama and be the neutral friend of both of them.
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what are the chances of getting pregnant just using a condom? how would i be able to lessen the possibilities? ive never had sex, i have taken sex ed though, twice. also, is there a way of obtaining birth control without a parental guardian? are there different types for different people? do i need a prescription? thanks (link)
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Depending on where you live regardless of confidentiality laws you probably aren't legally allowed to see a doctor alone (under age 18) but you can obtain condoms and birth control from a health department, planned parenthood or similar organization, perhaps even your youth resources center of your school.
Condoms (spermicidal and otherwise) are highly affective if used properly but can be coupled with vaginal spermicide, withdrawal, and birth control.
If you aren't ready to take responsibility for possible pregnancy then you aren't ready to have sex. The only way to be 100% sure is by abstaining from sex entirely.
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I'm not sure what to do here.......2 great guys that I really like and are good friends that I can't live without. Guy A and I can have conversations and we have a lot in common. He makes me laugh and feel really happy whenever I'm around him - he is one of my best friends. Guy B and I can have conversations as well, along with teasing and laughter as well.
The problem I have is that I don't know who to choose, as well as which of them like me. Both of them flirt a little bit with me, but I think they are just messing around. Help?! (link)
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Get to know them even better than you already do and decide based on that but also realize that by trying to forge a relationship with one of them you may be risking the friendship of one or both of them.
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Please don't answer "don't do it" because that won't be helpful at all.
So I AM going to be doing ecstasy this coming Saturday. I know it makes you so happy but does it just increase your happiness? Or is it like dreamy and shit like on weed because I don't like the 'high' feeling weed gives you. Also, I know it makes you really hot and to drink lots of water so would that mean going into a hot tub would be a bad idea? You talk a lot on it right? But is it really like annoying? Because I hate feeling annoying. Also, how long does it last for?
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If you have to ask anonymous people to give you help, then you're not educated enough about the drug to do it. Learn the FACTS for yourself and make a decision. It isn't anyone else's business what you put in your body but it isn't anyone else's fault either and if you end up being irresponsible and making a mistake or even killing yourself, it is your own fault.
Think about what this drug does.
Think about how it will affect your life.
Remember that different things affect people in different ways.
Educate yourself.
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On december 30th i got my tragus pierced on both sides. rugby reason has started and at practice my ears get banged on alot and they bleed and they have a bubble on the inside and outside of both ears. would it be okay to change my piercings into a post? Im scared if i try to change the jewlry i wont be able to get it to go through cuz of the bubbles. ive been wrapping my head in pre wrap and tape to keep them from getting dirty but then my ears are a crusty bloody mess afterwards and i think if i had a post instead of a big hoop theyd get hit alot less. is this a good idea? (link)
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Use salt water to sterilize and do it often and you can probably save the piercings, but with them being beaten around and whatnot- you need to put a stop to this immediately before you damage your ears worse than they already are. If you feel this would be difficult then remove the piercings. You can always get them done again later provided to don't allow them to be damaged until too much scar tissue builds up.
Good luck.
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Hi ! I'm a sri Lankan who is in 20's. I would like to know as how to become a successful Christian writer? What are the serious matters I can write about and is it alright to imagine romance if I'm single?
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Put a pencil to paper or your fingers to the keys and let all your thoughts and feelings out. It doesn't matter if other people like it, what matters is that it means something to you. That makes it art.
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Hi. I'm having a problem with Senior Prom. Obviously everyone usually wants to go to senior prom because its the final dance before high school ends and everything. Well, I am not sure if I want to go because I cant find a date =/. I'm a little shy so I dont go around asking guys if they want to go to prom with me. I get awkward around some guys too. I have guy friends but they either have a date, or not someone I'd want to go with because of their behavior. I asked my one guy friend because me and him are very close..but, he's taking some other girl because he already promised her and feels bad if he blows her off, since there good friends also (although he'd want to go with me; she already graduated anyway...) So, i dont know what to do. My friends keep bringing prom up and asking me if im going, i really dont know if i should. Some of them dont have dates either, but I really do want a date because there's a red carpet and everything...that'd be embarassing, for me, to just walk in by myself =/. That's just how I am. I'm sure if i went without a date i wouldnt be the only one...but,i still really want one. The guys in my school are very immature and i really dont want to deal with it so it makes it harder; put it this way, im not the type of girl guys in high school want because im not by any means "easy", and not the type of girl who'd sleep with them right away--which explains why guys would rather date or go with someone whos easier. Im not ugly either, im pretty, its just im, as stated before, not the type guys want because i wont sleep with them. Its not like im looking for a boyfriend, im leaving for an out of state college soon so i dont need that. Can anyone give me advice, past experiences, or just any thoughts? Im so confused! I know senior prom is supposed to be so great, i dont know if id want to miss out on that.
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Many people feel the same way and regret not going later. You'll never know if you don't try. Going with a date is overrated anyway, I encourage you to go with your friends and have fun! It's better to go in a group. It's a social gathering, not necessarily a date so get out there and make some memories before high school is over for you and you're missing all of those people. The worst that could happen is that you don't fully enjoy yourself, and even that is better than wondering "what if I'd gone" when it's too late.
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all i ate today was liek 2 handfull over sugar coated pecans.
is that bad? (link)
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It's terrible. You get very little nutrition and too much sugar.
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Hi, okay
so basically I'm 19 years old, and I've smoked pot daily since I was 13. My life revolves around it. I often smoke a bowl before I'm even out of bed in the morning, and generally keep my buzz going by smoking more and more on an hourly basis throughout the day. I smoke weed at work, when I was in school, I blazed all day at school too. I got kicked out of my parents house as a result. A lot of my money and energy goes to staying high. I recognize that it isn't a sustainable way to live and I want to stop. But when I'm not maintaining a high, I default to liquor, or whatever drug is available at the time. It's almost like the only place I can get pleasure or contentment is from getting that light, dizzy feeling in my head. I don't want to go to a therapist - I have dysthymia, a borderline personality, ADD, social anxiety, and a whole host of other issues I've been clinically diagnosed with but refuse to take medicine for. As far as I'm concerned, this is the hand that God dealt me with and I believe in coping with it without drugs. I think there's a huge difference between solving a problem, and just eliminating it. So basically smoking weed has been my means of self-medicating and I've been hugely dependant on it for 6 years. I feel like I'm going to be depressed and suicidal if I stop. But I don't wanna be that person that self-medicates either. I would like to stop but willpower has never been one of my strong points and it's HIGHLY available to me.. I won't go into the details because I'd rather not implicate anyone, but there are people in my life who make a living off of pot and they definately aren't going anywhere. Nor do I want these people out of my life, they are very dear loved ones and that just isn't an option. Soo with all this in mind, does anyone have any ideas on how I might stop? Especially I would appreciate comments from people who used to blaze a lot and stopped themselves. Anyways thanks in advance, hope I get something useful (link)
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First you must realize that you already are self-medicating by trying to treat yourself with marijuana. Second, tell the people in your life what you plan to do and though it may be hard you will have to leave behind the ones that won't support and help your decision, at least for the time being while it is difficult.
You can't just give up weed at the drop of a dime and be successful in most cases although marijuana is NOT PHYSICALLY ADDICTING, so you need to replace it with something. Exercise would be very beneficial and it still causes your brain to release chemicals that make you feel calmer, happier, etc. the way drugs do.
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ok so my dads bday is in november and my friends being in october. so i dont know what to get them help
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The answer is pretty obvious, get them something they would like. We don't know them, we can't tell you what to get. Plain and simple.
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i read on the back on the aloe vera bottle that it moisturizes your skin. if i put it on my face, would it make me break out? (link)
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Moisturizers don't necessarily make you break out, it's just that you have to judge what is the right type and amount of moisture for your skin. It's very good to you and will help heal the damage of acne.
Most moisturizers have skin irritants like fragrances and silly artificial things that look good as ingredients and help sell a product. Go for basic, natural stuff like the aloe vera and see what works for you.
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Ok I'm a guy and I can't stand pubic hair on me or women and the act of shaving a woman gets me turned on . Is this normal or just a weird. Fetish I shave myself and sometimes get turned on an masterbate is that crazzy or am I just a pervert (link)
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Fetishes sexual and non-sexual are completely normal. Yes, you have a shaving fetish. Do you have to look at it that way? No. You could just simply say "I like shaved women and shaving turns me on." It's all in how you look at it.
Fetishes are completely normal and a great thing for you to explore and use to learn about yourself.
Q: Out of curiosity, how old are you?
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i had 4 guy bff. but three of them hate me for no reason. and so one of my friends is realy cool hes still my bff. but anyway i love him like a brother we have laughs together like sayin he looks like justin bieber did when he was younger. and when hes hurt i help him. but we fight but then i want him to be my bff again because boys are usually better friend then girls. right. because they dont gossip. so is it true boys are better friends than girls and were we ment to be friends (link)
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Gender has no role in the character of a friend but if "three of them" hate you "for no reason" they aren't your friends.
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Hello, i'm 14/f and when I shower I lose pretty much a lot of hair. I shower every day and wash my hair. So, my question is, is it normal to be losing a lot of hair? I feel like i'm gonna be bald at some point in my life :P. Not to mention that I have more hair on my left side than I do on my right because my ear sometimes shows, haha. So yeah, is it just me and I will have less hair or is it normal? (link)
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Yes, it IS normal to lose a lot of hair but there are some things you can do to prevent it. You actually might be showering too much, using too much hot water or heating products on them, etc. A hair's natural oil is what protects it the most. Shampoos wash out the natural oil and replace it with things not naturally found in the hair, conditioner adds even more moisture/oils but like I said, it isn't natural to the hair.
You may be washing out your hair's natural health ability to protect itself and keep itself healthy before it is fully replenished. Just give skipping a day in between washing your hair a try and see how it goes. You can still shower by using a shower cap.
Also if your hair being thinner on one side bothers you, try parting it to the side or doing a zigzag part. A combination of the two would also work.
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