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She always ditches me.
I have this friend. We've known each other since I was in second grade, and she was in kindergarten. Anyway, we've been best friends for about ten years. We're the kind of friends where we can not see each other for a long time and still remain friends. We have a good friendship, and we caught up about what's going on in our lives, etc.
We were supposed to hang out yesterday, but she ditched me for a friend she sees everyday. Today we were going to hang out, but she ditched me again. I didn't think much of it but now I feel so hurt. She never keeps her word and always ditches me. I don't see her very often since we are always busy, and even though we live about three mins away, she's always with other people and stuff. She's popular. But I feel like a loser when she ditches me for all the popular people, even though she's in 8th grade and I am a sophomore. I need some advice. What should I do?
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This is called being the plastic/styrofoam friend or being the convenient friend. Everyone has them and it really stinks to be one.
This person is taking advantage of your loyalty to your friends and your kindness without even realizing it. If you back off, without a doubt, they will miss you. If they come back to you and try to reignite the old flame of friendship then that means they value you, and you can continue the friendship.
Communicate thoroughly, you don't have to sit her down and have a long talk with her. Just make a mention or two of how you feel and if she is a true friend then she will take notice and be more careful of your feelings.
With that said it could also be that you're too insecure about the friendship. Relax a little, be positive, don't smother. Just let things flow and come to you.
Best of luck!
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sit her down and explain to her your feelings. let her know she hurt you and that you miss her and want to see her more. if she refuses to talk, maybe you should try taking a step further and make plans with her and overexaggerate like mark it in her calendar and send an email and text and voicemail so she KNOWS you guys have plans. then later, if she does ditch you can prove to her that you gave her enough notices and she should have known.
if she is still acting like a brat, then ignore her for a few days or even weeks and see if she comes around. that's what i did between me and my friend. she was always looking for competition between us. who wore the best clothes, who looked the best, who had a better boyfriend etc. finally i just got fed up with it and stopped talking to her and i've never been happier. then after a few weeks she talked to me and said she missed me. so sometimes you just need to back off and let her come to you. if she is a true friend, she will come running after you.
if she's not a true friend, seriously forget about her. you will find much better friends out there who will treat you with respect :)
inbox me if you have any questions :)
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You should tell her how you feel,. explain to her that you were really hurt. Maybe tell her that your not going to wait around till its a good time for her to want to hang out. Hope this helps:P
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