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My boyfriend cant finish
my boyfriend and i have just started to have sex. He cannot finish during sex, head or hand jobs. He told me he has never finished from a girl pleasing him before just from himself masturbating. What do I do? Is it him? Is it me? He gets discouraged after about 15 minutes of sex and gets sad and thinks he needs to see a doctor. Help!
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It might be that he's gay and sex with a girl doent satifi him
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He probably has erectile dysfunction. He should see a doctor and definitely go with him as he might be depressed or embarrassed about it.
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Your boyfriend should see a urologist as well as his family doctor. The problem could be physical.
The problem could also be he masturbates to much. But I don't think that is fully the problem since he can't finish with a hand job or head either.
The problem could also be psychological, that being the fear of getting you pregnant. That fear can be very real, even if he is using a condom and you are on birth control. That fear can be so deep seated as to go back to what his parents, usually a domineering mother, has told him about sex and pregnancy.
If everything physically checks out then you should help him find a psychologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction. If you go together you can help him as the psychologist can at some point offer you exercises to do together that will help him overcome this dysfunction.
You do not say how old you are though it does not matter. You are a wonderful girlfriend for wanting to help your boyfriend with this problem. Many girls or women would just ridicule a boy or man with this problem.
By the way, your boyfriends, as long as he is over 13 can seek medical advice and treatment without parental consent and with full medical confidentiality by law. The law is called HIPPA, you can research it if you like. Basically the law says that his doctors can tell no one about his medical visits or treatment without his written permission, this includes his parents.
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