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We had sex 5 times, and now he doesn't call me anymore. I miss him!
A while back I met this guy. He was handsome, funny, outgoing, honest,reliable and everything else I wanted in a man. One problem he had though, committing to a relationship. He was 18 and had never had a girlfriend, been on many dates probably just for sex. First time we ever hung out he told me, "baby whatever you do, don't fall in-love with me". I should have ran away right at that but I didn't. He fascinated me. After seeing each other for a while. I slept with him. Then the next week, he called and wanted to hang again. I slept with him that night as well. I had sex with him a total of about 5 times. But for the past month. He wont answer my calls. He isn't calling me, nothing. It's like he dropped off the planet. I miss him. What should I do? );
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You were lured with the bitter sweet poison. All you can do is move on. You can't make a person change their habits, it's something they alone have to do their selves. You can move on, and find someone better, or you can sit around waiting and hoping that he comes back. In my opinion, you'll be happier and better off finding someone else.
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Well, he's a jerk, but you can't say he didn't warn you. Still, just because he admits he's a jerk doesn't really excuse jerkish behavior. I'd say he owes you an explanation.
I would suggest trying one more time to contact him, preferably in a way that would be difficult for him to ignore - for instance, if he works somewhere and you know his schedule, be there when he leaves his workplace.
My guess is that he'll shrug and say that he never wanted a relationship, he told you that up front, and that he's sorry you're upset but that's how it is. At that point, you turn around, walk away, chalk it up to experience and never look back. Perhaps you can take some comfort in the idea that someday, this guy will be very, very lonely, and he'll have no one to blame but himself.
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What should you do? Start asking yourself why you would be so stupid as to ignore the warnings of a boy who told you straight out that he's not a good guy and he just wants sex. Then start asking yourself what you can do to become a confident and interesting and kind person, so that you attract like-minded people. You got used, girl. Chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on.
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It sounds like he used you for sex and told you right off the bat not to fall in love with him. Regardless, you can't be hung up on some guy who won't talk to you. You should really forget about him. You wouldn't want a relationship with someone like that anyway. If he does contact you again, you should not have sex with him. He might just be contacting you for that. There's a whole bunch of better guys out there.
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