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He's too prideful...
Well I resently found out a lot of things about my boyfriend. He doesn't speak to his uncle and his uncle wants to help him get a job. My boyfriend hasn't talked to his uncle in years and I want them to start talking to each other because his uncle wants to help him out. My boyfriend is very prideful and I fear that that pride will push him futher away from his uncle. He told me that if his uncle really wants to talk to him his aunt has his number so she could give it to him. The thing about this is that his uncle tries to get to him through his cuzins. I tell to call his uncle to let go of his pride for one moment and just talk to his uncle. His uncle can open a lot of doors for him but he doesn;t let go of that pride. So how do I get him to let go of his pride and have him let his uncle help him?
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There's no way that you can help. There may be hidden reasons as to why he doesn't speak with his uncle. For precautions, I say let your boyfriend take it at his own pace. Perhaps you could tell his uncle that the aunt has the phone number and to ask her for it. Then leave it at that. There isn't much you can do. If you keep pushing him to do that, you may end up pushing him away. If you truly cared for your mate, you would understand a womans duty is to protect her mates honor and pride.
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Butt out.
There is clearly more going on here then is involved in your question.
You've done the right thing: You've told your boyfriend your opinion and what you believe the right thing to do is. You sound like you have now crossed the line from sharing your opinion, to nagging him.
It's up to him how he manages his relationships with family members. It's good to have your own opinion, and to tell him what you think and believe, but you also have to let him make his own choices. Now it's time for you to back down off this topic, and let your boyfriend make his own choices.
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You can't make him do anything. You can just give him advice. It's his business. There's not much you can do about it.
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