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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)
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Ok sorry if this is long.
I went to friends birthday party on Sunday. Everybody thought it was gonna be soo much fun... but it wasnt. Instead, birthday girl hurt her leg to where you can see her bone!! She had to get stitches, and wasnt even allowed to walk!! :( Everybody invited got bored reallll fast, so we went outside and did things without birthday girl. :( She really is like my friend... and she had a lousy birthday. I didnt mean to leave her but it got SO BORING. My question is im trying to do something reallyyyyyyyyyy nice for my friend ((birthday girl)), because NOBODY should be treated like dirt and get stitches right before their birthday party started!! So what should i do to make her feel better? Any suggestion?
-NO RUDE COMMENTS OR SMARTASSES
Thanx i really appreciate it!
First off, apologize to her for leaving her. She'll probably appreciate that.
Give her some flowers and a 'get well' card. That's the best thing for someone who's ill (or injured, in this case).
And since she can't walk, maybe you could get her some candy or her favorite snack. That's always nice. :)
A video or DVD always helps. So do board/video games. Basically, anything she can do without walking but still keep her entertained is a good choice.
Try hanging out with her, too. She'll appreciate your company.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
I'm a freshmen, and this girl margie has started drama with me since seventh grade. In 7th grade, she hated me for no reason, we became friends again, but then in 8th grade she decided to hate me because her boyfriend dumped her because she wouldnt let him be friends with her and he mentioned me, then she started a rumor that i did voodoo. and this year she just randomly ims me and starts stuff. if anyone has any advice it'd be greatly appreciated.
Margie seems insecure. She probably has little or no self-confidence, so she takes out all of those feelings onto other people.
Take the boyfriend situation for example. He mentioned you, and she might not like him mentioning/being around other girls because she wasn't secure with the relationship.
What I mean is that she seemed scared that another girl would take him from her.
Ignore her. Block her IMs. Don't start drama; make her think that it doesn't affect you by not paying attention to it.
Don't stoop to her level and start rumors about her. That solves nothing, and in the end, you'll most likely feel bad about doing it.
If it really bothers you and you can't stand it anymore, then confront her. Ask her something along the lines of, "Margie, why do you always start rumors about me? I haven't done anything to you."
But, only go up to her when she's alone and not in a bad mood. Don't yell either. Just be calm and mature about the situation.
If she keeps acting like that, then I would tell a teacher or someone else who works at your school. No one deserves to be treated like that.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
Ok, so theres this boy in my class, michael. We were going out, and you kno, all that bf/gf stuff. We were really close and great together, we never fought, but of course there was a lil argument here and there. Well, one day he just broke up with me. He didnt tell me why, he just said we cant go out anymore and left. The next day, my best friend was wearing a shirt that said I love my bf. I asked her who her bf was and she said michael. She ddint even try to hide it or anything. I got really mad at her, and stopped talking to her. Now there are rumors going around that they had sex. I am really mad at my friend and i dont know what to do. I mean, i like her, but im really mad at her for stealing michael from him. What should i do???
Talk to her about it. Go up to her when no one else is around (DON'T -I repeat- DON'T cause a scene.) and ask her something like this:
"Why did you go out with Michael when you know that I was going out with him? Why would you do that? And, are the rumors true that you two had sex?" Be calm about it. Yelling will make her become defensive, and it won't help.
I know you like her, because you two were best friends. But it's an unwritten rule: friends before boys, ALWAYS. Based on her actions, she seems to care more about the boy than you and your friendship. She doesn't seem like a good friend to begin with.
Even if you two patch things up, I don't think your friendship would be the same ever again. Being backstabbed usually ruins friendships.
I hope everything goes well.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
alrighty, one of my good friends is...i guess what people would call a 'music elitist'? she's very unique and listens to old rock bands like the who and the beatles and stuff. she acts like she doesnt care what anyone thinks of her, but obviously she does or she would try so hard to be different, right? anyway, I on the other hand, am to her, the stereotypical prep. yeah, i get up and take an hour to get ready every morning, i shop at stores like AE and GAP, and i listen to pop music. whenever i give her a ride home or anything, she's always criticizing and making fun of the music that's playing, and if i go to the bathroom to fix my hair or makeup, she HAS to make a comment. i really do try so hard not to say anything to her about it. i tolerate her BLASTING the who and coldplay in my ears when i'm around her without saying anything, and i completely respect her political and religious opinions (WHICH ARE COMPLETELY OPPOSITE THAN MINE) and she doesnt. what do i do??? today i got mad and i blasted the music in the car and i kept making fun of her music, but now i feel bad. what do i do to tell her how i feel without coming off as a total b****???
Just explain the situation to her. Go up to her when she's not in a bad mood (and when no one else is around; you don't want to cause a scene or anything) and say (calmly), "Hey _____, can we talk?" and then say something like, "I don't appreciate it when you make fun of me when I listen to my music and when I fix my hair or make-up. It hurts my feelings. I respect your opinions and interests, and I would appreciate it if you respected mine."
As long as you do that in a calm, respectful and mature way, she should change.
But what if she gets mad?
Some people don't like being (or admitting to being) wrong. If she blows up and/or gets mad, it's probably because she knows that what she was doing was wrong. If she does happen to get mad, just remember that you did nothing wrong.
If she agrees to stop and all is well... great! If she agrees but doesn't stop... confront her again. If she STILL doesn't stop... then I would reconsider the friendship, because she doesn't seem to appreciate your differences, and that's very important in any type of relationship (friendship or otherwise).
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
Okay so the guy I like, I was with him today and he was talking to his friend and he was saying how he'd f*cked this girl and whatever and the way he said it totally put me off him.
But like, my friend said he could've said it just to make himself sound cool which is what alot of guys do but I dunno.
I really like him but I don't want to TRY to get involved if all he wants is to get in my jeans, you know?
So, what should I do?
I think you should just forget about this guy.
You don't want him to pressure you into doing something that you don't want to.
Also, what if your friend was right, and he was lying about what he said to sound cool? If you two got together, he could lie and tell everyone that you two did stuff that you really didn't.
If he says stuff like that, it's a big sign that he cares way too much about his reputation.
There are so many more guys out there that will respect you and not talk about having sex and all that stuff all the time.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
does prude mean that you never kissed anyone or that you dont like too?
Eh, that's not the proper definition for it. A prude is someone who is extremely modest; they don't show off their bodies too much and don't wear skimpy outfits. Their style of dress is very proper.
But if you did use the word 'prude' in the kissing sense, it would probably mean that you haven't kissed someone and don't want to. I've never heard it used it that way, though.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
I'm 13/f in the 8th grade.
Why do boys always beat each other up? Every morning, there's always at least two boys beating each other up in the hallway or by the lockers. For example, this morning this guy stole another guy's backpack and tied a piece of twine to it, letting it swing over the balcony. The kid who owned the backpack got really angry, and the one who stole the backpack jumped on top of him and tried to throttle him. Why does this happen? Is it hormones, or are the boys in our school just really violent?
It's just hormones. Most guys are like that. They want to look 'macho' and strong. They don't want to look weak.
They think that they're looking cool and impressing people when they act like that.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
I will rate you a 5 for VERY GOOD ANSWERS THAT ANSWER EVERYTHING!!!
-What are some ways to boost self esteem?
-what are some foods that are healthy but very filling???
-what are some ways to lose weight besides drinking water, and eating more healthy??
Here's a way to boost self-esteem: Get rid of those negative thoughts. Thinking 'I'm so stupid!' or 'I'll NEVER get anything right!' are what I mean. Replace those thoughts with something like 'I can do it!' and things like that. Also, do what you love, like a sport or hobby. Be happy! It may sound like it won't work, but believe me, IT WILL!
Some foods that are healthy... well, Special K is a very, very good cereal, in my opinion. Healthy and tasty. Try different kinds of fruits and vegetables, too.
Well, if you want to lose weight, you'll have to eat healthy. There really isn't a choice. You also need to exercise.
But eating healthier isn't as drastic as you may think. Here are some tips:
Drinking water is great! Instead of drinking soda, have tea, water, or juice every once in a while and limit your soda intake to about once a week.
You can also replace white bread with whole wheat bread.
Another great thing to do is replace fried foods with something healthier. For instance, try grilled chicken instead of fried chicken.
If you want more tips, just ask!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there
its not like i want to i do but its like this urge that wont go away its all i cant think about. and watching my niece doesnt help it makes me want 1 of my own more.
i know i am emotional stable and if i did get pregnant my family would help me support this child but i know its not how i was raised and there arent alot of teen pregnancies in my more upscale neighborhood but i feel like i cant live without having a child
i also do babysit and work with children
I don't think you should have a baby. You may love them, I'm not saying that you won't.
You have your entire life to have a child. You're only 16. You said that your family would help you support your child, but you can't depend on your family forever.
Plus, a child deserves to have a mother and a father.
You should finish school and get a good education before thinking about starting a family.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
A few weekends ago a bunch of us went gown to Galveston to celebrate a friend getting a full ride scholarship to college. Well, we were, of course, drinking.
I went home with my best friend and he was driving. We both had been drinking. Well, I didn't think anything of it and we were doing fine until we got into our neighborhood and we got into an accident...with a pole. Yeah, you're thinking omg a pole what could have happened. Well, he was speeding and we ended up pretty messed up and my best friend car was totaled. I broke my jaw and are, and cracked my skull.
Well, needless so say, our parents were PISSED. We both aren't allowed to do anything until the end of time.
Looking back at what happened now, I realize how irresponsible we were. And not only could we have killed ourselves but others out of stupidity. We're both DONE with drinking. I can barely even get into a car with out freaking out now.
There is still a huge problem with our parents; they have lost trust in us. Complete trust. I even over heard my mom telling my best friend that she has lost all respect for him as well. Neither one of us has any idea how we can help regain our parents trust. I for one value it and cannot live knowing that they dont trust me. Any one have any ideas? 17/f
It takes a long time to regain trust that you have lost. So don't expect your parents to put their trust in you overnight.
Anyway, I think that you should tell them something along the lines of this:
"Mom, Dad... I'm sorry for what I did. I realize that it wasn't smart. I learned from my mistake and I won't ever do it again. I value your trust, and I will try my absolute hardest to get it back."
Then, act on it. If you promise to do something, do it. Doing little things like that will help. It will take time, because like I said, trust is hard to get back once it is lost.
It's great that you value your parents' trust! I hope everything goes well!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
how long do you think I should give her to cool down before I try calling her again? I don't want to wait to long because she will probably think that I don't care about her and if I call her too soon she will still be pissed at me. Ya know what i mean? ahhhh, this is driving me nuts.
Thanks,
Tiff
Hello again! I think that you should wait for about a week or two until you call her again.
I know you might be tempted to call her very soon, like today or tomorrow, but don't. She probably still needs some time to cool off, and she might find it annoying if you try to call her a lot.
Some things take time, and this might be one of those things.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
To give a little background, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year I'm 16 and he's 17. He would always get things in the mail from the Army, Navy and the Marines. He would save them, show it to me and I'd rip it up and tell him he's not going. The thought of my boyfriend going away to war is something I just CAN'T handle.
I was in his room, cleaning it up while he was in the shower like I always do and I found a flyer that had the information about the Navy on it... I was getting ready to rip it up when I saw that he had signed up for it..
I always told him that I'd be heartbroken if he would sign up for anything that COULD get him killed.
I'm trying SO hard to understand... But I can't. I don't know why he would do this to me. He keeps saying it's for the best but I KNOW it's not the best for him. He always told me he'd never leave me, but by doing this I feel like he is. He always told me, "You don't know what I would give just to see your beautiful face every day and just to have you in my arms, even if it's for 5 minutes." He's told me he wants to be the father of my children, my husband, my one and only.. If he's at war, how is he going to do that??
I really want to convince him NOT to go, but that's just being selfish... But at the same time I want him here with ME. I don't want to live every day in fear that I'll get that knock on my door and having someone tell me that the love of my life was killed.
So my questions are... SHOULD I convince him not to go and explain to him why I don't want him to?
If not, how can I get over this? How can I deal with it every day knowing that my boyfriend is risking his life?
I wouldn't convice him not to go, but I think that you should tell him, calmly, how you feel about the whole situation. Tell him that you're afraid and that you don't want to lose him because you care about him. That's really all you can do, because you can't make him not join the military.
If he decides to join the military, then support him and pray (if you're religious) for him.
I hope that everything goes well, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
I was the one who wrote about my best friend carly. well something bad happened. It all started yesterday when we were chatting online. Her ex came on and he told her that he liked me and then she told me. I was like why does he like me and she told me to ask him myself. well i didn't want to because I know what she went through with him and besides she doesn't like when her friends date her exs. well she told me that he wanted to talk to me and she said I should talk to him so I was like okay. well we started talking and then carly got offline. well like five minutes later she got back on so I started talking to her again. then she started freaking out on me and she told me to fuck off and stuff like that. I was like okay. I told her that if us talking was making her mad then I wouldn't talk to him but she just got offline. well I was still talking to her ex and she was talking to him and told him that she wasn't my friend and she hated me. he said he was going to talk to her which he did later on and she didn't seem like she was mad at me anymore. so this morning I called her and she hung up on me. so I called back again and she started screaming at me. I apologized for yesterday and I told her that I wasn't trying to go out with him or anything I was just excited that someone finally liked me but I didn't intend to hurt her and I told her that if talking to him was going to ruin our friendship that I wouldn't talk to him anymore. but she didn't really listen to me she just told me that she didn't want anything to do with me and that we weren't friends anymore. and then she hung up on me again. I don't want to lose her as my best friend and I am really depressed again but I don't know what to do since she won't talk to me. I feel empty and like I want to die without her, I know that is kind of weird but she has done so much for me and been there for me when noone else was. Pleas help me figure out what to do so that I won't lose her. I know that the fact that she is pregnant and all stressed out because of her bf has something to do with it but I want us to be best friends again. I will do whatever it takes so I don't lose her.
I didn't read your other question, but I think I have enough information to answer this question.
There isn't much you can do at this point. You've done a lot, and she hasn't listened to you. You've explained to her that you don't like him and aren't going out with him, right?
That's all you can do.
I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's true.
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR. You did nothing wrong. She's the one who blew everything out of control.
What I would do is wait until she comes around. She should realize that she blew everything out of proportion and apologize.
But if she doesn't come around... try again. Tell her that you would NEVER do that to her, and that you treasure your friendship too much to do that.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
im doing the talent show and im gonna dance to Pon De Replay and S(lets name her S, and shes my friend)wanted to join in, so me and my other priend who are in it said yes but she hasnt practicing or anything. So we decided we want her out, so does anyone know a nice way to tell her???
Ill rate 5's for good answers...
not smartasses
Go up to her when she isn't in a bad/sad/etc. mood and when other people aren't around and explain the situation to her calmly.
Ask her why she isn't practicing with you two. Tell her that if she wants to do the dance, then she needs to COMMIT and PRACTICE, and if she doesn't, then she can't be in it. It's not fair if you and your other friend practice and work while "S" is in the group but doesn't practice at all.
Explain all of that to her nicely, and you should be okay.
I hope everything goes okay!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
I'm a sixteen year old girl.
Ok. Well last summer I went on this camping trip with this Chrisitan club I go to. I decided to sit next to a friend who I had met about 7 days before we got on the charter bus to head to Colorado. Well I got on the bus and ten minutes later my supposed friend was hitting on me and trying to kiss me and such. I kept telling him no but it didn't seem to get into his head. He would try to rub my stomach, rub my legs, massage my back, and more. I was so scared. I tried to yell for the adult supervisors on the bus but he would always pull me to him and try to kiss me when I did that. I was terrified. I had been sexually harrassed twice before in my life so I knew what might happen if I didn't get him to stop. Well we got off for a break and I switched seats with someone and sat next to my friend Jessica but he convinced her to move and so he was next to me again. Well when we got there he started leaving me alone and everything was fine but then these three others guy started coming on to me too and I was scared again. I didn't know what to do. I told all the leaders I knew would listen and they said they would try to keep them away from me but they were never around when the boys were. Well I'm of course back from camp now and I haven't seen those three guys but my supposed friend won't leave me alone. I'm afraid of telling my parents because my dad will blow up and try to fatally injure him. I just don't know what to do. What can I do?
Ask him why he's acting like that, and tell him to stop. Say it in a calm, nice way.
"Why do you keep doing that? Please stop, I don't like it."
I know you've told him that before, but it wouldn't hurt to tell him that again. You need to warn him that you will not tolerate his behavior anymore.
He doesn't seem like a good friend if he keeps doing that, even when you tell him to stop.
If he doesn't stop, and/or it gets worse... you need to take action. This is sexual harrassment (as you already know) and it's ILLEGAL.
You need to talk to your parents. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but it needs to be done if you've warned him and he still does it. They can help you.
Give your father credit. He wouldn't risk going to jail just because a guy with raging hormones did that to you. Your father won't like the kid, but he will, most likely, not hurt him.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
I usually dont eat much. I eat maybe one small thing for breakfast and half of my lunch. I usually dont eat dinner. I usually exercise everything off if I eat a huge lunch or a huge dinner. I constantly worry about how much i weigh but im too scared to weigh myself cause im scared of the effect itll have on me. I usually exercise regularly. I run a mile a day, 30 pushups, 5 minute wall sit, and tons of other things. I'm also involved in Cheerleading so that kind of also is an excuse for me to exercise more often and burn off any fat. Ive been getting sick easier lately and idk why ive been sick for like 2 weeks now. Am i anorexic or what?
Oh also ive noticed my legs are smaller and so are my arms.. and ive noticed other things but i need oppinions i rate 5s. kthanxbye!
It depends. Does that small amount of food keep you full, or are you starving yourself (keeping yourself from eating a big breakfast & lunch and not eating dinner)?
If you're full and you SERIOUSLY don't need to eat much to stay full, then you're probably okay.
BUT, if you're keeping yourself from eating large amounts, then you're getting pretty close to having anorexia.
From what you said about being more sick lately, I'm guessing that you're starving yourself.
If your body is deprived of food, then you'll have less energy. Your body needs energy to do everyday things, and to fight off illess. That's probably why you've been sick lately.
You seem to be overdoing the exercise, especially considering the little food you're eating. You're probably really tired after the exercises; am I right? Your body needs energy to exercise, too.
You eat when you're hungry, and stop when you're full. You shouldn't have any weight problems if you do that.
If you're starving yourself and it's out of control, please, PLEASE tell a parent or guardian so they can help you!
I hope I helped, and feel free to leave a question in my inbox!
♥ Manders
Hey all.
I have a spanish teacher, and he is saying, doing and drawing things that offend me.
We learned the body parts in spanish, and sometimes he makes us stretch. Well one time he said "no for estomoigo" (i am horrible at spelling, and that means stumach) and he would like rotate his hips. like in a circle.
then recently we learned things to do, like dance,(bailar) and sing (cantar)
and he would to the actions and then we would have to say what it is outloud, and in spanish. He would go, "me favorito" (my favorite) and start to "dance" and he would like do like humping type things it was so wierd. and like push his but out like fast but slow at the same time(if that makes sence)
And then, this is what totally offends me. he will draw people, and they will be having a conversation in spanish. He will usually draw a rap singer, (a male) and then a "curvy" female.
Usually Jenifer Lopez or Beyonce. He draws them with extreme curves.
like:
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that middle pard would be like the hips. and its gross. he will write, like "bootielicious" as the guys responce,or something like that, and he says it sometimes.
My friend said today that she liked to run (correr) in spanish! and he drew a picture of her, and he made her have really short shorts, and said that she had really short shorts! I understand it because of running and all, but thats gross!!
Also, today we had a fire drill, and the alarm things were going off, and he kept saying "attencion a me, attencion a me,
attencion a me,attencion a me,attencion a me,attencion a me" (that means, give me your attention) and he would not let us leave! he always wants us watching him, creepy. and then he always blows a whistle! its soo annoying and he did that today!
I dont think that has much to do with sexual harassment, but it is dangerous!
If you need to know more, ask!
He is a really good teacher, but he is young, and a lot of the other girls find him attractive, but i dont, because I find him offencive sometimes. I know he is a good teacher, and i want him to continue teaching, but I dont want him to do this stuff. is there anyway I can say something (not to him) to an adminestrator or someone, but not in a mean way, just to talk to him about what he does that Myself and some other girls find offencive?
Do you think that this is sexual harassment? am I totally over-reacting??
Please help!
I'll rate and leave feedback!
Thanks! any help is really appreciated!
-Kas-
That is strange. I would tell an administrator about the short shorts thing, because that's pretty creepy. I would also tell them about the fact that he would not let you guys out of the room during a fire drill.
Has he done anything else sexual? Mention that, too. If you want, you can leave a message in my inbox, I can help you more.
I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
i rilli want to be a actor on tv too nervous to go on stage i live in the uk help
13 m uk
I have horrible stage fright, too. What I do is look at a wall directly behind someone's head. Change the spot you look at from time to time so it doesn't look like you're staring at anybody.
Do NOT stare at anyone in the eye, and don't imagine the audience in their underwear either! (I've heard about people laughing in the middle of whatever they were doing when they did that) Just relax, and do what I just told you!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
I've been with my boyfriend for over two years, and I love him more than anything in the world. I've never cheated on him and I've never even thought about it. But last night I had a dream that I had sex with another guy. I don't know who he was, but it really wierd. And in my dream I was freaking out that my boyfriend might find out about it and that he'd be pissed at me. When I woke up this morning I called my boyfriend and told him about the dream and he's taking it really hard. He's really hurt and he thinks that I might be interested in having sex with other people, BUT I'M NOT. I don't know why I had this dream, and I don't know what to do or say to make him feel better. Another thing is that my boyfriend is in the military- and we don't get to see eachother very often, so he's probably really worried something is going on back at home with me and someone else, but honestly there isn't. I need to figure out why I had this dream, and what I can do to cheer up my boyfriend. Any advice would be awesome, thanks.
You need to tell your boyfriend that you can't control your dreams. That's the truth. I've had some pretty weird dreams about things that I've never even seriously thought about before.
Just tell your boyfriend the truth. Tell him something along the lines of this:
"_____ (name), I love you more than anything in the world. I would never cheat on you. I'm not interested in having sex with other people."
It sounds kind of simple, but it should work. He knows you're the not the type of person that would betray his trust, right? I would tell him that, too.
You might wanna tell him that just because you had a dream about having sex with someone else, doesn't mean you want to have sex with someone else. It was a dream, nothing more.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
I love my boyfriend but lately he has been acting so possessive! He doesn't want me to hang out with my friends (though it fine for him to hang out with his). He doesn't even want me talk to them on the phone when I happen to be around him. He is starting to give me the creeps. Any advice?
This is one of the first signs of an abusive relationship. My advice to you? Get out. Even if you are together, it's your life, not his, and he has NO right to control it.
Or, you can talk to him about it. Calmly. Ask him why he doesn't like you hanging out with your friends. Tell him that you don't like when he acts like that.
If you decide to talk to him, I suggest that you either are in a public place and you have a cell phone on you. If he snaps, you want to be prepared.
I would break up with him, though. A boyfriend is someone who makes you feel safe and special, not someone who scares you and keeps you from doing what you love.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders