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Harrassment
I'm a sixteen year old girl.
Ok. Well last summer I went on this camping trip with this Chrisitan club I go to. I decided to sit next to a friend who I had met about 7 days before we got on the charter bus to head to Colorado. Well I got on the bus and ten minutes later my supposed friend was hitting on me and trying to kiss me and such. I kept telling him no but it didn't seem to get into his head. He would try to rub my stomach, rub my legs, massage my back, and more. I was so scared. I tried to yell for the adult supervisors on the bus but he would always pull me to him and try to kiss me when I did that. I was terrified. I had been sexually harrassed twice before in my life so I knew what might happen if I didn't get him to stop. Well we got off for a break and I switched seats with someone and sat next to my friend Jessica but he convinced her to move and so he was next to me again. Well when we got there he started leaving me alone and everything was fine but then these three others guy started coming on to me too and I was scared again. I didn't know what to do. I told all the leaders I knew would listen and they said they would try to keep them away from me but they were never around when the boys were. Well I'm of course back from camp now and I haven't seen those three guys but my supposed friend won't leave me alone. I'm afraid of telling my parents because my dad will blow up and try to fatally injure him. I just don't know what to do. What can I do?
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what kind of christian organization is this??!!
that just ain't right
i say you file charges (that would go under attempted rape)
or just tell your dad and save yourself some money from the lawyer and you won't have that little problem any more lol
btw im a 14 year old guy that strongly hates people that do shit like that
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That's a SERIOUS problem... and what's worse is that you told the leaders and they didn't confront him about it! Something is wrong with that camp if they'd allow that sort of thing to go along.
Write everything down... the dates, the times, the stories, so you'll have it on record. Write down who you've told and what their responses were. Don't be alone with this guy and let all your friends know that you can't be alone with him, and they shouldn't be alone with him, either. He has a problem learning the word "No". If your club has any leaders, they should know too. I understand not wanting to tell your parents, because parents can be somewhat irrational, but it might come to that if the adults around you can't figure out how to manage it. Some way or another this guy needs to learn that his behavior is unacceptable, and if he won't take the hint from you it's your responsibility to get an adult to talk to him. Keep going up the ranks until you find one.
Any guy who'd kiss you when you're obviously trying to get away has major issues, and you can't deal with it by telling him nicely or calmly. Some things are too disgusting to be calm about.
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Honey tell someone you trust and someone who would take it calmly and get him away from you. Take care
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Ask him why he's acting like that, and tell him to stop. Say it in a calm, nice way.
"Why do you keep doing that? Please stop, I don't like it."
I know you've told him that before, but it wouldn't hurt to tell him that again. You need to warn him that you will not tolerate his behavior anymore.
He doesn't seem like a good friend if he keeps doing that, even when you tell him to stop.
If he doesn't stop, and/or it gets worse... you need to take action. This is sexual harrassment (as you already know) and it's ILLEGAL.
You need to talk to your parents. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but it needs to be done if you've warned him and he still does it. They can help you.
Give your father credit. He wouldn't risk going to jail just because a guy with raging hormones did that to you. Your father won't like the kid, but he will, most likely, not hurt him.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
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I know you don't want to, but you have to tell your parents. They can talk to your club leader, or the kids parents. His behavior is NOT okay, and he needs to realize this before he does this to another girl.
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you can just tell your mom for now and if he comes back and doesnt stop i would tell your dad also cause you shouldnt have to put up with this he isnt really acting like a friend.
hope i helped
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If you have told him and he still insists on bothering you tell your parents. Do not put up with the harassment or he will never stop.
Or you could give him a quick kick below the belt with your foot or knee. He will think twice before doing it again. And while hes writhing on the floor, tell someone in charge to come mop him up and do something about him. :)
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Ok what you have to do is not sit with him again. Tell your mum and she will sort it out with the camp but if your ever with him again just push him away and say get lost i aint your girlfriend or your friend and see if you can move
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you should tell your mom to write a letter to the camp and tell the leaders what happened. and also tell your mom, everything you told me, so dont freak out about it and stay cool. if you think your mom would freak out then tell someone in the family and notify the camp so they can take immediate action. it is suppose to be a christian school and if they dont do the right thing then thats just plain wrong.
--i hope my advice helps and keep on using abstinence--
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