Member Since: September 21, 2005
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Last Update: November 10, 2005
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I need help
I don't know everything that is wrong with me, but I know i need help. I'm a total mess and I don't sleep at night. Every night. A fourteen year old girl should not have to sleep with her sister and mother every night so she doesn't wake up everynight breathing badly and shaking. that isn't how things are supposed to be. I hold my breath then let it out, take a drink. type some more, talking to people keep me awake because i know as soon as i try to sleep hell will come. (link)
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Sounds like a panic attack...it reallyyy sucks waking up with them. Yeah, see a doctor. Maybe they can refer you to a conselor, and maybe your doc could prescribe you some meds to help you sleep. I'm on trazodone, and it works wonders.
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I love Bright Eyes and Elliot Smith, but one can only listen to the same CDs so many times. Anyone have any suggestions of bands that sound like either Briht Eyes or Elliot Smith? (link)
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Bright Eyes! Conor Obherst is an amazing songwriter, but I his singing voice is a bit much for me.
Um, Dashboard Confessional? I thought the two sounded kind of the same.
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ok so we have this thing at our school called mole day for chem (mole is a unit thing thats 3.00x10^23) but anyway we have to make a project either like sewing a mole or making a play on words w/the word "mole" like some of the ones last year were...
MOLEopoly
holy moly (like a priest mole)
molet(like monet)
etc etc
does anyone have any good mole day ideas??? and i can't sew lol (link)
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Mol day! We couldn't celebrate it in my Chem class because it fell on a weekend last year or something.
Coca-Mola?
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I am so scared right now. So many things have happened to me over the past few months of this year. I began cutting myself in the beginning of may over bouts of depression. all the sudden out of no where this depression hit me. I have a great life too, but I get so depressed. Throughout the summer I would have strange mood swings, one hour I would be hyper and happy and love everyone, the next hateful, depressed, and angry at the world. I would hide in my room, and lately I have been having fear of light. I literally scream in anguish if a blind is open or I see sunlight. My mom doesn't know what is wrong with me, lately I have been scaring my sisters and boyfriend. All the sudden I found myself obsessing over demons and possessions. I have already been diagnosed with OCD, so maybe this could be another factor of it. But this is way worse than a typical OCD episode. When I have these thoughts I have thoughts of demons faces, angels bleeding, it's haunting me so much. I then hear things in a distance in my mind, telling me to do different things, telling me to look up satanist things. I dont want to, but somehow or another I feel forced. Lately, suicide has come into my mind. My cutting is worse, I have no apetite at all, Im starting to look emaciated, I feel down alot, could I be unconsiously possessed(well i wouldnt call it possessed but..I dont know how else to say it)or is this something medical as in disorder? Im so confused, and sometimes what scares me is Ill be in my room and get into fights with myself, I feel my head spin and Im going crazy. I cut and slash my arm while I fight myself, saying good things then negative things about myself. I also, when I feel tension and angered, it is really bad, it builds up so much inside me ill sit in a corner of my room and rock back and forth pulling my hair and shaking my head crying..and sometimes banging my head against the wall, but in front of my family I try to act normal, they know about my obsession, but dont know all the details. Im scared, and right now I feel fine, my crazy episode has passed, but there is always one lurking around the corner. What is this? Also to let you know, I have faith in God, but lately have pulled away from him, as in I have not said a prayer since this stuff has happened, I just can't..because when I try to say one I get thoughts of how silly it is and then I feel myself not meaning what I say in the prayer, though I want to mean it so badly. (link)
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cutting = bad news bears. I'm 18 too, and I've experienced this sort of stuff too over the years. I think you might have depression and an anxiety disorder of some sort (can you tell I'm going to be a psych major?). Those times when you start crying and banging your head against the wall sound like really, really bad panic attacks. PLEASE see someone about this!! I cannot emphasize that enough!
Take care of yourself,
Carolyn.
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I met this guy at a retreat (only like him as a friend) he kinda asked me to his homecoming. when i say kinda, it was like "if this person says no, would you wanna go w/me". Im like "well since you put it like that".(i was being sarcastic) Hes like "i didnt mean it that way". i told him if he really wanted me to i would. then he was like "really?" Anyways, 2 nights later he came to visit me at work, and told me it was a joke, and hes sorry, but that he would go to mine. Im like "nah, i already have a date." That night he talked to my friend and told her he really wants me to go to his. Im thinking WTH. The next night he imd me and asked me if i still wanted to go to his homecoming, or we could just see a movie or something. I asked him again if he really wanted to take me, and then he starts with all these excuses. Like: so and so hates you. (a girl that i havent seen for 5 yrs) and she didnt talk to me all day at school today.(that girl told him not to take me) He told me he liked me, and went on to say, "but we just met", then said "Ive decided im not going, besides, i have no money."
Then last night he ims me by saying my name, and i said "wat" and hes like "nothing". The guy is really starting to piss me off at this point. i told him no guy has ever asked me to h/c twice and then tell me he had mixed emotions. I told him you dont ask, then blame the girl for getting upset because hes trying to justify y he did wat he did!! Hes like "i dont get why h/c was such a big deal to you". i told him that wasnt the point, its how he was acting after the fact, like asking twice then make up every excuse in the book why you dont want to go, then blaming HER for getting cocky towards him. Hes like "forgive and forget, i didnt know you were gonna get like this." Hes like, "you totally misunderstood where i was coming from. (I literally wanted to punch the guy at this point) then goes on to say, "i dont want to go to h/c w/u, but i still wanted to be friends and hang out some more, but then you go and freak out on me." Hes like, "i know the evidence is against me, but why hold a grudge? He said, "Well i dont understand now why youre so hostile just because i didnt want to go to h/c w/u even after i said i did, but i had a change of heart" (change of heart twice??) Then he says IM turning everything against him!! (Damn this guy is seriously giving me a headache!)
He says he still wants to come and visit me at work and hang out. I told him thats not a good idea, and that i really dont care to talk to him anymore. Then he said i was being a bitch, and i told him he was for wat he did, and i told him not to put all his problems on me, and drag me into his messed up world. I told him that i dont want to be friends w/some1 that cant stand on their own 2 feet and cant make up their mind wat they want! Then he says "i cant believe ur so hostile after my "mistake." (is this guy a loser or wat?) well ive had enough of his bull****, so i just said that i dont want to talk to him anymore and if he ims me im just gonna block him!! He says hes glad that hes free for that night, and that im just a silly girl. Then HE blocked me! I went under my other s/n and told him that he just isnt worth my time and signed off!
I would just like some input on this. Was i being the jerk here or wat? Im not the sharpest tool in the chest, but hey, i dont think they come any stranger than this. (link)
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You didn't do anything wrong. This guy is just an idiot.
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Was Venus the Roman goddess of love, wisdom, or war? I didn't get this questionand I have been wondering for a while! (link)
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Well, I LOVE middle school, but...its not the greatest. I'm not ugly, I've been out with a couple diff. guys the last few years, and I'm friends with regular/kinda popular/popular people. Although I'm not popular, and I'm not a geek. I have a feeling this year more guys are noticing me 'cause I've gone through some "look changes" as my friends call it, but I've heard that everyone has more fun/life gets better in High School.
I heard most guys get more mature, get done with puberty, etc, and girls get prettier, get nicer, get more mature, etc. Is it true? Does your life really get better in High School?
I'm just wondering. This question is really for anyone who's ever been trough public High School & Middle School. Thanks, everyone!
(13, 8th grade, yeah...) (link)
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YES. Life does get better in high school, though not everyone gets more mature. I graduated from public high school last year, and a lot of people who I went to middle school with were the same immature bastards. I did make a lot of new friends in high school though, and they are some of the best friends I've ever had.
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Ok so my name is Tilly and I came in late for biology class. I look in my chair and there was a note with my name on it..I opened it and it said "Tilly, will you go out with me-your secret admirer"..obviously, they were joking because it was written very MESSY and..if i wanted to say yes/no..how could i tell them? so i was being mocked and embaressed..should I get over it? I wanted to cry so bad..this made me feel even more horrible because people have been calling me ugly for 5 years! (link)
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Aw, man...I'm sorry this is happening to you. The exact same thing happened to me growing up. It kills ya...BUT you have to find someone to talk about this stuff too. That was my mistake and well, I won't tell you my life story.
Try not to dwell on it...try and keep yourself as busy as possible.
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What are some healthy snacks I could take in my lunch each day? I have yogurt and carrot sticks, apple slices down, but those don't fill me up.
Any ideas- i rate 5's if you give me good advice and not anything like "eat food." (link)
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I'm partial to celery and peanut butter. I'm not sure if they still make them, but they had these little packages (kind of like lunchables) that had celery and peanut butter all ready to go for you to eat (the celery was already cut up and you could just dip it in the peanut butter).
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My son is 17, but a very socially immature 17, acts more like he is 15. He is a senior in high school at a private Christian school, doing very well in most respects. My coworker is a little dramatic and often inappropriate at work, but a nice person and very generous. Her daughter is a freshman at the high school down the street from my son's school. Her daughter has had many emotional and behavior problems and recently was even hospitalized for more than a week while being treated with medication for bi polar and depression. The school is always calling my coworker about this girl, she is always in trouble. I have tried to be a good friend to this woman, we have cubicles right next to each other. Lately she has been on a kick that her daughter needs to date my son. I slid out of the homecoming dance only for her to try to arrange something further now and even asked for my son's e mail address and cell phone number so her daughter can get to know him. I am certain this is a bad idea. My coworker keeps pointing out that she chaperones all her daughter's activities and would take my son to a rock climbing wall facility and snow skiing and to plays and concerts. While I know my son would likely enjoy these activities, I doubt that having a mentally unstable girl thrust upon him by a very forceful mom who is overly involved in her daughter's life is a good choice. What should I say to get out of this? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I really don't want to be pushing my son into a relationship with this dramatic family, nor do I feel I should ever chose his dates. (link)
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I think you need to be assertive and firmly tell her what you're telling us.
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I found out when i was 5 yrs old that i was diagnosed with a severe case of General anxiety disorder. I want to know how i got it and some back history on it... ok so heres my life to give you an idea... I was born in newport, england... i moved to the states when i was 5 ... i then moved to north carolina when i was 7... alota crap and i wen to private schools.... i wasnt prep so i was outcasted from alota groups...
If you have gad... what do you think caused it?
What coulda caused it for me (link)
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I have GAD...I've been an anxious and pessimistic person since I was a little kid. I was also picked on quite a bit during elementary school which might have contributed to it.
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i need to loose my belly & thighs, what's a good way! it doesn't need to be quick, but i need a way, i'm sick of being self concious!
thankss (link)
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Belly-dancing!!! I bought a DVD not too long ago, and it's a great way to exercise; i've started taking lessons recently too. It's sooo much fun.
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i have a bf who has gone threw a lot with me
and we have been together for 1 1/2 years ..
he meanse everything to me .. he has hit me
in the past and he tried to kill me .. everyone
thinks i should just get over him but i can`t
i love him .. i was gonna have his baby last year
but shit happend with my mom so i had to get
an abortion :-/ . he has also liked this girl
behind my back and hes been lying about it ever
since .. but now he says that he misses me
and everything .. i don`t know what to do ..
i miss him so much .. he just got outa jail
for something big :-/ trying to run me and
my boii off the road but he just needs help.
please help me thank you -Nikky- (link)
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This guy is a loser...he thinks it's okay to hit girls? He isn't worth it.
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ME: ya.. but heyy ill make this easy.. if you wanna stop being friends with me now... (cause im such a bitch and i ignore people all the time in the hallway etc.) just dont say anything.... its better than seeing the actuall words...
HIM: i still wanna be....its hard when u get mad and aggravated tho
ME: thats why i want to give you a choice.. i will understand if you dont want to be friends..
he then signs off
what do you think that mean? does he not want to be friends anymore?? help please.. be honest!! pleaseee HELP ME! (link)
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he's probably pissed off, and I think you should give him some time and then approach him...in person, NOT online.
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Im 13-f and i'm in theatre. They auditioned me for a part and it was the part that I really wanted and I didnt get it I got stuck with this whole other stupid thing. Im not even in the play. I know im a good actress and its my dream but they wont give me a chance. I feel like my dream is cruched. what should I do? (link)
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You've gotta keep trying and trying, and not dwell on the rejection. Take it as a learning experience and move on for the next audtion.
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Lately I have been having thoughts of suicide. Like I used to have it once a month or once every two months, but now it's almost everyday. I even think about how I would do it, how it would feel, what I would say in my suicide note(I have even written one out), I think how my funeral would be and all, I like thinking about it. It gives me a thrill. I know this sounds sick and weird, but it's how I feel. Then there is another part of me that wants to live, that's trying so hard to fight back, but this other side of me is taking over so fast and Im afraid it will lead me somewhere I dont really want to do. I am seeing a therapist now, have told her everything, but Im just so scared it could be any day now. Just tonight my boyfriend was over and while he lay sleeping on the couch I got up and went into the kitchen and grabbed a bottle of pills, I think I would have done it but then I thought about him and reached into the drawer and cut myself to relieve myself from the anxiety and tension. After I cut I didn't want to commit suicide anymore and I felt better. Could someone try to explain what they thin kI might have? I am so depressed and so scared. (link)
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Dude, I was (and sometimes still am) in your EXACT SAME position. You are totally not alone. PLEASE don't cut yourself...once you start, you can't stop. It's really hard to quit once you've done it for awhile. I'm pretty sure you have depression. In fact, you are displaying the key symptoms of depression (can you tell I'm going for my undergrad in psychology?). Ask about seeing a psychiatrist; they're the ones who prescribe medication...maybe you'll find one that helps you. A combination of medication and therapy is what works best (according to the numerous psychiatrists and psychologists i've seen). Well, I hope this has helped you in some sort of way. Keep talking to your therapist. Talk to someone. That was my mistake.
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my ex and I started to text each other for about 2weeks now after an ugly breakup. Right after the breakup she was texting me some nasty comments and calling me all types of names. I finally got sick of it and texted her back asking her to please stop and to say goodbye for good. Well the next night she texted me back saying goodbye. I replied saying goodbye again and said that if she really needed to talk to someone I would be around. Well she textes me back immeditely asking me all these questions about why did I cheat on her and this and that. Even though I never did, she had heard I did and just reacted without ever asking me. Well we went back and forth all night and finally hashed some things out. Well the next morning she texts me good morning and tells me that she has missed me and basically wants to start again but really take are time this time. i said ok and we started texting each other back and forth. Well one night I was telling her about my new job and she said that I would be able to buy her a pricie wedding band, or take her shopping.I thought she was joking but the next day she says the same thing. I told her I would not be taking her shopping anytime soon and she said she didnt want to go with me anywhere at all. Ok fine, well last night she texts me late asking me to go by her house because she was scared, apparently in the last month she has had her car stolen in front of her house, gone to court for something, had to buy a gun, and has a cop go by her house a couple times of week. I asked her what was going on but she wouldnt say. When we broke up she went around telling people that I wouldnt leave her alone and that we had never gone out, now I question why she wanted me to go by her house last night. Apart of me thinks she is trying to set me up? Plus one minute were texting each other back and forth and next she ignores me. What should i do I dont know whether to cut all ties or not.
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I've TOTALLY met people like that, and I think you should break ties with her. She sounds REALLY manipulative, and people like that wear you out emotionally and physically.
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I know there's like 239812093 questions that are probably similiar to this, so i'll try to keep it short.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 6 months. In the beginning and during the summer, everything was going really well, except a small fight once. But as soon as school started he started ignoring me more, we argue more, he rarely calls me anymore, and i'm not even sure if he likes me anymore. Everything seemed so "perfect" over the summer, but now things are different. Is there anything I can do about this? Any tips?
thanks soo much in advance.
and no stupid ass answers or i'll report you. (link)
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It sounds like the relationship just ran its course. He sounds like a jerk, I'm positive you can find someone who actually understands where you're coming from.
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I have no clue what to be for halloween. I can't go out and buy a costume, but i MAY be able to go and buy some acsessories. I have A LOT of makeup to work with. Please help me. (link)
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My friend once wore a slip and wrote the word "Freudian" on it. I thought it was hilarious. But yeah, come up with something crazy that no one else will wear.
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As someone else suggested, Rainbow Boys is an excellent book. If you want something kind of serious, then The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath is a good one (warning: it's depressing, but VERY, VERY well written).
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