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messed up guy!
I met this guy at a retreat (only like him as a friend) he kinda asked me to his homecoming. when i say kinda, it was like "if this person says no, would you wanna go w/me". Im like "well since you put it like that".(i was being sarcastic) Hes like "i didnt mean it that way". i told him if he really wanted me to i would. then he was like "really?" Anyways, 2 nights later he came to visit me at work, and told me it was a joke, and hes sorry, but that he would go to mine. Im like "nah, i already have a date." That night he talked to my friend and told her he really wants me to go to his. Im thinking WTH. The next night he imd me and asked me if i still wanted to go to his homecoming, or we could just see a movie or something. I asked him again if he really wanted to take me, and then he starts with all these excuses. Like: so and so hates you. (a girl that i havent seen for 5 yrs) and she didnt talk to me all day at school today.(that girl told him not to take me) He told me he liked me, and went on to say, "but we just met", then said "Ive decided im not going, besides, i have no money."
Then last night he ims me by saying my name, and i said "wat" and hes like "nothing". The guy is really starting to piss me off at this point. i told him no guy has ever asked me to h/c twice and then tell me he had mixed emotions. I told him you dont ask, then blame the girl for getting upset because hes trying to justify y he did wat he did!! Hes like "i dont get why h/c was such a big deal to you". i told him that wasnt the point, its how he was acting after the fact, like asking twice then make up every excuse in the book why you dont want to go, then blaming HER for getting cocky towards him. Hes like "forgive and forget, i didnt know you were gonna get like this." Hes like, "you totally misunderstood where i was coming from. (I literally wanted to punch the guy at this point) then goes on to say, "i dont want to go to h/c w/u, but i still wanted to be friends and hang out some more, but then you go and freak out on me." Hes like, "i know the evidence is against me, but why hold a grudge? He said, "Well i dont understand now why youre so hostile just because i didnt want to go to h/c w/u even after i said i did, but i had a change of heart" (change of heart twice??) Then he says IM turning everything against him!! (Damn this guy is seriously giving me a headache!)
He says he still wants to come and visit me at work and hang out. I told him thats not a good idea, and that i really dont care to talk to him anymore. Then he said i was being a bitch, and i told him he was for wat he did, and i told him not to put all his problems on me, and drag me into his messed up world. I told him that i dont want to be friends w/some1 that cant stand on their own 2 feet and cant make up their mind wat they want! Then he says "i cant believe ur so hostile after my "mistake." (is this guy a loser or wat?) well ive had enough of his bull****, so i just said that i dont want to talk to him anymore and if he ims me im just gonna block him!! He says hes glad that hes free for that night, and that im just a silly girl. Then HE blocked me! I went under my other s/n and told him that he just isnt worth my time and signed off!
I would just like some input on this. Was i being the jerk here or wat? Im not the sharpest tool in the chest, but hey, i dont think they come any stranger than this.
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You didn't do anything wrong. This guy is just an idiot.
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You didn't do anything wrong at all. When people act like he's acting it's usually because they like you, but they like someone else too (or a few other people) and they just can't decide between the two of you. I've had some experience with this and I would say to steer clear of this guy. Don't be mean to him or anything since he is your friend, just give him some space and time to figure things out. It seems like he's really confused and since you don't like him as more than a friend, there's no sense in letting him stress you out like this. After it's all over he'll still be your friend and you'll have saved yourself a lot of agony. Good luck!
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Wow... That was really long... I didnt read like everything.. but I read most of it... So... Here goes.... For the homecoming thing... That guy is totally messed up.. and you have a right to be mad at him.. Because I probably would have acted the same way.. It was wrong for him to ask you. then make up excuses of why he didnt want to take you... it seems like both times he asked you.. he was joking around like he didnt really want to go with you by making up the excuse about the girl not liking you and blah blah blah.. get what im saying? So... Needless to say... If he asks you again.... Tell him absouletly not... you dont need to deal with that shit from a guy.. And for your second question.. I think that you both were being a little selfish... If your "bf" indeed did owe a friend a favor and took "brit" to HER homecoming.. not yours... Then I dont see why your upset... as long as nothing went on... and for them acting like they were together... that was wrong... If he truely likes you as you say you guys do. then he wouldn't of done that... but.. then again it sounds like maybe they kind of still have feelings for each other if they had liked each other before... So... Im saying... you dont need either of these guys... You seem like a smart girl.. and no how to handle yourself...Go out and find someone worth being with... that wont hurt you.. make up lame excuses like these guys.. and you'll do just fine....
Hope This Helps... Good Luck..
*Jackie*
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