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Drinking+Driving=VERY STUPID
A few weekends ago a bunch of us went gown to Galveston to celebrate a friend getting a full ride scholarship to college. Well, we were, of course, drinking.
I went home with my best friend and he was driving. We both had been drinking. Well, I didn't think anything of it and we were doing fine until we got into our neighborhood and we got into an accident...with a pole. Yeah, you're thinking omg a pole what could have happened. Well, he was speeding and we ended up pretty messed up and my best friend car was totaled. I broke my jaw and are, and cracked my skull.
Well, needless so say, our parents were PISSED. We both aren't allowed to do anything until the end of time.
Looking back at what happened now, I realize how irresponsible we were. And not only could we have killed ourselves but others out of stupidity. We're both DONE with drinking. I can barely even get into a car with out freaking out now.
There is still a huge problem with our parents; they have lost trust in us. Complete trust. I even over heard my mom telling my best friend that she has lost all respect for him as well. Neither one of us has any idea how we can help regain our parents trust. I for one value it and cannot live knowing that they dont trust me. Any one have any ideas? 17/f
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Communicate. Let them know every chance you get that you know what you did was wrong and that you don't plan on doing it again.
It will take time and it will be hard work. Sooner or later you will get it back.
Accept whatever punishment they dish out. Realize that it could have been a whole lot worse.
If someone had been killed or severely injured you would have had to live with that for the rest of your life. Being grounded or whatever, is really not all that bad in comparison.
You were hurt and they were probably scared. I realize communicating may be a little hard right now with a broken jaw but you'll find a way.
Just remember it will take time. :)
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next time you drink maybe you should think of hoo ur gonna danger adn what ur parents will say.
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ok..hmm...i think you should just leave them alone,meaning like...let them cool down..you know they were scared to death..i was this show about drinking and driving...and most kids get brain damage after it =O..anyways..maybe work around the house,do stuff for them,really show them you are working hard,and maybe give them a card (i know it might be cheesy XD) saying your sorry.i'd say..keep in there,dont ask for things for a while. Make them dinner maybe? or maybe plan some stuff with them..just to get on there good side ;) good luck im sorry i couldnt help any more than this,i hope it turns out all right
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Trust is hard to earn, and easy to lose. Especially in something like this. However, you are having something coming up that will help you regain trust permanently. College.
Yet, that still leaves out now. All I can say is that to gain their trust, you need to get high grades, be totally honest with them about everything, and do things to help out as often as possible. Volunteer at a nursing home, maybe. Spend time with your grandmother. All nice comunity service things. Old people are really good to be around for trust. Get involved in the better clubs in school, like a rotary club if they have one. And keep those your morals in life.
Then, they will start trusting you more. If you get good grades in college, you're back with a semi-clean slate. It usually takes a year to get their trust completely back, but they will give a little bit back at a time.
And I'm really sorry about the crash. :(
-Steven
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I'm not very sure about this one but I'm going to throw out ideas so I hope they will help. You both need to get your parents, sit them down, and talk to them. You can both do it at the same time or different. I don't know if thats what you want to hear but thats what your going to have to do. You need to tell them you know what you did was stupid, wrong, and you are done drinking. Tell them that the accident is over and you can't go back into time. You need to make sure they KNOW all that. Also, if there is any group or club or ANYTHING in your school, church, or any place you go to, that you can sign up for a club about drinking and driving. I know one at my school is called SADD ( Students Against Destructive Decisions). It is mostly about drunk driving though. You could join something like that to prove you know the consequences and your serious that you know you were wrong. Also, you probably aren't allowed to go out because of all this but if you are make sure you are back ON TIME for anything that you go to. Maybe even before curfew or before the time set if possible. And you could help around the house or with dinner. Anything you can do to help out and make their lives easier.
By doing some of those things you could gain back some of their trust but it will take time. By doing all of those things continuously it will help alot. Don't just do it for a week and expect them to trust you fully. Not going to happen. Last thing.... if you had a kid that did that, what would you want them to do to gain back your trust?
I hope you and your friend have learned your lesson which I'm sure you have. Thank God you didn't hit anyone else or kill yourself. You can pray about that. =)
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It takes a long time to regain trust that you have lost. So don't expect your parents to put their trust in you overnight.
Anyway, I think that you should tell them something along the lines of this:
"Mom, Dad... I'm sorry for what I did. I realize that it wasn't smart. I learned from my mistake and I won't ever do it again. I value your trust, and I will try my absolute hardest to get it back."
Then, act on it. If you promise to do something, do it. Doing little things like that will help. It will take time, because like I said, trust is hard to get back once it is lost.
It's great that you value your parents' trust! I hope everything goes well!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
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i got in a bad wreck too. i was in so much trouble.* there is no quick way out. [[believe me, i wish there was]]. you just have to gradually earn it back. have friends over your house. do things for your mom to help out. and just listen to her.*-- that`s all i can tell you. it`s been almost a year and a half since i got in a wreck. && i`m still not allowed to do certain things.-- it sucks.
♥ barbie
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