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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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ok, I'm supposed to ask this really hutt guy out tomorrow and i dunno how!! All my friends are like "write a note, tell him directly" but im too scared to give him the note because he'll show it to other people and im waaaaayy to shy to ask him directly. so how should i ask him out? and trust me, i need to ask him out tomorrow. i really wanna be his girlfriend!!!! hellllllppp!!

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How do you plan on being his girlfriend if you are too shy to talk to him? You have to start somewhere. If you want to go out with him, you have to ask him. Guys like confident and straight forward girls.

To help, instead of just saying "do you want to go out?" have something planned and ask if he would like to go with you.

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I love the intimacy of sharing a bed with my partner, but there's no denying that we get on each others nerves. I'm a reasonably light sleeper, and he snores. I also toss and turn quite a lot and take a while to get to sleep, whereas he seems to be a sleep (and snoring, keeping me awake!) within minutes.

Are we both doomed to a life of broken sleep, or is there a solution? Any suggestion on how to get him to stop snoring or to help me get to sleep more quickly would be appreciated.

Has he ever considered sleeping with a nose strip to prevent snoring? I don't know how well they work, but it's worth a try. Even a differnt kind of pillow can sometimes help prevent snoring. Otherwise, try ear plugs, lol.

Something I use to put me to sleep is an eye pillow. It is filled with herbs like lavendar, and you heat it in the microwave. It's very relaxing and always puts me to sleep.

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what are pilate?

This is an advice column, not a dictionary! Go google it or find out at pilates.com.

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Hi, I have been talking to this guy online.....I really like him..he asked me out and I said yes. DOnt worry I have no intentions on meeting him anytime soon.But i dont know if I should tell my friends about him because they think talking to people online that you dont know is wrong..and i know they will probably get mad at me and think I am crazy. He has sent me a picture...but should I trust him that its actually him? And whats your opinion on online dating?
What should I do??
Thanks

I am not saying that it doesn't work, but I personaly think online dating is a bad idea. Especially for young girls. There are so many weirdos out there, and teens are their main target. The problem is, you really never know who you can trust. No matter how nice they seem, you really don't know who they are. I think you should forget about dating and just stay online friends. If you do decided to meet, do it in a familar public place and with a few people you know.

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the guy i like said he wanted to get closer to me, but the only way he could do so, is if i told him what i was thinking instead of telling him nothingall the time.. what does this mean?!

Your question is kinda confusing.

If you "tell him nothing" as in not talk, then it is pretty hard to "get closer", as in geting to know each other. You need to communicate.

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do foster homes keep brothers and sisters together

No, not always.

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Is it ok to still think you pretty even though, some people think you ugly, or if they call you ugly then you should go ahead and say your ugly. I'm having that kind of problem. My whole entire family says I'm pretty and cute but I don't know if they're just saying that. My aunt told me that she wasn't saying that just to make me feel good, she said that she SERIOUSLY thinks that im pretty. Even my friend says every body should think their pretty because that was called self confidence. But i just don't know...

Even if you are beautiful, if you don't believe it, then your not pretty. Confidence is more attractive then looks.

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ok see i started goin out with this boy tony 2 days ago and my friend katie used to go out with him!! but now she has a boyfriend that she says she luvs so much!! his name is travis!! and she used to be in luv with tony(the boii i go out with)!! and everytime im around her she always talks badd stuff on him!! she tells me how he will ditch me and stuff!! everytime i tell her stuff that he says gOOd about me she always says"he doesnt mean that"! part of me thinks shes jealus! and everytime im over her house and he calls she always runs to the phone and she will never let me talk to him! and i dont think its fair cause she has a boyfriend!! i think she is madd that i go out with tony but wen i ask her she says she aint madd!! so i dont kno wat to b~leave!! can sum 1 rly giv me good advise to tell her or him!!???!? cause its breaking my hart!! ~kayla~ IM me on AIM at eckoprincess1169

Who are you willing to trust more. Some guy you hardly know, or your friend. She is speaking from experiance. She is giving you fair warning of what this guy is truely like. Of course you think he is great now, you have been dating for 2 DAYS! Take what she says into consideration.

If you still want to give it a try with this guy, tell your friend you appreciate the warning but you want to give him a chance, and in the future you don't need anymore advice about him unless you ask. Also if you don't want her comments, don't talk about Tony with her.

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ok so i go on holiday on the 25th of july. i am skinny but i want to lose weight on the top part of my legs. can any one help me? will i have to change my diet?
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To loose weight in a specific part of the body you need to focuse your excersice there. Try biking. There is not a diet for "leg" weight loss. Just be sensible in what you eat with a low fat, low calorie diet.

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My boyfriend and I had sex a few weeks ago and I was due to get my period today. I still haven't gotten it. We didn't use a condom, but we didn't finish either. He was only in me for a few seconds, not even a minute. Is there any chance that I could be pregnant? I'm showing all my regular signs of PMS, but still no period.

It is so fustrating to hear KIDS are having sex AND have no clue what the consquences are! Yes there is a good chance that you are pregnant. You had sex with out protection - which makes babies. It doesn't matter if pulled out or not. Please inform yourself more about the consequences and responsibilites that come with sex before continuing.

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Where do all you advicenators get all your answers?

Common sense and life experiance.

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I just started tanning and the other day my mom told me to make sure to wear a bra when i go in because its bad if i dont. Is that true? Could i get breat cancer from not wearing one? Or any thing else because i thought that tanning could only give you skin cancer and eye damage.

Did you ask HER why it is bad? Because your chances of getting cancer will not decrease by wearing a bra.

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i have this project to do and it says that i have to create a timeline of WWII also the holocaust but it also says be creative. i have all the information but i need a creatine way of making a time line for that period of time

Crinkle the paper and soak it in coffee. This will stain it and make it look old/aged.

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i like this guy at my school, and everybody's telling me that he likes me too. we went out before but it only lasted a few days, because i just didn't feel comfortable around him. but now i like him again, and he keeps telling everyone he might ask me out again. the problem is, when i go out with him i don't like him but when i don't go out with him i like him. i keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. if he asks me out, what should i say? because i'm afraid if i go out with him again, i might keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. im really confused. i don't know if i really like him or not. please help!!!
signed, confused

It sounds like your not ready for a romantic relationship. Until you know for sure having a boyfriend is something you want, just be friends.

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Does anyone know where I can get a Juicy Couture sweat suit?..cheap?

Ebay

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okay i like this guy he's in college he's about 2 years older then i am. i am only 17. i really like him and i told my friends that i do. all of my friends suggest that i should just call him and tell him that i like him. would this be right or should i just get to know him more??

Don't just call and say "Hey I like you." You'll sound like a 12 year old. Call him up and ask him if he would like to get together some time and have dinner. What is a better way of getting to know each other than going on a date?

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My boyfriend and I gave our virginity to eachother ( im 14 he 16) and the way we slept together was we snuck out of the house. I got caught and now I am grounded until June 18 now we got caught on April 25 and ever since then he was acting really weird like he didnt like me anymore and everything else but before april 25 we did it 4 times before that. and he acted fine but the thing is he didnt even get in trouble for sneaking out and hes acting really really really weird. like I talked to him about how he's changing and he said he doesnt know whats going on. so i asked him if he's still interested and he said "i guess so" then the next day i asked him do you want to be with me and he didnt answer then we almost broke up but we didnt and then i said to him i need you to be more affectionate and he said no. and hes not going to change or even try to.

This is very confusing but for people who understand me tell me. Should I break up with him? and what is wrong with him!!

I WILL RATE 5'S!! JUST PLEASE HELP ME!!

This is why kids should not sleep together! They can't handel the responsiblities or emotions that come with sex. Please in the future, wait until you are in a mature and commited relationship. And don't expect much from a guy that says "I guess" in reference to being in a relationship. He obviously is not too commited, it's time to let him go.

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I bleached my hair yesterday & it came out horrible! its like all blotchy and stuff..like really blonde in some places & not so blonde in other places. how can i fix this????

If you want it done right, go to a salon and let a professional deal with the problem. Continuing to bleach and dye your hair until you get it right can be very damaging.

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This lad at my school has been spreading rumours that my dad beats me we used to be best friend but i never told him that the only thing is that he did see my dad hit me once and its because i was being rude to him. but now everyone looks at me like im some freak ive talked to him and he just says im speaking the truth what should i do?

Well honestly, if I was at a friends home and I saw their father hit them, I would tell someone too. Although spreding it around school like a rumor is very wrong. Tell him that you feel hurt that he is sharing your problems with everyone in school, and if he wants to talk about it he should come to you.

Your father has a problem if that is how he expresses his anger, especially infront of guests. If this is a contiuing problem, please seek counsel.

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I'm going to the beach in a week and I understand that when you shave your legs, it stings really bad once you get in the ocean. Does Nair sting? If so, are there any other alternatives?

I have never had a problem with my legs stinging, nor do I know anyone that has complained of such a problem. If they do sting it should be minor compaired to stepping on shells and getting salt in your eyes. You could try shaving the night before so your pores have time to close.

From personal experiance, Nair stings and doesn't work. It smells horrible too!

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