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I was curious, do many girls sleep in tampons? If you put a new one in right before bed then a new one right when you woke up would that be safe? When I sleep I wear a pad to avoid TSS risks, but since I do not sleep standing up, my period sometimes leaks out on my pj's and sheets which is quite embarressing.

Just curious how many people do it and how safe it is.

I don't sleep with tampons. I never have. My flow is pretty havy and I don't wake up in the middle of the night to change. I know what you mean about the embarressing blood marks on the sheets. Try buying [ overnight ] pads. They are designed to keep you overnight. They are exta long, so you have a less chance of leaking. (Iv actually leaks with one, but like I said, my flow is extreamly heavy).

You should be fine if you put a new one in when you go to bed and a new one in when you wake up. I know alot of girls that do sleep with tampons in, but on the other hand I know girls that sleep with pads on.

If you need some [ helps ] about not leaking with a pad on, drop on in the INBOX, I know some secrets ;]

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i really neeed your advice:

who do you pick? the person who first loved you? or the person you first loved?

The first person you loved.

Just because the person loved you doesn't mean you loved them back. You may have thought of it as a fling, but the first person you love is the person that treated you the way you wanted to be, the person you felt the most comfortable. You know deep down you care more for the person you loved first, and you would rather choose them. You wouldn't want to hurt the person that loves you, but in time they will deal. All in all, do what makes you happy, but personally speaking I would go for the one I loved.

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i have thick, curly hair. its hard to style my hair sometimes. do you have any ideas on hair styles for me & if you do, can you tell me how to do them?

Sorry, but I can't help you. My hair is super thin and stight. You can try asking some of the other columist, and I'm sure one of them can help you.

Sorry I couldn't help you more.

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You probally know this is but i dont care, say i liked you more than a freind but i didnt want to tell you, because i greatly enjoy are freindship and telling you would freak you out like it has with other girls in the past and i dont want that to happen. I just feel like i fall in love to easily and push the note to quickly, but if i wait out to tell her it gets harder and harder for me to say it what should i do?
-Romeo

I think I know who you are but I'll keep it on the DL.

If you like a girl you should tell her. If it makes the friendship end up badly then she wasn't really your friend in the first place. You can't help your feelings and you can't help who you like, you're not sopose to. I understand it gets harder to tell her but have you every heard the saying "make your move before she moves on" ? It's true. Girls like when guys tell them their feelings it makes them feel as though the guy is sensitive (spelling), but I also know what you mean by not wanting to mess up a good friendship.

Are you really close friends with this girl, do you really understand everything about her & what she's been through ? Hang out with her, and get to know her better. Get her trust and know that she is a good friend that wouldn't leave you hanging. Then maybe it might be easier to tell her. Of course nothing like that is super easy but whats to lose ? You went out on a limb and told the girl you like what she really means to you. Sometimes things work out and sometimes things dont, but that doesnt mean you should hid your feelings from her and never tell her.

I like how you picked Romeo [ helped me know who you were ] & I hope this all helped you somehow.

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Is it better to have loved and heart broken or better to have not loved?

Loved and heart broken

Everyone broken heart comes with a lesson. Every time you are hurt or you hurt someone you learn something about yourself or your world. If you were to not loved then you would never learn anything. Even if you are heart broken, you have memories that will last a life time of laugher and jokes and feelings that someone cant be replaced, but if you never loved then you wouldnt know those feelings nor have the memories.

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How does someone know if the person they like, likes them back? and if they dont like you back what should you do?

The one and only way to know that is by asking them. What harm could happend ? It's one simple question, that no one should lie about. If they don't like you back there are many things you can do. You can try and move on. Find someone else that likes you, and be happy with them, or you can try and stay with the person in the hope they change their mind.

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im a female, im 13, and im about 5'5'' and a half, and about 120 pounds.

i know im not obese, or majorly fat or anything, but am at all overweight?

i feel like i have no will power, and i eat junk, and i just plain eat all the time.

what should i do?

Your not overweight at all. Not even close. Your body fat index is 20% and thats perfet.

Eatting all the time is a bad thing, but your not fat. Just make sure you dont just sit down everyday all day. Get up and run go outside and run. Do something fun that way you wont think of it is "working out" so much.

Be proud of who you are and the skin your in. Your not fat, and you shouldnt think it :] Just be happy.

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Do all shirts shrink in the wash?? If so how do you stop it?

Thanks

Shirts shrink more in the dryer not the washer. To stop this, hang your shirt to dry that way it doesnt shrink.

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I have a friend but she likes the same guy I like what do I do.

Almost everygirl with a best friend has been in this situation. There are alot of way to deal with this.. I'll try and help you with all.

Neather of you go for the guy. Is the guy really worth losing a friend over ? The guy may come and he might stay (no one knows) but your friends will always be there for you. There are like a zillon fish in the sea, so why this one guy ? You can find another one, dont make a fight about who gets him when.. honestly you can find someone else.

Also, you could find out who he likes. Who ever he likes kinda has the better chance. Why would you waist your time on him, if he didnt like you back ? Who ever he likes should go for him and the other one, should just I guess you can say move on, find someone better, someone who likes them back.

Personally speaking, the o1st one works alot better then the o2nd one. The o2nd one most of time makes drama and no one wants that. So I recommend (spelling?) the o1st one.

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15/f. his first girlfriend committed suicide and he cant figure out why and misses her terribly. every time he thinks of her, he cuts. his mom thinks hes gotten over it, and told him if he ever went back to it, she'll send him somewhere. so has his best friend, he comes to me. hes tried to stop, but it seems its geting more frequent.he lives a million miles away so i cant talk to him face to face. im really worried that one day he'll kill himself. i have no idea what to do x__x

Something happened in his life, and affected him, and the true is, he may never get over it, but what he needs.. is to learn how to deal with it in a healthy way.

Keep talking to him, tell him that when he feels like cuting to try and get a hold of you. That you will always help him threw a rough patch. Tell him that its important to seek help. That hurting himself, isnt going to take the hurt away forever. Cutting only takes the pain away for a short time. That slowly killing himself isnt going to bring his girlfriend back. Maybe being sent somewhere would help him ? If his mother new, maybe she could get him the true help he needs. As his best friend, your doing the right thing. Your worried and your scared for his life. Telling someone about it, might seem like the wrong idea, that you would be selling him out, but it wouldnt.

Telling someone would the farthest thing from selling him out. You should be helping save someones life, that could one take that away from themself. You would be doing a good thing. You care about him, I can see that your worried and you are confused, but don't wait to help him untill its to late. Tell someone that knows him and you (and the story behind his girlfriend). Think positive, that one day your friend wont hurt himself anymore. That he will be happy and know how to deal with his pain in a good way.. a non-dangerous way.

Hope this helped, and good luck..

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ive been fingered, ive masterbated, and ive worn tampons. so my hymen is most likely broken right?

Could be, but not a 100% sure thing... theres not really a way to tell.

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how do u know wat size tampons u wear

That totally depends on your flow amount. When I first started out, it took me a couple times to get it just right. If you really have no idea, get a mlti-pack (regular, super and teen). Try and see which one works best for you. Try and use the lowest tampon you can (its better for you).

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What does it mean to get your hair thinned?
How do they do it?
And is it good for your hair?
Thanks.

Getting your hair thinned is when, someone has to much hair, the hair stylist will remove some of it, to make the hair easier to work with and much thinner.

Some stylist do it different ways. Some take a razor, and go towards the middle of your hair, and remove it from there.. and some just use sissors and cut away some extra.

Im not totally sure if its good for your hair, but I don't see why it wouldnt be. Your head wouldnt have so much dead weight hanging down.

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over the summer....i met a boy. we liked each other and made out the swimming pool, bedroom, basicly all the time. We weren't bf/gf though (i was single)

I go back to his house about to get jumped by a girl who was his girl-friend. Is it my fault for not asking him if he had a gf of his fault for not telling me. i have been so depressed since then....i can't get over him, he seemed so perfect.

How were you to know ? It's his fault. He should have told you that he had a girlfriend before anything ever happened. He seemed perfect on the outside.. but think of it this way. If he did that to his girlfriend. Went behind her back and made out with you without saying anything, do you think he wont do it again ? Once a skumbag always a skumbag. That perfect guy had a major set-back. He baiscly cheated on his girlfriend, hmm.. not so perfect anymore. Don't be drepressed over it, it was a mistake. You didn't know any better. Don't blame yourself. You didn't know, the guy should have told you.. balme him & totally not yourself.

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My friend's are into druds, alcohol, smoking ,ans sex. I'm just not interested in any of that stuff at all! I think it's just wrong, but my friends say it'll make me look cool, but, i don't think it will. I think it'll make me look stupid. I'm afraid of giving in, what shoul i do?

If you are that against it, you won't give in & if they were your true friends, then you they shouldnt be pressuring you into doing stuff you dont want to do anyways.

Stick to what you believe in. No one can make you do anything. If you are that against it, then there is no reason for you to give in. You know that it doesnt make you cool, and that its not right for you.

Peer pressure can be tough & it's not fun. Everyone has it in their life and some kids have to deal with it everyday. If you are a strong enough person you should be able to stand up for what you believe in. If you "friends" continue to pressure you, why be friends with them ? True friends would understand your beliefs, and wouldn't make you go against them. If it comes down to it, try making new friends, ones thats respect you and your ideas.

Try telling your friends that you understand they do that stuff, but your are really not into it & that they should respect you and your thoughts. That you don't think its right of them to pressure you about things that you are really not comfortable with. They should understand and back off, if not.. like I said, make new friends.

Hope this helped a little & remeber to always stand up for what you believe in.

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what does "playing tonsil hockey" mean? how do you play??

It means french kissing or making out.. & you don't really play it. You just do it.

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How do you do a messy bun?My hair's thin and i wanna know how to do them. Usually when you take them out your hair is wavy or sometimes curly. Does anyone know how to do one?

I have thin hair too, I'll try my best to make these instrucions as clean as I can (bare with me)

The Steps: (You're going to need 2 pony tails & I use bobby pins also)
(1). put your hair in a pony tail.
(2). take your hand and and DONT wrapp the hair around the pony tail, just mess with it. Take some of the hairs and move them to one side and the other to the other side. Just crinkle your hair all together.
(3). Take the 2nd pony tail, and wrap it around the hair that you just messed with.
(4). Take the bobby pins, and anyhair that is hanging out or, just isn't in the spot where you want it, boddy pin it in place.

Sorry if they weren't 100% clear (you can send another in the INBOX if you need more help). When I take them out, beacuse my hair is thin, it doesn't make it curly.. just kinda .. messy (hints, the messy bun).

If you need anymore help, Id be happy to help you.

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To like mess it up. Don't wrapp it. Just take hair in your hand and squish it towards the ponytail already in place. Take your hand, and take the whole ponytail, and run your hand around in a clock-wise motion a few times, gather it up & put a rubber band around it. Hope this helped a little more, ask again if you need more help.

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i won the game haha loser jk i love you so much babe

Haha Samm :o] whats your question smart o1... ?

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