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Peer Pressure
My friend's are into druds, alcohol, smoking ,ans sex. I'm just not interested in any of that stuff at all! I think it's just wrong, but my friends say it'll make me look cool, but, i don't think it will. I think it'll make me look stupid. I'm afraid of giving in, what shoul i do?
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If you are that against it, you won't give in & if they were your true friends, then you they shouldnt be pressuring you into doing stuff you dont want to do anyways.
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Stick to what you believe in. No one can make you do anything. If you are that against it, then there is no reason for you to give in. You know that it doesnt make you cool, and that its not right for you.
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Peer pressure can be tough & it's not fun. Everyone has it in their life and some kids have to deal with it everyday. If you are a strong enough person you should be able to stand up for what you believe in. If you "friends" continue to pressure you, why be friends with them ? True friends would understand your beliefs, and wouldn't make you go against them. If it comes down to it, try making new friends, ones thats respect you and your ideas.
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Try telling your friends that you understand they do that stuff, but your are really not into it & that they should respect you and your thoughts. That you don't think its right of them to pressure you about things that you are really not comfortable with. They should understand and back off, if not.. like I said, make new friends.
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Hope this helped a little & remeber to always stand up for what you believe in.
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Ill offer you an older perspective on things.
Someday, you will look at the things you do and judge _yourself_ based on how _you_ feel about the things you do. And when this day comes you will most definately not like it if you do things you dont feel good about because you want to impress someone else.
It will make you look cool. To possibly many people. You will not be one of the people who thinks youre cool. You will just realize that youre friends with people who only like you so long as you do what THEY think is right. Thats no way to live or maintain friendships.
You are right not do do any of the above. You are right not to do them because you are making a choice based upon what you personally think is right, and choosing instead the path that you think is best for you. That shows an incredibly remarkable lvl of maturity for someone who Im guessing isnt past 14.
Keep it up. Tell your friends that you dont have a problem with them doing what they want to, as long as they respect your decision NOT to. If you cant hang out with them without pressures to join the group and do what they do, find some new friends.
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I do all of these things, but sex. I wanna weight until it's with someone I really love. Anyways, I see your point. It won't make you look cool, and if you don't like these things, don't do them. It's pretty simple. I realize you wanna give in because it's gonna make you feel cool & look cool to your friends, but it's really not.
Remember: Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means you stand alone.
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I agree with you 110%. You're doing the right thing by not giving into them, so keep up with that. They'll come to thier senses eventually and realize how stupid and pointless doing drugs and smoking is. If they honestly thinkg that it'll "make you look cool" then they've got something wrong because 'cool' can mean a lot of different things.. it's an opinion. Seriously, if you looked up 'cool' in the dictionary it wouldn't say drugs, alcohol, sex, smoking. I know you've most likely heard this before but [no joke] if they think that's the only thing that would make you 'cool' then they probably aren't your true friends. Yeahh it's okay for friends to have different interests and stuff, but if it's a "do it or we're not friends thing" they aren't worth your time.
Hope I helped.
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whatever you do, DONT give in. You will regret it later on. It will not make you look cool. and you are right, it will make you look stupid. I dont think Smoking, something like can shorten your life, is cool. because once you get into this kin of situation, it will be hard to get out of it. If this were friends, they will accept the fact that you arent interested. If they start to not like you for this decision, they are just doing that to make you give in. If they do, you should get friends who accept everything about you. :] Just dont give in, you will regret it. Good LuCk
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whatever you do, don't give in. i'm not saying all those thing are terrible, i'm just saying that if they're pressuring you they arent real friends and you should never participate in any of those things for reasons other than you just wanting to. you will hate yourself for doing it to fit in or because you felt you had to. don't give them a lecture about how bad they are, just dont do it and find other friends. <3
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Don't let them pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. They sound fake if they want to do that stuff, just to look cool. Yeah, it would make you look stupid. It's no where being cool.
If you do any of that. People will judge you. The losers will think you're cool but that would only last for a little while. It's not even worth it, since they probably do that all the time.. It's not even cool, it's overdone and stupid.
People will just judge your intelligence. I'm sure you're really smart. You don't need any drugs or sex to make you look cool.
It just makes you look like a stupid unaware person.
Half of my friends on drugs.. struggle with work and with their addictions. Alcohol is much worse when they're drunk actions take over. There's also a rick of alcohol poisoning. Smoking is not even better.
Just believe in what you want. If they were true friends, they wouldn't pressure you into doing things you don't want to.
Just say no or you just simply don't do that shit.
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wow..you have some fake ass friends if they're telling you you'll "look cool if you do drugs, smoke, drink alcohol, and have sex".
no fake to you, fake in personalitly. apperantly they're only doing it to be "cool". and that is way more lame then not doing it at all. PLEASE don't do it if you DO NOT want to. don't do it to be "cool". you'll just be a fake loser if you do. DON'T give in. and if they don't stop pressuring you, they're not your true friends. they should accept that you don't want to do it. so tell them to back off, and tell them that if they don't accept you for who you are they're not true friends. good luck hun. =) don't give in!
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Good job. You're right, there are a million reasons not to do those things, but to teens like us, there are a million reasons to do them. There is no cure for peer pressure, but the best thing to do is remember what your standards are, If you dont want to do them, then don't. Ever. Never forget your principals.
Here are some things you can say:
- I have to get good grades or my parents will kill me, I can't do that if I'm high at school.
- If I get arrested my Parents will freak
-Uh.. I don't want to die of lung cancer thank you,
-I don't want to __________
-I think it will make me look stupid.
-Havent you been in Health class?
There are a million other reasons, but if you search Google there are a million other sites on peer pressure, or you can talk to your parents.
If your friends force you to do it, they arent very good friends, and they dont sound like very good influences to begin with, so if you lose them, I think you should try and make other friends.
Peer pressure is a huge part of growing up, and it sucks, but we all have to deal with it. The best thing to do is try and find someone to talk to.
I commend your efforts not to be sucked into the whole "cool" scene, there arent very many people like that. Good luck, I hope I helped.
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dont give in !! please
your 'friends' are acting rediculous, (no offense) thinking sex and drugs is cool, cus it totally isnt. if anything it makes you look easy and young. as hard as it mite be to hear, i would start hanging with a crowd u enjoy being around, people you can chill at the mall with or hang out at the movies. you cant change what your friends do, but that doesnt mean you should give in and join them. your rite to think what they do is wrong. be straight up and tell them that doinng all that stuff is really immature and say u wont do it, but you still want to be friends. if they say no, its their loss and you start fresh with a new crowd .. hope i helped much luck get bac at me if you need to
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They`re not your real friends if they pressure you to do the things you don`t want to do. I say tell them to stop and try to make friends that won`t be a bad influence on you. ♥
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I completely understand and couldn't agree with you more. These people are not your friends, if they're pressuring you into doing bad things. Things that can cause diseases, serious illnesses, and even death.
So my advice to you, is to not be their friend anymore. By being their friend, you're putting yourself in a position to at one point, maybe actually giving in. Trust me, there are far better friends out there.
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