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so.. my best friend cuts.. and i dont know what to do
15/f. his first girlfriend committed suicide and he cant figure out why and misses her terribly. every time he thinks of her, he cuts. his mom thinks hes gotten over it, and told him if he ever went back to it, she'll send him somewhere. so has his best friend, he comes to me. hes tried to stop, but it seems its geting more frequent.he lives a million miles away so i cant talk to him face to face. im really worried that one day he'll kill himself. i have no idea what to do x__x
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I think you should find some kind of way to get ahold of him phone or something. You need to talk to him becasue stuff like this is really big nowadays.He needs someone to talk to & he needs to burst it all out becasue all the pain he`s hiding inside makes him cut himself. He needs to hang around with more fo his freinds and do stuff like that to meet new people becasue he needs to move along and not think about it. I`m sure his girlfriend wouldn`t want him doing this to himself and you need to remind him that`s she`s looking out for him and she still loves him.
Hope I helped and I`m truly sorry.
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Something happened in his life, and affected him, and the true is, he may never get over it, but what he needs.. is to learn how to deal with it in a healthy way.
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Keep talking to him, tell him that when he feels like cuting to try and get a hold of you. That you will always help him threw a rough patch. Tell him that its important to seek help. That hurting himself, isnt going to take the hurt away forever. Cutting only takes the pain away for a short time. That slowly killing himself isnt going to bring his girlfriend back. Maybe being sent somewhere would help him ? If his mother new, maybe she could get him the true help he needs. As his best friend, your doing the right thing. Your worried and your scared for his life. Telling someone about it, might seem like the wrong idea, that you would be selling him out, but it wouldnt.
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Telling someone would the farthest thing from selling him out. You should be helping save someones life, that could one take that away from themself. You would be doing a good thing. You care about him, I can see that your worried and you are confused, but don't wait to help him untill its to late. Tell someone that knows him and you (and the story behind his girlfriend). Think positive, that one day your friend wont hurt himself anymore. That he will be happy and know how to deal with his pain in a good way.. a non-dangerous way.
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Hope this helped, and good luck..
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Eh.
This is a tough situation.
I've been where he is right now.
& I'm still not over it.
It's common that he wont ever get over it.
He just has to learn how to accept it.
I blame myself to this day, so I have no doubt that he probably does too.
The best thing that you can do is offer love and support towards him.
Let him know that you are there for him and you will continue to be. Let him know that you care about him and dont want to see him put himself through that day after day and if you could make it better you would.
At least.. those are the things I'd want to hear. & some of the things that helped me.
Dont try and tell him not to cut though or yell at him when he does, that only made me want to do it more & i felt like I disappointed people.
I just needed someone to be there for me and let me vent to them and have them not judge me, tell me what to do, or show any sign of emotion cause that just made me feel bad.
You'd have to be a really strong emotional person to deal with something like that
I crushed alot of people with the way that I was.
It does get better though, and I survived through it, twice.
The best thing you can do, like I said, is be a friend. Whenever he needs it. & let him know that youre not going anywhere.
It's really sad to say but sometimes if someone has intentions of killing themselves..sometimes theres nothing anyone can do about it. It's like programed in their brain and their set on autopilot.
We can try our best to prevent it, or give them ultimatums but sometimes its too late.
Try and do as best you can and offer as much love and support as you can, like I said.
He could just be crying out for help with the cutting/suicidal talk.
Also tell him.. that if his gf was still here.. she wouldnt want him to do that to himself. & to stay alive for her.
thats what ive been doing.. for the past 5 years.
Good luck.
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