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oh mann
I have a friend but she likes the same guy I like what do I do.
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well...you and your friend could talk about it and either decide if you both really like him or if you both just like him as a friend.First of all...is this guy a nice sweet guy?Cuz if he is not then whats the point of liking him.Hope i helped!
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Almost everygirl with a best friend has been in this situation. There are alot of way to deal with this.. I'll try and help you with all.
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Neather of you go for the guy. Is the guy really worth losing a friend over ? The guy may come and he might stay (no one knows) but your friends will always be there for you. There are like a zillon fish in the sea, so why this one guy ? You can find another one, dont make a fight about who gets him when.. honestly you can find someone else.
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Also, you could find out who he likes. Who ever he likes kinda has the better chance. Why would you waist your time on him, if he didnt like you back ? Who ever he likes should go for him and the other one, should just I guess you can say move on, find someone better, someone who likes them back.
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Personally speaking, the o1st one works alot better then the o2nd one. The o2nd one most of time makes drama and no one wants that. So I recommend (spelling?) the o1st one.
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Been there, done that! You have to be careful about this situation, depending how much you like the guy and how close you and your friend are...this sort of thing has ruined a friendship for me.
Just be open about your feelings with your friend. Tell her you like this guy as well. As long as you're honest with her and don't do anything that you know would hurt her, you can't go wrong. If she gets angry at you, then she's obviously not a very understanding friend.
Good luck!
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I think you guys should talk about it, and decide wether you want to go from there.
Just share with her that you have feelings for this guy, and see what she says. Sometimes friends make the pact that neither of them goes near him so the friendship doesn't get destroyed, which I may advise you both to do if you really think your friendships worth it, which it should be. "Chicks before dicks", I always say.
But sometimes friends can make the pact where if he does try to advance for one or the other, and may the best woman "win", I guess you'd say, and no hard feelings. Even though she may be fine with it, well at least SAY she's fine with it, really make sure. I'm sure she'll be hurting. And don't rub it in her face either if this is to happen. Don't kiss him or flirt with him or anything infront of her, cause it'll only make her feel worse. And if he was to choose her, she should be the same with with you.
But like I said before, chicks before dicks. Guys come and go, but friends are forever, you know hat I mean? This is going to be a good friend for awhile I bet, and I don't think you want this friendship to get ruined over one guy you're probably never going to see once High School is over. You may not even see him next year if you guys don't have anything together.
I'm sure two new crush'll come along for the both of you, and then since you two'll be friends you guys can all double date.
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I hope I helped.
So just talk to her about it and see what both your feelings are on the situation, and what you two want to do about it. Both go for him, potentially ruin the friendship you have, or leave him be and have a great friend by your side?
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i hate situations like this.
the sad thing is, the best thing to do, is for both of you to agree on not dating this boy, so it won't cause any hurt feelings.
eventually one of you guys will find a new fling of the week :]
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Unfortunatley I've been in this sitch. way too many times.
My advice, it would be wise to try to get your mind off of him. I know I know, you're probably thinking "But I like him more/first." But is your friendship worth risking?
My friend and I both liked the same boy, when he asked me out I asked her first if it was okay so I knew if she'd be upset. She said it was just fine so me and him went out. Bad choice, she really liked him. Even though we were good friends, she didn't want me to be upset so she gave me permission at her expense, I don't blame her, I wouldn't have stopped her.
It's best to get out of this problem sooner rather then later. Just a helpful thought.
Good Luck <3
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You talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. If her feelings are stronger then try and work something out. Either way no matter if she gets him or you do.. it's one thing to lose a guy but its another to lose a friend.
Remember.. Boys come and go but your Girls are there forever.
hope I helped!:]
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Sara.
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