No one understands me and I don't mean to talk about only myself. I don't want to come off as arrogant. I hate how everyone thinks I'm selfish [my mother mostly] but can't tell me why they think that. I want to ask them "what do i do that makes me seem selfish to you?" but I don't know how to say that. No one seems to see [except for a few people that have noticed my apparent "big heart", my grandmother and aunt] that I try so hard to make sure everybody's pleased, but I don't take time to do anything for myself, and I go along with what other people want or are doing because I want them to be happy. At home, my mother is planning on divorcing my father. I don't know the whole story, but she filed a domestic violence thing in May against him, but the judge just basically dismissed that and said my parents have to be nice to eachother and to come back to court at the end of July to follow up. Last I heard, my mom was going to file a divorce against my dad, which hasn't happened yet, but neither has the court at the end of the month. Things at home are horrible. My parents fight constantly and at times I think my mother has gone crazy. I love my mom and my dad, but they use me to get dirt on the other all the time. They also both talk to me and my [two younger] siblings one-on-one to tell me why the other parent is wrong/bad/etc. I can't talk to either of them about anything. My mother and I argue constantly because we are both always feeling sorry for ourselves and can't see the other's point of view with anything. My mother also favors my [younger 13-yr-old] sister, and even though my sister takes advantage of my mother and treats her much worse than I ever would. I know that it is a bad time at home right now and that my mom is stressed out and gets angry easily, but why does that give her special privelages to be a jerk to everyone, and if anyone were to be a jerk to her, it would be totally unacceptable? My mother doesn't care about how I feel about much of anything unless it's convinient for her, and even if she did care she wouldn't understand, or want to. My mother thinks that I have no problems and that my life is wonderful. She always tells me that I'm only feeling sorry for myself and that no one cares about what I'm saying, and basically that no one cares about me. Why is it perfectly okay for her to take me for granted? Why do I continue to do nice things for her when she hurts my feelings constantly and doesn't care? Why does she get to yell at me and fight with me all da and expect me not to say anything back? In the mean time, I am constantly feeling worthless and hopeless. It is the same feeling at home and at school. [even though it's summer] In my social life, I don't have any REAL friends. They all use me at one point or another. Most of them don't care about what I have to say, and hardly any of my "friends" want to, or will, listen to my thoughts, feelings, and opinions. People I'm not even close to take advantage of me. I don't have a lot of friends, either. I'm too scared, terrified, to talk to new people. I'm afraid of them and what they will think of me when I open my mouth. I think I come off as a snob or a jerk to them because in truth, I am too intimidated to talk to them, and as a result I don't say much of anything. I also have a habit of dwelling these personal problems on people that (obviously) don't give a care. I can't talk to anyone because I'm afraid of being seen vulnerable. I need some help, and I don't have anyone to talk to but myself through a diary. It doesn't help, and when I look back on what I've written, I just feel sorry for myself again and start crying.
Aww, thats really bad :[ To have all that going on and all that happen and having to keep it all bottled up.
The first thing I wouldsuggest is trying to arrange seeing a councillor so you have someone to talk to about everything that's going on because it seriously will help a lot.
You sound like a really nice person, wanting to make everyone else happy before your own happiness but reality is that people will use and exploit that kindness in you. There has to be a point where you must be able to draw the line and think about you and your happiness before others. It's not at all being selfish either. If you don't look out for yourself no-one else will.
The whole situation with your parents sounds really complicated (5 a.m. where I am and I just got home so it might even just be me) but I think for starters you should say toboth your mom and dad, when they try get dirt on the other from you, that you love them both so you don't want to be used in this way between them so to not do so because it feels wrong. See what they have to say about that and hopefully it will get the message across you don't like them doing that. As for how you don't get along with your mom I think best bet I can think of is to tell your mom exactly how you feel. Write it all down and let her rad it ir sit her down and talk to her about it without trying to get into an argument about things. You also have to remember regardless who's to blame your mom is going through a very rough time and may just assume you can deal with it all being the eldest one. I think best you an do is try talk to her to explain your side of things so she knows exactly what's going on with you.
When asking for help everyone seems vulnerable but there's nothing wrong in asking for help. The idea is not to let the person use the problem to control you and you'll be ok. When it comes to friends I guess they eventually get bored of hearing a frends problems but also with new friends they may just get overwhelmed when you start to talk about all this stuff all of a sudden. Best thing to do is take it easy with them but don't hold yourelf back when it comes to making new friends. There's nothing wrong with you so just be yourself. as long as your you you'll make plenty new friends. Ifpeople are going to think les of you just becaquse your yourself then they would not have made great friends anyway so you've not lost anything there.
Just hang in there and things will wok out so don't give up on hope. You've made a friend here if you ever need one so feel free to write to my inbox should you ever feel like needing to chat about what's going on and such and I'll try help if I can or I'll just listen if all you need is a sounding board. Take care though and sorry I wasn't really all that much help.
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16/f and he is 18
so my ex boyfriend recently broke up with the girl he went out with before and after me. during the time of dating her he asked all sorts of rude questions, but now that they are over all he wants to do is hang out with me. Keep in mind i havent seen this boy in abouts 5 months, its just strange. I completely lost all my feelings for him (at least i think) He was what i considered my first love ( lost my virginity to him) I want to see him again, but i have a feeling my emotions will resurface for him. Im not afraid of hooking up or anything its just the whole emotions aspect, plus my parents completely hate him now. Do you think i should even bother wasting my time on him, because i would love to maintain a friendship (although i highly doubt he wants that) What do you think?
I'm not sure I fully understood the situation because you said you don't think he wants a friendship but you think all he is after is a hook up and nothing else? :/ Sorry, just got me confused a little.
It sounds to me like a classic case of being on the rebound but I'm not really sure as it might not be the case. I only say so though because after 5 months of not talking all of a sudden he's back and wants to hang out with you and such but he doesn't want a friendship. If he's not after friendship then all I can imagine it might be is a possible relationship or he's just looking for a rebound.
I think, either way, the choice really is yours to make. It all really comes down to what it is YOU want. If you want a friendship then you'd have to make it clear that's all your after. If you're okay with just being a rebound then fair enough but as you said yourself then there is always the risk of getting emotionally involved. Lastly there is the possibility hemay want to just get to know you again in the hopes you can both start over in which case again it all comes down to you getting emotionally involved as well as having to deal with your parents who hate him. Either way it's really your choice to make on what you want to do but either way, good luck. :]
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i have a fever and my body hurts and i cant really describe it and my doctors on vacay and i went to some other doctor in some other field and did a pee test and stuff and i seem normal. also i cant get a blood test b/c the damn liquid wont come out of me. i dunno why. prob b/c i never exercise so narrow blood veins? or i dunno?
does drinking water help people to take your blood? (for medical tests, in donating blood)
Blood is made up of a liquid called plazma which contains 3 types of cells: white blood cells, platelets and red blood cells. Most of these blood cells are produced regularly in your bone marrow — a red, spongy material found within the cavities of many of your large bones.
To produce hemoglobin and red blood cells, your body needs iron, protein and vitamins from the foods you eat so the best advice I can offer is to maintain a healthy and wholesome diet so your body is able to produce blood. When it comes to domating blood it should also be noted that it DOES take the body some time to recover after domating blood (your body needs time to produce that blood which has been donated) hence you can only give blood after a certain amount of time if you have already given blood before.
As for taking blood it's general practice to extract blood from the limbs (I'm not sure why exactly but it is common practice to ONLY extract from the limbs unless it's totally not possible). I have known where doctors and nurses were unable to find a vein to extract blood in which case they choose other means such as between the toes. If extracting blood was vital they would have taken it from you in some other way (I would imagine from the trunk of the body). All I can really suggest to be honest is that you not worry but IF your condition does get worse or you are still ill (the doctor you saw should have said how long to wait it out before contacting him again) then I would suggest going back or checking yourself in at a walk in clinic/hospital. You may end up waiting in a huge queue (at least that's how it is here in the UK anyway) but they will be able to check you over to make sure everything is okay. Also I'd like to suggest you call up your doctors office/surgery because if he/she is away I would expect that someone else would have taken over for them temporarily or there would be a nurse still on call at the office who you can speak to.
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okay so last year at school i had this really good friend named Sara. we had been friends for like 2 years and we told eachother EVERYTHING! we had a very good friendship. Then i got some new friends and so did she and we were still really good friends anyway even though she hated my friend named kelli. So sara started hanging out with some of the popular girls. me and sara's friendship started to fade cause sara started getting really clingy and really annoying and i was getting fed up with it! so then all of these rumors started going around about how kelli had broken up sara and my friendship and it totally wasn't true. so kelli used to be popular and all but now all of her friends (except for me) all started being mean to her and said they didn't want to be her friend anymore cause of what she did. kelli and me got really close and sara didn't want me to be her friend and tried to get me to join everyone else and i just said no and we never realy talked after that. so then more rumors started going around that i was kellis slave and that she was taking advantage of me and stuff like that which so wasn't true! so then after school ended people hated kelli and liked sara and then me and sara started talking again and stuff and we are friends again but now she started ignoring me again and i don't no what to do! So i'm friends with sara and kelli and thye both hate eachother and sara doesn't want me to be friends with kelli. please help me i no it's confusing sorry!
Hi.
I don't think anyone should have to give up their friends just because everyone else hates them. I have friends that other friends don't like but I still try and balance things out and get along with them all. I know they all hate each other and I generally just tell them if they have a problem with them - keep it with THEM. Not bring it up with me or bad mouth them to me because they are still my friend/s. I think all yoou really need to do is make this clear to your friend as well. Just tell her your her friend and you don't expect them both to get along but you don't want to get dragged into choosing between them.
When you was friends with Sara, Kelli didn't make you choose her or Sara so I don't see why Sara should. Point this out and just explain you want to be friends with them both and not have to choose. It's just plain stupid (since I can't think of a mode 'nicer' word at the moment). YOU decide who is and who isn't your friend - not somoene else. So don't let anyone else decide this for you. I have some friends who REALLY hate each other (I have to sometimes make sure there isn't going to be a huge fight when we all go out and one or the other is drunk). It'sa grim situation but I still manage to stay friends with them all regardless and if one does bad mouth the other and get me involved I tell them not to involve me since I have nothing against them.
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i'm 17/m
she's 15/f
tomorrow is my first date ever, which is pathetic in itself because i'm 17 and i'm gonna be a senior. i just got off the phone with this girl and set up the date and now i'm getting really nervous and i'm just downright buggin. we're gonna see 1408 at 4:15. i had to pick an early movie time cause my license doesn't let me drive past 9. we both really dig each other but when we're around each other its weird cause we both have the plague, shyness, really badly. i think we're perfect for each other cause we both love heavy metal and we have divorced parents and we both for the mostpart hate life. i just don't know what do do. my friends are no help cause everyone tells me to just bang her, even my dad but i don't wanna bang her. i have no desire to do that with her because i know that if both connect with each other verbally, it will be more fulfilling than any sexual act. to be honest, i just really want to hold her hand. the most i would wanna do is kiss her, not make out though, like a real like cute kinda kiss. i sound gay, i know. i could be bi but thats a question for another day. the movie will end around 6ish and i dont know what we should do after. i'm just completely lost and i'm freakin out man. i need tips, please no jackass tips that tell me to bang her. its times like this when i wish i did drugs cause i need a big fat blunt.
Why is it being nice to a girl as opposed to just picking her up to do her is considered or sounds 'gay'? That's the most dumbest thing I've ever heard. I think most relationships would hardly last very long with some of the people who told you any of that crap. There's nothing wrong with showing and having some respect for a girl or wanting to be romantic. :]
As for this girl and what to do, try not to panic. I know it's easily said but if she sees that you're nervous then you may also make her nervous as well. I always get pre-jitters as well but afterwards when I actually meet someone I'm just fine. Just relax and go out and be yourself and above all, have fun. :] You don't want to jump into overdoing it with the romantic stuff though especially since this is the first date (you don't want to be coming on too strongly). By all means if you manage to pluck up the courage at the movie, hold her hand. I think it would be really nice. If you don't then, don't worry about it because you'll get your chance afterwards sooner or later. It's a nice thing to want to do but don't force it, it'll just happen. For the kiss part you can always kiss her goodbye when you drop her off. How you do this is up to you though and all depends on her as well. I generally just kiss on the cheek when saying goodbye so you can just do that and it won't put too much pressure on her as well but if you feel you'll get a full on kiss on the lips then by all means let it happen. Again the key is to use your own judgement here. Just try to relax and talk to her. Try not to let there be any uncomfortable silences between you both because that can make a person feel even more nervous. You want to try make her feel comfortable and one of the ways you can do this is by relaxing. :]
After the movie you could go and grab something to eat (ask her and if she is hungry ask her what she'd like to eat). If not then is there anywhere you can take her where you can both hang out? Make sure its not at some abandoned beach or anything as that might just make her nervous, lol. But pick a nice place for you both to hang out and chat (since you can't really chat in a movie) so it'll give you both a chance to finally chat properly. A good conversation starter is the movie you just saw and what she thought of it and such.
I can't really say much more than that. This is all based on my own personal experiences by the way so improvise and don't go entirely with what I've said. Just remember to relax. :]
On a side note regarding what you said about how you both hate life. That hardly seems a great thing to be comparing with each other as far as things in common go. :/
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okay soo i have a couple questions.
i have this guy we have ben on and off since last summer we ended it last summer because college then this summer got more intimate and stuff but the thing is we are so rude to eachother. like we flake on eachother. on the other hand, he has been talking about sex lately. i wouldnt mind doing it. its just its my first time. and im afraid of getting pregnant because im not on birth control. last time i mentioned to my mom she said no.
Basically i feel like we use eachother cause we both havent moved on. What do you think?
What are some good ideas so i can presuade her to let me get it?
ohh and what are some good sex tips?
If you feel your both just using each other why don't you put a stop to it instead of encouraging and aggrivating the whole thing by giving him what he wants? Surely you can find someone else - at least someone who won't just be using you for sex.
As for the birth control, I really can't think of any way I can help you make a case for getting it although you did say you're at college so I would have thought you'd actually be old enough to make this decision for yourself instead of needing to ask your mom about it. However, either way, you can try convince her but if it doesn't work why not use condoms? You'll be safe from getting pregnant that way too. Using the pill as well will obviously provide better protection but if you're unable to get onto the pill then the condom seems your best option (as well his best option).
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Is there a website where I can make mixes with songs? like make one song go right into another? or even better.. if i could have the singer of one song, singing their song to the beat of another person's song. i dont know if that's impossible but thank you for answers!
I don't know of any websites at all where you can do what you need however there are programs you can use which will allow you to create your own mixes. I created one using a number of mixes with a track from Prodigy.
The list of programs you can use for mixing is large but to name just a few (which I've personally used myself) are Internet Audio Mix, Virtual DJ, Fruityloops (advanced and hard to get to grips with but VERY good program) and PCDJ Red.
All will allow you to overlay tracks on top of each other BUT they won't (initially) block out music in one song so you can overlay the lyrics from it onto a different music track. For something that advanced you may need to use a recording studio. As far as I know there's no software that can do this and if there is then I am unaware of it I'm afraid.
Sorry I can't help you further.
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15/f. Pardon me if this is long. But it's ruining my life.
Last year I was a really lonely and pathetic teenager. At 14, I had no friends I could trust, and all that revolved around my mind, was school and homework. And then I stumbled upon an online forum. There, I made lots of friends and became so much happier. I had gotten more social through the ways of the internet chatroom. The people there all shared my interests and were so nice and sweet to me. It was almost like a dream. I actually thought I was fitting in somewhere. Ever since, to this day, it has become an addiction. Particularly because of one guy. Let's call him "Vibrator". Vibrator is 3 and a half years older than me. That makes him...(well, you do the math, if I'm 15 1/2) And he lives in North America (as I do) He shares my music interests, hobbies and other things such as this. When he talks to me (and we have been talking online on MSN and AIM for a course of one year) he is always so sweet and sugary and amazing. I feel like I've known Vibrator forever. He always compliments me and tells me I'm pretty. It makes me feel amazing. But, I'm a bit paranoid, because I've only seen like ONE picture of him! And I'm always sending him pictures o.o And everything we discuss....personally..is always about me. So I feel as if...he wants to know about me, but never tells me about himself. Is he hiding something? I don't know what to do ! I'm so emotionally attached to him. And he flirts with other girls too, and then tells me later that he has no "sexual" feelings for me. He tells me that we should meet and he tells me he wants to. He manipulates and plays with my feelings. He really is ruining my life. I hate him, but at the same time I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him. But I'm so unsure. It's becoming an obsession talking to him. And he gets mad very frequently...when he does, I cry. He upsets me a lot. But then he apologizes and plays with me...like that. I cry over him. I can't tell this to anyone. Not even my best friend, because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I like someone online.
What should I do? Please. :( Any piece of advice would be helpful.
Hi. Don't worry about the whole liking someone online thing - I've been there before myself and I personally don't think it's anything to be ashamed of at all.
I want to say to stop talking to him and delete any way for you to contact him and vice versa because this guy is bad news and NOT something you want to be getting yourself involved with but for me to say that is easy than it is for you to just do.
There's a distinct pattern here with your involvement with this guy. You were someone who was without real friends or friends. Maybe someone who was looking for affection? Enter Vibrator who makes you feel the way you've always wanted to feel, says the things you've always wanted to hear - is almost the perfect person. The more a person will know about you the more knowledge they will have about you that they can use against you (when they say knowledge is power they really were not joking). He knows so much about you he now seems to have you trapped and maybe even wrapped up around him in a way that you're now finding it very hard to let go - exactly the thing he may have wanted. He is showing the distinct pattern of someone who might be classed as an Internet predator (at least by everything that I go by and what I've learnt of internet predators).
The facts here are that there's no telling who he actually is. He could be anyone whos used everything you've told him against you to get into your head. For your own safety I would suggest you sever any contact with this guy. If he persists then tell him you want nothing to do with him anymore and wash your hands clean of this guy. I can only hope you've not given away any details to him about yourself that may become something he could try use against you but provided you've not it's best to cut off contact now. If you have then don't worry because it doesn't mean he has you in a corner.
I know it's not going to be easy especially with the hold he has on you but you've sought out help and you can see something is wrong, this is a really good sign. There's many who never realise this until it becomes too late - believe me I know this since I have seen it many times. If you require any help or want to chat do give me a shout to my inbox and I'll try help any further if I can. I was going to refer you to a site where you could try and get a background on this guy to see if anyone else online has had any contact with him but I am still trying to search for the site (my main PC died - I'm now using a laptop). As I said, send me a message to my inbox should you require any further details or help and good luck.
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my boyfriend and i want to try something new. however, we are both virgins and would like to keep it that way. we have both performed oral sex though, and i just want to spice things up a bit. a friend of mine suggested the whole blind-fold deal, but i want to try like flavored lube. do they sell that at like walgreens? or where should i go? this is probably a stupid question, but i'm only 17, they wouldn't like I.D. me or anything, right? am i ALLOWED to buy lube? thanks.
As far as I know you shouldn't be asked for ID if all you are buying is lube. It would seem a pointless thing to do. Since I don't know if you're in the UK or the US I can't really suggest places where you can buy it from but there may be a good few places who keep it. My best suggestion woulod be an Ann Summers store since there are a lot of them around. They will always have flavoured lube and such at their store which you can buy. You can also try online stores which will be able to help you with this providing you are willing to wait, are able to order online and are willing to have the item delivered to your house (they almost always use plain packaging but you can check this on the companies web site or by contacting them if you're worried about this).
There's a lot of things you can both do as far as spicing things up goes and you can use things other than flavoured lube. Syrups, cream (with strewberries) and chocolate sauce are just a very few, for example. Just be sure to cover anything you don't want spoilt by whatever you use since they may stain and such (like bedsheets or particular clothing you might be wearing at the time). You can both also explore the whole dressing up for each other since that may also spice things up a little. :]
Hope I was some help either way though. :]
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i dont wanna sound dumb asking this but i edited a video on windows movie maker and the type i can only save it under is windows movie maker. so like for example if you save a picture you can save it as a jpeg or something else but for the video i can only save it as that (thats really confusing but hopefully someone will understand it) and then i go to youtube and it wont upload it from windows movie maker. it has to be like a different type. so i dont know how to do that cause theres no other opotion?
helppp!
ps. sorry is thats really confusing hah
You might be using the wrong save option. When you hit save (project) it saves it as a windows movie maker save file but you need to save the project as a stand alone movie which should save it as a wmv format. Try the option to produce the movie or a similar option. There are a lot of guides for windows movie maker all over the net which you should be able to locate using google which may also help you.
I can't currently give you step by step instructions on how to do this as I'm currently using Win2000 and the pc with XP is down but if if you still have no luck with this then please write to my inbox and I will get you more thorough instructions on how to save it as a wmv file whcih you should then be able to upload to youtube.
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I posted this before but i only got 2 back lol
that didnt help much but i'm getting streaks and i need help with what coloures to get here are two pictures of me
http://coookiieloove.piczo.com/?preview=y&cr=7&rfm=y
Well people say white blonde or caramel would suit me what do you think ?
I think blonde or caramel would look nice. Am not sure about white though unless it's a single white streak along the side like here:
http://f.screensavers.com/OMS/img/407/rogue_xmen3_wallpaper_215.jpg
That looks really nice when in white but otherwise, if your going to get a lot of streaks put in then blonde or caramel would be really nice. Even pink or purple, if you're daring enough, would suit you quite nice I think. Thing is I think it's all about experimenting to find what suits you best. Even if you find afterwards you don't like it, eventually it will fade out or you can just bleach it out and start over with a different colour although bleaching and constantly dying your hair does cause it damage.
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I just had unprotected sex a few days ago(twice)and yes i know that was stupid with having no condom(i'm a girl, 16). My first fear is of course pregnancy, my period was two days late but i just got it today, so that means i'm not pregnan, right?!? Thats my fist question, then my second is, should i get tested for any std's or something? i haven't noticed anythig weird but is it still neccisary to get the test?
And not to be a total sex newbie but the guy i was with the other day asked me if i was "on the pill?" I didn't know what he ment so i just said yes...what pill is he talking about? What does it do?
Thanks!
Some women still get their period regardless whether they are pregnant or not so I would say, to be on the safe side, I wouldn't count it as a guarantee that you can't still get pregnant. I would highly suggest you get checked for STD's which you should be able to get done by visiting any local Family Planning/Health Clinics or by seeing your doctor - either would be highly advisable just as a precaution. If you might have something it won't present itself immediately (the HIV virus can take a long time to incubate and present itself phyically) so do get yourself checked out.
When the guy asked if you were on the pill he was referring to the birth control pill which is a form of conterception - prevents pregnancy (but DOESN'T protect you from any STD's).
In future I would highly suggest you carry condoms with you but if you don't want to do this then make sure the guy either has and uses one or you can tell them they get nothing until they do use one. You'll only be doing yourself a favour in the long run - especially since you may now need to get the morning after pill (to prevent pregnancy - you need to talk to a pharmacy asap about this because I think the pill can only be taken within 3 days for best results) as well as get tested for STD's.
Good luck and hope everything will be okay.
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yeah all this advice has helped.. But I can't meet up in the day with him because he is grounded. So Meeting at night is the only way I can see him and he is un grounded when i go on holiday and I want to see him before I go.. So What can I do?.
Ah I see, now I see why you couldn't meet him before hand. Why not get him to come to yours? He will need to sneak out anyway to get out the house to meet you when you sneak out so why not him just walk to yours? It would be safer for you (which, no offence, should be his primary concern). Alternatively, I think one thing you can try is to visit him at his house instead. If his parents say he is grounded and can't see anyone then just say to them that you're going on holiday before he gets ungrounded and you won't get to see him for a while (because you'll be gone on holiday) so if you can just see him for a while? I think appealing to them in this way they may just decide to let you see him and that way you will both get to see each other before you go on holiday. I hope it works though and you get to see him before you go.
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18/female.
This guy and I have been talking since the end of April. He had broken up with his girlfriend he had been with for four years a few weeks before. They still talk & I have no problem with it because I'm pretty sure they'll never date again. She just used him to get money out of him, you know, a gold-digger. Anyways, the guy treats me pretty good & I like him a lot. There's just something about him. I'm not sure what it is really, but I've liked him since the first day I met him. The feelings I have when I'm around him aren't the same as when I've been around other boys I've liked. But his sister told me he was looking for a girlfriend & that's around the time we started talking. So I figured he would ask me out sometime soon. Well, today we got into an arguement. I think this is the conversation that started it..
him: I'm going to a party & get drunk in a little while.
me: You gonna talk to all them girls there?
him: Yeah, if there's any there.
me: Alright then, you won't be seeing me anymore.
him: Why not?
me: Well if your gonna talk to other girls I'm not gonna stay around.
him: Oh, I didn't know it was like that.
I told him I was just playing around, but after that he really wouldn't talk to me. I asked him what's wrong & he kept saying nothing but you could tell by the way he acted something was wrong. So I waited about an hour for him to start talking to me again & he ended up going outside with his brother. So I started to leave and he asked where I was going and I told him home. I stood there for a minute waiting for him to give me a hug, because usually before I leave him he'll give me a hug, kiss, and he'll tell me to be careful. Well, he walked inside so I followed him in there. He asked me why was I acting so pissed off & I told him I wasn't. So then he walked back outside to his car. I went right behind him, said bye, got in my car and left.
Now I know some guys act like this a lot, & this guy has even told me he can have mood swings from time to time (not serious bad ones) & he said if he didn't act happy or talk much that would be why. I'm just hoping that's what this whole thing was, but I have a feeling he won't call me. So I was wondering, should I just wait this little arguement thing out (this was the first time we got into a serious arguement & it wasn't even that bad) & see if things get better, or just go ahead and move on?
Because I really like him. I'm pretty sure he likes me as well. He asked me one time about my "boyfriend" & I told him I didn't have one & didn't want one. He asked me why not & told me I should settle down. So I asked why hadn't he settled down & he told me, "Well, I've been with the same girl for a month." (talking about me) I think he isn't sure about getting too close, like relationship-wise, to me though since he leaves for basic training for the Army in September. But I just need some advice about this whole situation. Sorry it was so long, but thanks a lot!
Hi.
I think firstly he might just be trying to get over his ex-gf. Having been with her for so long it will naturally take time so he may not be wanting to jump into anything heavy just yet.
As for the argument, I have to be honest and say that if a girl had said that to me even I'd be a bit weird about it, especially when it was said to me by someone who isn't even my girlfriend. I think in a way it might have been seen as being clingy or even an ultimatum, that oif he wants to talk to other girls you ain't going to hang around with him. Also, bare in mind one very important point, which was what you had said to him during your chat with him when he had asked about your boyfriend. You had said you didn't have one and didn't want one. When you had said that it may have gave him the signal you don't want anything serious but more to the point - you said that and then got into this argument about him talking to other girls. My immediate thought would have been, "She doesn't want a boyfriend (i.e. doesn't want me) and she doesn't like it when I talk to other girls or try get someone else..." Hope you see where I'm coming from. :]
I think the biggest problem that you may both face though is that him going to the army, which might make it hard to hold any kind of a long term relationship depending on how often he will be away and such. It might be the reason he is closeto you but doesn't want to go any further so prefers to do so with someone else he might meet (so as not to spoil things with you by it only being a short term thing or a fling). On the other hand I could be totally wrong and he just wants to give himself time to be single and enjoy himself especially since he had been in a very long relationship prior to this. Jumping from one relationship into another very quickly is never a good thing and he may know this (as hard as it might be to believe since guys can be pretty oblivious to any of this).
I think the best thing to do might be to try talk to him and more importantly find out where you and him stand. I would say move on (given he will be off to the army soon) or at the least keep your options open (even when you think you're with the perfect person there's always someone better out there) but since you do like him a lot and he may even feel the same I think it will be better to at least know where you stand for certain before you decide to walk away from it all. That way you'll know for certain at least. Obviously this incident that happen will be something you will both need to talk about as well and attempt to resolve becuase maybe you were only joking but in a conversation (especially an online conversation) it can be very hard to see what's a joke and what isn't because it's all just words, there's no tone there to go with them to determine how you're saying those specific words.
Whatever you decide to do though I hope it works out for the best, good luck and I hope I was some help.
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I am trying to get pregnant but I haven't had a period in about 9 months and I know I'm not pregnant.Some people told me that I need a period to get pregnant do you think it is true.I have had a period before but I was taking birth control pills and I stopped taking them when I decided I wanted children and my period stopped to.What do you think I should do.PLEASE HELP ME!!!
I would have to agree with sevenmilliondown on this. The best option is to have a chat with your family doctor and explain what is going on, they will be able to help you and offer you a more professional diagnosis as opposed to what anyone here or any people can offer you. :]
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I'm 15/f and I'm pretty much an animal rights wanna be activist freak. lol
I saw the SHAC demos put together into one video on youtube. I believe they're stationed in Europe...maybe I'm wrong. Anyways, are they going to come to Washington DC or somewhere in Virginia again? And could I join even though I'm only 15? Although I highly doubt my mom would let me be part of a demo but whatever. I just wanted to know how old you have to be in order to be able to join demos
I don't think there's any age restrictions on going to the demos although they may say you'll need to bring a guardian with you (just incase) although from what I have read about SHAC they are generally peaceful demos without incident. you're right, they are stationed here in Europe (you can have a look at their website at www.shac.net which can provide you a lot of information about them and what they do and such). As for them coming to or having any demos in Washington DC or Virgina I was unable to find any details of on their web site. I think the best thing to do might be to email them directly on info@shac.net and ask them. :] At the same time you can also double check on their standing on tyou attending any of their demos given your age and see what they say/suggest. I was going to email them for you but if you email them directly you'll get a more direct response and you can ask them anything else you need to ask as well. :]
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I'm female and 14 years old. My Boyfriend is 15, nearly 16.
Okay, this is quite a weird question bt i need help as soon as possible. Basically, he wants me to sneak out tonight and meet up with him. The problem is there has recently been a pervert around who grabbed a girl in my school near to where i live. I am scared that he could grab me when i go tonight, coz it will be around 1 in the morning and dark. It will take about 5 - 10 minutes until I will meet my boyfriend. So i have a 5 minute walk or even a bit longer on my own in the dark along some roads to him. I don't like the dark much as it is and I am petrified about this pervert.. I can't get my boyfriend to come to my house, and this is the closest I can meet him but I hate walking on my own in the dark. I want to go.. But i am really scared about what could happen.. and then my parents may wake up and realize i have gone and i will be in lots of trouble.. so then i won't be able to see my boyfriend coz I will probably be grounded. So what would you do? Would you go? Or what could I tell my boyfriend why I can't? or should i talk to him about it? I want to go, but just my parents could find out and then there is the walking on my own for 5 minutes in the dark knowing a pervert could jump out.. I am scared stiff, but i do want to go.. Help? xx
Personally I'd say don't go. I hate any of my frirnds walking back on their own as well because there's plenty perverts around here in my area as well. Fact of it is that only a small amount of these perverts even get reported since most who get grabbed and such by them fail to report it out of embaressment or, like in your case, they are out somewhere/at a time when they shouldn't be so feel that saying something will get them in more trouble.
I don't understand why you would have to meet him after hours? Why not just meet him the next day or does he want to meet you at that time because he hopes he can take the relationship further? No offence to your boyfriend but for all you know he could even try something (long shot I know but it's in my nature to mistrust anyone and everyone) and who would know about it other than you? Only option would be to tell your parents and then they'd know you went out after hours but then by that time you may already be blaming yourself anyway becuase you went behind their back and did something you shouldn't have. There's a lot of angles you can see this through but personally I think you should not meet him. As for what to tell him, just tell him the truth. You don't want to risk gettin caught going behind your parents back and getting grounded as well as not wanting to be out on the streets on your own at that time. If he can't accept that then its tough luck really. As I said, what can be so important that he can't just meet you during the day the next day? The risk isn't worth it in my opinion considering how unsafe the streets are at that kind of time (you also have drunken people and not just perverts hiding in bushes to contend with).
I think if your parents found you missing they would freak totally more out of concern than anything else as well as you loosing their trust. It's really not worth it and neither is a little midnight meeting with your boyfriend cinsidering the downsides but overall it will be your all.
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I'm 18/f he's 21/m. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for over a year now. Yesterday we tried a new position and if made me queef (I think that's what it's called). Anyway the point is I was really embarassed about it. My boyfriend is sweet and said he didn't care, but I don't know. Does that kind of thing gross guys out?
I wouldn't say it grosses me out at all, to be honest, I doubt it really would many people - I'd be more surprised if it did to be honest. The last time that had happen while I was with a girl we actually both found it pretty funny, lol. Wasn't gross or anything like that (even though I can understand the embaressing part coz she was as well). But I don't think it's anything bad so don't worry about it. :]
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I think I have a problem communicating.In particular my boyfriend.It's weird.. I can talk to my issues to anyone else,But when it comes to talking to him about my personal life and just what I like or what I think about, I can't seem to come out with it.I feel like I'm being hypocritical because I always ask him what's on his mind and what he feels about things.And I know it gets on his nerves and I don't mean to be hesitant to tell him anything.I love him so much and I can't stand not being honest with him and what not.I'm not very good at expressing myself and I hate it.I'm trying to fix that problem, I just don't quite know how to.It's kind of odd though.Because when we're intimate , I guess I don't indicate what I like and what I don't and I know that's bad, but I guess I don't know how to react.Also, is it bad to fake orgasm or whatever.Because honestly, I don't want to make him feel like he's doing anything wrong or anything so sometimes I fake.I know this is some odd things I'm talking about, But I'm trying to fix this.Anyone have any ideas how to cope with this?
I think the only real way to resolve this and overcome the not being able to talk to your boyfriend is to try and start doing so. Communicaion in a relationship is very important, you both need to be able to talk to each other about things, especially how you feel and if things are wrong, otherwise one of you or the other will never know why you feel the way you do and eventually it can just lead into more problems. That said though it doesn't mean you HAVE to talk to your boyfriend about everything. There are some things you can't talk about to your boyfriend and where a best friend and such is more useful when it comes to feedback. Generally though you doneed to try and start opening up a little but how you can go about this is hard to really say. I think one of the ways you can do this is maybe write down things which are bothering you which he can then read. Sounds stupid but it worked really well in one of my relationships where the girl I was seeing, much like you, found it really hard to open up. I didn't want to push her either because it was the wrong way to go about it so she used to write things down and we communicated about the problem that way. It worked really well until she eventually was able to talk to me about things.
As for faking an orgasm, I wouldnt say it's strictly a bad thing but I'm not really sure on that from a girls perspective. For me though, from a guys perspective, I think you shouldn't have to fake it. I've always though that two people who love each other being intimate is about both couple feeling goodand being able to please each other (not just themselves). You have to remember though that not everyone is the same so if one thing pleases oneperson it won't the other. This is why communication again is important behind closed doors. If there's something he does which is not working for you then say you want to try something else because that doesn't work anymore. If there IS something you like then by all means say so. Oral sex always helps so you both may want to try and experiment with that but again it all comes down to communication. If you don't want to hurt his feelings and such it might be better not to let himknow you had faked an orgasm or two before (it will serve no purpose) but next time just be honest. If you don't orgasm say it didn't happen and maybe you both need to try something new. Say so in a playful way and talk about it with him, I'm almost certain he will be open to wanting to try something else so he can please you and make you happy.
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so I have this great guy. I love him to death and he makes me feel SO special. and we argue about whos more special all the time. but the thing is... I really don't feel special.. he makes me feel that way but I still feel like he is so much better than me. how can he possibly like me??? like if he is staring at me I feel uncomfortable if I have like zits or something... and I just feel like he can do so much better than me, bu the makes me feel like im the person for him and that im incredible and I just dissagree, I don't think Im beautiful and I don't think im that wonderfull.... what should I do?? why do I feel this way [ hes the only guy ive ever felt this way with ]
Hi.
Just accept it. :] There's far more to a person that just what a person sees with their eyes - it's what a person feels as well.
You forget also that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because someone thinks one person is gorgeous it doesn't mean everyone will think that way about them. Everyone has their own perspective and opinion on what beauty is, what ugly is, what's good and what's bad. In the same way he thinks you are special. No one else may think tha way of you but he does and at the end of the day that's all that should matter.
You don't really need to do anything as such, just be happy. I mean the truth of the matter is, in my opinion, that EVERYONE has the potential to be able to do better. I mean seriously if we consider how vast the world is and how many people there are in this world the possibility of us never being able to find better is very remote. There will always be someone better out there but then that's what relationships are all about - being with someone who's special to YOU. Being with someone who you love and care about regardless of their short falls so that even though there might be someone better out there you want to be with the person your with because they are the ones you are content with. :]
"To the world you might be no-one, but to someone you might be the world."
--Author Unknown.
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