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first date ever for the 17 year old virgin
i'm 17/m
she's 15/f
tomorrow is my first date ever, which is pathetic in itself because i'm 17 and i'm gonna be a senior. i just got off the phone with this girl and set up the date and now i'm getting really nervous and i'm just downright buggin. we're gonna see 1408 at 4:15. i had to pick an early movie time cause my license doesn't let me drive past 9. we both really dig each other but when we're around each other its weird cause we both have the plague, shyness, really badly. i think we're perfect for each other cause we both love heavy metal and we have divorced parents and we both for the mostpart hate life. i just don't know what do do. my friends are no help cause everyone tells me to just bang her, even my dad but i don't wanna bang her. i have no desire to do that with her because i know that if both connect with each other verbally, it will be more fulfilling than any sexual act. to be honest, i just really want to hold her hand. the most i would wanna do is kiss her, not make out though, like a real like cute kinda kiss. i sound gay, i know. i could be bi but thats a question for another day. the movie will end around 6ish and i dont know what we should do after. i'm just completely lost and i'm freakin out man. i need tips, please no jackass tips that tell me to bang her. its times like this when i wish i did drugs cause i need a big fat blunt.
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First off, the only people I know who've had sex at 15 or 17 have been in long-lasting relationships or are sluts.
The good thing about a movie is that you don't have to talk during it! But make sure you talk on the way home.
If you want, put your arm around her during the movie or hold her hand. Girls like that. =] If she seems to be having fun then I don't see why giving her a cute little kiss good night would be a bad thing, considering that she already likes you. But if you don't want to kiss her that's fine, too. Just make sure you set up another date soon!
Hope you have a good first date. =]
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Girls like guys who want those cute little kisses.
Only the sluts want to have sex when they are 15.
I think that you are doing the right thing.
Going to see an early movie is great.
And afterward maybe you could go for a walk in the park and hold her hand.
That is always something romantic.
You seem like a really nice guy.
And you guys probably are perfect for eachother.
We already knows she likes you because she said yes.
No need to worry about the sex issue though.
Im sure she will love those little kisses, and you holding her hand.
I wish you the best of luck.
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okay you sound like a sweet guy and every girl likes boys like that mostly but now all everybody wants to do like girls is bang them i hate it but you sound like a guy that will wait tell like you get married or 20 but like at the begging of the movie talk to her intell the movie starts oh and i seen that movie and then after just hang out talk but during the movie hold her hang and put your arm around her or if she says she cold or somthing but after talk to her for a while go somewhere and just hang out :)
hope i helped
<3 Amber
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haha the endings the best! From a girls point of view. you sound like a pretty sweet guy admitting that you are shy.
Just try to bring up the things you have in common. that will start conversation. during the movie it gets scary i mean hello 1408. you could hold her hand maybe just dont expect her to make the first move i hate when guys think that!
end the dat with a kiss or if you arent comfortable a kiss on the cheek. Dont freak out either its ok that this is your first date. dont ask her any really personal questions it will make her uncomfortable. and after the movie lets out go sit somewhere and talk or go for a walk.
YAY 1ST DATE,
Kylie
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Why is it being nice to a girl as opposed to just picking her up to do her is considered or sounds 'gay'? That's the most dumbest thing I've ever heard. I think most relationships would hardly last very long with some of the people who told you any of that crap. There's nothing wrong with showing and having some respect for a girl or wanting to be romantic. :]
As for this girl and what to do, try not to panic. I know it's easily said but if she sees that you're nervous then you may also make her nervous as well. I always get pre-jitters as well but afterwards when I actually meet someone I'm just fine. Just relax and go out and be yourself and above all, have fun. :] You don't want to jump into overdoing it with the romantic stuff though especially since this is the first date (you don't want to be coming on too strongly). By all means if you manage to pluck up the courage at the movie, hold her hand. I think it would be really nice. If you don't then, don't worry about it because you'll get your chance afterwards sooner or later. It's a nice thing to want to do but don't force it, it'll just happen. For the kiss part you can always kiss her goodbye when you drop her off. How you do this is up to you though and all depends on her as well. I generally just kiss on the cheek when saying goodbye so you can just do that and it won't put too much pressure on her as well but if you feel you'll get a full on kiss on the lips then by all means let it happen. Again the key is to use your own judgement here. Just try to relax and talk to her. Try not to let there be any uncomfortable silences between you both because that can make a person feel even more nervous. You want to try make her feel comfortable and one of the ways you can do this is by relaxing. :]
After the movie you could go and grab something to eat (ask her and if she is hungry ask her what she'd like to eat). If not then is there anywhere you can take her where you can both hang out? Make sure its not at some abandoned beach or anything as that might just make her nervous, lol. But pick a nice place for you both to hang out and chat (since you can't really chat in a movie) so it'll give you both a chance to finally chat properly. A good conversation starter is the movie you just saw and what she thought of it and such.
I can't really say much more than that. This is all based on my own personal experiences by the way so improvise and don't go entirely with what I've said. Just remember to relax. :]
On a side note regarding what you said about how you both hate life. That hardly seems a great thing to be comparing with each other as far as things in common go. :/
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After the movie your best bet is to take her for a long walk. You can get to know her better by having a chance to talk to her alone.
Mike
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