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Should I Go?
I'm female and 14 years old. My Boyfriend is 15, nearly 16.
Okay, this is quite a weird question bt i need help as soon as possible. Basically, he wants me to sneak out tonight and meet up with him. The problem is there has recently been a pervert around who grabbed a girl in my school near to where i live. I am scared that he could grab me when i go tonight, coz it will be around 1 in the morning and dark. It will take about 5 - 10 minutes until I will meet my boyfriend. So i have a 5 minute walk or even a bit longer on my own in the dark along some roads to him. I don't like the dark much as it is and I am petrified about this pervert.. I can't get my boyfriend to come to my house, and this is the closest I can meet him but I hate walking on my own in the dark. I want to go.. But i am really scared about what could happen.. and then my parents may wake up and realize i have gone and i will be in lots of trouble.. so then i won't be able to see my boyfriend coz I will probably be grounded. So what would you do? Would you go? Or what could I tell my boyfriend why I can't? or should i talk to him about it? I want to go, but just my parents could find out and then there is the walking on my own for 5 minutes in the dark knowing a pervert could jump out.. I am scared stiff, but i do want to go.. Help? xx
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My advice- don't go.
Think of what you'd be doing here:
1.) You're going behind your parents' backs. This is a BIG no-no. Like you said- if they catch you- you're in some deep punishment. My sister snuck out to see her boyfriend in the middle of the night- and he lives only a street away. My parents found out- and they were FURIOUS! She could have gotten hit by a car, gotten lost, or a number of other things. Don't EVER go against your parents. Chances are- they will find out.
2.) You're worried about this pervert at night. You're doubting it- and when you're ever doubting something- it means its probably NOT a good idea. There is a good chance that you could get kidnapped by him. Anyone that thinks "Oh, that won't happen to me!" are idiots. It very well could happen- and you never know. Most of the time- when people are kidnapped- they are raped and killed. It isn't like the movies anymore where they leave a ransom note and keep them alive. People are SICK.
Tell your boyfriend of your concern. Please don't do it. You don't have to meet at 1 in the morning.
**EDIT**
I know you probably DON'T want to hear this- but I'm going to say it- and I'll put this in the answer for the inbox you sent me, in case you don't see it here.
I know you want to see him- but you shouldn't meet up with him at a dangerous time just because you won't be able to see him until after you get back from your holiday. I think that maybe you can talk on the phone if he is allowed to. You can maybe contact his mom and ask if you can hang out with him one day before you leave- because you want to see him. Maybe she'll be nice and let you. I don't think it's wise to sneak out at night just to see him. You'll get in trouble- and then you won't be able to see him even longer.
Please carefully consider what you're about to do.
--Jack
(15/m)
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if i were you i wouldnt do that
something bad doesnt always happen
but your basically setting yourself up as bait
and then your parents would be very mad if they realize you sneaked out
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trust me dont go! that is the worst thing to do. why cant you two just hang out during the day, minus the perverts. tell your boyfriend that you really want to meet him, but tell him about the pervert that took a girl at night around your neighberhood. dont take a chance with this, its too dangerous. tell him you dont want to risk not seeing him for one night where your going to be scared to death, you dont want to get grounded.
hope that helps a little :]
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Personally I'd say don't go. I hate any of my frirnds walking back on their own as well because there's plenty perverts around here in my area as well. Fact of it is that only a small amount of these perverts even get reported since most who get grabbed and such by them fail to report it out of embaressment or, like in your case, they are out somewhere/at a time when they shouldn't be so feel that saying something will get them in more trouble.
I don't understand why you would have to meet him after hours? Why not just meet him the next day or does he want to meet you at that time because he hopes he can take the relationship further? No offence to your boyfriend but for all you know he could even try something (long shot I know but it's in my nature to mistrust anyone and everyone) and who would know about it other than you? Only option would be to tell your parents and then they'd know you went out after hours but then by that time you may already be blaming yourself anyway becuase you went behind their back and did something you shouldn't have. There's a lot of angles you can see this through but personally I think you should not meet him. As for what to tell him, just tell him the truth. You don't want to risk gettin caught going behind your parents back and getting grounded as well as not wanting to be out on the streets on your own at that time. If he can't accept that then its tough luck really. As I said, what can be so important that he can't just meet you during the day the next day? The risk isn't worth it in my opinion considering how unsafe the streets are at that kind of time (you also have drunken people and not just perverts hiding in bushes to contend with).
I think if your parents found you missing they would freak totally more out of concern than anything else as well as you loosing their trust. It's really not worth it and neither is a little midnight meeting with your boyfriend cinsidering the downsides but overall it will be your all.
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I wouldn't go. Tell your boyfriend whats bothering you. He can either come closer to your house, or you can just.. not see him tonight.
Or, if you really want to go that badly, make sure that he [if you both have cells] calls or texts you when he's at the meeting point, and just run the entire way there.
But it just doesn't sound like a good idea to me. You'll get introuble with your parents- and that'll last alot longer than one meeting with your boyfriend.
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i wouldnt go... just tell your boyfriend that my parents will be up all night :)
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