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Communication
I think I have a problem communicating.In particular my boyfriend.It's weird.. I can talk to my issues to anyone else,But when it comes to talking to him about my personal life and just what I like or what I think about, I can't seem to come out with it.I feel like I'm being hypocritical because I always ask him what's on his mind and what he feels about things.And I know it gets on his nerves and I don't mean to be hesitant to tell him anything.I love him so much and I can't stand not being honest with him and what not.I'm not very good at expressing myself and I hate it.I'm trying to fix that problem, I just don't quite know how to.It's kind of odd though.Because when we're intimate , I guess I don't indicate what I like and what I don't and I know that's bad, but I guess I don't know how to react.Also, is it bad to fake orgasm or whatever.Because honestly, I don't want to make him feel like he's doing anything wrong or anything so sometimes I fake.I know this is some odd things I'm talking about, But I'm trying to fix this.Anyone have any ideas how to cope with this?
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You should be totally honest with your boyfriend, thats what a relationship is about. He should care what you think and what you like. Confront that to him, you miight be able to change tht, but be HONEST with what you dont like about your relationship. He'll see that your really serious about it.
And no its not odd things to ask those question, hahaha. And no its not bad to fake it. Some times when it is bad you just havee to fake it. haha
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I think the only real way to resolve this and overcome the not being able to talk to your boyfriend is to try and start doing so. Communicaion in a relationship is very important, you both need to be able to talk to each other about things, especially how you feel and if things are wrong, otherwise one of you or the other will never know why you feel the way you do and eventually it can just lead into more problems. That said though it doesn't mean you HAVE to talk to your boyfriend about everything. There are some things you can't talk about to your boyfriend and where a best friend and such is more useful when it comes to feedback. Generally though you doneed to try and start opening up a little but how you can go about this is hard to really say. I think one of the ways you can do this is maybe write down things which are bothering you which he can then read. Sounds stupid but it worked really well in one of my relationships where the girl I was seeing, much like you, found it really hard to open up. I didn't want to push her either because it was the wrong way to go about it so she used to write things down and we communicated about the problem that way. It worked really well until she eventually was able to talk to me about things.
As for faking an orgasm, I wouldnt say it's strictly a bad thing but I'm not really sure on that from a girls perspective. For me though, from a guys perspective, I think you shouldn't have to fake it. I've always though that two people who love each other being intimate is about both couple feeling goodand being able to please each other (not just themselves). You have to remember though that not everyone is the same so if one thing pleases oneperson it won't the other. This is why communication again is important behind closed doors. If there's something he does which is not working for you then say you want to try something else because that doesn't work anymore. If there IS something you like then by all means say so. Oral sex always helps so you both may want to try and experiment with that but again it all comes down to communication. If you don't want to hurt his feelings and such it might be better not to let himknow you had faked an orgasm or two before (it will serve no purpose) but next time just be honest. If you don't orgasm say it didn't happen and maybe you both need to try something new. Say so in a playful way and talk about it with him, I'm almost certain he will be open to wanting to try something else so he can please you and make you happy.
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