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i think i'm being ignored
okay so last year at school i had this really good friend named Sara. we had been friends for like 2 years and we told eachother EVERYTHING! we had a very good friendship. Then i got some new friends and so did she and we were still really good friends anyway even though she hated my friend named kelli. So sara started hanging out with some of the popular girls. me and sara's friendship started to fade cause sara started getting really clingy and really annoying and i was getting fed up with it! so then all of these rumors started going around about how kelli had broken up sara and my friendship and it totally wasn't true. so kelli used to be popular and all but now all of her friends (except for me) all started being mean to her and said they didn't want to be her friend anymore cause of what she did. kelli and me got really close and sara didn't want me to be her friend and tried to get me to join everyone else and i just said no and we never realy talked after that. so then more rumors started going around that i was kellis slave and that she was taking advantage of me and stuff like that which so wasn't true! so then after school ended people hated kelli and liked sara and then me and sara started talking again and stuff and we are friends again but now she started ignoring me again and i don't no what to do! So i'm friends with sara and kelli and thye both hate eachother and sara doesn't want me to be friends with kelli. please help me i no it's confusing sorry!
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OK so whoever made up those rumors are soo mean! In my personal opinion, Sara is not a loyal friend. Forget her because she's the one who hates kelli and she was the one trying to get you away from kelli. If Sara was truely a good friend of yours, she would've respected you and let you keep kelli as a friend. not try to pull you away from her. A true friend lets other friends have their moments and individual space. Ya know what I mean?
I really can't make the decision for you. only you know what is best for you. You have to decide who is a true and loyal friend, and who is the enemy who just want's you for them? And another thing, about those rumors, well the best thing is to just ignore them. Don't try to fix everything because sometimes that just makes it worse. So just ignore them because the only thing that matters is what you think about them.
If sara ditched you for more popular girls, then she isn't even worth keeping. Even if you 2 are talking again and becoming friends. just think of the future, what if she starts being clingy again? do you really want all of that drama to start all over again?
remember, it's your choice.
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Hi.
I don't think anyone should have to give up their friends just because everyone else hates them. I have friends that other friends don't like but I still try and balance things out and get along with them all. I know they all hate each other and I generally just tell them if they have a problem with them - keep it with THEM. Not bring it up with me or bad mouth them to me because they are still my friend/s. I think all yoou really need to do is make this clear to your friend as well. Just tell her your her friend and you don't expect them both to get along but you don't want to get dragged into choosing between them.
When you was friends with Sara, Kelli didn't make you choose her or Sara so I don't see why Sara should. Point this out and just explain you want to be friends with them both and not have to choose. It's just plain stupid (since I can't think of a mode 'nicer' word at the moment). YOU decide who is and who isn't your friend - not somoene else. So don't let anyone else decide this for you. I have some friends who REALLY hate each other (I have to sometimes make sure there isn't going to be a huge fight when we all go out and one or the other is drunk). It'sa grim situation but I still manage to stay friends with them all regardless and if one does bad mouth the other and get me involved I tell them not to involve me since I have nothing against them.
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