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sex, birth control, problems.
okay soo i have a couple questions.
i have this guy we have ben on and off since last summer we ended it last summer because college then this summer got more intimate and stuff but the thing is we are so rude to eachother. like we flake on eachother. on the other hand, he has been talking about sex lately. i wouldnt mind doing it. its just its my first time. and im afraid of getting pregnant because im not on birth control. last time i mentioned to my mom she said no.
Basically i feel like we use eachother cause we both havent moved on. What do you think?
What are some good ideas so i can presuade her to let me get it?
ohh and what are some good sex tips?
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Don't make it worse by using eachother for sex especially if its your first time! Your first time should be special to you not just because he's ' talking about sex' and if your in college you can go buy the pill, the patch and condoms from a pharmacy anytime. Its your right. You don't need your mother to sign for you if your over 18. :) Good wishes to you dear:)
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If you feel like you are using each other, maybe having sex isn't the right thing, you say it is your first time, if things don't work out you might regret it. So think about this. Remember virginity is like a white piece of paper, once you make a mark , you can erase and erase but there will always be mark there.
If you take this step, make sure that you are ready for it and that he is the right person, make sure you are not being pressured into this.
If you decided to have sex, speak to your GP, he/she may be able to give you some pills. If not use a condom, but remember no method is 100% effective. There is still a chance you might get pregnant, especially if all you use is a condom.
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Use a condom. She isnt going to let you get birth control because she feels like your going to have sex which yo plan on.
Also its your firts time so use lube.
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If you feel your both just using each other why don't you put a stop to it instead of encouraging and aggrivating the whole thing by giving him what he wants? Surely you can find someone else - at least someone who won't just be using you for sex.
As for the birth control, I really can't think of any way I can help you make a case for getting it although you did say you're at college so I would have thought you'd actually be old enough to make this decision for yourself instead of needing to ask your mom about it. However, either way, you can try convince her but if it doesn't work why not use condoms? You'll be safe from getting pregnant that way too. Using the pill as well will obviously provide better protection but if you're unable to get onto the pill then the condom seems your best option (as well his best option).
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