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Ok so im 15 (f) and i havent ever had a boyfriend .. i mean i talk to a few guys but none of them seem interseted ... and we never really hang out .. i really want a boyfriend ...so there is this guy that i talk to and whenever he talked to me everyone would say ooo you like her ask her out blah blah blah .. but i dont think he does like me ... so now he refuses to talk to me, since people made a big deal out of it ... i want him to know thati just want to be friends and talk to him .. HELP im loosing guys by the minutes and thats the last thing i need!
I've had that same problem before. Everytime I talk to a guy all of my friends think that i like him. What you need to do is continue to talk to him, but not in a flirty way. And if anybody asks you if you like him, tell them no that way he won't be pressued into asking you out if he doesn't want to.
about getting a boyfriend, its ok to not have a boyfriend right now. think of it this way, its not like your going to marry him. plus most relationships when your young don't last very long, maybe just weeks.
don't let not having a boyfriend bring you down. guys like girls with confidence so be confident in yourself and guys will like that. eventually you'll meet a guy that you really like, trust me.
hey im a 15/f and I'm looking for a good perfume. Any suggestions? The name, price, and where you can buy it would be greatly appreciated! girls and guys can say. Girls your favorites, and guys, the ones you think smell good on a girl. Thanks again!
i love burberry brit perfume and it smells amazing! people always tell that they love my perfurme. you can find it at kohls and macys stores
http://www.kohls.com/products/product_page_multiple0.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=341033315&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=6315&bmUID=1168788213974
i also love the American Eagle Real for Her perfume, which you can buy at American Eagles stores:
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_full_fashion.jsp?rcid=aerie&scid=cat520031&navroot=aerie
Ok well i cannot fall asleep! I even work out and i just can't fall asleep even if am really tired, my eyes just wont shut. Anyways i was wondering if you guys have any good tips to help me fall asleep, i already listen to this relaxing cd with waves crashing, so if you had anymore tips for falling asleep it will be greatly appreciated!!
it might be because you have a lot on your mind. try keeping a journal by your bed and write down all the things on your mind. this way you can stop thinking about them and fall asleep. it works for me =]
Okay. i discharge. a lot. like heavy. so i'm always really nervous and think it's my period.
and i know it's normal, but do you have any suggestions about how to make it feel not so heavy?
i am the same way! and i know that feeling, i get so paranoid when it happens to me. but what i do to help is wear a thin pad during your heavy discharge days so that it doesn't get all over you underwear and you won't feel as wet.
there really isn't anything you can do it make it less heavy, but wearing a thin pad should help it feel less heavy.
Are piercings in or out right now? If so, what kinds? (Cartlidge, nose, lip, eyebrown, belly button, etc.)
lip rings, little diamond studs for you nose, and the monroe piercing is so cute!
since not everybody knows what a monroe piercing is, here is a picture of one:
http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:DfFOFOfkq5cMlM:http://thebodyartdepot.com/img/piercing/full/monroe.jpg
14/f
this is to all guys. is acne a huge turnoff? plez be completly honest.
well i'm a girl but here is my opinion on this. like others have already said, acne isn't a turn on, but its not horrible. If somebody really likes you then they will see past the acne. plus everybody gets zits every once and a while, so little zits are hardly noticable.
plus remember, guys get zits too, so its not just girls. so think of it this way. is it a turn off for you if a guy has acne?
I need a subject and/or storyline 4 a short story its due on thursday and we've known about it since last thursday it can be abouit anything just nothing that has happened to you. ive been thinking about what 2 write about 4 4 days and i still havent thought of anything!
well there are lots of things you can write about. try thinking about some really good books you have read and then think about why you liked them so much.
here are some examples:
- a kid getting lost in the mall
- getting snowed in
- a friend moving away
it tends to be easier to write about something sad or tragic that way you can put more emotion into it.
good luck =]
13/f i've been having my period for 10 months now but anyways, when i woke up this morning there was this HUGE spot of blood on my pajama pants and now i have another dot about the size of a quarter on my shorts. how do i make it stop going thru? i switch like 3 or 4 times a day but it still goes thru, and im worried that it will happen at school one day i use thick pads already.
your period usually starts out heavy and then smaller before it ends. so for the first couple of days on your period change your pad every 3-4 hours. or wear super tampons with a thin panty liner under it just in case.
if you are worried about it going through at school just make sure to always check it when you go to the bathroom and to change it often.
ok so im in 7th grade and 13/f i have average sized boobs but my mom only lets me buy bras that have no padding or anything its just really thin like cloth and when i change 4 p.e. it seems like people look @ me alot and since the bras are so thin people can c thru them and its embarrassing cus they can c thru it ya know but ive askd my mom if ican get bras w/ padding and she wont let me and she goes thru all my clothes so if i do get some w/ padding then she'll find it and get mad i guess so what do i do? and sometimes u can see a point were my boobs r when i were kindof thin shirts
i would talk to your mom about it first. tell her exactly how you feel changing in P.E. and how your bras can be see through because they are so thin. tell her that you don't want the padded bra so your boobs look bigger, its just because it won't be as see through. if she still won't give in then try wearing two of your thin bras at once, if that works. since i don't know what kind of bras you are wearing. or just when you are changing for P.E. face the wall when you have your shirt off that way nobody can see.
good luck =]
I'm not like totally huge or anything I mean a have a lot of muscle in my legs and arms and stuff but I was just curious since I have a good majority of muscle and not totall huge would the special K challenge thing help my slim down my stomach and thighs?
the special k diet isn't very healthy. but if you are set on doing it then just make sure to eat a lot of fruits and vegetables along with it.
oh and i LOVE th special K bars in vanilla. they are amazing for a quick snack =] they are only 90 calories!
Long thing cut in half. I'm 14/f and I'm bi and I'm not out of the closet and I'm not planning to come out of the closet anytime soon. I have a lot of gay/bi friends and I love them to death and I don't mind. They're out and they're carefree and don't give crap about what others say. But all good things have the iffy side. Some of my friends are homophobes, my family is a huge homophobe, and the school..80% is homophobic. It's really hard to get along with people now that I'm in high school. Some people tend to tease me because I have so many nonstraight friends. One time a group of guys that make fun of me and my bff--who is gay--on the bus rammed me with their shoulders on purpose because I was friends with gay guys. Some people won't even talk to me. And it's really getting hard to keep up this little image where I look perfectly find and don't mind as long as I have my friends. I don't know what to do about that.
And also, one of my gay friends always goes "You're the only straight person in our group. We need to turn you bi" And I don't know what I'm suppose to say. I just laugh it off. But I'm already bi and I can't risk telling them because I feel intiminated and they're really gossip-y so heh no way. Some people ask if I'm bi also because I have so many gay/bi friends. ANd I don't want to say no but I have to or else it gets iffier.
So my questions are: what do I do with the school people situation and what do I say with the "be bi"/"Are you bi" statements said to me?
don't let the other people at school bring you down because of what they say about you being friends with gay people. at my school i'm friend with a bi guy and a lot of the guys make fun of him. and then some people make fun of me because i'm friends with him, but all i do is take it and say well you know what you have your friends and i'll have mine.
since your not ready to come out yet, don't get pressured into it. but remember when you are ready, your friends will be there for you.
you said your family is homophobe, so what do they do about your friends? i'm sure that they aren't as homophobe as you think or else they wouldn't let you have those friends. and when you are ready to tell them, remember they are your family and they will always love you no matter what you do.
now for at school. if your friends say like we need to turn you bi just continue laughing and maybe add something like "ok have fun trying". and if other people ask you if you are bi say something like "well no, but why does it matter?". or something like "how does that affect you?"
good luck =]
I want to get my haircut this weekend. I've been looking around, and I can't find a good site with good haircuts. All the sites on google are like oldschool haircuts that look weird. I kind of want side bangs, my hairs a few inches past my shoulders. I was thinking of thinning it out because it's thick. I've been looking around for celebrity hairstyles, but since I don't really have a specific celeb in mind, it's of hard to know what I'm searching for, lol. If anyone has a good site with good haircut ideas with pictures so that I could show her an example, it'd be GREAT
i had the same problem and then i got my hair cut and i love it! i got side bangs and my hair thinned out a bit because it was really thick.
i based my haircut off of ashely tisdale's hair. even though my hair is shorter then hers i liked her bangs and her layers. here is the site i used to find good pictures to give to my hairdresser..
http://www.ashleytisdale.com/galleryn.asp
I like these 2 girls but one is a good friend and another is a really good friends friend.
I can talk to the good friend easy but i don think i could take it anymore than it alrdy is...have any advice on that
and the really good friends friend i barley see her cause i only have 1 class with her and were on seperate sides of the room. And when i actually do see her she is surrounded by girls that are her friends and not easy to talk to and is never alone, doesnt have aim, r a myspace... Not sure what to do
what you should do is figure out which one you like more. you can't go for two girls at the same time, that just isn't fair.
i think you have a better chance with your good friend because you are around her more. but what you need to consider is that if she finds out that you like her and she doesn't like you back, are you willing to lose your friendship with her? but if you are willing to go for it invite her to the movies with a bunch of your friends and make sure you sit next to her. while there you can talk to her about the movie and laugh with her. then after a couple of movies with her, invite her to the movies just you two. you can do this in a sneaky way by telling your best guy friend to pretend like he can't go and bail last minute leaving you and your crush there alone =]
try subtle flirting. like smile when you see her in the halls, look right in her eyes when talking, touch her without being obvious about it. like if she says something funny you can touch her arm lightly and make it look natural. make her laugh, girls love that. and then if she doesn't get it you might have to tell her how you feel. and you could try saying something like "i really like being friends with you, but i like you more than a friend. i hope you feel the same way but if you don't i still want to be able to be just friends because our friendship is too strong to throw away" make sure to add about how much your friendship means to you.
good luck =]
I'm a guy and I need help on on both girls that are friends and who I want to go out with
ok i should be able to help you now =]
if you are trying to make a friend. start off talking to girls that you sit near in classes. it will be easier this way because you will always have something to talk about: the class. if you just took a test say something like "how do you think you did?" or if the teacher was really boring you can be like "wow i though that class was NEVER going to end" just small stuff to get the conversation going. then she will reply and then it should be easy to keep it going. and the good thing is, is that you can always try again the next day if you conversation ends quickly. try talking about school, sports, a new movie that came out (like have you seen __________ yet?). if you just want to be friends with the girl, then you shouldn't feel pressured to keep the conversation going.
if you want to go out with the girl start off small. you can start the conversation like i said above but at subtle hints in it. like if you have a class with her, then walk with her to class. you don't have to be obvious about it just say something like "i don't want to get that test back in science, i dont' think i did so well" and then you will be walking with her because you have been talking with her. some ways to flirt with a girl is to walk with her in the hall, and say hi and smile at her everytime you see her in the hall, and when you are talking to her make eye contact.
the easiest thing to talk about is school. because that is one thing that you have in common. also if you want to talk to her online before you do make a list of the things that you can say to her. think hard a make a list of at least 5 items that you guys can talk about. that way there is never an ackward pause in the conversation.
good luck =]
and feel free to ask me any more questions =]
okay lets cut to the chase. im fat. overweight. gross legs and arms, potbelly. i'm just fat. ive been doing the healthy weight loss thing for years now and i havent lost any weight
what are some ways to lose weight QUICKLY. health doesnt matter, if youre some kind of health activist dont answer the question.
like other people said, exercise and try eating 5 small meals throughout the day. exercise is KEY to weight loss.
another good trick is that when you are hungry and looking for a healthy snack eat either celery or apples because they are negative calories. this means that it takes more calories to eat and digest then the food actually contains! i know exciting =] but don't live off celery and apples because that isn't good enough. just eat them when you need a snack.
since you are really overweight you will probably lose weight more quickly in the beginning and then start slowing down because your body will get used to your diet. so mix it up! eat more one week and less another that way you keep your body guessing.
good luck =]
I have acne on mostly on my forehead but a little on the rest of my face. It is so annoying and I would be so much prettier without it so I would really like it to clear up. My skin peels when I use too much acne medication, its peeling a little now. What do I use so that my skin will pretty much immediately or soon stop peeling and what really helps acne without drying my face? Thanks for any help.
make sure that whatever acne product you are using, to use an additional moisturizer with it. i personally use Olay beauty fluid. it is really good because it is oil free, won't clog your pores and it soaks in quickly. also make sure that if you are using a toner/astringent that it isn't too overpowering for your skin.
if you are looking for a good acne product try proativ. i know you have probably heard of this and know that it is a little iffy. but i currently use it and i like it. nothing is a miracle worker that will clear up your skin in two days, but proactiv works really well. if you are looking for something cheaper, then go to your local drugstore and buy a product that contains about 5% or 6% of benxoyl peroxide. DO NOT use a product that contains 10% benzoyl peroxide. this will be too drying for your skin.
good luck =]
Can you help me with like what to say, people on advicentaors just keep saying talk about ANYTHING but maybe i just dont know what anything is. Like when I wanna talk to a girl i just say hi whats up and don't really go farther than that.
i'd love to help you! i just need some more information about your situation. are you a girl or a guy? and are you trying to make new friends...or do you like this person and want to go out or something?
haha i'm sorry i couldn't help you right now, but i need to know more about you so i can help you better and give you some sample topics and things to say.
thanks =]
Let's pretend his name's Bob && I`m Ana? Whatever. Okay. Well, I met bob in a AOL chatroom. I'm 18 & he's 24. We talk all the time. Since the day I met him, I have never felt something like this before, and I can't stop thinking about him, and when I don't hear his voice for one day, it's like my world falls apart. We've been talking for almost two years. The thing is I live in Florida, and he live's in Clevland. I think about him 24/7. It's like we've met. It feels like it. Our convo's last for hours. He calls me all the time, and both of had other bf's, gf's but still talked more to eachother then anybody. And i can't get him off my mind, no matter how hard i try. He's showed me so much, and opened my eyes, i used to be so shallow & narrow-minded, but now i'm really open minded and love my personality. He's amazing. Everytime he calls me its like i get so nervous, i love talking to him. & even his friends know about me, and like his family...i've talked to them...no matter what we do, or who we each date, nobody compares to what me and him have....it's like we complete eachother.....and he's like my best friend except i think of him more then that....i can be myself arround him and the same for him, and we fit like pieces to a puzzle.......do you think that this could be love? 'no matter what, everything i do, every song reminds me of him......and its amazing because i never thought we could end up like this.........and since the day i met him, we've never gotten into a fight...it's like.....unreal how much we match each other..
hmm thats hard. because i dont really think that you could "love" him when you haven't even met him face-to-face. you could "like" him, but i don't think you love him just yet.
personally i think that you two should just stay friends. and since the big age difference i wouldn't give out any other personal info about you, like your address. i know you trust him, but you guys did meet on the internet and you can't fully trust him.
i think that if you want to fall in love you'd guys would have to meet first. but if you do make sure that you bring someone with you, like a friend, sister, or mom so you two aren't alone. you can never be too careful when meeting someone online.
just continue talking to him online and on the phone and maybe you shoud tell him how you feel, that way if he is serious about this maybe you two could meet.
good luck =]
and feel free to ask me any more questions you might have!
I have a very random question to ask everyone. When you read the word advicenators in your head (or speak it out loud) how do you pronounce it? I pronounce it advice-in-ate-ors. I've been apart of this site almost 3 years and never new if that's how it's actually said. It probably is, but for anyone who pronounces it differently, how do you say it? I know it's probably one of the oddest questions you've seen on the site, but at least I'm not asking if I'm ready for sex although I've only been dating the guy for two days or something equally annoying and somewhat common. =D Thanks in advance for answers!
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i pronounce it like the girl below me said
advi-cin-ators =]
All the guys in my grade tell me I have no butt. Can someone please help me? What jeans do I wear that show a flattering butt? and what work out things can I do to make my butt be an actual butt. I NEED HELP I'M DESPERATE. PLEASE. thank you!!!
i've actually heard that jeans that either have no butt pockets or jeans that have flaps for the back pockets make your butt look bigger.