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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




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My wife and I have been married for 7 years. When I met her she was very reserved and shy acting. Our sex life was good but she never wanted to deviate from normal foreplay and intercourse. I had told her that I had 5 sexual partners before I met her (including an ex wife). She never said anything about her past other than having sex at 17 and then having not dated for 3 years prior to when I met her. After we were married she told my brother at a party that during 1 year at college she had sex with 27 guys and that she was proud of it as she had used them for sex. When he told me I was shocked. I married a slut as far as I was concerned. She is very religious and plays the good Baptist part well. I have told her that I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that she had so many partners in such a short time, the average total partners for a wome of 39 is 7. She has had sex with over 35 total partners. I told her that I need some details about why she had sex with so many guys and the details of what happened. She says it is none of my business, but I now just think about all of these guys fucking my wife every which way. We have not had sex for 4 months now and it is driving me nuts. I just can't get excited about her. I wonder were these guys great at sex, did they have bigs dicks did she do things with them that she will not do with me.
What should I do? Am I wrong to have an open conversation about the details of her sex capades? She also says she does not remember any details, yeah right?
She seems happy to not have sex now. Now that she does not have to work and I earn over $300,000 a year. I ask her how she could fuck all those guys who gave her nothing and not me the guy who has given her everything?

Please help.

Jimbojoe

after all said and done that is her past not her future.all those other guys she has had sex with mean nothin to her except you. your one she has married. not all girls like revealing there past.i certinely dont even though my boyfriend wants to know all about i dont want to tell him because it hurts knowing u've a big mistake. that might be what is wrogn with your wife she might act proud of it but deep down inside she is hurting. i would suggest to just leave it alone and not persure her so much into telling you.
*~Stephanie~*

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is it wrong to want to have sex at the age of 13?

it isnt wrong it just shouldnt be done. everyone now a days wants to have sex but tha doesnt mean they all should.
*~Stephanie~*

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*heiwa* (japanese) means *peace* in english, correct? thanks

yup
*~Stephanie~*

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ok so i REALLY love my boyfriend..but lately since i told him that his best friend rapped me..he started getting...controlling and like now whenever i say somthing hell scream and say BITCH SHUT UP...then hell say "oh im sorry baby" and everything is fine but he hit me a couple of times..i told my best friend and she told me to break up with him..but i LOVEE him! and..if i i do decide to break up with him..im scared hell like..kill me or somthingg!

plz help me.i dont know where else im going to get help!

~lila

leave him if he really love you he will change for you. he wont hit you.he wont make u sad he wont do any of that. i would tell my parents about it bc he has no right to harrase u like that.
*~Stephanie~*

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I used to use a FREE gif animator online, but I can't remember what the site was! Please help. Every other one I see is for a charge of 20+ dollars!

did u try download.com that is were i got mine.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok i was recently band from here for asking too many stupide questions so first off i whated to say i appologize to any one who read them also my quetion is if you did reed them and were affended then will you please forgive me i am not gay and i have never felt that way i was drunk and thaght it would be funny so please forgive me if you do will you please also send me a response saying you did i will feel mech beeter thank you

it is ok. dont worry about it. no one's perfect.
*~Stephanie~*

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okay this might be long but if it is sorry .. this one boy lets call him "guy a" has liked me on an off and at my party we did stuff and im not sure if he likes me any more hes always surronded by girls cus hes the hottest guy in school well another guy "guy b" likes me and he has a girlfriend well weve messed around alot and i really like guy a but i dont know how to talk to him and what should i do about guy b?

i wouldnt mess with guy b. he has a girlfriend at the time and unless u wanna make enemys i suggest you leave him as a friend for the time being. go for guy a he sounds better. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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I just went to a dance at my school, and my boyfriend, mike, hugged me(twice!) . Im asking when its the apropiate time to kiss him. Also, somebody at the dance said that him and i made-out, and we didnt. (i never kissed a guy in my life! =(

when the time comes it will happen. just relax the time will come. dontbe scared of your first kiss. it wont eb perfect bc it will be ur first.
*~Stephanie~*

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I really wanna bf! Im pretti, not gorgeous, nice body, pretti outgoin and fun! I talk 2 guys and flirt, but how do I develop it in2 somethin "more"? How do i get guys 2 like me? ill rate for answers. thx in advance.

if you have a guy in mind that you like go for it. flirt with him and show him that you like him. guys dont always go for bueaty but for personality. if you got a beauitful personality then you are good to go. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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Can you get arrested for using limewire? What is it EXACTLY & how do you use it? Thanks

it is a program that you share music or w.e you want with other people. you cant get arrested for it because it is allowed to download music but ur no allowed to SELL it to people. some people dont know that. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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15/f- i have really small boobs and not a very big butt. is there anyway i can get them to grow faster?

nope everyone grows at there own time. yous just hasnt come yet. in the mean time you can wear padded bra's and push up bra's and tight shirts will also make them look bigger. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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My husband has asked me for a three-some well not really, just said it was one of his fantasies. He says he is content with never having one, he just really would want to and the pure mention of it gets both of us excited. My problem is, I am very jealous over him. I have considered giving him one for his birthday but the thought of him having sex with another woman seriously pisses me off(except for in my fantasies). I know this should tell me not to do it but I want him to get what he has always wanted. He is very very very good to me.. Any Input?

i would be to. except i have always learned NEVER to share my men with anyone.lol.. but what i would do is talk to him about it. tell him both sides of your feelings about how you want his fantasty to come true but how you get pissed thinkin about it. i think should follow ur heart and do what you think is write with this. hoep this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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alright this question may sound a bit cliche,
but does anyone have any suggestions on ways to
keep your mind off of a breakup? or anyways
to try to make me feel better.

i just got over a 6month relationship.
and it's hard, i know it wasn't that long,
and we'll most likely never date again.
but ive been feeling horrible. and i cant live
my life all depressed and what not.

any suggestions?

cause im sure 578685797834 people have
gone through the same thing, thanks.=]

yea everyone has to go through this. my advice to you i go out with your friends and have fun. dont worry about the guy or any guy for that matter. go out do something you havent done in a while. sit down at your place with all your best friends with you and watch a movie. your friends should always be there to help you up when you fall down. dont let this guy ruin your life. i mean he is the one missing out on a beauitful girl and how much fun he could be having with you right now. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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So theres this guy that i've likes for three years and he likes this girl that i've always hated and so the boy and i are freidns cuz we talk and everything and he broke up with the girl i hated and so i was liek maybe i should make a move then he got back with her and now they broke up aagin. so i really wanna try and get his attention and i mean i guess im pretty cuz i always get compliments and a lot of guys ask me out but not the right guy, so wat can i do to get him 2 look at me as a girlfreind?

sorry it took me a while to answer your question =(.

this what i would show the guy you like him. flirt with him mess with his hair, touch him etc. i dont think it would be a good idea to try hookin up with him if he has been with this girl more then once because he might have feelings for her adn might not want another girlfriend. but if you flirt with him and give him love notes ask him to go places with you then he would get the poin. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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my parents wont let me go to my friend's house tonight!!! they wont let me do anything tonight actually!!! they said that i havent been doing my chores... and he's (my friend) having like everyone over and he really really wants me to come! ='( can someone please tell me a way to persuade my parents to let me go? pleaseee i'll rate really high. and the party's tonight... so i need advice quick!

this is what i would do.(i have done it before and it has worked) ok go clean everythin in the house. EVERYTHING. dont say nothing to them about it just do it. take intergirty and inisative and clean. they will then be pleased and when you ask the to let you go they should let you. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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i just bought something like cocoa butter called shea butter.. would that work if i put it on my acne scars..? would it lighten up or no..? because i heard that it does but im not sure

i wouldnt use it unless a doctor or an adult recomened it might make ur scars worse and make you break out because it is oilly.
*~Stephanie~*

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you know that song that goes ..."boy i really like what you've done to me i can't really explain it..im so into you" yeahh well whats the name/artist of the song ?
thanks

so in to you by tamia ft fabulous that is my all time favorite it never gets old.
*~Stephanie~*

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I'm 16/f and my mom gave me her 2000 Lexus but my dad wants to sell it and get me a 2000 or 2001 Honda Accord and I looked at pictures of them, they seem very old style and I don't want to be driving in a grandma-style car. The two door Honda Accords are nice, but my dads making me get a four door. I dont have a lot of knowledge in cars -- so should I go for the Honda or beg to keep the Lexus?

i would keep the lexus. they never get old.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay. I was supposed to get my period at..eh..around the 20 of last month. obviously i haven't. :( and i'm a bit confused why.

I'm NOT sexually active, nor have I ever had sex.
I'm 13.
But I can't say that defensivley because there are many people my age sexually active.

I just got over being sick..could that effect it?

Thanks for your help. :]

perfectly normal. i mean when you first start gettin your period it wont be nomal. it will come for a month and then not come for 2 months. it will be like this for the first couple of years.
*stephanie~*

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When you make out with some one, is it normal to get cankersores like on the inside of your lip?

And also if you have them is it ok to make out with someone? Has any one done it?

yes it is normal but i dont think you should be making out with someone when you got that. they might feel disguested.
*~Stephanie~*

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