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Give him what he wants?
My husband has asked me for a three-some well not really, just said it was one of his fantasies. He says he is content with never having one, he just really would want to and the pure mention of it gets both of us excited. My problem is, I am very jealous over him. I have considered giving him one for his birthday but the thought of him having sex with another woman seriously pisses me off(except for in my fantasies). I know this should tell me not to do it but I want him to get what he has always wanted. He is very very very good to me.. Any Input?
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If you really feel uncomfortable having a three-some with your boyfriend with another girl, you really shouldnt do it. Your boyfriend should only want to have sex with you, and not another girl anyway. Even if he is good to you, you shouldn't share him with another girl. I mean, it is your choice, but i believe if you dont feel comfortable, dont do it. Hope I helped? ♥
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I don't believe you should do this, because you seem VERY uncomfortable with it and this probably end up being something that you'll regret!
For one thing, you said that the thought makes you jealous. Well, if you fulfill this wish, it could cause trouble in the long run. Like:
(1.) Your relationship with your husband could chnage from positive to negative.
and............
(2.) It could cause persistent fighting in your relationship. Such as, you may think he talked you into an uncomfortable situation.
Just remember that sometimes fantasies are more exciting if they remain that way,.........a fantasy and nothing else.
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Fantasties are always healthy to have as they maintain a mystery of 'what if...?' in a relationship.
Acting on them, however, may not always be as fulfilling and it sounds as though this may be the end result in this case.
I understand that you love him and you want to give him what he wants but do you really want to do it at the expense of your own feelings? I'm sure he wouldn't want you to do that either.
The only thing you will achieve by putting yourself in that position will be a horrible deep seated jealousy and you will ALWAYS remember what happened and feel resentful towards your husband. You need to think about the long term consequences of this before you decide what you are going to do.
It could be great and you could have a wonderful time....but if you already admit that you are very jealous, it will only serve to make you miserable when you think back to him being with another woman.
I would recommend you find another way to spice things up in the bedroom. Invest in some toys or saucy lingerie or somethng else that will get his imagination going, without making you feel jealous in the process.
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I have to agree with younggrandma. Unless you are completely sure that you would be comfortable with it, I wouldn't try it. Since you've already said that you're jealous and the thought of him being with another woman is something that would anger you, I'm thinking this isn't something you'd be comfortable with. There are lots of other ways you can add "spice" without involving another person.
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I think it would be a HUGE mistake.
If you are jealous and he likes it..there will be trouble down the road. He will want to do it again and you will then be twice as jealous.
Some things are better left to the imagination.:)
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i would be to. except i have always learned NEVER to share my men with anyone.lol.. but what i would do is talk to him about it. tell him both sides of your feelings about how you want his fantasty to come true but how you get pissed thinkin about it. i think should follow ur heart and do what you think is write with this. hoep this helps.
*~Stephanie~*
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you could look at it either way really.
if it's going to make you upset, don't do it. but if you wanna make him happy make it a one time thing, like you said for his birthday or something. just go with your instincts, if you don't want him to do that tell him how you feel about it and he should respect that.
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