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WHat does it exactly mean when u ask a guy if they like you and they say i dunno..??DO they rly no..

Guys are so confusing. Sometimes, they really don't know if they like you or not, or they're too afraid to tell you they do like you, or they're too afraid to say they don't like you because they're afraid of hurting your feelings. If you ask him again, just be like "I just want to know if you like me or not, if you don't then it's fine, just tell me right now.." Just say something like that so he can give you a straight answer and you don't have to bug him again. I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey,
theres a girl who's been my friend since i was 4. now im 13 and and shes my bff. well, she told her mom a bunch of shit and her mom got mad at my mom. she's been a good friend to me, but i know that she can be two faced. she can be my bff one minute, another shell be talking bout me. but the thing is is that we get along really good. should i still be her friend even though shes 2 faced?
plezzzz dont delete.

Hey! Well, maybe you should try to talk to her about this and tell her whats up. Just be like "We've known each other since we were 4, and we're now 13. That's a long time to be friends with each other. But, you told your mom a bunch of stuff and now your mom is mad at my mom. Why did you tell your mom a bunch of stuff that's not true? Do you not want to be friends with me anymore? Because, I mean we get along really well, but it's like one minute you're my best friend and the next you're talking a bunch of crap about me. I don't like that, I mean best friends don't do that to one another.." Just say something like that and how you feel about it. Just tell her whats up. Ask her what you want to know and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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My old boyfriend just moved away without even telling me. He just left and I heard he has another girlfriend back at home. Well, he's comeing back here to visit and i'll probebly have to comfront him but i don't know what to say... i think i still like him but should i be angry ... i don't want him to hate me

You should be angry, I mean he didnt tell you he was moving. But, when he does come back to visit, just be his friend, because after all he does have a girlfriend now, and thats all you can be right now, is his friend. Just talk to him as a friend. Just be like "Why did you tell me you were moving?" and ask him "I heard you got a girfriend back at home.." Just say stuff like that, hold a conversation with him and stuff, just be his friend. He can't hate you, I mean you're trying to be his friend and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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There is this guy in my class and everyday he like stares at me for the whole period...but when i look over at him he looks right away...what do u think that means!thankx
alexa

Seems like he likes you. And he's too nervous to tell you so that's why he looks away when you catch him looking at you. So, he's probably too nervous to approach you. Maybe you should try going up to him and holding a conversation with him. Flirt and smile with him. Get to know him and stuff. Just go up to him and be like "Hey, I'm _____, what's your name?" And go from there and just ask him questions and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay so i smoked pot once and then i did it again for the second time. I told my friend and my friend said i broke a promise saying that i wouldnt do it again but i never promised anything, now i think my friends mad at me. what should i do?

Tell her/him that you're sorry you did it. Just be like "I'm sorry that I broke a promise, I didn't know I even made a promise about anything, but if I did, I'm really sorry, I didn't know about it, I don't want you made at me about this, I don't know what you want me to say in order for you to not be mad at me..." Just say something like that and how you're sorry you did it and stuff. And maybe if you want to, just promise him/her that you won't smoke again. But only if you want to. I hope this helps and good luck. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok me and my boyfriend broke up and hes tellin me he likes this other girl and it bothers me because he'll tell me he still loves me and he used to call b4 he went to scholl just to say he loved me and he wont ever cheat on me and he still does that and were not together..and he calls me after he does somethin he told me he wont do and tell me hes sorry for breakin that prmise and he loves me and like... he knos i still like him we used to talk all night and we still do sometimes and i havent seen him in like 1month and a half to 2 months and ima see him on saturday (its sunday) but i think it'll kinda be akward bcz we never rly were alone cz my bestfriend is his cousin and shes always around and we both said we'll make alone time but help!!...should we kiss?!...or would that be wrong help!! what should we do what should we talk about when we talk about "us"!!...

Just tell him what you just told us. Tell him how you feel, tell him how you feel about this situation and stuff. Just be like "I know we're not going out, but why does it seem like we still are? I mean we still talk all the time, still say we love each other, and all that other stuff. But, then you tell me you like another girl and then you say you won't cheat on me, but yet we're not going out. I just want to know what you're thinking and whats going on between us because it's been bothering me for awhile now, and we're finally alone, and I just want you to please tell me everything, because it hurts to not know..." just say something like that and how you feel about this whole thing. Because he acts like you still are going out but yet you're not and you need to know everything. So just ask him whatever you want to know and tell him what you want him to know and stuff. I hope this helps, if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok me and my EX broke up right but my bestfriend is his cousin and umm...we never really see eachother that often!! its been like 2 months and i just dont know if im supposed to kiss him or what even if were not goin out!! hes goin over to her house this saturday and im goin over on saturday and we still like eachother but he always talks about these 2 other girls and it drives me crazy!! and we were never really "alone" and he said he would make "alone" time but were not goin out but we both want too help what am i supposed to do in that "alone" time!!!

You guys still like each other, so in that "alone" time, try telling him how you feel and stuff. Just say like, "I know we're not going out and I also know that we still like each other, but, I just want to give me and you another shot..." Just say something like that and how you feel and stuff. And in that "alone" time, I'm sure you'll cuddle and kiss, just don't go beyond that. I mean you two still like each other, just tell him how you feel and if you two could go back out and stuff. And those 2 other girls he's always talking about, I'm sure it's just to make you jealous. Ask him about it and stuff. Just ask and tell him whatever you want thim to know and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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this guys at my school is so cute and funny and really awsome and nice, and i really like him.we're like best friends and people think he likes me which is great cuz i like him so we cold hook up or something...anyways the problem is i don't know how to tell him how i feel because i'm afraid he'll react badly to the situation and get all weird with me..how can i make sure none of that will happen and still know if he likes me?

Well since you guys are like best friends, then tell him how you feel, I mean the worst thing that can happen is him saying no. But just tell him what you told us, just be like "I don't know how to tell you because I don't want you to because I'm afraid you'll react badly or get all weird with me, but I just want to tell you that I do like you and I just want to know how you feel about me.." Just say something like that and how you feel and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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there is this girl I like and she has told me that she likes me and that she is really jealous person that likes me. The problem is that the person I like has a boyfriend. She likes him too. How are someways to convince her that I am better to go out with then the other guy.

Well, don't break up there relationship, because I mean you wouldn't want someone to break you and a girl up, would you? But, just be her friend and always be there for her. Show her how sweet you are and that you wouldn't hurt her and stuff. I mean don't make her fall in love with a different person, show her the real you. And you can only hope for her to like you back and then break up with her boyfriend. But, I mean flirt with her and stuff and show her you're interested. Thats all you really can do until they break up. But, for now, just show her you're better than that guy, you'll treat her better and stuff. I hope this helps and tell me how it goes, good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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what kind of music u like?

Umm I like all shorts of music. Like rap, punk, metallica lol. Any of that. I got into punk because all my guy friends are in punk bands lol. I like anything that sounds good. I love music, so lol. But, what kind of music do you listen to?

xoxo Kourtney

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well i have a problem.. i like this guy alot.. like so0 much.. hes really str8 to chill with and weve chilled alot buhh i dont know.. he likes me buhh he wants to do shit with me b4 we go out.. he thinks i will cuz i did things with these 2 guys this summer which was jus a hook up and having fun..buhh as for me and him.. i dont wanna do anything with him yet* or until we go out cuz i dont want him to see me as a grl to take advange of..and juss a hook up.. i want him to see me as a gf.. and he knos im not a ho so wats rong? i dont kno if its like he needs to try me out to see wat hes gettin or rele want to b with mee.. does this make sense to any of youu..?!

Just tell him what you just told us. Just be like "Why do you want to do stuff with me before we go out? I don't want to do that. I'm not that type of girl. Yea, I did that with 2 guys during the summer, but that was just a hook up. I normally don't do that. But, as for you, I really like you and I don't want to just do stuff with you, I want to be your girlfriend, I don't want to be a hoe or look like one. I want you to actually see me as a girlfriend, not just someone that gives you stuff. I mean, do you even like me, to the point where we could go out?" Just say stuff like that and how you feel about that situation. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I am soooooo entirly confused! See I've liked this kid named... well lets say CJ.... I've like CJ for 2 years now... and from what I know he hasn't liked me. We've been friends for 2 years and I want something more of our relationship. He's been dropping clues that he has liked me but he also did this before, like 1/2 a year ago. The other day I was talking to him online and he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no and asked y hoping he might ask me out... but he said "uhh...nvm gtg" and then he signed off. So I am totally confused and I need advice of if he likes me and also what I should do next....

~*Confused*~

He seems shy to tell you he likes you because he might be afraid you don't like him. Maybe you should try telling him you like him. Next time you two start talking about that, just be like "I don't know how you feel, but I'm just going to be straight out with you..but I've liked you for about 2 years now and I've just never said anything, but I wanted to now because I can't hold that in anymore, but I just want to know how you feel about me..." Just say something like that and just tell him how you feel and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Last year I met this amazing guy. We never went out, but i knew he liked me. We had a lot of fun together in class. This year he is in none of my classes. On the first day of school at lunch, our eyes met for 2 seconds. I felt so hurt. Then this year my friend told him I liked him. He said "Yeah I thought she liked me" He is hanging out with a guy who smoked pot last year. I'm afraid the guy I like will start it too, but I know he isn't into that and never will be. Lately I've been having so many dreams about him. I thought he was just a crush and I would get over him, but I can't. He means more to me than any guy has before. Should I forget him or keep on trying?

I think you should keep on trying. Maybe have your friend who went up to him and told him you liked him, have her give him your number. Give your friend a little note that says "Hey, I think your hot, call me _____" or just say "Hey, you should call me sometime at ______" just say something simple like that or give him your screen name (if you and him both have screen names). And then catch up again with him since you don't have any classes with him anymore. And then if you guys talk again, have him go to the mall with you or something. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. Tell me how everything goes and good luck hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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everyday we go to lunch and me and a few friends play truth or dare.. well like im never dared to do anything so im usually happy. i was dared the other day to kiss this boy jake.. and i did. because him and i have kissed before.. yeh sure its no harm done and we acted like it never happened. but my friends made a BIG deal over it for nothing.. what do i do to tell them to chill!?

Just be like "We play this game everyday, you guys dared me to kiss him, so I did, and now you guys are making a big deal about it.." and do they know you two have kissed before? Well, if they don't and you want them to know just be like "It wasn't that big of a deal because we've kissed before." Just say stuff like that to make them understand and not make such a big deal out of a little game. I hope this helps! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ron just asked me to go to the movies with him and his friend, Alex. Im bringin my friend Cayla too, so its like a double date. But Cayla doesnt like Alex and I think she's a little jealous of me and Ron. SOo0 should I say anythin to her or just wait n see if she likes Alex ?

Tell her that you wouldn't do that to her even if she didn't like your date (like you said) and just be like "Can you please do this one favor for me? You know I would do this for you even if I didn't like my date. I mean you never know you might have fun after all! It doesn't even have to be a date, just go with him as friends." Just say something like that to try to convince her. I mean tell her you don't want to fight over this and stuff but you would like it if she went with you. If she still doesn't go, maybe there is another one of your friends you could ask. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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my best friend and her BF recently broke up..she finnaly got another bf..but i don't think she likes him neather does anyone eles..he really likes her ..i don't want him to get hurt..i can't tell her that i don't think she likes him..because she would get really mad and i don't want that..what do i do?

-does she like him?

Try talking to her about it all. Just be like "So how are you and _____?" And then ask her just be like "So do you really like him? Do you think this one will last or what?" Just say stuff like that and try to find it out and see what she says. If she says she really likes him, then okay! Thats good to know. But if she says she doesn't really like him, then tell her she needs to break up with him soon because she wouldn't want to hurt him because he really likes her. Just say stuff like that. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey!
i have been dating this guy for about 2 weeks and hes prude..sad i know lol but how can i "change him" lol i mean i try to kiss him but he like turns away and idk but its annoying!! can you please HELP ME!!!

Hey! How old are you guys in the first place? But, if you feel comfortable talking to him about it, just be like "Are you not ready to kiss yet? I mean when you are, I'll be ready too, I've tried making the first move and everything but you always turn away.." Just talk to him about it and see what he says. He may not have ever kissed a girl before and is scared to because he thinks he'll be bad or something because he knows you have since you are ready to make that move. But, just make him feel comfortable and stuff so he won't be so prude. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey I really love this girl Lora i mean she means so much to me but her family diagrees with her being with me I'm 18 gonna be 19 Oct. 1st and she just turned 16 in May. So I'm just wondering what u think about it? And also when do u think would be a good time to start actually doing stuff with her? But thanks for your time bye.
Cory

Hey! LOL I know who this is! Does she know that you asked me? Alright, I know how you feel about her and I know exactly how she feels about you. But, her whole family "not liking you" is just really dumb. Lora and I have talked about it before. Blake, is just like a dad to her and you know dad's will NEVER like there daughters boyfriend until times passes by. And her mom, her mom is like going through a stage right now where her and her mom are not getting along at all right now. I think her family is just being way too protective over her and don't want her to get hurt. You've heard of her past relationships and most of her boyfriends have hurt her (John) and I they knew about it and I just don't think they want to see her go through that again. But, give it time and just prove to them that you won't hurt her and you really do care about her and they should accept it. But, just give that one time. And the whole doing stuff with her. Give her time also, you know she doesn't like that kind of stuff, but if you feel like you want to do stuff with her, try having a serious conversation about that kind of stuff. I mean you can have that conversation now and just tell her that you're not saying you want to do things right now, but you're just wondering if she would ever want to do stuff and if she does when she would like to. Hope this helps, if you still need help just tell me, and if you want me to talk to her, just tell me too!

xoxo Kourtney

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Well maybe about 2 - 3 years ago I met this boy, he lives in california and i live in everett washington. Hes in 11th grade and im in 10th. He came up a few months ago and visited me for about 2 weeks and then left. I really love him and we talk online everyday through email because his computers messed up and wont let him download aim or anything. He's always like " Whats up baby " and " I love you too ". Were not going out but I really wanna go out with him. I know he would never cheat on me because hes real. He doesnt make things up If hes busy he'll say " Oh ill email you later im busy ". Hes so sweet to me. But yesterday I went on my sister screen name and she sent him a email that told him that I want to go out with him and that I was scared to ask because he might have a girlfriend or he might say no. And he wrote back saying something like " Tell her I dont have a girl and I would never say no to her and I really love her. " Then she wrote back saying " She wants to know why you love her." And something else. And he said " Tell her to ask me why I love her but she should know." Im not that mad at her for doing to because I kind of knew. But anyways lol my question is should I go out with him? I mean we live far away and probably wouldnt be able to see eachother. But we really love eachother. Drop your thoughts or whatever.

Well, since you know about long distance relationships I'm not going to give you the speech on how hard it is and stuff lol. But, he seems to make you happy and you both love each other and trust each other and everything. So, I see no problem in it. I mean you know he's the real guy you're talking to because you've met him before too and he seems really sweet to you and everything. I mean, he even confessed to your sister that he really loves you. And thats really sweet. And if you know he won't cheat on you, and you two can trust each other, and you think it will work out, then go for it. No one can tell you that you two don't love each other or anything, only you two know if you two trust each other. Just follow your heart and see where it takes you. And it seems to be taking you to him. So, go for it hun! And he even said himself he wouldn't turn you down. So just be like "My sister told me she e-mailed you, I had no clue about it, but since she did e-mail you, I think we should talk about that all... I mean we've met and everything and we love each other, but we're not going out and I want to change that, but only if you want to..." Just say something like that and how you feel and everything. I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how everything goes. If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I have this problem. There is this girl I like, Lea, but she has a boyfriend...or rather had. I found out today that they broke up this morning, and i get the feeling it may be becos of me, due to her knowing i like her and i knowing she likes me to, but she's been with her boyfriend for 2 years. But the problem is, I don't think i like her ENOUGH to go out with her, but there is this other girl, Jo, who also has a boyfriend that i like more, quite abit more. What Should i do? I turned 17 this year, Lea is 17 (18 end of this year) and Jo is 16.

Well, if you feel like you don't like Lea enough to go out with her, don't go out with her, because she might like you alot and knowing you dont like her that much, will only hurt her in the end. But, it seems like you like Jo alot and want a relationship with her. But, I think you need to do pro's and con's for each girl and see who will make you more happier, who you want a relationship with, etc. List that for each girl and go from there. I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox and I'll be glad to help you out. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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