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What should I do?
I have this problem. There is this girl I like, Lea, but she has a boyfriend...or rather had. I found out today that they broke up this morning, and i get the feeling it may be becos of me, due to her knowing i like her and i knowing she likes me to, but she's been with her boyfriend for 2 years. But the problem is, I don't think i like her ENOUGH to go out with her, but there is this other girl, Jo, who also has a boyfriend that i like more, quite abit more. What Should i do? I turned 17 this year, Lea is 17 (18 end of this year) and Jo is 16.
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You should have been honest with Lea in the first place, although i dare say shes probably been sharp enough to work it out for herself...
perhaps her and her boyfriend broke up for their own reasons... 2 years is a long time by anyones standards and if shes only 17 then it is fair to say that she has probably changed alot in that time.
Maybe you should just be a friend to her, becuz at this time the last thing that she needs is another messed up male to confuse her... before you try and predict what she is thinking or doing, maybe u should work out your own feelings.
take one day at a time :P
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Find someone who is single It sounds like you are only going for people you cant have and once you can have them you dont want them anymore...
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Don't rush yourself to find who you really like. It takes time to sort out emotions. Try helping Lea first because she just broke up with her boyfriend. As some time goes by, you'll find out who you like.Good Luck 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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Don't lead any of these girls on. Talk to Lea and tell her that you have feelings for her, but they aren't strong enough that you would want her to break up a two year relationship. My opinion is don't tell Jo how you feel just yet because you don't want her to feel pressured to make any drastic decisions. But deffinitly tell Lea what's going through your mind! Good luck x0x0x
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Go on a couple dates with Lea. You don't know if you want to go out with her or not, and you're only hindering yourself if you only go for girls who are already taken.
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Let me paraphase what you just said "So yeah I like this girl, but she has a boyfriend, except she broke up with him but I dont really like her, then theres this other girl who like has a boyfriend and I like her so what should I do?"
If you dont like her, dont ask her out, if she has a boyfriend, dont ask her out. Its all very simple.
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Well if Lea broke up with her boyfriend over you and she wants to go out with you and you dont like her all that much then you will only hurt her in the end. And if you like her but not all that much then tell her now instead of her getting together with you and getting really attatched to you. She will be hurt now but it will save her alot of pain in the end. If you like Jo as much as it seems then just wait for her. Wait for something to go wrong with Jo and her boyfriend and then be there at first as a friend and then let her know how you feel about her. Hopefully this will help you and Good luck! If ya need anything else just let me know.
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Well, if you feel like you don't like Lea enough to go out with her, don't go out with her, because she might like you alot and knowing you dont like her that much, will only hurt her in the end. But, it seems like you like Jo alot and want a relationship with her. But, I think you need to do pro's and con's for each girl and see who will make you more happier, who you want a relationship with, etc. List that for each girl and go from there. I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox and I'll be glad to help you out. Good luck hun!
xoxo Kourtney
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