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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice


how do you put in a picture caption
like on mysspace??

Hey. You need to upload it on tinyurl.com or tinypic.com and get the URL. Then you need to put it in this code:



There you go.

--Jack
(15/M)

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I just want to know what you think of my body.

Please include your age and whether or not you would ask for my number if you knew me. (like am i too fat? not fat enough?)

I know you can't see my face, but i have attractive features and red hair.

PLEASE DO NOT BE HARSH!

thanks.

here's the link to the pic:
http://s113.photobucket.com/albums/n210/LovelyBoylan/?action=view¤t=mybody.jpg

Hello. I think that you're fine. Honestly, when I look for a girl to potentially go after, if you must, I don't really go for looks. Sure, that may be what initially attracts me, but I won't carry it out unless I thought that you had a great personality. So, I probably would ask you for your number/MySpace/AIM/facebook or whatever.

If you ever want to know if you're fat here is a website:
http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/bmicalc.htm

Enter some info.. and it will tell you if you're overweight/underweight/obese. But it doesn't appear as if you are.

Please don't ask questions like this- I know you want to know.. but we see this a lot.. and no offense.. but its just getting on our nerves.. Nothing against you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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i want to buy a new camera. and here are some things im looking for. (if it doesnt really make sense, just bear with me...:])
-i want to be able to take videos and pictures
-i want to be able to set it to take like a black and white photo, or in sepia, or other cool effects
-cheaper than $150 (even less would be fabulous ;])
-i dont want to have to buy a rediculous crazy camera charger, i would like it to use like regular batteries (like my old camera, but im not sure if thats possible)

if you could find a camera, and send me to a link where i could buy one, it would be much appreciated.
thanks =]

Hey. I am going to tell you about my wonderful camera I got for this past Christmas.

It does everything you want:
-Takes pictures
-Takes videos
-Has many different picture settings
-I have rechargeable batteries.. they were kind of on the pricey side, but they are definitely worth it.. you don't have to go out and buy new batteries every time they die.
-The only problem is.. it is about $100 over your price range. Unfortunately.. you won't get too great of quality for under $150. But.. at the bottom of the page I give below- it has a certain website where it looks like you can find it at $119.99. That would probably be your best bet.

Here is a review of it I found:http://www.imaging-resource.com/PRODS/A530/A530A.HTM

This camera has 5.0 megapixels, 4X Optical Zoom [You want optical zoom, not digital zoom- because digital screws up the pixels as you zoom and the picture looks really crappy], it has 18 different shooting modes, and if you have a larger memory card [I have 2GB] you can hold a lot of pictures/videos.

Now for my own review..
I love this camera a lot and it is a great investment. I take tons of pictures and videos.. and it is perfect for me. The picture quality is the best I've seen in many different digital cameras. My brother has one, and the pictures always come out having odd white spots on them. This camera doesn't do that, ever. I think you will love it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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i've been talking to this guy all summer but we've liked each other for like ever. but he went on vacation a couple days ago and called me last night. he said his dad got a job offer in tennessee and he's moving there. well i think hes joking because hes been known to do crap like that and hes joked around like that a couple times in the past. but idk if he's serious or not i love him and he says he loves me but if he did, he wouldnt want to move down there anyway. but idk if hes joking or not. please help.
15/f

Just ask him straight up. If he's been known to do this type of stuff- then he could very well be pulling your leg. Tell him that you really need to know because you like him a lot and you don't want him to lie to you.

***EDIT***
Tell him that if he wants to have a real relationship with you.. it needs to be based on trust. If he can't be honest with you.. he isn't who you should be going after. Relationships can't be based on silly lies.

If he's actually moving, I'm really sorry.. it sounds like you really like him. Just make sure to spend some extra time with him before he leaves, that is, if you're friends in person.. not just online.. and you've never seen him before.. that would be odd.

Hope I helped!
--Jack
(15/m)

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Okay, you'll need a little background information. I live with both my parents in a 2-family house. About 7 years ago my grandparents [on my dad's side] moved in with us on the next floor. We're a really close family, and my grandmother is paranoid about pretty much everything and is really emotional- I love her too.


At the end of April, my gradfather died suddenly (as in, we didn't expect him to die for another 15 years because of longevity). He had just bought a truck last year, maybe 2005. It's a smallish truck, like not a huge Ford, it handled like a car and it was just a really nice vehicle. I'll be driving within 2 years (I'm 15 now) and about two weeks after Grandpa died, my dad asked if I wanted to drive his truck. Now, I didn't want to think about inheriting his truck after his death (we were insanely close and I was having trouble accepting he was gone) so I asked if I could have some time to think about it.


After a couple weeks, I decided that it'd be a good car to have, at least to learn in and to have transportation until I saved enough money to buy my own car (my parents have huge cars and that's what I'll be learning to drive in). My parents decided to sell it to my cousin instead (we're almost the same age, he's like, 8 months older than me) because "nobody wanted it". Which isn't true, because I said I wanted it BEFORE it was offered to my cousin.


But I can kinda see where they were coming from, since having the truck sit in the driveway everyday would be a reminder that grandpa died. But really, our entire house is a reminder, since he helped build it. AND my cousin & his family come over a LOT and we'll still be seeing the truck. Plus, my grandmother's been throwing away Tupperware and her shoes because they remind her of her deceased husband. It's her way of coping, I guess.


Should I even bring this issue up with my parents again, or just let it go? It's really been bugging me, but I wonder at the same time if talking about it will make things even worse and make my gandmother cry again? I'd appreciate your input and I'll do whatever you tell me; I'm at a complete loss here. Thank you in advance.

Well- first, I would like to say thank you for posting in my inbox. I've gotten like 5 today.. its actually quite flattering. And I guess you could say I'm honored that you'll do whatever I tell you.. hmm.. this could get interesting...

Haha.. I'm only kidding!

Anyway- I think that it would be wise to tell your parents if you would really like to have the truck. Yes, it may upset your grandmother that you mention the truck, but, as mean as this may sound, she should have accepted it by now [not that it is WRONG of her to be upset, because it takes a long time to stop being upset after a death-- but you shouldn't feel like you can't mention him just because she's still upset].

Tell your parents, like I said, and don't have any regrets.

Good Luck!

And since you said you're going to do anything I tell you to- I'm going to tell you to leave feedback! =]

--Jack
(15/m)

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I masterbate....a lot.

im 15 female and i use things to do it with like: thend ends of a brush or bottles or my finger or shower heads (water pressure)

number 1) is this normal?

number 2) after i orgasim i get thick saliva and then my vagina hirts and i cant touch it anymore bu i also get really un-hoorny.

why? & is that normal?

Since I'm not a girl... I can only answer the first of your questions.

Yes, that is normal to masturbate a lot and to use objects. You'd be surprised, but a lot of girls do exactly like you do.

And I can attempt to answer part of the second one. I would assume that it is normal to have your vagina hurt after your orgasm. A lot of teens get "un-horny" as you call it, after masturbating. I think its normal.. haha

Here is a website that will probably help you:
http://coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ohhhh gosh. I don't know what to do! I've had my iPod Video for the past 1 and a half. And it has been driving me NUTS after like 7 months. It has been running out of battery the day that I charge it. It sometimes froze, and un-froze only like 2 days after. I never dropped it or anything. And now.....the battery runs for like less than 4 hours, after one full charge. I am so serious...And the video part. It wastes my battery RIGHT AWAY! It has a memory of 30 GB and I only used 5 GB!

Would it be an iditotic thing to do...to buy a new iPod? Can anyone give me suggestions of a better mp3 player?

Thanks =]

I personally have a 30GB Video iPod just like you. I've only had mine for less than a year, and mine still runs fine. But I'm assuming that yours is just getting old. Maybe you've just worn it out and listened to it so much that it isn't running that well anymore. Plus.. I've heard of many people who watch videos on their iPod just like theirs and and the battery runs out really quick after watching it.

Or maybe its not that your iPod is old.. just that it has a less battery life than the smaller iPod.

If you really want to spend the money- then I would say that it wouldn't be an idiotic thing to buy a new iPod. The smaller ones, I've heard, have a longer battery life.. like 24 hours or something.

--Jack
(15/m)

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what exactly is that? lol, would a person be a pathetic, lonely loser for using it?

Hello.

I've never heard of this site before.. so I checked it out.

http://secondlife.com/whatis/

From there, it says:

What is Second Life?

Second Life is a 3-D virtual world entirely built and owned by its residents. Since opening to the public in 2003, it has grown explosively and today is inhabited by a total of 8,110,656 Residents from around the globe.

* From the moment you enter the World you'll discover a vast digital continent, teeming with people, entertainment, experiences and opportunity. Once you've explored a bit, perhaps you'll find a perfect parcel of land to build your house or business.

* You'll also be surrounded by the Creations of your fellow residents. Because residents retain the rights to their digital creations, they can buy, sell and trade with other residents.

* The Marketplace currently supports millions of US dollars in monthly transactions. This commerce is handled with the in-world unit-of-trade, the Linden dollar, which can be converted to US dollars at several thriving online Linden Dollar exchanges.


It sounds interesting.. and I wouldn't think you're a lonely loser if you used it. It looks kind of fun, actually!

--Jack
(15/m)

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are telugu people vegetarian or not?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telugu_people

Although I have no idea what Telugu people are.. but I did some research, and found this site:

http://www.surfindia.com/matrimonials/telugu.html

It states:
Food Habits : Andhra cuisine is a delectable mix of Southern and refined Deccani style of cooking. At some places influence of Mughlai food is quite noticeable. A large part of the Telugu population is vegetarian while people living in the coastal areas fond of sea food. Staple food of the people is rice. Food of Telugu people is known for its heavy use of spices and chillies. Curd is also a part of the meal and is used to neutralize the spicy nature of the food.

So I guess that the answer to your question is yes, most are vegetarians.

--Jack
(15/m)

I used this search:

only search advicenators.com

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alright so me and this guy that likes me and i like him have been talking for awhile online. we have great conversation online..but tomorrow we are hanging out for the first time.


so i guess my question is..how do you make it so it isnt awcward when you hang out with your crush alone for the first time? and dont say hang out with a big group..because its gonna be just us (:

Try to always be in conversation. If there are silences, they will be awkward...
Talk about random things- honestly- it won't matter.. as long as it isn't a disgusting or completely inappropriate. Talk about your day yesterday. Talk about any pets you have. Talk about what you've done this summer. Talk about what you will do the rest of the summer. Talk about anything that will just keep you two engaged in conversation.

Other than that, just be yourself and be straightforward with your chat. Don't lie or make up stories. If you are honest- he will be too. If you think that things are getting boring- act like you're having fun- and it will rub off on him.. then off on you, in return. You could also laugh if something is really dumb or whatever.

--Jack
(15/m)

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what are some cute ways to flirt with a guy? i love to flirt but i want to make it more special with a certain boy. thanks =)

Hello.. since I'm a guy.. I guess I'll tell you what I would like a girl to do with me when we're flirting:

-Laughter
Its a must, as when you laugh- he'll notice you more.

-Smiling
Show off your teeth! Guys like a girl that will smile at them and the ridiculous things they'll say.

-Touching
Nothing like sexual, but just a simple poke, tap, or hit. Anything that will cause the guy to notice that you are interested.

-Talking
It really is different with every guy. Some like to hear you talk about your lovely self, while others like to talk about themselves. Your best bet is to ask him simple questions. If he gives short answers- he probably wants you to do the talking. If he gives longer answers.. he's liking that you're listening to him.

-Eye Contact
Always, always, always look him straight in the eyes if you're talking/listening to him. If you're staring off into space- he'll think that you don't want to look at him or that you aren't confident enough to have him look at you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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hey. i like this guy who has a facebook & we sorta talked a few times last year.

i want to send him a message just saying, "hey, how's it going?" but i'm scared he'll be like, "uhh why is she messaging me..." you know?

i just want to be friends [for now] & i don't want to go out with him.

what's something i can do to make it less awkward? like should i think of a REASON to have messaged him or what?

thanks so much. i really needed a good looking guy's opinion. & i also saw how happy you were when people give you inbox questions haha.

Well- thank you for posting in my inbox.. and just today [its odd] I've gotten 5 inbox questions, and I feel like people value my opinion!
So you need a "good looking guy's opinion"?
I think that's funny because I get that a lot on here, but not in school.. people at school are jerks, though =].

ANYWAY! I think you should just say "Hey, how are you?" or whatever, because whatever you say will get him wondering "Uhh.. why is she messaging me..?", as I know I do that when someone I don't know randomly messages me.
Saying that simple "Hey, how are you?" is the simplest and most effective way to be casual.
I think it's your best bet!

--Jack
(15/m)

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there's a guy that i really really miss because he's in a different school than i am going to. i was wondering if you thought i like him or not...like i don't want to kiss him or anything...but i really really love him...maybe as a brother? What do you think? I'm 14 f. is it possible to have a crush on someone but not want to kiss them? Thanks.

Usually when someone likes them- it is composed of being attracted to them both physically and emotionally. The keyword there is "usually". If you really miss him, you obviously have some type of feelings toward him, whether it be lust, love, a crush, or whatever.
I think it IS possible to have a crush on someone without wanting to kiss them, as everyone is different in their wants/desires, but that is just my opinion.

--Jack
(15/m)

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well me and my bf were making out and he was feeling me up and he was shaking like a lot and he was shaking before too why was he shaking ?

Was it his first time doing this with you or anyone else? He was probably nervous and worried that you would think that he was doing something wrong or whatever. Everyone gets nervous at some point.
He's fine!

--Jack
(15/m)

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please only answer this if you have dealt with serious acne.

my acne isnt as bad as some people, but i am CONSTANTLY broken out. i cant remember the last time i had a clear face. ive used practically everything and nothing works. well, some stuff works for like a week or two but stops working after that. ive tried clean and clear, proactive, murad, clearisil, biore, neutrogena, st.ives apricot scrub, cetaphil, noxzeema, clinique 3-step, i mean i cant even list every brand ive tried!
ive gone to the dermatologist and they gave me differin & duac. i had to use it for about 6 months and it only worked for about a month.
my mom wont let me take pills. and i cant do accutane.


will somebody please help me! give me a routine to do every morning and night that ahs really cured your face. im up for anything now.

I haven't dealt with SERIOUS acne, but I am just like you in that I've always got acne on my face.. and it never seems to go away.
I know this will sound really odd- but I found that Lemon Juice works really well [though I haven't used it in quite awhile]. All you have to do is apply some on the "infected" areas [i.e. where your acne is] with a Q-tip.. and apply in a thin layer. This works best at night- and you shouldn't touch, poke, scratch, etc. your face, as the oils on your fingers and hands will stop the effect of the lemon juice on your acne. It really does reduce the size/shape of your acne. Hope that helps, as it is an inexpensive way to deal with unwanted acne.

--Jack
(15/m)

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14/m... So there's this friend I have who is a girl and she knows I like her because my other friends are telling her. Anyways, we're always talking on aim and stuff and sometimes we end up talking about the fact that I like her. Well, she doesn't like anyone right now, but she says she doesn't like me like that. Does anyone want to tell me how I can get her attention and get her to want to go out with me? It would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

You can't make someone like you if they don't. Trust me.. I've been in your situation. It was with my best friend Leah. The topic of me liking her as more than a friend came up a lot, and at different times. She knew I liked her, and I knew she didn't like me as I liked her. Eventually, she just couldn't take it anymore [and I don't blame her] and we didn't talk for almost 3 months. It was the WORST! The reason we didn't talk wasn't really because I liked her again, for about the 5th time that year, but because I sort of tried to get her to like me. It wasn't worth it. We lost 3 months of friendship because I tried to get her to like me in a way she didn't want to. Luckily, we're still friends- and it still amazes me to this day that we are- and I'm sure that not many people could have survived what we did. I say that you shouldn't try to make her like you- there are PLENTY of people out there who would like you WITHOUT you trying to make them. Love isn't worth it to sit around and wait for someone- there are other people to meet- and other things to do rather than chasing a seemingly worthless cause.

Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear.
--Jack
(15/m)

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15/f

me and a 4 other friends, want to go stay up at cedar point. our parents are going to be there too, but they would go into a hotel, and we'd get a little cottage. i'm thinking about guys too, [they wouldn't be in the same cottage as us or anything] so anyways, is it really fun? we'd get that little cottage right on the lake. i live in florida, and i've alwayyyss wanted to go cedar point. i heard its really cool there. is it? i have the choice of going on any little vacation i want with my friends for my bday. and i dont know, ive never been to cedar point, and i just really want to go. lol. so what do you think? is it fun?

I don't know how the cottages or whatever are there, but I'm assuming they are really nice, as is everything in Cedar Point.
I also LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE Cedar Point! I can't even begin to explain how much I love that place. If you love rollercoasters.. you will love Cedar Point. Ride the Top Thrill Dragster! It is amazing and even if you're scared, you will walk off of it LOVING it. Ride the Maverick-- that is the new ride there and it is a lot of fun as well. So is the Millennium Force and the Magnum. Basically ride everything you think will be fun- and I can guarantee you will love it!

http://www.cedarpoint.com

http://resorts.cedarpoint.com/index.cfm
for resorts and stuff

Enjoy your time there.. it is my favorite place in the world!!!

If you need anymore help or want any further info.. my inbox is open!

--Jack
(15/m)

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when you try to send friends stuff, or tag them in a note, is it possible to mass tag people all at once without like individually typing in the name because i dont know off the top of my head all the people i want to tag

Unfortunately, I don't think you can tag everyone all at once for a "mass tag". You'll have to do it individually. If you type in "A", most people have an "A" in their name, and look at the entire list of people in the drop-down menu, and see all the people you want to tag, and make a mental list of them and make sure you get all of them tagged. Do the same with "E", "I", "O" and "U".

Sorry again.
--Jack
(15/m)

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on the main page i see that someone created a poll and there are the results from that poll but can i actually be a part of someeone's poll? today is july 15 and the poll of the day is: how many friends do you have on facebook? see results | create. but how do i take it?

As you probably notice, there are only 10,000 people or something that answered that question. It is the same amount everyday. I've always wondered this myself.. and realized that when the poll is created and released, you have to be there to answer it, right then. If you're not- then you won't get the chance to answer if you're there when it is released.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I already asked this on the site, but I only got 1 answer and it wasn't that helpful.

Ok so there's this guy *John* who I've known for 3 years now. The first year, we really liked each other and almost went out, but didn't. Then it kind of fizzled out, mainly because he got "popular" I guess and didn't talk to me or my friends very much. He also got a girlfriend, who he went out with for a year, but they've been broken up for about a year now. I'm not sure about the details, but she dumped him and it was REALLY hard on him. We just started talking again recently. He knows I still like him (I told him). Here's the problem:

He was at boyscout camp 2 weeks ago and we texted almost NONSTOP. He completely flirted with me the entire time. He said he missed me like every 5 minutes and that he wanted to be with me. He also invited me to go to an amusement park with his friend. Then his friend (who thinks I'm hot) started texting and calling me (*John* didn't know about the calls). His friend was completely hitting on me. He was starting to creep me out, and I stopped answering his phone calls. Now *John* had stopped flirting with me and became very stand-off-ish. When I told him I didn't like his friend and he was scaring me, he sort of became his self again, but not as much as before. As it turned out, *John* told me we shouldn't go to the amusement park, because it was raining (and maybe other reasons? i'm not sure :/).

And since then, he only texts me every now and then. It's never that long or QUITE as flirty, but kinda. And it almost ALWAYS ends by him randomly not texting anymore. And every time I initiate it, he almost NEVER texts me back.

My question is, WHAT IS UP?! What happened to 2 weeks ago? How did it go from almost going out to him being so weird? I know I didn't do anything to make him like me less. I haven't even seen him since school let out. I've graduated and he still has a year to go, if that helps. Why is he sending me mixed signals? I'm so confused. I also have a feeling that his friend might have messed things up between us. His friend already lied to me once with something. And in one of our phone convos, he told me things about *John* that made *John* sound kinda like a jerk. What if he did the same thing to *John* and told him bad things about me? I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS PERSON! What should I do? Because I REALLY REALLY like this kid, I always have. What's going on here? Why is he doing this? Is he playing me? He doesn't seem like the type to do that, but I don't know. Maybe he just needs to grow up? I'm tired of being really happy when he actually DOES text me, and then crying when he randomly stops or doesn't answer my text. I'm sick of being thrown around like this. I keep telling myself not to answer his texts, but once he does, I can't help myself. I like him so much. Ugh, please help.

Well- first.. thanks for asking to my inbox. It comforts me to know that people actually WANT my help ;]. And second.. I think I know why your question only got one answer. Not to offend you or anything, but the question is really long, and I know when I first saw this question- I shied away from it. Now that I read it- it seems like a pretty interesting question, though.

So.. onto the advice [because that's why we're here]. I think that John's friend did do the same thing to him as to you. Maybe it was because John's friend liked you after all these phone calls? Either way.. whatever he may have told John probably did make John feel uncomfortable about you in some way.. And I know, being a guy, that if a guy hears something about someone- they automatically assume its true. The only reason I know this is because back when I was going out with my ex-girlfriend- she told me that my bestfriend did things, and since I wasn't talking to my bestfriend- I didn't know what to believe.. so I automatically assumed that what my ex-girlfriend was saying was right.
Assuming this is the situation, you need to meet up with John IN PERSON. Texting or talking on the phone is a bunch of crap and isn't personal [sorry.. had to say it]. So you need to meet up with him in person, and ask him what is up. Ask him if his friend told him anything that made him neglect you. Maybe John was jealous that you were talking to his friend more?
I'm not sure.. but I know the only way to fix this is to talk to John, like I said. Hopefully that will straighten things out.

--Jack
(15/m)

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