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Grandfather died; I wanted his truck.
Okay, you'll need a little background information. I live with both my parents in a 2-family house. About 7 years ago my grandparents [on my dad's side] moved in with us on the next floor. We're a really close family, and my grandmother is paranoid about pretty much everything and is really emotional- I love her too.
At the end of April, my gradfather died suddenly (as in, we didn't expect him to die for another 15 years because of longevity). He had just bought a truck last year, maybe 2005. It's a smallish truck, like not a huge Ford, it handled like a car and it was just a really nice vehicle. I'll be driving within 2 years (I'm 15 now) and about two weeks after Grandpa died, my dad asked if I wanted to drive his truck. Now, I didn't want to think about inheriting his truck after his death (we were insanely close and I was having trouble accepting he was gone) so I asked if I could have some time to think about it.
After a couple weeks, I decided that it'd be a good car to have, at least to learn in and to have transportation until I saved enough money to buy my own car (my parents have huge cars and that's what I'll be learning to drive in). My parents decided to sell it to my cousin instead (we're almost the same age, he's like, 8 months older than me) because "nobody wanted it". Which isn't true, because I said I wanted it BEFORE it was offered to my cousin.
But I can kinda see where they were coming from, since having the truck sit in the driveway everyday would be a reminder that grandpa died. But really, our entire house is a reminder, since he helped build it. AND my cousin & his family come over a LOT and we'll still be seeing the truck. Plus, my grandmother's been throwing away Tupperware and her shoes because they remind her of her deceased husband. It's her way of coping, I guess.
Should I even bring this issue up with my parents again, or just let it go? It's really been bugging me, but I wonder at the same time if talking about it will make things even worse and make my gandmother cry again? I'd appreciate your input and I'll do whatever you tell me; I'm at a complete loss here. Thank you in advance.
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Well- first, I would like to say thank you for posting in my inbox. I've gotten like 5 today.. its actually quite flattering. And I guess you could say I'm honored that you'll do whatever I tell you.. hmm.. this could get interesting...
Haha.. I'm only kidding!
Anyway- I think that it would be wise to tell your parents if you would really like to have the truck. Yes, it may upset your grandmother that you mention the truck, but, as mean as this may sound, she should have accepted it by now [not that it is WRONG of her to be upset, because it takes a long time to stop being upset after a death-- but you shouldn't feel like you can't mention him just because she's still upset].
Tell your parents, like I said, and don't have any regrets.
Good Luck!
And since you said you're going to do anything I tell you to- I'm going to tell you to leave feedback! =]
--Jack
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