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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
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My girlfriend is 12 years old and im 13...weve been dating for about 7 months and when were like making out i feel her ass and i can feel that shes wet..but the only problem is...shes 12 and hasnt gotten her period yet..can i still finger her?...and if so whats the best way? im hanging out with her tomorrow...
Your girlfriend is only 12 years old, She is WAY to young for that stuff.
You both are very young, However at 12 years old your girlfriend isn't even a teenager yet and is prepubescence. Yes the user below me is correct, You could very well destroy your relationship. I highly suggest not doing that. She IS a child, She IS too young.
Hi, Please help me know that, will it help for my pregnancy if I finger his sperm immediately after his ejaculation. It is hard for us to penetrate his penis in to mine. pls let me know?
I'm going to try my best with one seeing you didn't use proper grammar and I have a hard time understanding what the hell you just typed...
Are you trying to get pregnant?.....If a penis has contact with a vagina then yes it is possible. Assuming you are very young.....It may be a smart thing to seek birth control and use condoms. It is unfair to bring a baby into this world because you THINK you are ready and want one.
Me and my girl had sex the day after her period ended, shes on the birth control pill but forgot to take it that morning after we left, we ended up having sex and i pulled out but some i think still went in her before i pulled out, she took 2 birth control pills the next day, do you think she could be pregnant? also its been 28 days and her period hasnt come yet but she took a pregnancy test and it came back negative...what do you think?
There is always a possibility of pregnancy, Even if you are on Birth Control, Condoms, Pull out method......NOTHING is every 100% safe.
The smart thing to do if you both do not want a pregnancy is to start using condoms with the birth control. That is the smart thing to do
If the test comes back negative then likely she isn't pregnant (If she took the test 8 days after intercourse) and you just lucked out. It is common for women to not get a period while they are on birth control. Anyway, Like I said.....If you don't want a baby right now then be smart.
My skin in pretty dark, and i dont know what colors make me look a bit lighter ? sometimes i wear bright shirts and they make me look SUPER dark, So anybody who knows about fashionn Write to me please(:
Darker colors work well
Grey, Green, Navy, Brown, Purple etc.
If you were vibrant colors you will stand out because the colors are too bright, Try to stay away from bright colors. If you feel the need to wear it anyway try and mix it up.....Bright shirt under a tank top or something, Wearing vibrant jewelry works great also. Be creative but not over the top
Why do others call me stuck up cause I'm shy?
I'm not around family and friends. I'm just sometimes quiet around people I never talked too or I'm quiet when I'm tired. Sometimes when I first meet people it takes me a while to come out of my shell cause I think I'm going to get judged . I'm happy and smiling all of the time. That’s just how I am, a happy person. Since elementary school I've heard girls say that I'm stuck up or "I think I'm all that". I honestly feel like I'm the nicest person I never talked bad about someone even behind their backs. There's no point if you think about it, you never know what someone's going through. I'm not a bitch. It won't get you anywhere in the future. Can someone tell me why people do call me stuck up cause I'm shy? I really don't get it
Let me explain something....
Sometimes silence can give off the wrong impression, I myself am also introverted and I am certainly not the social butterfly at all. From another persons perspective you don't talk and because you don't talk that much it could make other people think that you have a problem with them, conceited or just simply a bitch. Does this make you one? No.
There are a number of people who don't seem to understand that people with anxiety disorders have a hard time putting themselves out there. I have heard a never ending "Just talk more, Who cares what other people think" The thing people don't seem to understand is it isn't that easy. If you want to overcome your anxiety then you should seek some counseling and see if your doctor suggest you to go on anxiety medication that will help you cope with your daily life.
Also, Who cares about what other people think? If someone doesn't want to put the time and effort into getting to know the real you then it is their loss. Perhaps these people can't stand to see you happy all the time? Just keep smiling and be yourself if you think you should then try talking more. :)
I used to use my neighbor's Wi-Fi, but now I have my own Internet which is faster. The only problem is that ever since I started using my own Wi-Fi, when I use torrents to download music, it doesn't work. If I use Bittornado it says problem connecting to tracker. If I use Bitlord it says no incomming connections. Its really pissing me off because I haven't been able to download music quickly. When I used my neighbor's it was super slow but it worked. Even if the darn torrent has like 100 seeders and comments saying that the torrent is good, it just won't work. I looked on google for help but all I hear is stuff about ports and crap. First off, what the hell is a port? I already tried turning off Windows Firewall and it didn't work. What can I do to fix this? Its really pissing me off. There is ALWAYS something. My old connection sucked and it took hours to download, now I have a better connection and I can'y download any torrents. Once in a blue moon it will work.
A port is a plug or cable connection (Hardware)
Make sure your plug is properly inserted in the USB slot which either in front of in the back of your computer. Turning off firewall isn't going to fix the problem, It sounds like it is a problem with the connection.
Also, One other thing besides the question....
Bit torrent, Limewire, Frostwire, Bearshare etc. All now have tracking devices tracing illegal downloads, Either or their sites are being shut down. A few months back they shut down Limewire and as far as I know Frostwire is still available but with tracking downloads. Sure, You may not get caught because there a a shit load of people that download everyday but it is extremely risky. Using your neighbors connection to do these things is also risky.....If your neighbor were to ever get caught it could eventually get around to the person who was using the connection. End of Lecture
Ok so My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months, when we had our first kiss i felt something i never felt before, im guessing that's the spark, So we just kissed like normal (not making out ) then after 2 months of dating we decided to start making out, every since we started making out i dont feel the spark .... Is this normal, I love kissing him and all but i havent kissed him normally for a month now :/ i havent felt the spark for a month, should i tell him or... Can i make there be a spark when we make out ?
If you aren't feeling the spark in your relationship then you should tell your boyfriend you just aren't feeling it anymore. Sometimes people loose feelings for another person and that is okay but you should really be upfront and honest about it instead of leading him on.
I am 20/f he's 26/m. This guy really likes me and we've been on two dates. I mean he came all the way from the other side of town to see me. See i can't date really, i know that sounds ridiculous but i can't tell my parents so i have to meet him in secrecy. Well anyways he wants to make it work from what he's told me. And well it's not really the whole my parents finding out, it's more i wanted a boyfriend for so long, and i was really boy crazy, but now i am just not sure i want that right now. I want to just want to focus on myself. He gave me an ultimatum saying i should just tell my parents, lie to them, because he really wants to make it work, and i am just not sure. So what should i do?
This guy is already starting off on the wrong foot
He gave you an ultimatum and pretty much suggested you could lie to your parents? Wrong, This is not a good way to put on a good impression at all.
If you aren't ready for a relationship at this time then you have every right to not be one but I think you should be upfront and honest about how you feel instead of beating around the bush. If he keeps insisting that you give it a try and becomes desperate about it then you've just found yourself not only someone who wants to give your parents a bad impression but a controlling ass.
So, I dated this guy for a few months but I've known him basically all my life. To put it simply, he's a horrible person. He loves to fight- I mean LOVES it. We didn't live in the same town so when he would go to parties on weekends without me (I had to work), he or his friends would call me saying I need to calm him down because he got into a fight literally EVERY WEEKEND. He would always instigate it, and he'd always win. He also was easily angered by me, and would call me a slut or accuse me of things I didn't do. So here's my problem: Although I broke up with him several months ago, I've noticed I have a horrible temper now. I think because I was always having to defend myself, or pretend I didn't care, or act like I was strong when I wasn't.. now I don't let anybody in. I don't know how to start caring more about the people around me. I used to think it was a good thing that I didn't take crap from people anymore, but now I'm starting to realize I've become cold and when somebody does something I don't like, I tell them. And when little things happen, I get way more heated than I should. How do I learn to calm down? And how do I learn to have better relationships with people?
Therapy
Abusive relationships are mentally damaging, They are even more damaging when you stay and put up with that crap. You were around his bullshit for too long and it eventually started to rub off on you.
Recognizing that you have a problem is a good start but seeing a therapist is even better they can help you learn to cope in a better way.
Ok well to start with I am 18 and ive got a growing horse buying and selling business... along with other things. I would really like to make a website.. a good website but i have no idea how, or where to even start... Please help
Here is a great website
http://www.wix.com/make/your-own-website
It's easy and provides a tutorial, I use this one for my DJ business.
im starting a juice cleanse.
does anyone know how exactly i should do it?
i hsould have 3 big glasses of juice (celrey, beat, cucomber, apple, carrot, kale...)
and water?
and chew on cucomber wen im hungry?
for how long should i do this?
If you are looking to loose weight, This is the wrong way of going about it.
The body needs Protein, Fiber, Calcium, and all sorts of vitamins.
Starving yourself for long periods of time can cause hair loss, liver and kidney failure, rapid weight loss due to slow metabolism etc. This of course is if you do it for a good length of time.
It isn't healthy to just munch of cucumbers and drink shakes, Healthy is exercising and dieting. If you want to clean out your system you can drink cranberry juice but make sure you eat properly because the foods you list above........You lack nutrition.
umm, well im 13,female. and i got really drunk with a couple of friends. And my mistake happened, i had sex and we didnt use a condom, but i didnt get pregnant. i really liked this guy, we were talking for 6 months.am i slut for letting this happen ?
Irresponsible would be a better word
First of all you are 13 years old and drinking at your age is illegal.
Let me explain a few things; When consuming enough alcohol people tend to have the inability to think with a clear head. Although you were talking to this man for 6 months it was wrong of him to take advantage of you and this is what he did. If you ever got caught drinking/drunk your parents could be fined, you could be heading to juvenile and they could delay your rights to have a licence until you are 18.
Also, A slut defines someone who sleeps around with numerous people not someone who gets drunk and has sex. You were careless and irresponsible. My best advise; Stay away from alcohol and stop having sex you are too young.
So me and my sister were fighting as I wall saying once a brat always a brat for you and she said I'm never gonna get married bc she and I and my whole family knows deeep down inside that I'm sorta fat and awkward but I took it to heart so I left and cried I'm kinda depressed bc I'm never happy and I lost my bestfriend so I have noone I could trust I spend some of my days crying in my room bc I don't have a bf andi was close to having one but he was just a player but he is the only one who made Me happy and we didn't even kiss but he seems like he never has a gf he always flirting I'm 15 f my mean sister17 and the guy I will always think about 16
Your sister is your sister, Siblings say mean things to each other and sure it is hurtful but does she really mean it? No.
Reality is, Your sister is just being a typical bitchy teenager. You are young, Even if you don't have a boyfriend now you will eventually get one I promise you that. I didn't end up dating until I was 17 years old and even at that I don't regret it one bit. The point is, Things come in time and you have to be patient. Marriage is something that comes later in life there is no need to even be thinking about that at your age. I'm not saying you are but the point I'm trying to make is there is no need to get all depressed about it. If this guy you like is a player then good for you for not dating him because players don't deserve someone who is real and serious. I know you feel right now that he is your true love but you will meet other people I promise you that too.
i'm 17 weeks pregnant .. i have a girls name but no idea for a boys name .. any ideas ?? not too common though :)
thanks in advance
I personally like really unique names or names that sound good at least I'm not huge on the whole "common" name thing either.
Marcus
Marcell
Mason
Tallon
Jaydence
Skylar
Rayne (Pronounced Ryan)
Jensen
Jaimaire (Jay-Mere)
Joaquin (WAA-Keen)
Kristian
Colton
Brenton
Coley
21/f
Long story short here..
I'm not experienced when it comes to sex. I had sex once and it was with a guy who knew what he was doing so it went smoothly. I've never even given a hj or bj.
Now this new guy in my life he is very inexperienced. We were talking and he said he can't last long (probably because he hasn't had sex often) and asked me if I had any suggestions. Now, I'm not experienced either so I couldn't help. Is there anything that can help him last longer, anything I can do to help him too?
Is it bad that we're both inexperienced? I feel like it's so much easier when one person knows what they're doing.
Any advice is welcomed and appreciated!
It's not a bad thing at all to be inexperience everyone starts somewhere.
Sometimes in order to gain experience you have to try, Spice it up and try new things. Sure it isn't exactly a turn on to know that your guy doesn't know what he is doing but I'll make this simple: Show him what you want, Show him what turns you on. Give him the instructions. You tell him what you want him to do to you, Eventually your boyfriend will get the hint and take over. Communication is the key, Talk to him new ideas and things you want to try and tell him your fantasies. You don't have to be experienced to do these things ;)
I mostly listen to eminem Justin bieber Taylor swift and the ready set. what are some good love songs with that kind of style of music to it.
I'm a 13 yearold girl and if the songs are about boy friends and best friends that you have crushes on when they feel the same or they don't. what are some good songs along those lines?
(I'm going to list a bunch of good random ones)
Bruno Mars - Just the way you are
Sade - By your side
Dido - Here with me
Kid Rock - The picture
Jill Scott- So in Love
Mary J Blige- Someone to Love me
Shontelle - I crave you
i m 21 yrs old and he is 23. his birthday is coming. now he is not here. he will come before his birthday. he doesnt like going to park and parties and cakes. i want to give him a treat in a resturant just he and i. will he be happy? pl suggest.
I think a restaurant would be just fine, I would think your boyfriend would appreciate anything seeing it would be coming from you. You don't have to go all over the top.
If you want to add a little more too it then do dinner and a movie.
vagina is very smelly while intercourse wat to do?
It's normal to have a bit of odor while having intercourse.
If your vagina smells bad on a daily basis try switching over to 100% cotton underwear. Avoid lace, leather, thongs etc. They all trap odor.
If you don't already, Try shaving and use women's shaving cream, You can also find these scented also.
As far as having a smell down there while having intercourse, It's normal and there isn't much you can do too fix that. If it makes you feel more comfortable take a shower before hand.
I'm fourteen and I am babysitting an eight year old girl and 5 year old boy for the next three and a half weeks. My first day was today, and I was already running out of ideas, which scared me to death! Any recommendations?
Children like to have fun, They like activities.
Paint, Movie time, Park, Tag, Hide N Seek, Chalk on the drive way things that kids like to do.
Also you don't have to keep them entertained every second of the day, Watching children is a huge job and you should take breaks. On this time pop in a movie for them and sit on the couch and relax. Also, Make some popcorn, Kids love popcorn. Just play with them and have fun.
Is there a beach nearby?.....You could collect some shells take them home and paint them or hell just take a bucket and get a few good size rocks and paint them instead. Be creative
Hi.I'm a 24 year old female, I stopped going for my injection last year november,is it possible for me to fall pregnant?
Yes,
If you go off any sort of birth control it is possible. There is ALWAYS a chance. Birth control, condoms, no condom, no birth control Yes, There is always a chance. Also at 24 shouldn't you know this stuff???