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We're both inexperienced
21/f
Long story short here..
I'm not experienced when it comes to sex. I had sex once and it was with a guy who knew what he was doing so it went smoothly. I've never even given a hj or bj.
Now this new guy in my life he is very inexperienced. We were talking and he said he can't last long (probably because he hasn't had sex often) and asked me if I had any suggestions. Now, I'm not experienced either so I couldn't help. Is there anything that can help him last longer, anything I can do to help him too?
Is it bad that we're both inexperienced? I feel like it's so much easier when one person knows what they're doing.
Any advice is welcomed and appreciated!
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It's not a bad thing at all to be inexperience everyone starts somewhere.
Sometimes in order to gain experience you have to try, Spice it up and try new things. Sure it isn't exactly a turn on to know that your guy doesn't know what he is doing but I'll make this simple: Show him what you want, Show him what turns you on. Give him the instructions. You tell him what you want him to do to you, Eventually your boyfriend will get the hint and take over. Communication is the key, Talk to him new ideas and things you want to try and tell him your fantasies. You don't have to be experienced to do these things ;)
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I'll answer the second part of your question firs. The answer is yes, because you feel cheated. He has gotten off and may be sated or satisfied and your still, well hot and need to be satisfied.
As for his premature ejaculation. Which is the technical term for what is happening. This is not uncommon for the inexperienced male. My unscientific reason for this is so when first sexual intercourse happens it is quick and not more harmful to the female than necessary. Then as both partners get use to intercourse and the female can stand longer penetration time the male can delay ejaculation. As I said, this is my very scientific reasoning that does not stand up to today's reasons. But you said it yourself, "(probably because he hasn't had sex often)"
If you like this guy and want a, better, sex life together. There are ways to help him overcome his premature ejaculation. There are methods that you can use that will teach him to last longer. There are things he can learn to turn you on more so that you orgasm faster.
One of the nice things about sex is it allows you to learn more about your partner. Things that you would never learn fully clothed sitting on the couch. If you like this guy and see yourselves making a life together then I suggest you see if as your sex life continues if his premature ejaculation doesn't start to abate.
If it does problem solved. If it doesn't search the web for ways to help him. Of course the best thing is you can consult the many clinics that deal with sex related problems. There is nothing for him to be embarrassed about. This is a condition that affect many men. He should not allow it to stand in the way of spending the rest of his life with a wonderful women who is concerned about him.
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