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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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OK so when i download windows movie maker and try to put music on it, it doesnt work, i get it from my itunes library. How can i make it to work?
The only way I have ever gotten it to work is to go to the song in your itunes library, right click, copy, then open your My Music folder under My Documents, then paste.
My Music is the only place I have been able to get music to the Movie Maker.
does anyone know what gaba does?? im going to start taking it..also what about vitamin b?? and sam-e??
Ask your pharmacist. It is their job to be able to tell you what you want to know about the medicines and vitamins you take.
STRONG WORD OF ADVICE: NEVER TAKE ANY SORT OF MEDICATION/VITAMIN WITHOUT KNOWING WHAT THEY DO TO YOU.
Lately I've been really stressed out. I have a lot of hard classes at school and it's hard to balance all my homework and my job after school. Quitting my job is not an option, as I need to save for many things and put gas in my car. Anyway, lately I just stay up until 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning on school nights just to finish my homework, so obviously I'm really tired all the time. Then, on weekends, I work early, so I never get a chance to catch up on sleep. So I take a nap, and then half the day is gone and I have to rush to get everything done. So, in short, I'm very busy and it's really stressing me out. Any suggestions on a quick way to handle stress? Maybe a better idea to manage my time wisely?
Good for you for being responsible enough to juggle school and work. Other than saying "Welcome to the way of the real world", I can ask is it possible to cut back on your work hours?
Maybe work less days during the school week? Maybe change your weekend hours to a later shift? If those aren't options at your current job, you should consider a different place of employment.
Yah, you may need money for things, but your education is more important. (Even if you are saving for college- there are grants available for that...) And if you aren't very well rested, it makes it harder for you to do your schoolwork, and it takes longer for you to get it done. A tired brain can only do so much.
i like this guy at school and we've kind of talked here and there, but i really like him alot but i dont know how he feels about me, should i go and talk to him or be clueless the rest of the year?
It comes down to what you would rather do. Would you rather be clueless and never know, or would you rather take a chance and find out the truth? If I were you, I would opt for taking the chance...
I gave my boyfriend a handjob and when he cummed, it got on my hands and on his hands too. Then my boyfriend fingered me. Could I get pregnant from this?
Whoever told these people that sperm dies once it hits the air obviously didn't take sex ed or biology. Either that, or they didn't pay attention. It saddens me to hear that people actually believe that load of crap, and give it as advice.
If he inserted his fingers into your vagina and had semen on his fingers, then yes, it is possible to become pregnant.
14/f
There's this boy, James, who is my great friend. I'm in love with him, but I don't think he knows. I know that my friend Joy likes him, and I think that he likes Joy. I've been really upset about it, and I just want whats best for him, but still. But I've decided that I just need to ask him if he likes her or not before i go on crying about it. What would be a good way to go about doing that?
sometimes its hard to get him alone, if he's not, how should i get him alone and where should we go? what should i say?
i really wish that he wouldn't go out with her, but if he's going to be happiest without me, then that's what i want for him.
You should just outright ask him if he likes her. I highly doubt he would read anything into it, meaning that he won't know you are needling him for information. Just say "I'm just wondering what your feelings are about Joy" or something to that effect.
But let me give you a nickels' worth of free advice: As a rule, the best way to lose a friend is to date them. When you break up, you are likely to never feel the same about one another again.
I speak from experience. That is how I lost my best friend. We are still friends, but we are more along the lines of the acquaintance type of friend than real friends.
someone pleassse help me!! im looking for a book report on the booK Peaches, by Jodi Lynn Anderson, but i cant find one. if someone could even just find me a long summary that would be greaaaat. thatks
You need to read the book and write your own report.
To take a report someone else has written, weather it be from the internet, the library, or your best friend, and you put your name on it claiming it to be your own work is called PLAGERISIM. That is a crime.
Does anyone know of any books that are mysteri or scary
or like the book Twlight ?
Please name a couple becasue i'm going back to books-a-million sometime this week and i wanted to know of any books I should look forward to.
I am 14/f
Or any books like oh my goth.
please :]
also tell about the book if you can :]
I'm not sure what the book Twilight is about, but if you like scary, have you read Stephen King? I love scary, and he is my absolute favorite.
He has many good books, but I will give you a couple of examples with a bit of a description.
By the way, if you've seen the movie already, keep in mind that the book is BY FAR better. I hate the movies- they are only a fraction of the actual story he wrote.
The Shining
A family of 3 stays alone in a hotel up in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado that gets snowed in every winter. They are there for the husband to be the caretaker. The boy has a special talent that brings the hotel to life, but not in a good way...
Carrie
An unpopular, outcast teen girl discovers she has the power of telekinesis. Some of the girls at her highschool tease her and treat her so terrible, but she ends up getting the best of all of them on prom night...
Pet Semetary
A doctor, his wife and 2 children move outside of a small town in Maine. Their friendly neighbor introduces them to the Pet Semetary, but when the family pet gets run over in the highway, he introduces the doctor to a powerful, abandoned Indian burial ground beyond it. The evil power of the burial ground causes the doctor and his family nothing but grief, yet he is foolishly drawn to it. "Sometimes dead is better..."
Like I said, you may have seen these movies and know the basic plot of the stories, but I promise you will be far more satisfied with the books. They are scarier and far more entertaining.
If you like these, there are a lot more where they came from. He has written over 40 books, including those he wrote under the pen name Richard Bachman.
Happy reading! :)
This guy I've been dating was supposed to call me to see a movie today. He left a message earlier saying he had to cancel, and to call him back. Fair enough. So he called back just now, saying he as at the movie with his friends. I feel disrespected. Why would he just cancel on me, only to go out to the SAME movie with his friends?
You need to talk to him about your feelings on this. No, not over the phone, IM, or texting, either. You need to discuss such things privately, if possible, in person.
He definitely practiced improper etiquette, here. He made plans with you and then bailed out to go to the movies with his friends instead. That is never a good way of going about things. He should have went to the movies with you, considering you were the first he had plans with. Then again, he IS a guy, and guys do weird things sometimes.
HOWEVER, do NOT jump to conclusions. Meaning, don't just go ripping his ass about how he bailed on your date. He may have a valid reason as to why it was more important he go with his friends, so give him a chance to explain himself.
13/f. There is this boy D, I really like him and apparently he knows. He has this really good girl friend named M. I cannot stand her. They went out once this year. My two guy friends told me the saw her kiss him and he denied it when I asked him. So whenever hes all on me I don't want his face to touch me cause I told him I didn't like M. I really want to go out with him though. How should I ask him?
FYI: If he's cheating on his current girlfriend, (I say girlfriend because there has to be something there for them to be kissing) there is a very high probability that he will cheat on you.
By cheating, I don't necessarily mean sex- I mean he is all over you, or whatever it is you do together, while he is also running with this other girl.
Trust me- you don't want a guy like that. No matter how much you like him, he isn't worth the heartbreak.
Hey im a girl who is 16 years old. And i hang with a buch of preppy girl's. They are super nice but they have one prob. They smoke !! And now they want me to. I mean it seems real cool and stuff but i know its bad for you. so can you help ??? cuz i need it!!!
Love,
Under peer preasure
Smoking is a very stupid habit to start. I smoke- I wish I never started. I am adamant about encouraging others not to smoke.
Sorry this is so long, but I want to make sure you realize:
1- The smell is horrible. It sticks to your clothes, your hair, your skin, everything in your house and your car (you can't put on enough perfume to cover the way you stink). It makes your breath stink- the taste in my mouth literally tastes like I have licked an ashtray sometimes. It is gross, and it stinks. Ashtrays are nasty, dirty, and they stink something terrible. It is a gross, nasty, disgusting habit, period.
2- Quitting is hard. Quitting tobacco has been compared in difficulty to quitting heroin. I really WANT to quit, but my willpower just isn't strong enough yet.
It takes 14 days for your body to rid itself of nicotine. That doesn't seem long, but I could only ever make it through one day; the withdraws are terrible- there is that constant urge, no, NEED to have just... one... more... If it's that bad to get through one day, I hate to think of how to get through 14 of them. I just keep trying.
Also, a high percentage of former smokers take the habit back up within 6 months. All that hell for nothing...
3- It's an expensive habit these days, what with one single pack costing nearly $5. Don't seem like much, but I'm a pack a day smoker. That is $35 per week in cigarette expense alone.
4- It destroys your throat, and most importantly it destroys your lungs. I know you like to breathe...
Not only does it put you at risk of such nasties as lung cancer and emphysema, but you wake up in the morning with your lungs hurting (every deep breath is killer), you have chest congestion, and you obtain smoker's cough. Not cool. It even changes your voice. You may have a sweet sounding feminine voice now, but as time goes on, your voice gets more and more of a gravel sound to it.
5- Having a simple cold is outright miserable; far more than when you experience a cold now. Your lungs are damaged (they turn blacker with every cigarette you smoke)- chest congestion is way worse.
It takes you much longer to get over a cold. I get colds that take a month, sometimes two, to officially get over.
A simple cold can easily turn into a respiratory infection, or something much worse. You have to go to the doctor and get prescription medicine to treat it.
Your lungs are very unhealthy, and mucus doesn't break up and come out near as easily or efficiently as healthy lungs.
Just remember- smoking is NEVER cool. Never has been, never will be. You would look just as cool smoking as you would jumping off a bridge. We all know that jumping off a bridge is stupid, and far be it from cool, don't we?
As for your friends wanting you to smoke, don't. Honestly? A real friend wouldn't encourage you to do so. A real friend wouldn't want you to risk your health, even your life, to look "cool." Yah, they may be nice 99% of the time, but they aren't being nice by wanting you to obtain such a gross and dangerous habit as smoking cigarettes.
Besides, smoking because someone else thinks you should makes you a follower. Don't be a follower- be a leader. If you don't lead others, at least be an individual who decides for herself. You will be a far better person for it, and you will lead a much happier, healthy life.
When they try to offer you a cigarette, you don't have to be rude. Just politely decline. "I'm sorry, I don't smoke and don't care to start."
In fact, you may want to think about encouraging them to quit. Don't pressure them about it- you know from this experience what it feels like to be pressured by your friends- but let them know you care about them and their health enough to try to ensure they are educated on the facts about smoking.
Don't think I'm being a jerk or a hard ass. I'm just telling you the absolute truth. Like I said, I know- I am a smoker.
Ok so i like this boy and his name is Justice! i am madly in love with him but he has a girlfriend he is madly in love with. I wanna brake them up but he loves her almost as much as i love him (which is saying alot). he said if they ever brake up he'd go out with me. but recently he told me he thinks of me as a sis! i am so sad and don't know if they brake up if he would go out with me ! i don't want to ask him again cause he might get mad! What do I do?
Honestly, considering his feelings, if you really care about him as much as you say you do, then you would want him to be happy, weather it be with you, or the girlfriend he is mad for.
Breaking them up for your own personal gain would be breaking his heart in the process. We don't deliberately hurt or break the hearts of those we love and care about.
Is it really worth that to you? I certainly hope not.
okay well one of my best friends is 12. she is one of the youngest people in the 7th grade. & she's like a complete whore. she's going out with a 16 year old & she likes to make out. she has made out like 7 times. one time it was a girl & one time it was with a girl & a guy. also, these people she's making out with are 4-5 years older than her. when she was 11, she made out with a 15 year old. she doesn't think there's anything wrong with the way she's acting. i'm really getting worried about her because i don't want her to end up pregnant by age 15. she has promised me she wont do this anymore but she always talks about how she LOVES making out. its disgusting. i've seen her make out. she does it all the time right in front of me.
so i have two questions. one, is this normal? & two, what can i do to help her?
Is it normal? I honestly can't say. I know that kids didn't act that way when I was that age, but much has changed since then. It's been 17 years since I was a 12 year old girl.
How can you help her? You can't change her. You can't make her do what is right, or what you think is right. She chooses to be this way. She doesn't care what others think of her. (That isn't a bad thing, if you ask me. I don't care what others think of me, and that has made my life happy.) Those are her choices, and it seems as though she is happy with her decisions. You can't stop that.
What you can do is watch out for her. Like the person below me said, don't let her get involved with someone 18 or older. She is only 12, and someone that old would be committing a crime to involve themselves with someone so young as your friend. In that situation, you would do like they said, tell her parents, or some other adult who can take care of the problem.
Other than that, it is her life to lead. It is her life to potentially mess up, too. If she becomes pregnant at 15, it is a consequence to her actions. We all hope that she doesn't have children at such a young age, but we can't stop it, either.
She has to want to change her behavior, and she has to change it for herself. There is nothing you could say, or that I, or anyone else, can tell you to say to make her change.
That doesn't mean you can't stop trying to convince her to stop. It doesn't mean you can't be a good, supportive friend when she gets hurt or gets herself into a situation that is well beyond her years.
Keep caring about her and hope for the best. That is mostly all you can do right now.
okay so ive had this boyfriend for 3 1/2 months and i love him to death. he can make me smile like no other & we have the best times together. well we got in this fight tuesday night & he didnt speak to me all day wedenseday. finally i call him DURING my tennis match & am like "you ethier stil want to be with me or not" & hes like "i dont know right now." & im like "make up your mind & if you dont have an answer when i hang up im gonna assume were over and go on with it." & he said "go ahead." so i did. anyways he messaged me on myspace the other night saying he still loves me like he did & cares for me he is just stil so mad at me and cant be with someone who wont listen to him or ignores him & hes having it rough at home right now & its not a good time. okay i didnt listen once & once again i was at my tennis match & couldnt exactly be the best listener right then. anywayss i texted him saturday asking if he wanted to do somethin before i leave for spring break & hes like "sorry i already got plans to go to a party with randi." so randi is suppose to be "just a friend" yet he rather hang wit her then me. & i was really upset so he texted me asking if i wa s okay. & i said "i will be." & he said whats wrong and i put "dont worry about it. it dont matter anymore. i realized im wasting my time." he replied "you know im not expecting you just to sit at home and wait on me you have a life live it." that made me so mad. like i want to be with him so bad & i thought he still wanted to be with me but then now i dont know. what do i do?? like everyone tells me i can do so much better. even though he says "he can get any girl and im lucky he chose me." wth?! 1st off not many ppl want a guy wwith a mohawk! but thats off subject. should i hold on & wait for him or let him go?
sorry so long, thanks for reading.
All I know is that if you still want to be with this guy, you need to sit down and talk to him. Find out exactly why it is that he thinks you don't listen or that you ignore him. You may be doing it and don't even realize.
Big word of advice- Never have such conversations over the phone, internet, or text messages. You need to talk about this face to face.
so my ex boyfriend and i still flirt, and talk about having sex, but we are joking because i have a new boyfriend and I am happy, but do u guys have any flirty things that i could say. Or a way to jokingly hint sex?
Thanks
Uh... you have a boyfriend. You should be saying these things to him, not your ex. If you are happy with your boyfriend, then you need to stop this ridiculous behavior with other guys.
Sorry, but that is the truth.
in the movie the hills have eyes why are all the manikins in the town?
Because it was a test site for bombs like nuclear bombs. Recall all the craters in the ground when the guy found all of the abandoned cars? Those craters were caused by the bombs.
The town with all of the mannequins was a test town. They had these test towns set up in a way that people live, such as the kid on the swing. They wanted to see how the bombing would effect a civilized area- what gets destroyed, what gets burnt, what gets poisoned by contaminates such as radiation, and any other damage that can be caused to the population by such bombing.
In the movie, they made all of the people move from the town so they could make it into a test town. The people that lived there were all mutated because they refused to leave, and were exposed to contaminates.
Yes, our government used to do these tests. I want to say this happened in the 1950's, maybe 1960's. They made people move from their homes and made test towns.
What makes the movie so scary is that people like them could exist- it isn't impossible, unlike movie characters like Freddy Kruger. Not saying that people like that DO exist, but it isn't impossible.
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15/m/vancouver, canada
my older brother(17) is physically abusive of me, he throws stuff at me, punches me, kicks me, and pulls my hair and i really dont know why he does it. i cant tell my parents about it because my grandmother is on his side and shell just deny everything that i say, my sisters wont do anything about it either because they dont want to get punished. im really getting sick of this, physically and mentally. my parents wont belive me even if i show them the bruises, my grandmother just tells them that im a clutz and everything and that its nothing to worry about. i dont want to run away from home because its illegal. i really want to stay with my family and i know that if i get a restraining order from him theyd basically just banish me. i cant get emancipated because i have no job, and i dont want to go to a foster home. i need an escape from my hectic life at home, but im scared. what should i do?
Abuse is a crime. Your brother needs help with his problem, or he may find himself in a lot of trouble if he abuses others once he enters society as an adult.
If your parents refuse to listen to you and your grandmother allows it to go on, then they aren't protecting you from abuse. It is their JOB to protect you from harm, and they aren't doing their job.
You could always talk to child protective services (surely they have that in Canada?) or you can talk to the police. Those may not be steps you really want to take, but you should NEVER put up with abuse. You don't deserve to be treated that way by ANYONE.
Also, if your sisters are afraid to tell the truth out of fear of being punished for it, then there must be more problems in your home than just your brother's behavior.
I am going to Alton Towers with my friends on the weekend but my parents wont let me go up in the car so i have said that i am going up on the train, but they want to see the train tickets and even take me to the train station but ive said that i am sleeping up my friends house and then we going to the train station together but really im going up in the car, what can i do to get around this i need help!!!
Umm... You tell them the truth. So sorry, but that is the only way around it. You shouldn't lie to them. Lying is BAD NEWS.
Think of it this way- what if you got into a car accident on the way there or back? Gee... your parents think you are cruising on a train; they have no idea what so ever that you are in a car... Yah, the authorities would contact them if you were in a car accident, but that is not the point.
When your parents allow you to go on a trip, you need to give them the respect of knowing where you are going, where you will be staying, who you are staying and going with, and how you are getting there. See, that is how you keep their trust in you. Once you lose trust, it is very hard to regain it.
Besides, when they have to find out you lied by a source other than you, best of luck to you on being trusted to go on a trip like this again.
Does anyone know how you can make your hair light? Not the light as in the colour but make my hair not feel so heavy?
You can have your hair thinned out at your salon. I have very thick and heavy hair and have had this done before. You would be amazed how light your hair feels after getting it thinned out.