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i just asked a question about the guy i like but know that i think about it i feel its weird for a mixed girl (black and white) to go out with a white guy. is it weird? im afraid what people would say or how they would look at me. it worries me. im afraid people would talk about me and him. im getting very uncomfortable. is this weird?

Why would it be weird? You're both HUMAN aren't you? And if you can't go out with white guys, then by the same "logic" you wouldn't be able to go out with black guys--so who would you go out with? Don't worry about what other people think. Dating isn't about race, it's about two people who like each other. It's your business and only your business. You might get weird looks, which is really sad especially now when we're supposedly above things like that, but try your best to ignore them. Those kind of people don't matter.

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I need some good things to write in people's yearbooks. I want funny, sentimental, memorable. I will rate high for good answers.

Thanks.

Nobody can really tell you what to write. Write whatever you want to say to the person you're saying it to. It has to be personal. I can't tell you what's sentimental for you or what you remember, or even what you find funny. I'm sorry, but that's my best answer, and you'll probably get a lot of similar ones.

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recently I've noticed I have a small pimple-ish thing near/on my vagina. I'm positive it's not razorburn or anything of that sort. But none the less I'm still worried. im only 16 so i dont want to ask my parents about it. I've never been involved in any sexual activity so it couldnt be STDs. im worried still, any ideas/suggestions?

It's probably just an ingrown hair. I wouldn't worry about it.

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does anyone know what kind off dog this is?

It looks to me like Chihuahua/Beagle mix. I'm probably wrong about the beagle, but as others have said it's definitely part chihuahua.

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i have a blog but i haven't posted anything in it because i don't know what to write about! i mean i started to talk about my day, but nothing exciting really happens i mean who wants to read about how i learned about fractions in math? does anyone have ideas on what i could post? please don't say my life cause my life is BORING.
also, i dont want to write about my life cause i want my friends to visit my blog and i act unlike myself around them so if they read what the real me is like they will think i am weird.

Write stories! They can be original stories or fanfiction. Just write whatever you imagine. Even if you're not that good, believe me you will get better with time. You may even make some writing friends, which is always great because they can give you tips on how to improve your skills.

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I'm a girl, and I act like a guy a lot. I also hang around guys all the time..literally. This girl and her friends always ask me, "Are you gay? I think you're gay." And I say something like, "Liking guy things does not determine which gender I like!" And I even called her a fat b*tch (she is fat). She just won't stop.

What do I do?

Say, "Yes. I am gay. Got a problem with that?" (Yes, even if it's not true!) and just move on. Honestly, getting angry at her and calling her names isn't going to solve anything. That just shows that she's getting to you. Smile, laugh it off, and show her that she DOESN'T bother you. It's not you she cares about anyway, it's her own insecurities. There's really nothing else you CAN do about it.

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Does anyone know any good journal icon sites?

I make icons. If you want anything specific, just let me know. I'll be happy to make one for you.

You can contact me at my livejournal: http://community.livejournal.com/spaz0rific/

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Ok, so I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have together for a good solid 7 months. We're sexually active, but trust me when I say that our relationship is about more than just sex. We respect eachother and this is the first relationship I've had that really means something to me. I'm not positive if I'm 'in love' but it sure comes close.
So, we've had sex maybe 8 or 10 times since we lost our virginity to each other a couple months ago. At first, I was totally "I'm ALWAYS going to use protection!" but we've gone a few times without (but we've made SURE to pull out). I know that that there are still SO many risks but I thought we were being careful. Well the more I've been thinking about it (and it's been increasing lately) the more I think I might be pregnant! The thought alone totally freaks me out!! I'm adopted and my birthmother had her first child at age 13 and me at 15 and I've always promised to myself not to follow in her footsteps. I've been researching everything online and I havn't had any of the 'earliest signs of pregnancy' EXCEPT for my missed period which was supposed to come yesterday but I've had missed/late periods before. Apart from that I havn't been bloated or tender anywhere and I don't know if it's just paranoia, but my stomache's been looking a little "poochy" lately. The last time we had unprotected sex was maybe 2-3 weeks ago but again, he pulled out wayy before he came.
I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE HELP!!
-kbabe

Just because you've missed your period doesn't mean anything. It could be just a little off, or it could be stress from worrying about being pregnant. Don't worry about it unless you go a very long time without your period, and you show other symptoms. But never, ever do the "pulling out" thing again. Guys can pre-ejaculate and not ever notice it, and there is sperm in that. It's more than having a lot of risks--it NEVER works. If you keep doing that, you eventually will get pregnant. Please, for your sake, get on the pill. But for now, just come down, stop being so stressed. You're most likely fine.

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Hello..
My husband and I have been married for 6 months. We both are vigins and we are in our early 20's.
We have tried to have sex but everytime we try I experience severe pain and we stop. We tried lubricant but that didn't help either.
Please help! Is there any methods?

You're probably just really tight. Maybe he could try using his finger first, so that you can get used to the feeling. If it's really too much, you should probably see a doctor. It could be a bigger problem than you think.

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Okay, how do you get your chest bigger without implants or creams and stuff like that?
13/f

You wait it out. You're only thirteen. It may not seem like it, but you are still growing. Try on a shirt that you don't quite fill out. In a year, try it on again. You'll see the difference.

But if you don't grow, don't worry. You know how they say the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence? The same thing goes for boobs. When I was younger, I wanted a bigger chest. Now, it's very hard for me to find a comfortable sleeping position because my breasts get in the way. I can't run because they bounce everywhere. And they didn't even get me a boyfriend! They're really quite a ripoff.

Just don't worry about it. The boobs don't make the woman, and anyway, you still have plenty of time.

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I'm 13/f and have the most "gorgeous" bedroom. or so my mother says. it's all matchy matchy and looks like it could be in one of those design magazines, because my mom is an interior designer. but i don't like it, its too stuffy! What are some easy ways to update my room? i want it to be like a teen chill out place. and where can i get these things? thanx! xoxo alicia

It depends on what you like. I have a lot of Asian posters in my room, because that's what I'm into. But someone else might have medieval art, or black and white photos, or a band. Wal Mart and FYE Music have a lot of posters. You could make pillows. In the craft section of Wal Mart they sell these fabric scraps. I have pillows that are plaid on one side and floral on the other. You don't have to do it all at once. My room took me years to perfect, and that's the way I like it because I would just get things when I saw them. Next time you're at the mall, just look around. You never know when you're going to find a nice lamp or a poster. You could also get bookcases, or a CD holder, or something like that. I don't know if you have a Mill Store in your area, but I really love their stuff. You might hate all of these suggestions, and that's fine. But just look around for things you like that you can put in your room. You have many years of being a teenager ahead of you, so like I said, don't rush it.

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I'm having my wedding dress made in a few weeks, and I need to quickly lose some weight! It was suggested to me to do a high protien diet. What are some good high protein foods i can eat to help me drop the pounds?

Stay off the bread and sugar, and just have meat and vegetables.

Though I should warn you--if you go back to your normal diet afterwards, you're going to gain even more back. With a high protein diet, you have to stay with it, or else it isn't effective. I highly suggest staying with it though, since it's much healthier than what most people eat and it'll probably save you from diabetes, among other serious conditions. If you don't cheat at all, you'll definitely lose weight over the next few weeks. But you need to exercise too. And don't forget the vegetables! They're very important.

Meat and vegetables do get kind of boring though. Hm. You can't have tacos on one of these diets, but you could make a meatloaf (without bread) and use taco sauce, and put cheese on it. I had that last week, and it's very good. There are other recipes, too. Be creative.

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ok well today i went to eat thai food for the first time and i loved it!! we had desert called sticky rice and thats like my fav now! but i want to make it here at home.. does anyone know how?? and my friend said its better with mango or something... can someone tell me step by step how to make it bc websites just confuse me... thanks

It's actually a different kind of rice that you have to buy. It's hard to find in regular stores, you'll probably have to go to an Asian supermarket. And it might be under "glutinous rice". But once you have it, you just cook it and it sticks together! You should definitely make rice balls with it--they're fun and delicious.

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O wow.... okay me and my best friend went to the water park and we saw these really cute guys from our school and we started talking to them and then me and my friend went ahead of the boys and suddenly oneof the boys called by friend back with them and they whistpered somehting and they looked at me... i had no clue what was going on so i just stood there and then mi friend told me i had BLOOD on the swim shorts!!! AHHH!! i had started my period and i didnt know it and the oys pointed it out! i am soo embarresed how do i talk to theses guys again without being embarresed

You need to laugh at yourself. This kind of thing happens. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If they bring it up, laugh along with them. If not, and you're all sitting around talking about funny memories, bring it up like, "Remember that time I got my period...blah blah blah." Nothing good is going to come of ignoring it. Even if you don't think it's funny, laughing about it will help you see that in a way, it sort of is. Make up a character in your mind, and picture the same thing happening to her. You'll probably find it funny. Laughing at yourself really helps--if you don't take things seriously, they're no longer a big deal.

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I wanna lose weight (no this question does NOT ask how!). So I told my friends and they said that the way they lose weight is to go on an "all you can drink" diet. They said it's where you can drink anything you want at any time but you absolutely cannot eat anything. The only things that you can't drink are milkshakes, coke floats, alcohol, things like slim fast, and soda (unless it's diet).

Is this unhealthy? So far today I haven't eaten anything and I've drunk diet Dr. Pepper and Gatorade.

Yes, it's extremely unhealthy. You need food! Food has things in it that make you healthy! In fact, vegetables actually make you lose weight. Dr. Pepper and Gatorade have NOTHING in them. Just drinking and not eating is basically the same as anorexia, which I'm sure you've heard of. All you need to do is eat healthy goods, drink lots of water, and exercise. This "all you can drink" thing is just going to hurt you.

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im not just here for the rating. Wehn you ask a question and you give the honest answer and you answer the question they asked. Why do they rate you a one.? Is there anything to do about them rating you a one when you deserved something like a four or a five?

You can report them, but if that doesn't work, you can delete your answer. The rating will be deleted with it.

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Is making out with another guy cheating?????????

Yes.

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Whats the difference between anorexia and bulimia?

arent they technically the same thing because either way you aren't getting food into you system?

and which one would cause the worst effects to your body?

They're not the same thing, that's why they have different names. Anorexia is starving yourself. Bulimia is eating a LOT of food and throwing it up. Hm...which one's worse...that's a tough one. I have to say, they're both equally bad, both physically and mentally.

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my uncle's german shepered bit me and i have a big bruise do i have a rabies? cause my uncle said he got complete rabies shots so i dont have to worry but my friends and my PE teacher said that i have to go to the doctor im confused
and my mom doesnt know that my uncle's dog bit me
by the way the dog bit me in 05/9/2006 and
i washed my wound after he bit me it didnt break my skin that much and no blood at all.

You're most likely fine. You just have a bruise from the bite. The dog wasn't foaming at the mouth or anything, right? Although your PE teacher is correct--you really should go to the doctor anytime you've been bitten by an animal. It's your call, though. If you went to the doctor they're just going to ask you, "Did you know the animal? Did it have rabies shots? Was it foaming at the mouth? etc." I know because I had to do it once. If you say the dog had his shots and wasn't foaming at the mouth, they'll most likely say that there's nothing to worry about.

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