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My boyfriend and I are about to go to college together. We have been dating for almost a year and I just want to know how I can keep it together during college. BEcause I know there will be alot of temptation.

It depends on what school you go to, if it's a party school or not, stuff like that. And how committed you are to each other. If you're going to the same school it will be a lot easier to hold each other accountable in the relationship.

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does anyone know when most colleges put their applications online? all the ones i want to apply to haven't put the 2007 one up yet and i want to get started on them soon.

Usually the fall before... so like if you wanted to apply for the fall semester 2007, you could probably apply as soon as late fall 2006.

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If you run away and get caught, what kind of trouble could you get in?

Your parents would probably ground you for the rest of your childhood.

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My boyfriend and i recently got into a huge fight (again). It started because he was joking about buying cars, then said he would by me a hummer. He completely ignored the fact that my cousin was killed by one only 2 years ago. He claimed that he didnt know about it, but we've been together for almost 14months now, its almost impossible that i never told him. anyway, from there he got really pissed off at me and everything hes been mad at me for started coming out. He told me that he hates that im working full time, going to summer school, and preparing for my moms wedding that is in 8 days. His biggest complaint about them was that i have no time for him. He also told me that he doesnt want me hanging out with people from work. (we worked till 3 am one night then went out to denny's for food) He kept saying things like "i do so much for you, i always make time for you, i try to please you so much and i get nothing back" which is a total exaggeration. At that point i asked him, do you want me to quit my job? drop out of summer school? im not asking you to please me, i just hoped you'd love me. Then he said the big line, "I dont know how to love you"

What do i say to that? how am i suppose to react to him now?

we havnt talked for a week. he keeps going on about how much of a wreck he is, but ive been crying every night. I realize that we are both at fault for this, but i dont know how im supposed to feel about hearing that after he told me he loves me so many times before..

Now that you two have had a week to cool off by not talking to each ohter, confront him about "not knowing how to love you". Ask him what he meant by that. As for the hummer thing, maybe you didn't tell him and if you did then maybe he forgot. One of my boyfriends said something mean about people with diabetes once because he forgot that my mom has it. When I told him later that it pissed me off that he said that he was really really sorry and kind of embarressed because he forgot about my mom having it. When he started freaking out about all the things that were bothering him, alot of people do that, especially boys. I for one do. When something is bothering you and you get an opportunity to talk about it with someone, you start feeling shitty from everything else that's bothering you and freak out about that too. So give him grace for that because maybe that's just how he talks about things that are bugging him.

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Hello, I have two hickies from my boyfriend and I really really don't want my parents to see them, I try putting on make up but can totally see I'm wearing a bunch of make up and you can still kinda see the hickes!! Any tip to make them go away faster??

Yeah I hate that about hickies too...there's nothing you can do to make them go away. Just try to cover them up and wait it out. Sorry I didn't help at all but there really isn't any way to make them go byebye.

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Tonight I am going to the movies with four of my freinds. One of them is a girl, my best freind, and the otehr three are guys. The one guy, lets call him Tim, has been freaking me out. He's always liek I dreamed about you last night and we were hooking up and going out. And I'm thinking of you, I love you xo. And like, I bet you are good at hooking up. And I jsut don't like it. So tonight I am worried he will try and sit next to me and like try to make a move. There will be other girls there who I'm not exactly freinds with. What should I do? Ignore him? Or what?

Get your girl friend and one of the guy friends that you trust to sit on either side of you or sit at the end of the row with your girl friend on the other side. That way he won't be able to bug you.

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Ok, well I had this boyfriend for a few months. He was my perfect guy, the type I've always dreamed about, my dream guy. In that amount of time, we went through alot together and I came as close to loving him as I've come to anyone ever (you know, in that way). Well, a whole lot of crap happened and he broke up with me and I still miss him like every day. I've been out and about alot and my girls have been like wicked supportive but it's been a few weeks and I still cry about it every day. I can't stop thinking about him or anything and I feel pathetic. So how can I get up and move past him?

If you really really cared for him or even loved him like it sounds like you did, it's only natural for you to still be upset over him even a few weeks after you broke up. Stay busy and hang out with your girl friends alot and try to think about yourself and what you need right now, more than you need him.

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My bff has not started her period and won't be starting it until another 2 years or so, (thats the expected time because her mom had her period at the age of 15)Anyways she is 12 going on 13, she as well as I are being pressured into sex by people from our school, from girls as well as guys saying its feels good e.t.c.,But i'm waiting til i'm married. She wants to have sex with her boyfriend and she said she won't get pregnant because she doesn't have her period yet.And I have been told you can only get pregnant if you have your period. Is that true? Can she avoid pregnancy since she don't have her period?I'm sorry this is long its just she's only 12 and I don't want her to get pregnant.Please help!Any advice or ideas would help!!

Woah 12 and she wants to have sex already? Oh my gosh. Tell her she's seriously going to regret it if she loses her virginity at such a young age. Tell her how you feel about all of this.

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I am 13 and I still don't have a boyfriend. All my friends have boyfriends and I sometimes feel left out. I also go to and all girls' school so I don't really know alot of guys. But I go to dances and dance with guys. Please help me be flirty and likeable.

Be yourself and smile alot. If boys aren't attracted to you for who you are then screw them. And guess what? Alot of girls don't get into their first relationship until they're fifteen or sixteen. Don't let not having a boyfriend make you jealous of others or keep you from having fun!

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About a month ago, i just got out of one of my first serious relationships. During that relationshipp i was stressed with school and friends because me &my boy ajhungouteveryday and i started to lose friends. Everytime i tried to make sometime for my friends me and aj would get into a hugee fight, but dont get me wrong we were just soo in love. Well i guess we were atleast, i knew i was. We broke up once i balled my eyes out, then we got back together things were going AMAZING. then one day when he came home from vacation we were supposed to hang out but i was staying with a friend cause my parents were away, so i told him we could chill with my friend for like an hour then go back to his house. He gets all mad we get into this huge fight about how he says i dont care about him, when i really did. We broke up and havent talked much since then and then two weeks after he gets back with the girl he was with before me. So anyways, im still in love with the kid, and im wondering if he is too cause it always seems like hes trying to make me jealous, plus everything he once said to me in our relationship like i love you so much baby no one can ever compare and a bunch of other thigs like that. Well from a past experience, ive learned to move on so i did. I like this kid, and last night we hooked up. Afterwards, first thing that can to my mind was aj. How am i ever supposed to be with another guy or move on when all i see is aj.. i need help or advice pleasee! & thank you=/

I know how it feels to need someone and for them to not be there for you. It's really hard. I don't really have much advice, just that I understand what you're going through and that, well, if he's trying to make you jealous he isn't worth your time.

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I know that when you are younger. Guys tease girls if they like them. Is it still the same way in your upper teens.?

It depends on the guy, how they act and how mature they are.

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i hav a bf and hes rly sweet and nice, but i like neva get to see him cuz he lives in another town. wenever i go someplace and see a cute guy i always wanna flirt. is that bad since i already hav a bf? and since i wanna flirt wit otha ppl, does that mean i dont really like my bf as much as i thought?

You're just seeking affection in other places because you never see him.

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Ok well my boyfriend is 3 years older then me and hes in high school and i'm in my first year of middle school. And my boyfriend goes to a different school. I just worried he's going to find a girl his age at his school an fall in love wiht her and leave me! I dont know what to do. I dont want to bring this up to him because he might consiter ending the relationship with me. Becasue i have had so many problems with the age thing. Please help me!

My last boyfriend was 3 years older than me and I worried about the same thing. He was just out of high school and I was a junior/sophmore(ish...I'm homeschooled). I was always worried that he would find someone his age and perfect for him. Ask him if, were he to get the chance to, would he date someone his age if it were more conveinient. If the answer is yes, dump his ass.

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I am way too vain. I worry all the time about whether I'm pretty or not. It's ridiculous, and I know it. How do I stop worrying about the way I look so much?

Throw away your makeup and hair products and all the mirrors you own. There ya go.

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my cat wont stop pooping in the corner! what do i do!

Kill it.

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Ok its me with my boyfriend problem again! You know the one when my boyfriends 3 years older then me! Well all my aunts know now. And im so embarresed! And all my aunts were and still are really good friends with my boyfrineds mom. Now like my whole family knows! And barely any 1 in his family knows about me. All the people my age that know me are just finding out! And some are refusing it. Some say it's not true! I dont know what to do! I really love him but i'm not sure it will work out. And one more thing his little brother is my age and we are only teens and so is my boyfriend. But remember he is 3 years older. Should i stay with him or dump him because i could get a really bad reputation in my family and friends?

It's freaky how much I can relate to you on this. The last guy I dated was 3 years older than me and all my friends and family had a problem with that. Basically, if you really really like him or even love him, stay with him. Your family and friends will see that, if you're happy with him, they should be happy for you. Things will get better, trust me. If you ever need to talk about older boyfriends with anybody, I'm the person to talk to haha.

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What can I do to be more well-liked?
I don't want to change who I am, I just want
to bring out a more positive side of me :)

Try to be a bit more of an extrovert. Speak your mind more, bring out the unique qualities of your personality, be a little more friendly. It's a little hard to do if you're shy but you'll get more courage as you learn to be yourself around others.

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Sorry this is long. This guy Mike and I have been going out for 3 months and I feel like it might be time to end it. He won't go any farther with me since he really respects me, but I've told him to and had my guy friends talk to him about it. (We've been to first and some of 2nd .. but never under the shirt) It's making me feel like there's something wrong with me. Yesterday he said "I love you" to me which he's only said online before. He's starting to be the more romantic person in our relationship and I'm the one that wants something physical lol. There's also the problem of how often I see him. He's at his dads a lot during the week & has to go down the shore with his mom during the weekends sometimes. I really do like him, don't get me wrong & I feel horrible because I want to end it with him. I know that if I do end it, I'll want to get back with him. What should I do? - Thanks

If you know that you'll just want to be with him again after you end it, don't do it. As for the physical things, hold onto this kid. If he's telling you he loves you and not demanding a lot of fooling around, that's like a one in a million guy. His feelings are probably totally deep and not at all altered by physical actions. And he might just not be ready to go far physically. Let him take his time. Besides, only being together three months and wanting to get more physical is moving a little too fast if you ask me. But that's just my opinion. Hope I helped.

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My friend Tracee has had a couple boys this past year. I have not really, but I am not jealous. I don't try to get guys to like me because I haven't really found anyone I really like this past year. Thing is, I've heard that she's been saying stuff behind my back about it. That supposedly like no boys like me and I have no "expierence" and I don't know guys at al she supposedly said to my one friend. Like, if I don't care about it, why does she? Should I say something or let it go?

Tell her how you just haven't found anyone worth pursuing yet and that you won't pursue anyone until you're sure you really like them because you don't want to get hurt. Having "experience" doesn't matter because it's not like, "oh, I've given someone a hand job, let's check that off my list of experience!" No, it's not. You wait until you find the right person to give your emotional and physical self to. You're totally making the right choices and if she's got a problem with it, that's dumb. Tell her how you feel about what she's been saying. Don't let her get away with that crap.

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Okay, just to start things off, in the youth group I am in, there is absolutely NO DATING allowed. [and don't worry, it makes sense]

Well, i was talking on AIM last night to one of really good friends and his cousin in a chat room. They invited me to a Flyleaf concert at the end of the month, just out of the blue. I don't know, it just would kind of seem awkward...But I reallllllly wanna go because they are both my friends and such. I think that some of the girls in our youth group might be jealous [they are good looking].

and, I think my mom will be a little freaked out if I said, "Hey, can I go with two 16-17 year old guys to a flyleaf concert?"
My mom doesn't know either of them, but she knows that I can trust them and all.

I don't know what to do at all. Help?
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A Flyleaf concert? You are one lucky ducky, I love Flyleaf!! Anyway, to me it doesn't really sound like a serious downright date or whatever. Just hanging out and going to a concert with some of your guy friends. But in the end, it is up to your parents, unfortunately.

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