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I have been feeling super jealous lately. I don't know why, I'm not usually like this. It all started when my boyfriend said he was going to get drinks with co-workers after work last friday. Most of them women. And I just didn't like that he was going without me. (I work late and couldn't go) What's more is that he didn't even tell me he was going until I asked him to do something after work. Also he carpools with this girl, who almost never pays him gas money, and I find out that she went to the bar after work two Fridays ago, and he bought her nearly $30 in drinks.
Anyways, I told him that I really dont like what's happening and I would prefer he doesn't go for drinks after work. Carpooling is one thing but alcohol doesn't need to be involved. And he said in a nutshell, too bad you need to trust me. Like, I do trust him but what he's doing makes me so uncomfortable, and he just thinks I'm overreacting.
Btw, I'm 21 my bf is 24. Together 5 years.
I need some advice here. Should I be feeling like this? Am I overreacting? Or am I right to feel this way? I just don't know. (link)
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I agree with GiddyGeezer and Rahzie.
Even though you would prefer him not to go out drinking, it's isn't your choice to make and if you can't deal with that, then he's probably not the right guy for you.
BUT, how he handled it was wrong. "Too bad, you need to trust me" isn't how you talk to your girlfriend when you disagree with her.
I also agree with Rahzie that he shouldn't be buying her drinks. It definitely could mean nothing, but it sends out the wrong message and out of respect for you, he shouldn't do that.
You need to sit down and talk to him. I'm sure you realize that he makes his own choices and he wouldn't cheat on you. Tell him that you understand that, but sometimes you need reassurance and not to be told that your feelings are wrong. If he goes out, out of respect for you, not to buy other girls drinks even if it's completely innocent.
If he blows this conversation off, then it doesn't seem like he has much respect for you.
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Ok so I'm just gonna summarize everything.
1. There's someone that texted my ex's girlfriend something really foul and she thinks it was me.
2. I barely know her so why would she accuse me.
3. She's stupid for not analyzing the situation and jumping into conclusions and start a fight.
4. She recently posted a status that really offended me. I was tagged in the post.
5. She's really popular so I don't know how to deal with her.
6. But she's only strong when there are a lot of people with her.
7. She's stupid for not finding out who it really was texting her.
8. (Not related to topic but my ex looks like Rango)
I'm so sorry if you don't get that but, here is my one specific question. If she tags me in another post(there'll probably be millions more) or tries to embarrass me in public at our school, what are things I can say to tick her off and let her 'embarrass me' plan backfire? (link)
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I think the only thing you can do that'll make her stop or make her mad would be to not react. Don't freak out and act like her because that's what she wants.
How does she tag you? Are you friends with her on Facebook or something? If so, I have no idea why you are lol. That would be another step.
You just need to act like the bigger person and everyone will realize she's the immature one.
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Hi, I'm a 15yr old girl ,from the U.S.A ,but i live in India.
I'm extremely confused about boys in general, Last year, i was friends with this guy and I didn't know he liked me ,because i'm very oblivious, when he asked me, whether I liked him, I got nervous and said no ,because my best friend liked him too. Ever since then, he hasn't talked to me ,but keeps staring at me and I DON'T KNOW WHY? One day, in English class our teacher, paired us up together and he still refuse to talk to me, and still the next day he kept staring at me! So, does he like me or hate me? (link)
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I agree with missundersmock. It sounds like he likes you.
So just tell him the truth. He's probably just embarrassed or feels awkward and doesn't know what to say to you.
Be brave and take the next step! You won't regret it.
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I have a boyfriend of over one year and I love him but I may be developing feelings for my guy best friend? He's so funny and understands me on another level. He never fails to cheer me up and no matter how irritated I get I always want to be there for him. The problem is I feel the same way for both my boyfriend and my bestfriend. I've obviously lived through a lot more with my boyfriend, but my friend is something else. But why should I risk such an amazing relationship? And why is that even crossing my mind. My boyfriend is such Ana amazig guy and deserves nothing but the best. But so does me best friend😠god I don't know what to do, every passing day everything becomes harder. I can stare I to my best friends eyes even if the feelings aren't corresponded. Am I in love with two guys? (link)
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I disagree with the other advisers.
You can date someone you aren't best friends with. There's nothing wrong with it. They do eventually become your best friend. Not every guy best friend you have is going to be your true love.
Whenever you date, you get to know them and eventually yes, they'll become your best friend.
The part I disagree with missundersmock is keeping your best friend on the side until you and your boyfriend break up. That's an awful thing to do. You don't just keep people on the side. People aren't plan b.
So my advice would be to take a break away from both of them. You need to figure out how you really feel about both of them and what you really want. You obviously can't have both.
If after that short break you realize that you would rather be with your best friend, then do that. If you'd rather be with your boyfriend, then stay with him. If you want to be with your boyfriend, take some time away from your friend to get your feelings together.
It's not fair to your boyfriend.
So just take some time and think about what you want and need and go from there.
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15/f
I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and we used a condom but after a little bit the condom slipped off and we didn't notice but when we did we stopped immediately and put one on. Can there still be a big chance of pregnancy? He had already cummed before we had sex & didn't cum during or after sex is there still a big chance of me being pregnant? (link)
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There is a chance of pregnancy.
I'd suggest taking plan b just in case. If it's been before 72 hours, you'll be able to take it. If it's after, then it won't work.
If you're going to continue having sex, I'd suggest getting on birth control. You don't want accidents like this happening again.
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I wrote a question about a week ago about me begging for my ex to stay well he didn't and i tried to move on but he called me on monday apologizing after a week of being broken up and trying to make things work. I thought he seemed so sincere and we talked and I thought things were going to change. Well the next day he didn't call during his lunch break so I asked why and he just said I figured you were busy. Even though when I am busy he always calls anyways and blows up my phone until I answer. So of course I was a little upset and just told him it's no big deal forget it. He then text me saying "sorry I bothered". which pretty much meant sorry he bothered to even try to talk to me again... I'm so confused why would he apologize and spend hours talking about things we needed to work on just to break it off again the next day? He promised he wouldn't hurt me again.. I guess he lied about that too. (link)
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Same question to where he moved on really fast and had a new girlfriend or something? He didn\'t want to take you back after you begged?
It\'s not very surprising that he gave up this fast again. I mean he did it before.
He doesn\'t care THAT much about you. I mean he likes you to an extent, might just want to keep you around because it\'s familiar but if it takes any more effort, he\'s out.
So I think you should just let this one go and find a guy who can actually fight for you and not back out with things get tough.
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Ok so i need advice so me and my gf been together for bout 3 years well on and off and we have a beautiful 2 year old son i love him to death well me and gf have talked about getting married and etc.. but i feel da same way but idk like we argue a hell of alot and she dont trust me and i dont trust her but its not really dat i recently talked to my ex that i dated in 2009 to 2011 and we was sooo in love but it was long distance so we never seen each other in person but we video chatted all da time so now that i got a good job and able to pay for da trip see her now and idk what to to be honest she was da only girl i ever trusted and she knew better den anybody and we had so much in common but now all i think about is what if i had seen her just once in person how wud it been like wen i talked to her tonight we both just lit up and just talked bout how we used to be and we broke up cause we was far away but i wanna know if i should go or not like i know if i tell my gf she just gonna get emotional but i just wanr this thought to be gone out my head please help (link)
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You have to realize that you can only have one.
If you love your girlfriend, I\'d say try and fix it. You have a child with her, and you at least owe that to the kid.
There is couples counseling to help fix whatever problems with trust and arguing you have.
You also should realize that if you go on this trip to visit your ex, there isn\'t a chance with your current girlfriend. I doubt she\'ll wait around for you to visit your ex to see who you\'d rather be with. No girl would.
So think through what you really want. You might just be missing your ex because your current situation isn\'t that great. So try fixing the problems, if it\'s not meant to be, then it\'s just not.
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So me and and my boyfriend haven't been dating for too long but he always makes me feel so special. Almost all the dates we've been on he makes me flowers with yarn (he crouché's) and the other night he planned a whole night about me to make me feel special. I want to do something to show him how much I like him and make him feel special as he does have some confidence issues. We are going on a date in a few days where we are going to do a picnic in the country but during a thunderstorm since we both like watching the stars when it's raining. I plan on writing him little love notes that I'm going to hide in his car and places so he can find them. But I wanted to either make or bring him something to surprise him and I need some suggestions? Any have any ideas of what I can do, even if they are actions I can do to make him feel special? Preferably not something sexual as I want it to be more of a romantic thing but if it's a good sexual idea I'll take it :) thanks in advance lovelies (link)
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That\'s really sweet.
I like the other persons idea of getting him supplies. Maybe get something that you guys can do together or he can show you how and teach you? Like a little project for the two of you.
You can get a little picture of the two of you and put it in a picture frame. You can decorate if you\'re feeling up to it but either way, it\'d be cute.
I\'ve even wanted to get a small picture of me and my boyfriend and laminate it and punch a hole so that we both could have one on our keys. I think it\'s a cute idea.
I also like the others idea of getting him his favorite drink. Whenever anyone just gets me something small like my favorite candy or drink or something, it feels special because they were out, saw the candy and thought about me. Those little things make a huge difference.
Also, guys love food.
Or just get him something that he likes. Like if he likes playing hackey sack, get him one. Or buy him cologne.
I\'d try back massage or foot massage. Some guys aren\'t that into massages. My boyfriend doesn\'t like massages so I\'ll lightly scratch his back.
Also, it\'s great that he crouché\'s for you, that\'s something he\'s into and good at. So if there\'s anything that you\'re good at or like to do, then do that. Say if you\'re good at drawing, painting, crafts, ceramics or something like that, then make something for him. If you write poetry, then write him a poem. Or if he likes to read, make him a cute bookmark with a sweet message.
Or just anything he\'s been saying he needed.
I\'m sure whatever you decide to do for him, he\'ll love it. It\'s the thought that counts!
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So i am friendzoned by this girl and i am leaving to another school forever but i would like to talk to her on facebook not only at school. When i start a conversation its usually about homework or something like i was just at her parents restaurant. But after a while the convo just dies and i dont know what to say to her anymore! Talking to her just makes me happy! Also i fear i am annoying her but im not sure i am..please help! (link)
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If you want to talk to her, get to know her. Once you learn new things about her then it\'ll be easier to talk to her. Her favorite things, family, activities, hobbies, ect.
But if I were you, I\'d try to move on. If you\'re going to another school and you\'ll never see her, then you shouldn\'t try to be more than just her friend.
If it\'s still possible to see her and the school you\'re going to isn\'t that far away, then cool, go for it and try to talk to her more.
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I'm a 15 year old female and I'm a Christian. I grew up in a Baptist church, though my family isn't baptist nor are we nearly as strict and legalistic as some Christians.
I am homeschooled and my workbooks/PACE'S(ACE Curriculum) sometimes have stories and/or comics of kids in different situations and teach Christian morality and thinking.
But as I was reading one of these stories, it was about a girl who became Christian and it was talking about how she was changing her life. One of the things it mentioned was: "She began to find new joy as she replaced her former friends and ways with new Christian friends and activity's that helped her grow spiritually."
I understand having new Christian friends and distancing herself from bad things like drugs and alcohol. But why would she need to remove her old friends from her life? Didn't Jesus sit and eat with the non-Christians and sinners?
Wouldn't we WANT to be friends with them so we could possibly influence them in a good way instead of cutting them off?
I guess I just don't understand why you would do that...
Could someone explain this to me? Or tell me if I'm right and their wrong? Or the other way around? (link)
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I would assume that her old friends weren't good influences.
As for influencing them, you don't have to be friends to be able to influence someone. Although, it's true that your friends are some of the most greatest influences in your life, probably more influencing that your parents so that's why they say she replaced her friends. Because your friends can also influence you. And if her friends weren't Christian, then it's possible they don't have the same values and all that and can be bad influences.
I'm definitely not saying that it always happens like that. It could be the other way around as well, but most good kids will be influenced to do bad things rather than influencing bad kids to do good things. Only because teenagers are young and would rather have fun, and "sin" seems more fun.
I think it makes sense, you don't have to agree with it but I can see their point of view.
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Hey, I am a fifteen year old girl, and my boyfriend is seventeen. We have been dating for five months, and we really love each other. I adore him, he is the only guy I want to spend my life with. My parents are very fond of him, but they don't like the idea of him and I going on a date by ourselves. I can understand their thinking, but my boyfriend cares about me, a lot. I've talked to him about this, and he says he never wants to hurt me, he only wants to take care of me, and I trust him with all my heart. Also, my boyfriend has his own truck, and he could drive us, so I don't see how that could be the problem. Like I said, my parents like him, but they won't let us go on a date by ourselves. What's the problem here? How can I fix it? Advice is much appreciated. Thank u(: (link)
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Your parents are just concerned.
I mean I completely believe your boyfriend is a nice and really great guy but I\'m pretty sure it\'s because they don\'t want you having sex.
I think if you want to go on dates with him, just the two of you, you need to talk to him about your boundaries. I\'m sure you already have, but just make sure.
Then talk to your parents. Let them know that you care about him and you\'re not planning on having sex, ect.
I\'m sure both of you are trustworthy but when you guys are in the moment, and both alone, things can get out of hand. So just be careful.
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Last year, I fell and had a concussion. After I was released from the hospital, my best friend offered for my girlfriend and I to crash with him for a while, until I was 100% again. Due to the stress of my injury, he told my girlfriend and I to just sit back and relax for some time. He has cooked large and delicious meals for us since Day 1 and he encouraged us to "get lazy".
Well now its been about a year. I have recovered and we are still staying with him. My girlfriend and I have been sitting watching TV everyday while he has cooked on demand. We have both gained about 60 lbs and started wearing stretch pants and slippers around his house, which he thinks looks bad.
Anyway today, my girlfriend and I were sitting on the couch with our feet up, each holding a bucket of chili. He comes home, sees us, pushes my GF's slippers off the end table, tells us both we cant eat chili on the couch, and screams at us to get up. Then comes the abuse. He asks if the TV remote is under my belly. When we get up, he points out the impression left by my girlfriend's butt on the couch. He then kicks us out saying we've become a couple of gluttons that overstayed our welcome. (link)
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Are you serious?
You did become a couple of gluttons and you both did overstay your welcome.
You both gained 60lbs and are lazy. It\'s not his fault the two of you are lazy. He was kind to you and you took it for granted.
You both are your own people. You both have a choice in what you do. You both chose to become lazy people.
Start taking responsibility for yourself and stop blaming other people for your problems.
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I'm a high school sophomore and the year is almost over. My mom wanted to make me a bank account but I kinda lost my student ID and I haven't gotten my permit so I can't really make one. Are there other things I can use as identification? (link)
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Maybe your birth certificate and social security card can work?
I\'m not sure, if not, then go to the DMV and get a state ID. All you need is your birth certificate and social security card. I\'m not sure how much it costs where you live though.
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So my crush, in response to a text I sent her, sent this: aww ♥ you're so fucking adorable, I can't stop thinking about you. Cute right? Except she was drunk. So what does this mean? Drunk words equal sober thoughts? Should I ask her about it or just let it go? (link)
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I wouldn\'t read into it too much, but I wouldn\'t completely dismiss it. She could definitely be interested in you as more than a friend.
When you\'re drunk, sometimes you\'ll say what you\'re really feeling or you\'ll just say random nonsense. Who knows if it meant anything or not.
So if I were you, I\'d gather up the courage and take the risk. There could definitely be a chance she likes you.
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My boyfriend's best friend of several years is a female. She lives several states away and he rarely sees her anymore, but constantly "likes" her photos on Facebook and comments on her posts, etc. I know they talk and text a lot, too. I asked him once if they had ever dated, and he replied that they were like brother and sister.
I found some old photos of them on Facebook where they appear to be somewhat physically intimate. In fact, until I knew who she was, I assumed she was an ex girlfriend. He's giving her hugs, picking her up, giving her piggyback rides, etc.
I know that men and women can be platonic friends, but I don't go beyond hugging my close male friends (not as a rule, it just doesn't happen). She's an attractive girl, and I'm sure he sees that. I simply don't believe that he has no desire to be physically intimate with her given the photographs that I've seen. I've never met her but she's expressed desire to meet me soon. I have absolutely nothing against her, but I just want to know if my beliefs about their relationship are justified; and if so, what should I do about it?
Thank you :) (link)
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He probably has thought about being physically intimate with her. I\'m positive he\'s thought about that about just random girls he\'s met. It\'s just natural for guys.
Your beliefs about their relationship aren\'t exactly justified. It\'s just your insecurities. This kind of thinking can ruin a relationship.
As for him hugging her and all that. Some people might just be more touchy than you are. Not every is the same way when it comes to their friends.
So even if you wanted to talk to him about it, you\'d probably just come off as being jealous. So you should meet her. She might be someone you might actually like and want to talk to more. If after you meet her and you\'re noticing anything else that might be a red flag, then you have reason to be concerned. But just Faccebook photos and texting often isn\'t something to over think.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of months now and recently I have noticed one girl in particular showing an interest in my boyfriend. Before I had met my boyfriend I was not exactly friends with this girl because she is a bit of a bitch and I hate to use this word but she is what would be described as a "slut", but ever since we started dating she suddenly started hating me and being really rude to me. At first it was just her but now she has her friend against me as well and I feel really uncomfortable around them and always feel like I'm being watched. Every time i walk past them they stare at me and i know they are talking about me because they all turn and look at me at the same time. Individually all of the girls in this group are nice to me but when they are together they are horrible. Also, the one girl in particular is acting very "fake" around my boyfriend and when I'm with him she treats me completely different than what she would if I was alone. I have talked about it with my boyfriend and he is very understanding of everything and the way I feel but I still don't know what to think about it all. Even worse is that he was at a party they were at and all he girls were drunk and were hanging off him and the one girl was looking at him like she wanted to have sex with him (his words not mine). He hated the whole night and was texting me the whole time telling me how much he wanted to get away from them but he had no way of getting home until the time that he had arranged to be picked up from the party. We have a very open relationship with each other and are 100% honest which makes me feel a little bit better but I don't like the way they are treating me as if I have done something wrong when really I'm just with they guy they want. i really do like him and I afraid that it's going to get to the point where I'm just going to give in to the pressure and l don't want that to happen because I'm scared to lose him.
ps. I go to a small school and there really is no way of avoiding these girls
Sorry it's long I just really don't know how much longer I can take this. Advise please! (link)
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Teenage girls can be really mean.
There isn\'t much you can do to make them stop. They\'re not harassing you, they\'re just jealous. I know it sucks to be talked about but the only thing you can do is ignore them and be the better person. I know it\'s cliche and easier said than done but it\'s your best option.
Don\'t let some stupid girls get in the way of your relationship. He likes you and they\'re jealous. So ignore them and enjoy your relationship.
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Hey guys, I met one of my brothers friend today and I guess my brother game him my Facebook name and he added me. So after doing that's, we messaged each other's for a few minutes and he told me he likes me. I ask him why and he said he always wanted to tell me but he was shy. I'm very sure he's a player and planning to play me like he played one of my friend. I didn't rely back after he told me he liked him. I want to go straight and tell him that I'm not interested in him and I already knew what guys do to get girls and I know that he only wants to use me. I just don't know exactly what to say. What should I say to him (link)
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It\'s good that you\'re aware of guys who do this.
I usually ignore guys who do stuff like this. So that could just be an option but if he keeps bothering you, just tell him that you\'re not interested in him like that. You don\'t have to be mean or anything about it, just tell him you don\'t like him like that.
Nothing complicated or long, just sweet, simple and to the point.
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My question is that i have changed my entire life to be the girl he wants. I have only one friend i can talkto and see on his terms and no family at all.I dont want to leave him necause i love him with all my heart but the name calling and hitting i thought was getting easier but now i think i am losing my 2 week unborn child. He swears i cheated on him anyway. Do you think it is going to get easier or should i just stay quiet and change sime more? I know its my fault. Thank you for listening. (link)
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Your boyfriend won\'t ever see how much he hurts you. He doesn\'t care about how you feel.
This man is abusive and very controlling.
I hope you don\'t lose your child. You need to get out of this situation not only for you, but for the baby. You don\'t want to bring a child up with a man like him. He\'ll abuse the child as well.
You may love him, I don\'t doubt that, but you need to love your child more and you don\'t seem to be caring about his/her safety.
It\'s never going to get easier. Go stay with a friend or find your family. Or even call the women\'s shelter and they\'ll help you. Even call the police.
You need to go take care of yourself first.
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18/f
I'm going to try and keep this simple because I know how boring it is reading through a long question.
I want to break up with my boyfriend. He's the sweetest most lovely guy, just I don't fancy him, he's already talking about marriage (we've been together 6 months) he's a bit immature-and I think I can do better.
Idk how to break up with him know because saying all this will break his heart and will come so unexpected. Also his parents love me which makes it harder.
I just want to have fun-you know?! Any advice would be appreciated :) (link)
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Breaks up are difficult for the person breaking up and for the person who is being broken up with.
No matter what you say, or how you say it, it\'ll hurt him. Just be honest and straightforward. Don\'t beat around the bush. Also, it\'s better to do it face to face rather than over the phone, through text or a note. Just talk to him and tell him that you care about him a lot, you think he\'s great but you aren\'t feeling the same anymore and you think it\'d be better if you guys were just friends.
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A few months ago, I began seeing this really great guy. We attend the same university, but I am a sophomore and he is a senior. He is graduating next month, and after that, he plans on moving to a city six hours away from where we go to school.
We go out on dates and are physically intimate, but he told me straight up that once he moves, we are to be just friends. He doesn't do long-distance relationships.
He plans on visiting the university when he moves, but he told me that we would be strictly platonic, nothing physical.
He doesn't understand how much this upsets me. I have tried so hard to keep from having feelings for him, but he's the kind of guy I'd want to be with, and I fear that I will never meet anyone like him ever again. I don't think he has any real feelings for me, seeing as he essentially placed an expiration date on our relationship.
It pains me to admit this, but I don't think I can convince him to carry on the "relationship" when he moves. So how can I keep myself from going crazy for the next month or so? I enjoy being with him, but I always end up nearly crying because I keep thinking about how awful it's going to be when he leaves.
Thank you for any advice :) (link)
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That\'s a difficult situation to be in.
Like the other adviser said, it sounds like he already has his life planned out.
I\'d just stop being physical with him and stop \"dating\" him. It\'ll just end up bringing more pain and I guess he\'s not looking at you as something serious so you might as well cut this short rather than him do it.
You\'ll meet a guy who\'ll be better. Mostly because he\'ll actually want something real with you. You want someone who wants you. But just look at the qualities you like in this guy, I\'m sure if you pay attention, you\'ll meet other guys with the same qualities. Just keep your eye out.
You can tell him how you feel, but I doubt it\'d make a difference. So if I were you, I\'d end it now.
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