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He said he likes me but he doesn't even know me
Hey guys, I met one of my brothers friend today and I guess my brother game him my Facebook name and he added me. So after doing that's, we messaged each other's for a few minutes and he told me he likes me. I ask him why and he said he always wanted to tell me but he was shy. I'm very sure he's a player and planning to play me like he played one of my friend. I didn't rely back after he told me he liked him. I want to go straight and tell him that I'm not interested in him and I already knew what guys do to get girls and I know that he only wants to use me. I just don't know exactly what to say. What should I say to him
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If there was no rumour of him being a player, then would you possibly be interested in him? I learned early not to listen to what other kids say. In most cases they exaggerated, totally lied, or misinterpreted what they heard and saw.
He's your brothers friend. He gave the guy your facebook address. If you may have a possible interest in him if he were a gentleman, then
ask brother what he thinks of the guy. How well does he know the guy? Ask him if he thinks you'd be safe with the guy...if he's not the type to take advantage of a girl? If he's brothers friend, your brother should know him better than any one else.
Right now, all you're doing is talking, not dating. He said he liked you, he didn't ask you to go out. Until he does, you don't have to say anything.
You did choose to talk to him though, even tho you believed him to be a player. You only had a problem with chatting with him until after he mentioned liking you. Do you tend to get suckered in to talking to people on facebook that you don't like or know at all? I have had strangers send me form letters on Facebook, saying how pretty they think I am, and that they are widowers with kids and ask me to write them back. I send a message back that I don't know them, I am in a relationship and if they want to really find someone to date, they'd do better on a dating site. I tell them not to write me back because if they do I will report them as spam mail. If someone contacts you that you do not wish to talk to, the only answer you need give rather than get into a conversation with them is to tell them that you are not interested in starting a friendship with them. And in his case, just state, he's your brothers friend and that's all you see him as, nothing more. It's easier if said at the beginning and gets harder to do the longer you wait and more time goes by. Its good that you did not reply back anything to his saying he likes you. He is attracted to you, but unless he's spent as much time with you as he does with your brother, he can't possibly know enough about you to determine if he likes who you are inside, your personality. So telling a girl he likes her if he really meant like, instead of attracted to, is jumping the gun, too soon to admit something on the first day of talking.
As you grow older, you'll find that a great majority of guys are fumble-tongued, not having any idea what to say, and if saying something, do so in a way as to be taken to mean something totally different, or its not possible to decipher what they meant. So he may be terrible at expressing himself. Its possible to just ignore his admission if you want to keep on talking, and see where it goes from there, it can't hurt. If he begins to talk in a way you are not comfortable with, just say so, I'm not comfortable with talking about this cus we've only just starting talking and really don't know each other enough to have the level of trust to discuss or reveal such things.
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It's good that you're aware of guys who do this.
I usually ignore guys who do stuff like this. So that could just be an option but if he keeps bothering you, just tell him that you're not interested in him like that. You don't have to be mean or anything about it, just tell him you don't like him like that.
Nothing complicated or long, just sweet, simple and to the point.
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Simply what you just told us :) Tell him you're really not interested even though you are flattered. Simple as that. If you try to be coy or use a round about way he might not get the hint and it will waste your time. And if it persists you can take more drastic actions such as blocking him on facebook and asking your brother for help.
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