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Boyfriend best friend?
I have a boyfriend of over one year and I love him but I may be developing feelings for my guy best friend? He's so funny and understands me on another level. He never fails to cheer me up and no matter how irritated I get I always want to be there for him. The problem is I feel the same way for both my boyfriend and my bestfriend. I've obviously lived through a lot more with my boyfriend, but my friend is something else. But why should I risk such an amazing relationship? And why is that even crossing my mind. My boyfriend is such Ana amazig guy and deserves nothing but the best. But so does me best friend😭 god I don't know what to do, every passing day everything becomes harder. I can stare I to my best friends eyes even if the feelings aren't corresponded. Am I in love with two guys?
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Honestly dont want to sound rude but if you are developing feelings for your bestfriend isnt time to distance yourself from him a little without him being hurt its not to be forwards with your bestfriend and make the situation awkard. I have a boyfriend (been together 5 years) trust Dont break your boyfriend heart because you find emotionally the comfort within your friend. Remember a friend is a friend if you belive he will act in the same situation if you guys are in a relationship than you might find out that thats not all true. Your bestfriend desveres to be your bestfriend and have in mind your with your boyfriend for a reason, dont have second thoughts about your love for him. What your feeling is an atraction to you bestfriend but the real question is do you really love your boyfriend ?
Now, tonight, really anytime soon take a time breath and think in all the things you've been through with your boyfriend the happiness the good the bad. You should stick by him and not break that year because you dont know if it can turn into years of a relationship
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I disagree with the other advisers.
You can date someone you aren't best friends with. There's nothing wrong with it. They do eventually become your best friend. Not every guy best friend you have is going to be your true love.
Whenever you date, you get to know them and eventually yes, they'll become your best friend.
The part I disagree with missundersmock is keeping your best friend on the side until you and your boyfriend break up. That's an awful thing to do. You don't just keep people on the side. People aren't plan b.
So my advice would be to take a break away from both of them. You need to figure out how you really feel about both of them and what you really want. You obviously can't have both.
If after that short break you realize that you would rather be with your best friend, then do that. If you'd rather be with your boyfriend, then stay with him. If you want to be with your boyfriend, take some time away from your friend to get your feelings together.
It's not fair to your boyfriend.
So just take some time and think about what you want and need and go from there.
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I have to agree with misspiggy here. have you ever seen a wedding ceremony where the couple tells each other "i got to marry my best friend"??? its very true.
theres two ways you could take this: you could try to calm yourself down, and continue to date your boyfriend and stay friends with your bestie guy friend until the bottom falls out with your man, THEN date your guy bestie OR you could break someone heart and date your bestie.
For now i would still date my boyfriend and always keep your guy bestie in your hip pocket. you never really know what might happen in a relationship to lead things down a road of no return. Then once that happens, youll have your guy bestie to turn to huh?
im MARRIED, and i have several male friends who lets say "admire" me. My husband even knows this, but i keep all relationships/friendships in check at all times. Remembering that i DID marry my best friend, but i also have other men would kill to take his place at any time, but instead they stay friends with me and if ever something should happen between me and mine, ill have five different guys to turn to.
The lesson here: youll always have that guy to fall back on because he has your best interest at heart, so keep him close incase anything ever happens and you and your current man break up.
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I am going to give you a very simple piece of advice. Toss a coin in the air. Heads, your boyfriend, tails your best friend. While the coin is still in the air you will have your answer because you will find yourself hoping for either heads or tails! Now that you know which one you want it doesn't get any easier! It is possible to love both of them but the coin will tell you which one you are IN love with. You do realize somebody has to get hurt, and it may be you. I hope it all works out the way you hope. Good luck!
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This is a rookie mistake: dating one guy and being best friends with another guy.
If you break up with your boyfriend, it will not be the first time you were unfair to him. The fist time you were unfair was when you started dating your boyfriend in the first place. You should never date a guy who isn't already your best friend to begin with. Romantic relationships are supposed to be built on friendship or else something like this is bound to happen.
It sounds to me that you love your best friend for who he is, and you love your boyfriend just because he is your boyfriend. If you were single, which one would you choose? There is your answer.
And next time, think ahead. Don't date someone you aren't already besties with.
Au revoir,
Miss Piggy
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