S_C's advice column

Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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wht is social anxiety?

thakns:)

"Social anxiety is an experience of fear, apprehension or worry regarding social situations and being evaluated by others."
-en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social anxiety"

It's really that simple.

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I heard that $100 in the United States is $1000ish in paso's in Mexico. So, could you go to mexico to buy a new car and then come back to the states, or would you have to pay a fee for your car when going over the border.
or something, i am confused about it.

Now I don't know the exact exchange rate, but you'r not going to find a car in Mexico for only 1000 pescos (sp?).

Exchange rates help you know how much you're spending in USD. That way, when you see a number as insane to Americans as 1,000,000 pescos, you would know that (using your conversion example), you'd really only be spending $100,000 on the car rather than 1,000,000 USD.

Now, I don't know the exact exchange rate (but that information can be easily found if you use google), but I hope this makes a little more sense.

You're still paying the same amount of money, it just looks like you're paying more when you go there. (It also looks like you're getting more when you bring your USD to Mexico to exchange them to pescos).

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So, not too long ago, I was watching a movie in the local theater called American Gangster (stars Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe, just for reference). I know there are plenty of movies about the mafia, gangsters, and mobsters but one question really hit me during the movie:

Is the mafia actually real?
I mean, seriously, does the mafia exist?

Was the mafia made up for television and movies by Hollywood?

In some movies you hear about the Russian mafia, the Italian mafia, etc. I even know there are also television series based on the mafia like The Sopranos. So, IF the mafia is real--they must be lots of different kinds, right? Would that mean that the Russian mafia is located in Russia, the Italian mafia is located in Italy, and so forth?

Any information is appreciated because I'm pretty clueless. Thanks!

Yes, the mafia is very real. Now, I'm not how sure their activity currently is compared to how it once was. You don't really hear much about mafia activity anymore... at least I don't.

If you do a quick google search on the term mafia

, then you will find anything and everything you could want.

Just because they're the Italian, Chinese, Spanish, etc. Mafia does not mean they are located in said country. It just means that the race of its members is what type of Mafia it is.

My grandparents told me that one of my great uncles was in the mafia decades ago. If that's true, I have no idea. I am Italian...
I'm pretty sure the Italian Mafia is who people hear of the most. It's actually all I knew existed for one point in time. But, there are other types with other people.
You can get information on the history channel or just by surfing the net.
Good luck.
If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask!

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What is Madonna's real, full name?

I figure she wasn't born as "Madonna" and ended up changing it to that because it's catchy or something. So, what is Madonna's birth name and current name anyway?

I know she has an album that is entitled "Madonna" so I'm curious if she had her middle and last name dropped officially and is seriously just named Madonna. Do you know? If not, what do you think?

Thanks!

She's a very distant cousin of mine. It's a long but cool story. She's like my... 6th cousin or something.

Her birth name is Madonna Louise Ciccone. When she was married, she added Ritchie to the end.
People have just always called her Madonna and they rarely know her last name.

Her last name is pronounced "sick oh knee".

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Me and my boyfriend were "trying out" sex, as we were both virgins and we've talked about it for awhile. I went on top and he went in about half an inch and then pulled out because I was scared. We tried again today, except he went just a SMIDGEN further, and it felt like something was breaking, so I told him to stop, so he did. I felt fine after that up until an hour ago when I peed and it started to hurt. Now it's totally fine, but it hurt a lot when I peed.
Also, we did that without condoms and I missed a pill three days ago, but took it the next day with my other one. I could be pregnant right?
16/f

I'm not sure what to say about it hurting when you pee... maybe see a doctor?

But, as for "could I be pregnant". Yeah, there's a chance.
It's probably a slim chance since you've been on the pill.
In all technicality, you don't have to have the penis enter you at all to get pregnant. As long as sperm (pre-cum counts even though you rarely see/feel it) enters the vagina, you have a chance of getting pregnant.

Now I'm going to spout off all the info nobody ever wants to hear:

Don't have sex with someone unless you're willing to have their baby.
Don't have sex if you don't want a baby.
Always use protection unless you're trying to get pregnant.
Best form of protection (other than abstinence) is a condom (for birth control and STD purpose) and the pill used together!

That's about all I have to say =)

Good luck. Wait 2-3 weeks. If you skip your period, take a test. It's pretty unlikely that you're pregnant, mostly because it's much too early to tell, but I would still take a test because you never know what could happen.

Oh, and I just saw your additional info.
Not bleeding (if you were previously a virgin) could be a sign that he didn't penetrate you very far or it could be a sign that your hymen broke long ago doing something such as running or riding a bike... not bleeding doesn't mean anything.

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my friend said she heard about someone that dry humps their bed.
i dont get it.
they hump their bed?!
that's kind of weird,but can they get pregnant by that or like have something wrong with their body if they keep doing that?

sorry for the awkward question,but i dont know anyone else i can ask

I've never heard of anyone dry humping their bed... but okay?

Anyway, NO you can not get pregnant from dry humping anything as long as no sperm comes into contact with the vagina.
You can only get pregnant when sperm comes into contact with a vagina.

As for anything happening to damage their bodies from dry humping a bed...
Maybe they can pull a muscle if they do it too roughly? hah... other than that, I seriously doubt there would be any negative long term effects.

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naturally i have light-medium blonde hair. in november i died it dark dark brown, almost black, underneath. in may i got some of that color taken out professionally and it was light-medium brown. now its fading to brownish/auburn reddish. i hate it that its red and want to get it back close to my natural color, or at least dark blonde. i cant afford to do it professionally this time, so if i just buy a dark blonde color in a box, will it show up or at least take the red out a little?

A lot of my friends who want to put their hair back to a blonde-ish color will bleach their hair first.
That's not high on my suggestion list because my friend's hair turned an orange-ish blonde when she did that.
She's crazy. She'll bleach it then dye it right afterwords to the color she wants. Her hair isn't too damaged, but she takes really good care of it (other than constantly dying it).

But, to answer your question, it should hopefully take some of the red out.
That or it may turn it pink =)
(I'm just kidding. I hope it wouldn't turn it pink!)

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So I'm ten and half weeks pregnant, and i feel like my entire body is filled up with air. I know this sounds gross...but all i can do is burp and well u kno. It gives me some relief, but then right after I burp I feel like it fills right back up with gas, which leaves me feeling extremely uncomfortable. The constant nausea is bad enough without this constant gas pain.

Does anyone have any advice on what to do or what can help with both my extreme nausea and gassiness??

I'm desperate!

Because none of us are doctors, & your pregnant (which means you're rather limited on what you can do), your best bet is talking to your doctor or OB/GYN. They would know what's best for you, what's causing all this gas, & how it can best be relieved.
You may not even need an appointment. It could be solved over the phone, or your doctor may want to see you in person.

While you're waiting, maybe you can cut back on foods/drinks like soda (which always makes you have to burp) or, IDK, beans... they make it come out the other end =).

Congrats on the pregnancy =)

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i'm already in high school starting on my sophomore year, and i still don't know what i was to do when i grow up. still looking for what i have a passion for, is it cooking? is it dancing? do i want to run a business? idk, what age should i know what i want to be? how will i find out? please & thank you

There isn't an age where you find out what you want to become.
I've already graduated high school and it took me until quite recently to realize what I want to do with my life. A lot of the people I go to colloege with aren't quite sure yet.

When you finish high school & go to college, you don't declare a major until you're sophomore year. Even then, some people will change their majors 2-3+ times. It's normal not to know what you want to do.

To help yourself find a career that might interest you, take some different elective classes at your high school.
Sign up for foods classes, early childhood education classes, fashion merchandising, marketing, etc.
Most high schools offer a variety of career pathway courses that could help you decide what you like & what you have no skill for whatsoever.

Also, there are plenty of websites that can help you determine some future careers.
Then again, I've taken a few of those online tests & surveys & very few of them have pointed me in the direction of my chosen career.

There are also some sites that go over the what you would do for certain jobs & such.

Use google

You can google whatever you want where I had written "Career pathways".

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Argh!!!

Okay Guys..

I must of taken tons of pictures and I have no idea how to get it to the size of 15k! I have even gone into image resizeable etc. All my pictures are 900mb! :O Yes that's right.

If anyone can maybe help me out on how to resize it that would be fantastic!!

Thanks!

-BahaiMa22

Jack gave you the answer you need, but I'd like to make a side comment.

The reason we ask that your picture be so small is that a lot of users don't know how to upload a normal sized picture. Now I understand how crazy the size requirements are, but it's because people tend to go crazy with how large they make their pictures.

BEFORE you upload your picture to tiny pic (or whichever hosting site you decide to use), please be sure to go to paintshop (or any other program you have) and shrink it down a little bit.
There are some users who have uploaded pictures so large that it stretches theis page or make it's next to impossible to find their answers.

I don't know much about numerical sizes, but don't make it huge. It looks tacky & us site admins get annoyed by it.

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No need to rate me since I didn't answer your quetsion, I just wanted to throw in that extra info.

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is masturbution bad for health in women ?

No.

Actually, it is said to help relieve cramping, help with insomnia, and many other things. Also, it is said to be easier for women who masturbate to have orgasms.

All you really had to do was google this
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i also have to do the same project for school and i love the book. my question is, is there any song that relates to the whole book moreso than parts of it? thanks

I can't think of any songs that describe the ENTIRE book...

The closest I could come up with are:

Rascal Flatts - Stand
Everclear - Wonderful
Blue October - Hate Me
10 Years - Wasteland
Stone Sour - Through Glass
Hoobastank - Running Away
Three Days Grace - Pain
Rascal Faltts - My Wish
Gary Allan - Life Ain't Always Beautiful
Carrie Underwood - Lessons Learned
Avril Lagigne - Keep Holding On
Three Days Grace - Just Like You

By the way, you can just google the lyrics to the songs (that's what I did) to choose which you feel most suit the book.

and all the other songs I have told you.

i have to read the glass castle for school, and i have to write a paper on it. I already read the book and i wanted to start on the paper. The problem is that i have to write about a song that reminds me of the book and write why it does. I cant think of any song that would possibly ever go with the book. Has anyone ever read the glass castle by jeannette walls? and knows a song that goes/relates to it? any help at all would be muchh appreciated(:

I actually just finished The Glass Castle about 20 minutes ago. I have to read it for my college english class.

Anyway, I was going through my itunes and found
Apologize - One Republic (if you think about it, the lyrics could be from Jeannette to her dad)
That's actually very good for the book, if you think about it on a deeper level.

Here are some others I found while going through my itunes:

Absolutely (Story of a Girl) by Nine Days
Ain't No Mountain High Enough - Marvin Gaye
Alive - P.O.D
Bad Day - Daniel Powter
Because You Loved Me - Celine Dion (could be an ironic back & forth convo-esque type song between Jeannette & her dad if you think deeply about it)
C'est la Vie - Shania Twain
Concrete Angel - Martina McBride (VERY good except it mentions the little girl dying & it's actually about abuse)
Don't Stop Believin' - Journey
Gone - TobyMac
Hate Me - Blue October (could be from Rex to Jeannette)
Home - 3 days grace
I Dare You - Shinedown
I Hate Everything About You - 3 Days Grace

If you need examples of how a certain song I gave can be related to the book, let me know. I made sure to find some sort of connection between the two before offering up the suggestion.

S_C

Lifetime recently released a movie about the texas cheerleading scandal and the obnoxious, bratty, "Fab five." And the story facinates me. Does anyone know where i can read about the REAL story (like the original news releases) or the youtube videos they posted, or anything like that. I'm not looking for stuff on the movie, but only on the real experiences.

Thanks soo much for all your help!!!

I saw the lifetime movie last night & it just ended about 15 minute ago where I live...

Anyway, I didn't realize it was a true story until watching it for a second time today.

I did a google search to learn about about it. It's really easy to find information on the web, you just have to know how to look.

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