Ok,sorry if this is long. I moved away from my city,call it A to a town/suburb call it B. If i might say,i was friends with almost everyone(in my grade in elementry school and middle school] in my home city, A.But when i moved to B,everything changed. People in B judge you by how you look and they hate you even when they never met you. I have friends,yes,but im not all that pretty and i know people dont like me,people that i dont even no hate me. I hate it,i dont hate anyone or talk about people behind there backs. People in A are so much nicer but ever since i moved,i get sadder and sadder every day. I know its stupid but i really cant handle it! I know at least some people will hate you were ever you go but im just not used to this change. Im not all that outgoing,but could anyone give me advice for my situation please?
It's not stupid, it's normal.
But I would like to point out that the real problem is _your_ lack of confidence and self-esteem, not that people dislike you. How do I know this? Well, you just told me that you don't think your pretty, and people hate you even though you've done nothing wrong.
Of course you are pretty. Don't be silly :P And people can't dislike you if they don't even know you. People need to find a specific reason to dislike before they can hold a grudge.
I understand that you are homesick and nervous about being in a new place surrounded by new people. Especially when you knew everybody in your hometown well enough to know that they liked you.
What you need to do is realize that you are pretty, that you are a nice person, and that people do like you and want to be friends with you. Once you do, this friend stuff will be a lot easier...
It will be a lot easier because when you are confident, you are less shy...even if you are naturally shy person. (I know. I'm shy, I used to be practically anti-social. But things are a lot easier now that I like myself.) You will be able to smile at strangers and talk to new people. And really, that's all you have to do to get people to like you.
Infact, your shyness might be why you _think_ that everyone hates you. If there is one thing that I have learned from my own shyness, when you are shy...people don't automatically know that about you. Instead of assuming that you are merely nervous, like all people, they'll immediately think that you aren't talking to them because YOU are judging or dislike THEM. Sounds crazy, I know. But if you think that way...What makes you think that other people don't?
In summary: be nice to yourself. It will be a heck of a lot easier to get other people to like you if you like yourself first. And stop being so paranoid :P
Best of luck to ya' dearie ;) Don't let the moving blues get ya' down...
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Can anyone reccomend a good face lotion that is oil free with an spf of at least 15 that I can wear underneath makeup? I can't seem to find a good one that I like!
My dermatologist recommends Aveeno.
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1. well i was wondering if a girl that is 15 turning 16 in 2 months is going out with someone that just turned 25, could that someone go to jail?
2. what if the girl is not a virgin and the cops find out and they try to accuse the boy and she denies it could they file charges???
Thank you!
1) Yes. It is illegal for an adult (18+) to engage in sexual activity with a minor (under 18).
2) Well, that depends on the circumstances. First, a doctor can not prove that she is, or isn't a virgin. Not unless she's had sexual intercourse in the past...72 hours. Or maybe it's 48? Not sure on this point. If she has, they can extract a sample of semen. If that sample isn't his, they can't PROVE that he did anything.
However, even if no one can prove that he did or didn't...That's where "he said/she said" rears it's ugly head. If she says that she had sex with this man, and that intercourse was non-consentual (he forced himself on her) he will be arrested. (This happened to a friend of mine. He was innocent, and the charges were eventually dropped when his accuser figured out they didn't have a proverbial leg to stand on.)
She could deny having sexual intercourse with this man at all. In such case, the legal system doesn't have a leg to stand on either. They have no evidence, not even a witness. But, beware the parent! Since she is still a minor, her parents could press charges instead.
I don't know whether you are the girl or the guy in this situation. You didn't say, and I don't blame you. I would like to say this...Going to jail, for even a couple days, is not a pleasant experience. And in this situation, he is running the risk, and could take the fall. If you are the girl, and you really care about him, you might want to break up with this guy. I know that really sucks for you both, but your parents probably won't like the idea of you dating an older man, and just might jump to conclusions. Very dangerous for him. If you are the guy, I would suggest you...Run. Run. Run...Please date a girl who is legally considered an adult and not a minor. Please! You don't want to go to jail.
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i am 13 122pounds and five foot three is that overweight? also can someone tell me the average range of my weight? i am also a boy.
No. You are actually three pounds below your ideal body weight.
Here is how to calculate your ideal body weight: first take the number of inches you are over five feet tall and multiply by 2.3. Since you are 5'3, it would look like 3 x 2.3 = 6.9. Then you would add 50kg. 50 + 6.9 = 56.9kg. (This is for males only.) To convert kg to lbs. multiply 56.9 by 2.2. You now have your ideal weight. (I did the calculations myself and I got about 125 lbs. So you are where you should be.)
Overweight = 20% over ideal body weight. 20% of 125 is 25 lbs...So you would have to weigh OVER 150 lbs., at your current height, to be considered overweight.
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Hi I'm the Grandmother of a little boy who lives in Ontario. He was born here as well and his Mom, my daugther is Canadain as well. His father is from the United States. my daugther and him are married they all live here in Ontario, yet things are not going so well in this marriage, The father is always saying he will take the little boy with him back to Pennsylvinia, My question is, can he get his duel citizenship for his son with out his Mother sighing for it as well and can he get his son's citizenship with out his birth certificate?
I hope you can help me with this as it is making me very upset to think of him taking his son.
Thanks.
I don't think so, but I'm not really sure. I would suggest that you ask my friend Flutterbyme_8i8. She is the mother of a small child, and is currently battling the father in court. So she would know a lot more about the law than I do. Neither of us live in Canada (and the laws could be different) but she might know, at least, which direction to point you in.
I'm really sorry about the situation. I hope that everything works out for you and your family. Best wishes ;)
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I have a friend who's been trying different ways to kill herself and nothing has worked for her and now she's stopped eating but she's already really skinny and I've never once heard her say she was fat and she's never had any interest in becoming anorexic until her brother died and she tried to OD and it didn't work. Do people ever become anorexic as a form of suicide or is it always because they want to be skinny?
First...Anorexia is an eating disorder. Yes, most people who are anorexic starve themselves because they want to lose weight. Whether or not they are all ready thin isn't always a factor either. It's all about their body image, the image that they have of themself.
So, your friend could be anorexic because of poor self-esteem. However...
What you have said leads me to believe that you have reason to be suspicious that she might be attempting suicide. Attempting suicide by starvation is possible, and has been done before. For example, my great-grandmother slowly starved herself to death after suffering sexual abuse in a nursing home. Self-esteem had nothing to do with it. She had experienced something horrible, and couldn't cope. And so she used the only means that she had to kill herself. Your friend could be the same.
Whether or not your friend is anorexic because she wants to die or not isn't the problem. The problem is that she is obviously having trouble coping with the death of her brother. Her motives are unimportant. She has developed an extremely harmful eating disorder that could kill her, regardless of whether she wants to die or not.
I can't provide you with very much help. Neither can anyone else online. If you want to help your friend, you need to get someone else involved. Someone who can help you _help her_. Tell someone that you can trust, someone with the authority to bring about change. A family member, an authority figure, a teacher, a counselor, etc...You know where I am going with this.
They can help your friend seek professional help. Your friend probably needs psychiatric help of some sort.
I've been asked several difficult questions lately, and my answer is the same to all. If someone that you know is in serious trouble, involve someone that you trust, and seek professional help. And I will warn you, just as I have warned the others, your friend might become angry with you for doing so. However, whether or not she hates you isn't important in the long run. What is important in the long run is that she LIVES. Either way, you are doing the right thing. She may not appreciate your help, but you've possibly saved her life.
As always, I am here. Again, I can't provide you with much help. I can only guess at the problem and point in the right direction. But if you ever need someone to listen, feel free to contact me. I will do whatever I can, even if all I can do is talk to you.
I will keep you and your friend in my thought and prayers. I wish you both the very best...And until then...Adieu ;)
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I have an extra curricualr activity. There's this guy there. His name is Gabriel. He's not the hottest guy in the world, but I think he's totally nice. We have a lot in common. We see eachother once a week, and talk on AIM. We're in different grades. He's in 8th, I'm in 7th. We don't go to the same school, and won't be able to see eachother over the summer. I really care about him, but he doesn't know. My friends think he's ugly, and that even if he is nice, he's not worth it because he's ugly. I don't care about looks so much. I'm really shy too...
What should I do?
Your friends are shallow. Sorry, but it's the truth. I'm not telling you to dump your friends. What I am telling you is that what they think doesn't matter.
You said that this guy is nice, and that you like him...Well, I say go for it. So you won't be able to see each other over the summer...You live in the wonderous age of technology. You might not be able to see each other face to face, but you can still talk to each other. Phones, e-mail, IM's...
Oh...And since you are shy...You might be wondering how to tell him that you like him. While face to face is always better, if the thought of looking him in the eye makes you queasy...Why don't you tell him while on IM? Or write him a letter, e-mail, whatever...That way, you can say what you need to say, have time to think it out, you won't be interrupted, and he can't see you sweat...Just a suggestion.
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Ok this might sound bad, but I want everyone to think about it. I want to become anorexic, and it's not because I want to be skinny. I'm already pretty thin. The problem is my cheeks(yes face cheeks). They are chubby and not cute at all. I think not eating would make them thinner right? I'm not going to make it a big thing and not eat until I die. Once they get thin ill eat regularly again. Theres no other ways to lose weight in your cheeks right? I mean I know it sounds really dumb to do that but I'm kind of desperate here. Is it that bad? Do you think I can get really sick? Will it work if I become anorexic?
No. You can't just starve yourself and then tell your face not to gain weight.
And you don't want to become anorexic either. Having an eating disorder is really serious. You're guarenteed to hurt yourself. Don't make your life more complicated than it has to be just because you don't like your face.
You're probably a pretty girl. I know, I know...Can't see you. But everyone is pretty in their own way.
If you are that self-concious about your cheeks...Here's an idea...Chew gum. The act of chewing exercises the muscles in your face. (Cheeks especially.) Doesn't that sound a lot better than starving yourself?
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i've been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years now and we've always been open about everything but lately she's been acting differently i'll reach out to touch her and she'll jump like she thinks i'm going to hit her and the other night i noticed that she had bruises on her stomach and i hugged her and she acted like i hurt her i think that someone has hitting her and she's afraid to tell me i just don't understand it because she has always told me everything how do i find out if she is being hit and how do i help her if she is being abused?
I'm going to tell you right now...I've never been in a situation like this before. I have no experience, this is a tough question for me to answer. But I can tell you that honesty is always important, and that the best place to look for help is the people closest to you, the people that you know you can trust. That's a family member, school teacher or counselor, authority, etc. All I can do is try to steer you in the right direction. This is what I have to say, and I'm sorry that I can't be of more help in this situation...
Talk to her. I know that it will be difficult for you. (It's difficult for me just to tell you and I don't even have to look you in the eye.) But you need to find out what's wrong, even if it isn't what you think.
Sorry that I can't give you a script. But I can give you some clues...If she is suffering abuse, you're right. She's probably afraid, afraid to even tell you. What you need to do first is try to alleviate some her of her fears.
How would you do that? Re-assurance. Tell her that you care about her, that she can trust you. She needs to know that you are on her side.
Express your concerns. Tell her that you are afraid for her safety. And explain why you are suspicious. Let her know that you've noticed her strange behavior and the bruises. But don't use accusatory and/or negative language. She hasn't done anything wrong. Even if she is hiding something and/or lying. She needs to know that.
Opening up to you will be a difficult process for her. You're going to have to be patient. Listen...Don't interrupt. Don't push. I know that this will be frustrating for you. But if you want to help her, you've got to hang in there. What she says may upset you, or cause you to get angry. Not angry or upset with her, but with the situation and whoever is hurting her. Such feelings are understandable. But just as you have to be the patient one, you've also got to be the calm, rational one. Besides, even if you aren't angry or upset with her, she might interpret your negative feelings as being directed at her, simply because of the negative situation.
If you talk to her, and she does tell you that someone is hurting her...I suspect that you are still fairly young. (Teens maybe?) The best thing that you can do is get someone else involved. Tell your parents, or a family member, school counselor, an authority figure, etc. Someone that you can trust. They can provide you with more help than anyone else in this situation.
She might tell you in confidence. In this case, you've got to decide whether or not this is a secret that you should keep. My opinion is: no. It's not. If someone is hurting her, whether she wants you to keep quiet or not, you need to tell someone who can help her. She may not like it, she may not like you, but whether or not she likes you isn't important. You have to do what is in her best interest.
She may tell you that everything is fine. And it might be. Then again, she might be lying. Don't accuse, don't press the issue. Keep an eye out for anymore disturbing behavior or bruising. If she continues to act strangely, if you continue to notice bruises, again...Tell someone that you can trust.
Again...Sorry that I don't have a better answer. If you need anymore advice, or simply want to talk, don't hesitate to drop me a line. I hope that things go well for you and your girlfriend, and I will keep you both in my prayers. Until next time...Adieu ;)
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my friend cuts herself a lot like on a daily basis and i don't understand why she does it because she insists that she's fine and won't talk about it and i don't want to force her to because i don't really know what to say to her. what do i say to her and how can i help her?
Well...First, I would like to state that I have never mutilated myself. Therefore, I don't really understand this type of behavior or what exactly causes it.
However, I can tell you that what she is doing is extremely dangerous. I can also tell you that she needs professional help. Immediately.
If she doesn't want to talk about it. Fine. If you don't know what to say to her...That's okay. It's fine and okay because she needs to be talking to a trained psychologist...and they will know what to say.
The best way to help your friend is to steer her in the right direction. Try suggesting that she see the school counselor, tell a family member, authority figure, etc. If she isn't receptive to the idea...
Then you need to tell someone. Your friend might get angry, she might even hate you. But someone who is in a position to provide her with the help that she needs will know. That's what's important. Not whether the two of you remain friends. Her safety, her life is at stake here. Do what you have to do, and no matter what happens, know that you helped your friend the best you could...And you probably saved her life. It doesn't matter if she appreciates it or not. Her being angry at you is a lot better than her ending up dead.
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I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!
A quote: "He's just not that into you if he's married (and/or other insane variations of being unavailable.)"
You're right. He will never leave his wife. At least not for you. If he really loved you, he would have done so all ready. Don't believe me? He's said it to your face. "He can't leave his kids."
I suspect his children are merely a convient excuse. A heart-wrenching, gut-twisting excuse...but an excuse just the same.
You don't want to have a relationship with this type of man anyway. He's cheating on his wife. That indicates...He's okay with being dishonest, he's okay with cheating on his wife, and he doesn't really care about his marriage. (What makes you think that it would be any different if you became his wife?) Besides, Mr.B made an excellent point in Chap. 10..."He has no real regard for you, because what you are getting from him is scraps-stolen time that's cloaked in shame."
Please. Run. Far. Far. Away. I know that it is hard to find that special someone. But this someone isn't special. Take your cue and find someone who is honest and available to love you back.
Wait...Before you look for someone else...The book that I just quoted..."He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Buy it. Read it. Live it. Love it. It is your dating Bible...
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O.k so my freiend has feelings for me (love feelings). I 'm not sure what to do. When she told me I told her I was flattered and I was but its been really awkward trying to make conversation since. We used to mess around and call each other "sexy," so I assume she got the wrong idea. The other day she sarted feeling me up and iI told her it was wrong and Iw asn't into girls as much as she is. I don't know what to say or do to make her realise I don't fancy her. Any advice,I rate a five for any good advice.
p.s I'm a 16 year old girl. Don't reply to this if your going to give me shit about being shallow, cause I don't care what you think!
Thanxs. xox
Just be honest. Tell her that you are her friend, and that you value her friendship...But also tell her that the situation is becoming akward for you. If she is your friend, she needs to respect your feelings...and your personal space.
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okay!
When people ask you for advice, then you answer, and they rate you low because they dont like your answer, and because you didnt say what they wanted you to! thats just bull! i mean, they are asking for your oppinion!
Anyone else agree or have this problem?
I wish they would realize, that its just what we think!!!
everyone thinks different!!!
I think the low #'s are just there if someone doesnt answer the question, or cusses you out!
Anyways-
Kels
Yes, of course.
Any person on this site who is honest will eventually encounter this problem. People ask for advice when they don't really want advice. They want validation, and sometimes...when you don't tell them what they want to hear...you get a low score and/or crappy freedback.
Oh well :P
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I have to ask this question, out of pure and utter curiousity. Is Targets running somewhat of a scam? The Ipod Minis are on sale, well, they give you a $15 gift card with the purchase of the mini thats 4G, but every store is "SOLD OUT", and I find this HARDDDD to believe, due to the fact the sale just started, and every store is like "WE got a HUUUGE shipment yesterday, but they sold out".
No. Not a scam.
Well advertised, good deals...Tend to sell very quickly. For example: the day after Thanksgiving, Best Buy sold all of their notebook computers about twenty minutes after the doors opened. The price was so insanely low...
Try watching the papers and going to the store as soon as it opens on the day of the sale, if you REALLY want that Ipod...
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This fight all started on this site called "Kiwibox"...
Okay this fight has been going on for days and I don't know how to end it. See she started this," Hoebags Club" with a couple of other friends of mine and I felt left out and it turns out that she started this club after I responded with a JOKE in another friends journal and I didn't say "j/k"
Well I ranted about it in my Random journal and Things got out of hand and now 2 of the "Hoebags" are calling me a "2 year old" and " A Bitch" and I don't know how to stop the fight. I appologized and everything.
If you've all ready apologized...There is really not much more that you can do about it. You can try talking to them one more time, explaining that it was just a joke, that you didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings...You get the point. They can either listen and get over it, or they can continue to act like 2 year olds and bitches themselves.
If they don't get over it...Hey, it's not your fault that they have the maturity of a toddler. I know I sound terribly insensitive, but I just think that the whole situation is ridiculous. Why they are upset is ridiculous, that they haven't gotten over it is ridiculous...Ridiculous, ridiculous...I think that you are the only adult in the group, and shouldn't feel bad for it. If you're the only adult in your online circle, find some new online friends. You've probably got more important things to think about than this anyway...Ja! ;)
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My boyfriend's parents just don't like me and I can't figure out why! I don't smoke, drink, or do anything like that. I'm in college with a 4.0 GPA for Journalism and Communications and I do lots of volunteer work. What's not to like?!? All my ex-boyfriend's mom's have loved me to death: I even still hang out with one of them! I also do so many things for my boyfriend, such as when he has a big test to study for, I'll organize his desk, do his laundry, or bring him dinner. I leave him sweet notes in the morning! We've been going out for 2 years, and he absolutely loves me, yet his parents have a different opinion. They tell him that he needs to date other people and that they don't think I'm right for him. This is just so strange to me! What's going on?
I don't think that _you_ are the problem. I think the problem is that your boyfriend is "twenty-three and about to graduate."
Mommy and Daddy have probably realized, for a while now, that soon their son will be venturing into the adult world. He'll be able to provide for himself, take care of himself, and won't be sharing a roof anymore. That's a big deal for any parent. Just as any family changes when a child is born, so the family changes again when the same child becomes an adult. His parents are going to act in an irrational matter every now and then. It happens. He'll deal with it, they'll deal with it, everything will be okay.
With that said...His parents probably think that the two of you are getting serious. (It sounds like it to me. Are you?) They probably also think that twenty-three is still too young to commit to one person. That he should still be looking around and feeling out different people. Well, that's just tough Mom and Dad. Their son is a man now, he can decide whether or not he wants a serious relationship or not. Whatever his decision, they are going to have to take it and like it if they don't want to push their son out of their life.
As for whether or not they think that you are "right" for him or not...I'm guessing that they don't know you very well. Please correct me if I'm wrong. I don't know you either, and you could be a child of the devil :P but I doubt it. You sound like you've got your head screwed on straight. That you aren't the "right" girl...Sounds like an excuse to me. Besides, that's not for them to decide either. It's your boyfriend's life and his decision.
So I suggest...Don't worry about it. Probably easier said than done, but try to think of it this way...A relationship all ready has enough worries when there are two people involved. Add another two people, and it can get out of hand. Besides, if your boyfriend loves you, and wants to be with you in the future, he'll tell his parents how he feels. And if they really love him, they'll accept you and learn to like the idea that their little boy is growing up :) Farewell dearie ;) Don't let Mom and Dad get ya down...:D
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I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx
Please excuse me while I fall out of my chair. You are worried that you will never fall in love...AND YOU ARE FOURTEEN? Honey, I didn't date until I was seventeen. I didn't kiss until I was nineteen. And most of my friends didn't either.
Just calm down. You have the rest of your life to find someone to love. Now is the time to think of other things, like who you are, school, etc. You are not destined to be alone. You are fourteen.
And you aren't ugly or worthless. I might not be able to see you, and I might not know you, but I do know that the real problem is a lack of confidence. Forget about the boys for a minute, and think about you. I know that you must like something about yourself. What? Why? If you can find something to like about yourself, then you've just taken the first step to actually LIKING yourself.
The funny thing is, once you gain confidence, you won't be so shy. If you are confident instead of shy, boys will like you and try to date you. So, address the real problem first, some lucky boy will find you later ;)
Adieu!
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ok well i have this boyfriend i love him him soo much and he loves me too and he wants a kid reallie badd and i do too and we kinda said we want one but im afraid of my parents reaction if i did end up getting pregnant. and i mean im scared becuz my da tends to have a very bad temper problem like one time i juss wanted to go to my room and so he grabbed the bak of my head and literally threw me into my room and made my head hit the wall and i cut it open on a tack thing and so i tried to walk past him to get a wet rag and he wouldnt let me! and so im not afraid of my moms reaction becuz all she would do is give me andvice and help me raise it and tell me i was stupid and kik me out of the house cuz they said if i mess up reallie badly one more time im out of the house its my dads reaction im afraid of becuz when he gets madd he juss like blacks out and doesnt kno wat hes doing until its done and my boyfriend says that if my dad tried to hurt me that he would defend me and hit my dad and all but i dont want anyone to get hurt you know? but you have no idea how badd i want a baby!!!! and if i did get pregnant i'd want it to be my boyfriends baby. im juss afraid of my dad he scares me more than anyone i have ever known in my life
answer as fast as you can plz!!
Please forgive me in advance. I know that what I am about to say is going to be down right ugly. But I'm going to say it, because you need to hear it. Please understand that I say this, not to insult your intelligence, but out or concern.
If you are worring about what Mommy and Daddy would do if you got pregnant, you are not old enough to have a child. If you are still living under your parents' roof, you are not old enough to have a child. You are not old enough, and you are unprepared.
And this is why...
Are you still in school? If so, how do you intend to financially support a baby? Are you going to quit, and go out and get a full-time job? If so, please consider this...With no education it is EXTREMELY difficult to find a well paying job. Most likely, you would have to work what is called a "dead-end job" (as in going NOWHERE) for very little money.
Do you expect Mom and Dad to help you? Isn't that unfair? You would be giving them an extra mouth to feed, when they didn't have any input whatsoever. Do you think that is just a little inconsiderate? And this is why you shouldn't have children until you can financially support yourself and have enough left over to support another person as well. Don't have a kid until you can afford one.
Are you prepared to raise a child? Are you willing to watch them every moment of every day? Are you willing to give up sleeping at night, so that you can be there for them when they cry? Are you willing to even change a diaper? What are you going to do when they get in trouble? Say goodbye to your social life, say goodbye to school, say goodbye to your free time. A child is more work than any full-time job. Because you can never clock out!
And again, if you are expecting your parents to help you with this, that's really inconsiderate. Now, not only are you giving them a financial burden, you're giving them an emotional burden as well. They now have to help you raise a child, when it sounds like they haven't even finished raising their own children yet. If they didn't have a hand in the plan, why should it be their responsibility?
Basicly, what I am saying is, if your dad got really angry...I could understand. This isn't just your mistake, it becomes his too.
Oh, and if you are thinking that your boyfriend is going to help you...He's going to have the same problem when it comes to providing for a baby. And he may want one now, but that's no guarentee that he will still want it in the future. No, I don't know him. Yes, he might love you. But take a look at all the single parents in the world, who have had their significant other bail on them when things got too difficult. It happens everyday, and it could happen to you too.
Don't make your life, or your parents life, more difficult than it has to be. Wait. You can have children, but don't until you are living in your own house, paying your own bills, old enough to see the reason in what I am saying, and have a significant other that is as prepared as you. In fact, it might be a good idea to wait until you're married. Because then, you at least have a promise that he will stay.
If your boyfriend really loves you, he can wait too. He can wait until you are both independent. Besides, if he can wait that long, then you know he'll stick around after that pregnancy test comes back positive...
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My neighbors and I used to play out side and play nintendo at each other's houses and stuff all the time. a few months ago, though, my mom had a cardiac arest, resulting in brain injury. For a while, my mom was in the hospital, so me and my family were hardly ever home, and almost never free. She's a lot better now, and just has trouble remembering things. Since she came home though, my neighbors seem to be avoiding me. When I get on IM, they get off. I called them a few times, and it sounded like they were making excuses, but I didn't really have any grounds to argue on, so I didn't bother. Do you think they're avoiding me or am I just being paranoid? Sorry for the length, but please awnser.
I'm sorry to hear about your mother :( But I'm glad that she is doing better :)
Yes, I think they are avoiding you. But I don't think it is because they dislike you, I think it is because they are uncomfortable. What happened to your mom was pretty serious, you and your family were probably upset for a while.
They might be afraid that if they talk to you, they'll witness some sort of emotional breakdown. While it sounds like you and your neighbors are basicly friends, they probably don't feel like they know how to support you at this time. They probably can't imagine coping with your situation, so maybe they're a little uneasy about how _you're_ coping with it. Feeling inadequate most likely causes them to feel akward and uncomfortable around you.
My advice: don't worry about it. Give them some time, live your life...Eventually, they will realize that everything is back to normal, and then they'll start acting normal again. It will work out dearie ;P
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Well, you see, I have been friends with this girl who lives in England for over 3 years now. We met online, but we've talked over the mic and we know what each other looks like. And she's thinking of doing a trip thing over here and we where thinking about having her stay. When I say we, I mean I...
Anyways, everything went well until I asked my Mom about it. She said, "Yeah, I guess...perhaps." And she's been thinking about it. But when I brought it up again, she said: "How do I know how to trust her?"
And so we've been trying to get ways to proove that my Mom could trust her, but I just don't know how. Does anyone have any suggestions?
And does anyone have any suggestions on how to get HER Mom to let her come? She's been saying it's okay to be penpals, perhaps, but I don't know about actually coming here. How do we break the news to her Mom & Dad without having them blow up? Their very over-pretective, as she describes them...
Thanks! Sorry this is so long!
Maybe her parents would feel more comfortable with the idea if her mom or dad came with her?
As for what your mom has to say...I understand how you feel. You feel like you all ready know this person, and that they are trustworthy. While that might be true, you still have to exercise some caution when meeting someone in real life for the first time. I suggest that your friend and her parent(s) stay at a hotel while they are in town, and that the first few visits are supervised, and held in a public place.
You might think that I'm being ridiculous. However, I have been in your situation before. Like you, I had been talking to this person for a very long time and felt like I knew him. However, I was still cautious. (You have to be, the world is a very dangerous place.) I stayed at the local hotel with my family, I met him in a public place, and when I met him for the first time, my family was present. I turned out to be right. He was a nice, honest young man. I had nothing to worry about. But if I had to do it again, I'd still stick to my guns. As the corny old saying goes, "Better safe than sorry."
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