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ahh ahh.
I have an extra curricualr activity. There's this guy there. His name is Gabriel. He's not the hottest guy in the world, but I think he's totally nice. We have a lot in common. We see eachother once a week, and talk on AIM. We're in different grades. He's in 8th, I'm in 7th. We don't go to the same school, and won't be able to see eachother over the summer. I really care about him, but he doesn't know. My friends think he's ugly, and that even if he is nice, he's not worth it because he's ugly. I don't care about looks so much. I'm really shy too...
What should I do?
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Well if you really like this guy I think you should go for it! Who cares what your friends think, its you who is making this decision not them. You know what you want, and if this guy is nice then like I said go for it! And plus lets say you two did decide to get together, the time that you two spend apart will give you two a chance to miss eachother so when you do see eachother there will be alot of excitement there. And I have to give you a million cool points for going for this guy NOT based on his looks. To many people are shallow these days.
Hope I helped you.
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I think you go out with the guy. Have you ever noticed that some people who aren't considered real handsome get better looking once you get to know them? The opposite is true too. My brother was at one time married to a very good looking girl...until she let that personality out. UGLY, that girl got ugly! So, don't let looks stop you from getting to know this guy. His looks will change to your friends once they get to know him. And, if they don't so what. They are shallow and you're not. Good for you! :)
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Ask him if he wants to hang out NOT a date cause you shouldnt do that yet until you have hung out just one on one. Act friendly and see if it all goes well from there its all about if you like him enough to say it to his face make sure you hang out with him plenty like just hang out wherever it doesnt matter if you see eachother 24/7 and in school cause my bf is in a different school to and me and him are great. hang out every weekend if its possible.
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well i wanna tell you to follow your heart.. but it might not be best in this case. you won't get to see him very much, so a # of things could go wrong: hes not as interested, he might cheat on you, he might think you'll cheat on him, or you just wont be able to see each other as much as you like. but hey, if you reallyyyy like him, go for it! things might end up great! ;-)
MiiCHELLE..*
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Your friends are shallow. Sorry, but it's the truth. I'm not telling you to dump your friends. What I am telling you is that what they think doesn't matter.
You said that this guy is nice, and that you like him...Well, I say go for it. So you won't be able to see each other over the summer...You live in the wonderous age of technology. You might not be able to see each other face to face, but you can still talk to each other. Phones, e-mail, IM's...
Oh...And since you are shy...You might be wondering how to tell him that you like him. While face to face is always better, if the thought of looking him in the eye makes you queasy...Why don't you tell him while on IM? Or write him a letter, e-mail, whatever...That way, you can say what you need to say, have time to think it out, you won't be interrupted, and he can't see you sweat...Just a suggestion.
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Go out with him! -shrug- Who cares what other people think?
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I think you should definately keep in touch with him. It's hard to find good, nice guys out there and you found one. Who cares what your friends think, this isnt about what their opinions are its about what you feel. Not being able to see him alot isnt a big thing, you guys wont get tired of eachother and your relationship will just get stronger and stronger. Looks don't matter.. I liked a guy with freckles and red hair.. if it wasnt for his personality hed be ugly and no girl would like him. But he was so sweet and his personality was the greatest, everyone liked him! dont worry about your friends.. the guy seems like a great person ;-).. hope it helps
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Tell him you like him. You guys can hang out in the summer, talk on the phone, or over AOL. Tell your friends to not bad mouth about him because you really like him. Even if he is ugly but you still like him, then so what. You can't help who you like and you're not suppose to!
-Brianna
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Wow, your friends are shallow.
You're right; looks aren't THAT important. It's much better to be with a nice guy than a mean one, even if you do have to make him wear a paper bag.
No, in all seriousness, physical appearance doesn't really mean much. A lot of the sweetest, kindest guys are ugly as all get out... and a lot of the most horrible, mean, controlling people are really, really hot. Of course, hot guys can also be nice and ugly guys can also be mean. Looks really have no bearing on personality.
My advice to you is to tell your friends exactly what you've said here--that you don't care about looks. Remind them that this means there'll be one less girl competing for the hotties they're after; that should straighten them out a little. IF they dump you over dating an ugly boy--a practice that ultimately helps them in their shallow goal of dating a Ken doll--then they aren't really your friends, are they? I know it hurts to think about, but if they're too afraid to be associated with someone who dates an ugly boy, then they really aren't worth your time.
As for him, I suggest you just tell him you're into him. Don't worry about rejection, don't worry about what people will think, just tell him that you like him. Sure, he might reject you, but it's just fine if he does. Even the most happily married people get rejected when they're young--sometimes by the person they end up married to later! Getting turned down is a part of learning how to handle love, and if he turns you down it will be just as good for you as getting accepted.
Just follow your heart, and you'll be fine.
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DEFINATLY go for him! if you like his personality thats so much more than just his looks. i asked a similar question before i got with my bf cuz i was scared of what ppl would think. dont worry about his appearence, its whats inside that counts! follow your heart! <3
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