When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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OK so Im 5ft 8 and I weigh around 130 something...Am I fat? People call me fat and all I can do is cry about it. I eat a lot. I dont notice I eat that much but I do :( (link)
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Hey whats up,
There is a medical equation for the ideal weight in females which is:
Height in cm - 110= Weight in kg
So by calculations, your height in cm is 175 cm and your weight in kgs is 60 kg.
And here by using the equation, the ideal weight should be:
175-110= 65 kgs
And here your only 60 kgs, then your body is even less than the ideal weight, and that makes it just perfect. So your definitely not fat or even near that point. And thats what medicine says, and i think that it knows better than a bunch of idiots who claim that you ARE fat, because thats just silly.
Listen to me, never let anyone make fun of you or let you down or upset you even the least bit. YOu should stand up for yourself and shoot back at this person a comment that would shut the hell up of him. Seriously, you need a boost of self confidence, and thats what i'm here for, and what every other advicenator is here for.
But if your too worried to loiter away from the ideal weight of this 65 kgs, then start paying attention to what you eat, and try to work on some exercises or going running everyday or even walking would do, or you could try going to a gym on regular basis. But apart from all that, if i were you, i would eat all i want, and screw anyone who would come up to me to throw a worthless joke of how fat i am , because thats just bullshit, your definitely not fat. So stop crying, and have some self confidence in yourself, and stand up for yourself.
Cheer up girl, and if you need any further advice, please be free to contact me, and i hope all goes well. Goodluck:)
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i've known my best friend Serina, known as Rina, since kindergarden, but became friends in 3rd grade. We've grown up and we were almost exactly the same personality wise and how we acted or what we said. Lately, it seems like she's moved on or something. She's made new friends, not that I care, i'm glad she has, but she never tells me anything any more. She tells it to her friend Ian, Billy, and maybe a couple other people. Ian was a guy I became friends with a while ago and I introduced her to him and they're good friends now. She always is sad and she always lies. Simple things sometimes too. I made friends this year by myself and i'm kind of quiet, but I can be talkative too, but it's hard sometimes to make friends. Anyways, she's become friends with the friends I made and its almost like shes taking them away from me. She always shuns me from her life. I feel so left out. She seems to like her other friend Billy and Ian more than me and I try so hard to be there for her. It's been hard talking to her when shes sad. She'll sometimes, well most of the time, just stop talking and put her hair over her face and ignore people and she did that to me countless times and I froze and never knew what to say. Its only like that for me because she never tells me anyhing and I feel uncomfortable asking her whats wrong becasue she never tells me or would walk away. I don't feel like her friend. I feel as though we're having a casual relationship as friends and i've even told her that she never tells me anything because she once told me something and I was able to walk up to her and ask whats wrong and help her, but then she stopped. Sorry this is so long, i'm just trying to get some backround information on here. I can't really go and ask anyone about this because their advice is things i've already done. It'd make my year if someone could help me.
(sorry if there were any typos, i'm sure there were a few) (link)
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Hey whats up,
YOu know, reading your problem now was just exactly like reading the one i faced with my best friend last year. I was exactly like you and i knew this best friend of mine since a long time ago, and we used to do everything together, till last year, when she made friends with other people and started completely ditching me and for no known reason at all. I used to do what you do, and i used to go up to her and try to talk to her and stuff, but once she really did answer and she would be like 'hey there is nothing wrong, we are still friends and i'm still here for you, but i just kind of moved on by meeting new people and getting close to others and making new friends and stuff' and then in the next second, she was practically implying that i should make new friends of my own and move my ass on too.
You see, i may not be the right person to give you advice on this issue since i've recently stopped believing in friendship, but i'm experienced enough to tell you that people sometimes get the urge after so many years to get to know more people and make new friends, and when they do that, they don't really mean to turn their backs on their old friends ,but by time, thats the way it ends.
And i've learnt that by the way she acts with you, its not about ignoring you, its just about being ashamed to face you, so you wouldn't tell her that she threw you away or treated you like shit, because she does feel guilty about this all, but she's probably not the type of person to come clean and admit that she was wrong and apologize about it,cause she's already made friends and gone too far.
So here is my suggestion, keep going after her and show her that you'll always be there for her and ask about her everyday, and call her on the phone, and just be there for her, but don't open the subject with her about her moving on and ignoring you, just keep things cool and act like your still good friends. And why don't you also try to get even closer to Ian, since you were already friends with him and get to know billy too, and just try to fit there between her new group of friends.
Other than that, move on with your own life, and get to know new people, away from the circle of her friends and away from the circle of friends she's stealing from you. I know how hard it is to know new people and make friends from scratch, but its also partially fun and as a new experience. So go out there and get to know people.
Thats it, thats all i have to say,but if you need any further help or advice, please be free to contact me. I hope it all goes well, goodluck:)
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oka im really confuse i like this guy right, which is my friend brother and just the other day he found out that i like him. But before he knew i liked him everytime i go to there house he always be fooling around and bumping into me and one time i was laying down and he lay right beside me talkin in a deep voice to me and stuff.And i just want to know if he likes me or what because now he knows i like him and i dont know what to do. (link)
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Hey whats up,
See, usually when guys like girls, they don't like to brag about it, and they just act cool about it, and deny any kind of likeness or love. And i think here this guy your talking about happens to be a prime example of what i'm talking about, its obvious by the way he acts that he admires you or has a crush on you or even really likes you . But seriously, I really can't tell if he does or not and neither can you. But you see, you may think that him finding out that you like him is a bad thing, but its actually a good thing, cause when he's now sure of your feelings towards him, he has total freedom to share his feelings with you and maybe even ask you out at anytime, cause he'd be sure to get a yes in response.
But for now, leave things to fall in place on their own, and just act totally cool and normal around him, and see what he does, but don't go and talk to him about liking him or anything.
Thats it, and please be free to contact me whenever you want, and i hope all goes well. Goodluck:)
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On E! channel, there is the show "Girls Next Door" (about Hugh Hefner, and his three girl friends). A lot of times on the show, the girls get naked and it's censored out (obviously)...but if you buy it on the DVD...is it still cencored??
Thanks in Advanced! (link)
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Hey whats up,
Umm.. first of all, I just wanna explain something to you, and I'll do that by giving you an example of another tv show, like survivor (if you know it), and umm.. sometimes in the show ,a part of the people's body show without them realizing that, so thats why on tv and on DVD you'd find that its censored out, but in this show of yours 'girls next door' which i heard off, but i've never watched, if the girls do get nakid intentionally infront of the camera, then it will be shown on DVD and I give you my word that i'm 100% sure of that.
If you need any further help, please be free to contact me. Have a nice day!!
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i have this friend tom who's kind of nerdy and has never had a girlfriend. and there's this girl amy (also pretty nerdy) who has liked tom all year. she's been convinced that tom likes her, even though he keeps saying he doesn't. well the other day tom asked me "should i go out with amy?". and i said, "yeah! if you like her!". and he said, "but i don't." (he likes all these popular girls who would never go out with him). so i told him... if you don't like her at all, then don't go out with her. but if you like her a little, then give it a try and see how it goes. so he asked her out, and now she's all excited. but now im wondering if that was good advice or not. cuz if he really doesnt like her that much, and is just going out with her to have a gf, then that's probably not good. but on the other hand, if he waits around for miss perfect cheerleader, he'll be waitin a lonnnggg time. idk... what would you have told him?? (link)
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No, that was just the right advice to give, because first of all, when a guy likes a girl, they usually don't brag about it and they deny their love, but i'm sure he does like her or at least admires her or even has a crush on her, and with you giving the right advice, then he'll probably go out with her and maybe see what a great person she is and this crush would develop into the love he denied or something. Its totally no problem to give it a try, and if it works between him and amy, then he'd be moving on with his life with someone he loves and he'd forget all about the silly dream of dating popular people.
On the other hand, if things did not work between them, then its not your fault, and don't blame yourself for giving him this piece of advice, because then, it would just be that things did not work between them and they were not meant to be together.
So just don't worry over the issue of the right or wrong advice you gave, because its right and and anyone in the same situation would say the same thing you told him. But just make sure to encourage him before going out, and make him feel positive about this date, so he wouldn't like go by force and things would get screwed and stuff, and then amy would just get upset about this all.
Thats it, and if you would like any further help, please be free to contact me, and I hope all goes well. Goodluck:)
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I get styes a lot, and in March I had surgery to get rid of them. This surgery cost 8000 dollars. My parents did not know this before the surgery and were surprised when they got the bill. They had to pay only 1800 of that because our insurance covered the rest. This was still a lot of money for my family. My mom thinks that the styes are caused by my make-up, but I think differently. I believe that the styes came from the hormone changes I was experiencing at puberty. My mom will not allow me to wear make-up anymore because she does not want to pay for another surgery. If you have any information regarding the way to cure styes and help me convince my mom to let me wear make-up please answer this. I would really appreciate any help, styes have affected my life a lot because I have been teased by kids at my school often for having big red bumps on my eyes.
Thanks,
Kayla (link)
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Hey,
First of all, i'm sorry for taking a long time to answer your question, cause i haven't been logging on the site for a long time now. But now that i'm here and have read your question and understand what your going through, I want to help you gain self confidence in yourself first because here, we are talking about a medical condition and not something to share as a joke between friends, so i do understand how hard it must be for you to be teased by those kids, but seriously screw them because they ARE kids and they don't understand anything, so don't let people let you down and upset you especially if its something about a topic like such.
Second of all, since i'm only like 14-15 years old, i consulted my father whose a doctor and he said that makeup DOES cause these styes and that it plays a great role in causing them. i guess makeup doesn't affect everyone since alot of people wear it and they are not affected by styes ,but others are, and i guess ,you are affected by makeup. So I'm sorry, but i do agree with your mother that you should not wear makeup, and although that is really annoying, but you'll see yourself that if you stop wearing make up, then the styes would not come back.
Oh and another source of styes could be if you have diabetes.So if it is possible that you can reply and tell me if you do have diabetes or not, and if you don't know, its important to consult a doctor, and also tell me how old are you, and i'll consult my dad again and tell you more.
And please check this site if you want, cause it could contain some useful information about the treatment of styes
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stye#Causes
I hope i was able to help you and provide you with the information you want about styes. And if you would like me to help you further, please be free to contact me through my inbox here on the site, or if you would prefer to keep it private, you can email me on my address alaa-abuali@hotmail.com.
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Is there seriously High Schools in Egypt? I dont mean to sound like...mean, i just think that must be really cool. Is it weird, or a good experience? (link)
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hey,
umm.. ofcourse there are high schools in Egypt. Infact, there is pretty much everything here in Egypt just as there is out there in any part of the world. Its not that of a good experience, and its pretty much like any usual school years, and there isn't much of the big fuss of high school you'd find in america. Its just normal and quiet. I hope i helped. lol. have a nice day.
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Ok, i have this friend thats a girl, lets call her jan. and my friend that is her boyfriend's name can be bob.
Okay, Jan and bob have been together around 3 months, and suposibly they are in "love." Well theres just one thing. Bob is verbally abusing jan. Every time jan tries to talk to her friends or hang with them bob gets mad. every time jan talks to other guys, bob gets mad. Bob is trying to get all of jans friends turned against her so that he can have her all to himself.
example:
one night bob and jan were at a school dance. jan started talking to her friends, and not just to bob. Bob gets really mad, goes and gets his stuff and says im leaving. Jan tries to stop him, and says well im not going with you, im not letting you ruin my night. but finally bob stays. well for part of the rest of the night jan was all over bob, he was just fine. then jan started talking to her friends again, bob gets mad. and this is what always happens.
ok so clearly, bob is verbally, and emotionally abusing jan. Jan doesnt realize this because she loves bob of course. Ok, i am jans best friend and i dont want her relationship to go on and on like this. i want to get her to realize it. Bob is going to get all of her friends turned on her and leave her with nothing. If i talk to Jan, she is going to get mad and blow me off, just the way bob wants it to be. if it goes on the relationship could turn physical. and i dont want this to happen.
since im her best friend i feel like i should do something about it. I know its not really any of my business but i cant stand whats happening to her.
HELP! what should i do?
(sorry so long) (link)
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Hey whats up,
Firstly, I have to admit that Bob does really love Jan, but its just because some people have this certain attitude of their own, that when they love someone so much , they are just so scared that they would lose this person, so they get mad when he spends time with others and hangs out with other people and stuff. And here Bob, is clearly so madly inlove with her, thats why he wants her all for himself, but he's handing the situation the wrong way when he verbally and emotionally abuses her.
Secondly, a relationship with no respect can never be called a relationship. And if Jan, no offense, had any dignity or self-respect of her own, she would have noticed so, but she's probably too blinded by his love.
Therefore, you should try to talk to her and grab her attention to the way he's mistreating her and turning her over her friends, and tell her that your her best friend and you only care for her and her feelings, and tell her that he doesn't treat her with the respect that she deserves. And maybe she would listen to you, but even if she did blow you off, she would still listen and think of what you said, trust me. So tell her and give her sometime, and she would start to notice his actions on her own and notice how disrespectful he is with her.
So consider what i said, and go talk to her ,because after thats where best friends should take an action.
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Hi! OK. Its really simple, my boyfriend and I can text all day on the phone, but when we actually get on the phone, its hard to keep the conversation going. PLEASE HELP!! Give me some topics or something. I've never been at a lost for words but with him, I can never get my words right, PLEASE HELP (link)
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Hey whats up,
Firstly, I think you should cut down on texting and talk about what you text on the phone. Thats a start. Then, I can't really tell you what to tell your boyfriend cause I don't know anything about you or him. But usually, you could tell him about your day or If something of particular interest happened, and try to know about him more, about his friends, family , life, and background. Then talk about yourself, and get him involved in your life. YOu could ask him about his future plans and talk about yours, or learn about his favorites from colours and fruits, and what type of music is he interested in.. etc.
Just talk about stuff in general, and honestly, if there is nothing to talk about ,then just don't call, because if you talk like everyday, ofcourse you would be at loss of words ,and then it would get too boring. So try not to call alot, and so that the day you call, you would find something to say. Take care.
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I am 16 years old and a female. I don't know how to cook, I stopped after I burnt some eggs one morning. I haven't had the courage to go back in the kitchen. So when I do go back, I kind of forgot what I am suppose to do( I know sounds silly). Please help me with what I need to do to become a good cook. (link)
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Hey whats up,
Thats pretty simple. Listen, we all do mistakes, and if you've messed up in the kitchen once, then learn from your mistake and avoid it. Besides, making some eggs is not related with cooking at all. So don't worry, we all burn eggs.lol. But if you want to be able to cook, you could take up cooking courses , or ask for your mother's help, ask her to teach you and show you how things are done. You could also buy a couple of cooking books for starters and they would guide you on how to start off. And then by time, if you are really determined to learn and put all your efforts in cooking, then you'd probably become the perfect chef.It just takes time and effort, and you will mess up several times, but then you'll do just fine. Take care.
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If I don't eat sweets or drink sodas will I really see a difference in my weight? (link)
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Hey whats up?
Ya definitely , you would notice the loss of weight. But thats only if you cut down on all possible sweets and sodas and food containing carbohydrates , and eat only a healthy diet of vegetables and fruits. It would also take a while for you to lose weight, but yes you would notice a difference.
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Recently i've been envying other people who have like these really cool names. I've been trying to think of what i could do with my name (my name's Donna). But i can't think of anything to do with my name. People normally call me Donz, but i've been called that for ages and i just want something else that people could call me by.
Any1 got any ideas?? (link)
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Hey whats up?
First of all, envying others is a really bad character that I don't advise you to own. And i have to admit, that when I read your name, I just opened my mouth and kept staring at the P.C for about half an hour ,because i don't know what your thinking of, but i find your name awesome, its such a gorgeous name. Now you see what you've done to me, I'm envying you for your amazing name.lol.
But If you want other names, there is Don, Dawn, Donza, Dolly, Donnita, and Donnila. Thats all I have in mind for now, but if i were you, I would just stick to my own name, cause its better than any other name that you would think of.
Take care and goodluck.
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I just got rid of my best guy friend. I'm a female. I don't know what to do, he's the only one who listened and seemed to care. Lately he seemed like he didn't care at all, he hasn't even been talking to me. So I'm avoiding him now, and it feels like I've basically lost him.
How can I not be so hurt? I'm sinking into depression and it's horrible. Are there any things I can do to not be this terribly upset? Thank you. (link)
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Hey whats up? How are you?
Right now, while reading your problem, it was exactly as reading my own problem. I just lost my best guy friend a week ago. It was exactly the same problem ,but on the contrary, I asked him about it and why he has been ignoring me and not talking to me. At first, i thought that maybe something was bothering him or putting him down, but there wasn't anything, and he just kept swearing and cursing and saying that he doesn't want to be best friends any more, just like that out of the blue. And i was terribly hurt to the extent that i couldn't cry, and everything has been bottled up inside me ever since last week.
So you see, its my job now to help comfort you and tell you that everything is gonna be alright. YOur wrong to even waste your time crying or falling into deep depression and nervous breakdowns. I mean.. jesus christ, when he ignores you and doesn't listen to you and treats you like crap, i think he's making it clear enough that he doesn't want to know you or talk to you, and he doesn't even care about you or care that he would hurt you by his actions, then why would you care about such a horrible beast like him. He's just causing you pain and depression and leaving you in a melancholic state, so why waste your time . I do know that you just can't help it, and that although how bad he's treating you , you still want him, but look on the bright side, you may have lost him, but at least , you lost someone who was mean to you and wouldn't care or listen to you. I know thats not a really bright side. lol. But just try harder, try to accept the fact that he's no good. And i am sure that you have many other friends who are much better, and if you want ,you could develop a friendship with someone and have another best friend, who would be better and would deserve such an amazing person like you. Think of what i said ,and if you need to talk or if you need any other help, please be free to contact me with a private message or an email.Take care.
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what do u do when your friends tell you that you have changed alot ever since u got with your boyfriend??
the other day my sister told me that i've been alot more bitchier ever since i got with my boyfriend kyle which was almost a month ago.
and then my best friend just told me that everyone has noticed it.
she said that i act like im better than everyone and im alot more bitchier and everything.
i just dont know what i am supose to do about that. should i break up with my boyfriend or just ignore everyone else?? (link)
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Hey whats up? How are you? I know exactly what your going through, cause i have been there in the same situation. First of all, yes you do change when someone new and special enters your life, but that shouldn't be explained by saying that you act like a bitch. On the contrary, you change your actions and everything about you because of all the excitement and love that overcomes you, and you do try to change your self and your appearance and everything just to impress the opposite person, meaning, that new special person who has become a part of your life.
So here, in your situation, some of those who claim that you act bitchier could be jealous or could be just warning you. I am sure they mean nothing about it, and i am sure that you mean nothing about the change in your actions. Thats why, you should most definitely not break up with your boyfriend, because that would be too unfair to him, and very immature of you. NO offense ofcourse. So , in my opinion, you should go and tell them that you don't mean anything by the change that has overcome you, and that you are just too excited and in love and happy because of that new experience of having an amazing boyfriend, and tell them that you weren't paying attention and you haven't noticed, but your gonna make an effort to try and be yourself again. And you should do that, you shouldn't just give up and break up with him. ON the contrary, you should know what your doing wrong and undo it, and make it to the better. Okay? I hope i reached to you and helped you. Think of what i said, and if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me. Take care.
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do you know the girl who i love? (link)
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why would you ask such a question? Who are you???
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ive had a myspace before, but then my mom somehow found out about it, went through my history and made me delete it, so i did. then a few months later, i got one again. i figured if i deleted my history there would be no way shed find out. until my friend accidentally slipped and i had to delete it again.
my mom doesnt like myspace because of all the stuff that happens on it, like rapists and crap. i told her i could make it private and no one could see it, but she was like no i dont care, i still dont like myspace. basically, shes punishing me for what other people do. ive tried explaining that to her, but she wont listen. any ideas on how to convince her to let me have one?
thanks in advance :] (link)
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Hey whats up? Since your mom seems not to agree at all about the myspace idea, and to avoid going through all the trouble of deleting the history and worrying if she would know that you used myspace or not. Maybe you could just register on another website, like hi5 or zebo or mygreengroup and send freind requests to everyone you had on myspace, and it would be the same, cause all of these websites have the same options and stuff. Although i do have to admit that myspace is kind of better. But trust me, if you go with my suggestion, it would be much better for you.
And i suggested this, because i think its really hard to convince her, because mom's are usually stubborn and bull headed ,thinking that in this way, they are protecting you. lol.
Think of what i said, and if you need any other help, please be free to contact me. Take care.
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Currently, I'm 16. When (if I can) I go to prom, I'll be 17.
Let me start off with saying I have VERY strict parents. To give you an idea of how strict my parents are on me, I'll give you a few rules that they have on me:
-I can't spend the night at ANYONE'S (besides family) house. I never have.
-I can't let anyone besides family ride in my car.
-I can't go to any friends' house.
-I can't ride in anyone else's car besides family.
I want to go to prom with my boyfriend this year (it's his senior prom, I'm just a junior). Nothing mischievous is going to happen between us that night. No drinking, drugs, sex, etc.
Regardless, my parents don't seem to be very trusting of he and I. I'm not sure why since we've never done anything to break their trust. NOTHING. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year, so they've been able to get to know him.
Now you can imagine how strict they are on me. How would I ask them about going to prom? I prefer to approach my mom first and then let her talk to my dad about it. I need to find out if I can very soon so I can start dress shopping. (link)
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Hey whats up? How you doin?
First of all, I would like to clarify a point there for you that may have not caught your attention. That your not the only one with a family so strict, i mean.. my family are really strict and they set all possible rules like the ones you wrote down and much more than that. My family doesn't even allow me to date.lol. Can you imagine? And there would be so many parties and trips and stuff, and they would always not allow me to go. Its really crappy ofcourse and annoying and stuff, but after all, what can you do? They are your parents and you have to respect them and what they say. Altough i know how much prom means to you and how important it is, i have to admit ,that weird things from drugs, alcohol and sex do take place at such parties, so thats probably why your parents are worried. But they do trust you ofcourse, they just don't trust the place and the drunk horny people there.
I suggest though that you have a serious talk with them where you mention that you respect all there rules and strictness because you understand that they are afraid for you and just want you to be safe, but at the same time, tell them how much the prom means to you and how big a party it is where the whole school attends it and it just wouldnt' be right if you don't. There would be no harm in telling them these couple of words and asking them to give the subject some thought. Besides, they kind of got to know your boyfriend , so maybe if you say that your gonna be with him all the time, then nothing would happen because he's not the kind of boy who would do anything from sex or getting stoned.
And your parents maybe really strict, but they still try to give you what you want and make you happy. So think of what i said, and if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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okayy im 13/f and i reallllyyy want to get my belly button pierced but of corse my mom wont let me. so i was wondering is the anyway i could do it on my own? (link)
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Hey whats up? How you doin?
I know how cool that would be if you get your belly button pierced, i have always wanted to do so. But my mom doesn't agree either.
I would have thought of doing it on my own as you thought,but then i know that its gonna be too dangerous and alot could go wrong, and it could get infected and swollen and cause a lot of pain.
Besides, your mom could see it afterwards, and would get really mad at you for disobeying and being bull-headed. But then i am sure, that she just thinks that your still young and not ready to get your belly button pierced, and so she's just waiting for next year or the other, and she would tell you herself that she's gonna take you to get it pierced. I know how you feel when you really want something and you can't get it , but sometimes, we just can't have everything. So give this sometime, and don't give up, ask your mom about it again and tell her that alot of your friends have it pierced or something to try and convince her, and i am sure , she will give the idea some thought.
Take care, and if you need any other help, please be free to contact me.
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okay so there is this guy (lets call him A) then there is this guy who i messed around wit (lets call him B) well A & B are bestfriends and idk if A knos what happend between me and B.. me and A are friends and i wanna tell A that i like him but idk what A will say and i dont want it to ruin are friendship. So should i tell A that i like him if so how should i tell him??also what should i do if he says he doesnt like me?? (link)
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Hey whats up? How are you doin?
First of all, its necessary that i clarify a point for you. You should keep in mind that A&B are best friends, so that even if you DO tell A that you like him, he could tell B and then B could tell him how you messed around with him. And believe it or not, that does happen ,and A would believe him, because that situation happened to me before, and it was really bad.
Second thing ,is that even if you do tell him that you love him, and he responds positively, you could maybe even date afterwards, but in the end, this relationship would probabaly just last a month maximum, and then you would fight for whatever silly reason, and then ,you would have lost the amazing friendship going on between you and him, and you would have lost him as a lover.
So you see, the best thing is the friendship between you, take great advantage of it and hold on to it.Believe me, its the best thing.
Third thing, is to rephrase all what i said, which is ' Don't tell him that you like him, because its gonna ruin completely everything going on between you and him'. Moreover, many fights would take place between you and A and B. So just keep things the way they are, stop messing with B and develop the friendship between you and A, by being really close best friends, and just control your feelings and avoid any trouble. And who knows, maybe one day ,A would tell you that he has feelings for you.
If you need any other help , please be free to contact me.
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I am going to be 20 in march and Im a female. I've had a man for 3 years this july. He's in the military so its like im livin two lives. Neways, I went out with my friend and I met this boy. He is so sweet and we hit it off pretty good. I've ended up stayin at his house hangin out, talkin to him, gettin to know him better for the last week or two. I love my boyfriend, but i got feelings for this other one. I dont know if i should tell my boyfriend that we need some space. Should i see what its like with this other guy? Take the chance? Is it true that if i realize i messed up by lettin him go, we will find our way back to eachother again? (link)
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Hey whats up?
First of all, I would like to clarify a point there for you. If you break up with your boyfriend, then there is no way that you would ever get back together again.
Second of all, your boyfriend seems like a fine one and you have been together for 3 years now. I am sure he has a great successful career planned and he's attending military now. Then he's gonna come and you could get married or something. So, I don't mean to sound harsh, but while he's doing all that, maybe you should be playing your role and acting as the faithful woman waiting for her man to come home. I mean.. i am sure that he's thinking about you right now, and thinking of being with you when he comes back, and i am also sure that he is crazy in love with you and cares about you so much. So why go after another guy that your still getting to know him from start , and why go stay at his house and act as if your his girlfriend? Because after all, your not anything to him. You are your boyfriend's girlfriend. I mean.. for heaven sake, what do you know about that guy? What do you know if he's good or bad? Or is it just any guy to be with,so you wouldn't be alone.
LIsten, what your doing is totally wrong, you should be faithful and loyal to your boyfreind and wait for him to come back ,so you could plan how to start a life and family together if your getting married any time soon. Other than that, i will answer some of your questions. Like, ofcourse you shouldn't see what its like to be with this other guy, and ofcourse you shouldn't take the chance or dare tell your boyfriend about anything. Just tell this other guy that you have a boyfriend and that you shouldn't be doing that, then keep things quite and don't tell your boyfriend anything.
And just so you could know, if you had hooked up with this other guy after dumping your boyfriend, you would have probably fought with each other after a week or so, and he would have dumped you. So at the very end, you would have lost someone who is crazy in love with you just to run after someone that you don't even know him or his intentions. So think of what i said, and if you need any other help ,please be free to contact me.
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