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i feel like i'm losing my best friend
i've known my best friend Serina, known as Rina, since kindergarden, but became friends in 3rd grade. We've grown up and we were almost exactly the same personality wise and how we acted or what we said. Lately, it seems like she's moved on or something. She's made new friends, not that I care, i'm glad she has, but she never tells me anything any more. She tells it to her friend Ian, Billy, and maybe a couple other people. Ian was a guy I became friends with a while ago and I introduced her to him and they're good friends now. She always is sad and she always lies. Simple things sometimes too. I made friends this year by myself and i'm kind of quiet, but I can be talkative too, but it's hard sometimes to make friends. Anyways, she's become friends with the friends I made and its almost like shes taking them away from me. She always shuns me from her life. I feel so left out. She seems to like her other friend Billy and Ian more than me and I try so hard to be there for her. It's been hard talking to her when shes sad. She'll sometimes, well most of the time, just stop talking and put her hair over her face and ignore people and she did that to me countless times and I froze and never knew what to say. Its only like that for me because she never tells me anyhing and I feel uncomfortable asking her whats wrong becasue she never tells me or would walk away. I don't feel like her friend. I feel as though we're having a casual relationship as friends and i've even told her that she never tells me anything because she once told me something and I was able to walk up to her and ask whats wrong and help her, but then she stopped. Sorry this is so long, i'm just trying to get some backround information on here. I can't really go and ask anyone about this because their advice is things i've already done. It'd make my year if someone could help me.
(sorry if there were any typos, i'm sure there were a few)
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Hey whats up,
YOu know, reading your problem now was just exactly like reading the one i faced with my best friend last year. I was exactly like you and i knew this best friend of mine since a long time ago, and we used to do everything together, till last year, when she made friends with other people and started completely ditching me and for no known reason at all. I used to do what you do, and i used to go up to her and try to talk to her and stuff, but once she really did answer and she would be like 'hey there is nothing wrong, we are still friends and i'm still here for you, but i just kind of moved on by meeting new people and getting close to others and making new friends and stuff' and then in the next second, she was practically implying that i should make new friends of my own and move my ass on too.
You see, i may not be the right person to give you advice on this issue since i've recently stopped believing in friendship, but i'm experienced enough to tell you that people sometimes get the urge after so many years to get to know more people and make new friends, and when they do that, they don't really mean to turn their backs on their old friends ,but by time, thats the way it ends.
And i've learnt that by the way she acts with you, its not about ignoring you, its just about being ashamed to face you, so you wouldn't tell her that she threw you away or treated you like shit, because she does feel guilty about this all, but she's probably not the type of person to come clean and admit that she was wrong and apologize about it,cause she's already made friends and gone too far.
So here is my suggestion, keep going after her and show her that you'll always be there for her and ask about her everyday, and call her on the phone, and just be there for her, but don't open the subject with her about her moving on and ignoring you, just keep things cool and act like your still good friends. And why don't you also try to get even closer to Ian, since you were already friends with him and get to know billy too, and just try to fit there between her new group of friends.
Other than that, move on with your own life, and get to know new people, away from the circle of her friends and away from the circle of friends she's stealing from you. I know how hard it is to know new people and make friends from scratch, but its also partially fun and as a new experience. So go out there and get to know people.
Thats it, thats all i have to say,but if you need any further help or advice, please be free to contact me. I hope it all goes well, goodluck:)
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