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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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ohkaym so im doing my senior project on child abuse and for a product my teacher suggested going to a child abuse support place to volunteer and i really want to but i cant find one.
i need around wilmington,NC
any help would be greatly appreciated thanks :]

The best I could come up with is this site:

http://preventchildabuse.com/exchange5.shtml

Scroll down to NC and find contact information to a center that is closest to you and talk to them about volunteering.

Best of luck to you. You have chosen a very worthy cause.


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I recently learned i have the gift of knowledge. Not normal knowledge but not like einstein. I know things it took adults 40 years to learn and i am 13. my mom says knowledge is a wonderful gift.
1. can i use my knowledge to maybe gain supernatural powers? or make myself dtronger or something.

2. How can i use my knowledge. it's cool to know things but it's sort of a boring gift (not that i don't love it.) what can i do with it that is interesting? and dont say find a cure for cancer or something scientific or mathematical.

** Do not answer number 1 if you do not believe in those things please.

**EDIT**
And what the hell did I tell YOU?
I never said I didn't believe, bozo.
I just gave you a reality check. Get over it.




The saying "knowledge is power" means that knowledge gives you the ability to make something of yourself, and/or do wonderful things in this life.

It doesn't mean power in the supernatural form. You are either born with that sort of ability or you aren't. If you want to make yourself stronger physically, you work out. If you want to make yourself stronger mentally, you study.

Everyone has the ability to learn things early if they strive to do so.

Everything else you seek is pretty much just sci-fi.


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Ok, so i know this question is is totally off the wall, but have you ever seen RENT? Well if you have you know who anthony rapp is. in his book, he mentions a freind that had and died of aids. He also mentions that this freind wanted aids... i forget why, but it was a really good reason.

is it bad that i kind of want a disease that i would die from? its not like i would go try to get aids or something, but im just wondering is this crazy to think like that? to want a disease? i mean we are all gunna die someday, so why not die from a disease????

What are your thoughts on it?

thanks. sorry if this is a totally random and weird question.

Well, it is certainly bizarre.

I'd rather die peacefully in my own bed of old age.
I'd rather be around to watch my children grow and eventually go out and make lives of their own.
I'd rather sit on my porch and watch my grandkids run and play.

I don't think this way of thinking is wrong, really, but it certainly isn't my way of thinking.
See, there is so much to get out of life that terminal illness can take away from you.


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I had a really roller coaster sorta love story with this guy. He knew that I love him. I did a lot for him, even gave him a cake in class.
He let go of me for his friend. I was hurt.

I planned for a surprise on his birthday but now, I'm having second thoughts on even greeting him on his birthday. He explained to me that he le me go because he don't want to see me hurt anymore. He loves me enough to let me go.

Will i still prepare for his birthday??


Better question, will i still hang on for him??

He loves you enough to let you go? Are you kidding? He really tried to feed you that line??

If he really loved you, he wouldn't have dumped you for his little buddy, there.

Don't do shit for his birthday. He doesn't deserve it.

Don't hang on. Find someone who will grow to really love you.


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i guess this isn't really advice related.. haha. but could someone possibly make me a collage of All Time Low. http://www.polyvore.com/its_coming_so_effing_soon/set?id=9935355 Kind of like that one, but only all time low?
please, please, please! i wanna use it as my myspace layout haha, you can put credit on it if you want or something. idc, i just realllyyy want one

Since doing things for you isn't our duty, I'll give you a link that tells you how to do it for yourself:

http://www.ehow.com/how-does_4886729_making-picture-collages-myspace.html




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I am having my second baby in the beginning of March. My son is 2, He will be 3 when my next child is born. I am pricing items for this baby since I have nothing from my last pregnancy. Would I need a double stroller or a single? My son weighs as much as his 6 year old step brother which is 45 pounds he isn't chunky though just tall.

my sons are 13 months apart, and we only had the single stroller. It worked well for us, because we usually go as a family unit, so I'd usually push my youngest while my husband holds the hand of my oldest as they walk together.

Of course, this strategy doesn't work so well when you take the kids somewhere by yourself.

So, if you are able to get yourself a double stroller, by all means, get one!

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In two days I will be 14 weeks pregnant. I get headaches/ migranes like a bus just hit me. tylenol doesnt help what so ever. My doctor gave me some kind of medicine that has helped i dont like taking any tylenol unless I have to. but its to the point i cant cook clean nothing. any advice on trying to prevent them or get rid of them in away that i dont have to use medication.

Though Midol is a good thought, DO NOT TAKE IT.
You are pregnant, and VERY limited on what you can safely take. Stick to Tylenol, or what ever your doctor may prescribe.

As for the headaches, I got them during both of my pregnancies, and I hate taking medicine, too.
When they would come on, I'd lay down in a dark room, or cover my eyes with a towel, or something. Then I'd lay still until I would fall asleep. 9 times out of 10, I'd sleep it off.

Sometimes standing in the shower with water as hot as I could stand beating down on my neck would help, or I'd tilt my head back so the top of my head would be in the water stream. This is best if the room is dark, too. Light aggravates a migraine, as I'm quite sure you are perfectly aware.

Sometimes you can't fall asleep, and sometimes the hot water only makes the pain go away for a short period of time, but I'd try the shower, followed by trying a nap before I'd take meds.
Heck, I still do it that way.

Sometimes you got to take the Tylenol, though. There is no point in suffering like that, really.


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I have been writing a lot of questions lately but I have a lot concerns lately.

My first pregnancy I had high blood pressure during pregnancny, during labor and after the baby for a few weeks..

This time my doctor said I am a high risk patient. (different doctor)

my symptoms now are,

severe headaches, nause or vomiting, blurred vision, shortness of breath and some mild back pain.. once in a while i get mild pains in my stumach

Should I call my doctor and make an earlier apt. my next apt is on the 17th.

Absolutely call the doctor. Their job is to answer all of your questions, no matter how simple or silly you may think they seem.

For the record, NO QUESTION is simple or silly when it comes to pregnancy health.


I had high blood pressure during my first pregnancy, too. Some of these symptoms could be due to high blood pressure, but then again, it could be some nasty pregnancy side effects that are perfectly normal. So definitely be aware of the importance of asking the doc ASAP, but try not to think it can only be the worst.

If you are able to go to a doctor's office or health department when you are experiencing these symptoms, they will test your blood pressure free of charge. If you do that, be sure to keep record for your doctor.

Best of luck to you


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We are planning on getting our Marriage license in Iowa and it's good for 6 mos and I was wondering if we can still have the Ceremony in Michigan where our family is. I know a judge there and I would like to perform it in MI at a family members house and that way our whole family doesn't have to fly to Iowa...can I do this? Thank you.

I was always under the impression that you have to be licensed in the state you are marrying in.
Best way to get the answer you seek is to call the courthouse.

You'll want to call the Clerk of the District Court's office, which is where you'd usually go to get the license printed up. They'll know for sure, because this is definitely something you want certain answers on. You sure don't want to have the ceremony only to discover you weren't legally married.


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I would like some wedding invitations that look as close to this as possible:

http://www.nuartweddinginvitations.org/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderpictures/NuArt_Wedding_Invitation_W2790_089lr.jpg

It's like Perfect! Any idea of a place online that sells this type or even what this type is called so I can look around for it? This particular site doesn't seem to be working. Thank you!

Our wedding invites were pretty similar to those. They were Do It Yourself invites I picked up at Walmart. Wedding stuff should be by the crafts somewhere.

You buy the blank invites with the design you like, then you go to the website you get with the blanks, write it out, choose your font, etc., then print them on your own computer.

I don't recall how many come in a box, but we bought 2 boxes to send invites to about 75 guests.
They were very inexpensive and looked quite professional.


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Many people have their own opinons on family romance and im curiouse what are your thoughts?

Your friend's father is a sick, sad, disgusting man.

If your friend is below the age of 18, then I'd be perfectly content to hear that he was tossed into a tree shredder, along side all other pedophiles and rapists out there.

None the less, if she is a minor, he needs to have the law sicced on his bent-minded ass.

Your friend needs to seek some serious counseling, too, because she's obviously been warped and demented by her pervert father.

You asked for my opinion, and there it be.


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Hi I'm from the UK.

I have a 9 year old daughter who is very distressed and upset and i'm hoping you can help me help her!!

I moved away from her dad in 1999 (before she was born) due to domestic violence and gained an interdict to stop him coming near us. Since we weren't safe in the area we lived in after my split with him i moved to Edinburgh in 2002 and have been safe and living life normally ever since, that is until May last year when he managed to locate us.

Within a week we had to be placed in a Womans Aid refuge for our safety and he believes we live down in London now.

Ever since though he set up websites in search of us using videos and information from my daughters health problems to try and locate us. Now the first two websites we managed to get taken down as it pertained to a minors safety but the 3rd (which my daughter stumbled on last night) has only been up for a couple of days.

I've spoken to the police who confirmed this is a source of harassment yet won't do anything about it as its online. My solicitor reakons since he doesnt know where our new address is we should simply ignore it but its easier said than done!!

He is definately abusing my daughters right to safety and privacy. He has invaded both me and my daughters privacy by making this site and has caused us great annoyance and anxiety. The very fact he used her name as his web address shows he is abusing her right to privacy. If it was more about him it should have been called JohnMackie.co.uk not http://www.Shannoncassidy.co.uk

My daughter deserves the right to live life normally and safely - she does NOT deserve her privacy violated in such a manner and certainly not be hounded by him. Please for the safety of my daughter help me get him stopped for good!!

I need help! This is affecting my daughter greatly!! She has only JUST started relaxing after the last spate of websites and now shes back to sitting in her room crying - She doesn't understand why someone would ignore her requests to take it down and leave her alone as she wants nothing to do with him at the moment.

In light of this i would appreciate it if you could help!!

Why don't you both just do the ADULT thing and hire lawyers to defend your rights and the rights of this poor kid?


I'd probably be crying in my room, too, if my parents publicly behaved the way both of you are.


Both of you need a kick in the ass.
A hard one.

I feel sorry for neither one of you, but I feel so sorry for this child who deserves so much better than this.

Yep.
I'm a bitch.


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My boyfriend & I are thinking about having sex. We both want to & everything & there's no problem on getting aroused. The thing is, he has a small penis & I'm afraid that I wont be satisfied during sex. We really love eachother & I want our first time together to be a special moment.

I have had sex before & so has he... but I've just never been with anyone as small as him.

Have any advice on how to make the sex more pleasurable?

Thanks in advance.

Ask Dr. Ruth at the link below.
Here, you are mainly asking teenagers as young as 13 years old.

http://drruth.com/index.php?option=com_contact&Itemid=3


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In the book "the Lexus and the Olive Tree", the author is talking about the "golden straitjacket". The reason I'm reading this book is for AP world history and we also have to answer questions. I know it probably sounds like I'm just some lazy kid wanting homework answers but honest to god, I wouldn't be asking if this wasn't my last resort. I've tried google, I've tried asking my friends and parents, and I asked my teacher about it but all he said was "go figure it out". These questions are due tomorrow and this is the only question I haven't answered :/ so yeah, the question is "Why is it called a "Golden Straightjacket"? Why was it not called the "Golden Robe" or the "Golden Leisure Suit"? Thanks in advance for ANYONE who answers, I swear I'll rate!!! THANK YOU!



http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Golden_straight_jacket_what_this_proverb_means

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Soooo.
I got my ears pierced liiiike, 6 months ago. Just so that I could get gauges :D
I just ordered some acrilic ones online. They look pretty legit. Then I read somewhere that acrilic isn't that great for healing.
I have trouble with wounds healing fast. Piercings, anyway. After 6 months, I'm still getting irritation. So I wanna do this right. Would you suggest I wait and buy some steel ones or something? The acrilic ones were cheap, so it's not a big deeeal.

thankss(:

Oh btw, I'm at a 18 now and these are 14's. Dunno if that's helpful info or not, lol.

From my experience with piercings, I say stick with surgical steel. But that is my opinion.

If your piercing isn't healed yet, you need to wait for that to happen before you start messing around with jewelry swaps and what not.


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I was wondering if anyone who has Photoshop skills would be able to photoshop me into a picture like I'm taking one with Adam Lambert. Me and my friends are just goofing around because we love him but I don't even have photoshop. So if anyone could do that, it'd be really awesome. :D

Pictures you can use:
I'm on the right.
http://i28.tinypic.com/rktpb5.jpg
http://i27.tinypic.com/2dtyptl.jpg (right)
http://i29.tinypic.com/10py3wn.jpg
http://i26.tinypic.com/10n7ssz.jpg

Just whichever picture works best, and if you could find a picture of Adam with someone. Thanks!

Follow this link, sign up with Adobe, and download a free trial of Photoshop.

https://www.adobe.com/cfusion/tdrc/index.cfm?product=photoshop&promoid=EBYEU&loc=en

I know this isn't what you are wanting, but this is a site to seek ADVICE, not a photo editing site.


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hey, so im 17/f
i take the bus on weekdays, im not going to go into detail and say which days etc. lol. but anyways, so i take the bus and sometimes this bus-driver, lets say his name is thomas, drives that bus.. and he winks when he says hi, or has some cheeky smile on when he greets me! he's kinda older than me, like maybe in his 30s.. but would u consider that he's hitting on me?
but anyways, i dont know if im starting to grow feelings for him! which is kind of gross to me. because he is kinda old, and a lil plumper than the usual.. so i just kinda need some idea or some sort of path for someone to help me see and follow. or maybe im just being silly over something small, like maybe he is just being nice and not liking me in THAT way, you know?!

thanks in advance!

All I can tell you is that you are a minor, and if he's hitting on you, then he's a nasty child chasing pervert.

Steer clear of that sort.


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I am trying to think of a theme for the play The Piano Lesson and we have a list to chose from

reality vs. fantasy
natural vs. unnatural
individual vs. people (environment)
fate vs. freewill
needs vs. desires
gains vs. loss
ignorance vs. knowledge

I dont know if anyone has read the book but i was thinking of using either reality vs. fantasy or natural vs. unnatural for the ghosts. Which one do you think is better? or if you dont think either will work than which one should i use? the essay only has to be one page if that helps

Well, I don't personally see how either could really work, because the idea of ghosts being either fantasy or unnatural is a matter of opinion.

I mean, if you ask someone who has seen a ghost for real, they wouldn't think they were having a moment of fantasy, yet it wouldn't be considered unnatural, either.

I'd say if any of these categories would fit, it would be maybe individual vs. people, in the manner of belief in ghosts.

Then again, I've never read this book you mention, so I could be seeing this from the completely wrong perspective.

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*sorry if it's a little long but I really gotta break it down for the best answer* ok so my guy is wonderful... let me set some stuff up for you: if he has money and I need gas in my car he will let me gas up or take me to gas up. If I want to cook a fantastic meal he will get the groceries. He takes me out to dinner and we go to the movies and stuff like that. Like right now we moved cause he got a job in Iowa and he is paying the rent until I get a job (which he should, my mom taught me that any proper man would do that) He is generally a nice person and we have fun together. but there are some big things and some little things that are making it really hard for me to have a clear mind when it comes to staying with him. ok let's do the big stuff first...So sometimes he will like spaz out...like the other day he asked me to turn off the lights (cause he had to get up for work) but I was only going to cuddle with him for litterally like 2 mins and then I was going to cut it off...he asked me like 2 times and i was like sweetie I'm only going to be a minute and then I will turn it off...he like jumped up in this flailing way, pushing me out of the way and like yanked on the light cord and looked so heated. I know he has anger stuff he is working on letting go of. Ok here is another big thing, let's say this, we're in the car and he says can you turn the radio down and I say let me just finish this song and he may not want to wait that day for whatever reason and he asks me again and i say theres like' one minute left let me finish it, he'll maybe slam off the radio and look at me with this RAGE and I'm just like what the F**K? (like shock, like is this really happening)(and I am NOTHING LIKE THAT SO I DO NOT UNDERSTAND IT AT ALL!!!!) and then I'll say something like why are so you heated and he'll be like I'm fine, and I know he's not. Then maybe I'll change the topic and say could you roll the window up and he may respond with something like "Well, You should have worn a FUCKING SWEATER!!" And I'll just be like WOW what world am I in, cause this only happens like once a month and it's out of no where. Now we talk about that stuff and he is really working on it...here's a small thing, let's say we are supposed to share a medium drink...he will finish it all and not even stop to think oh kay hasn't had any yet...or he will defend other people over me and he doesn't even know them or know the whole story, or he will do something like today when i was sad about something he did (he didn't know what i was sad about) and he asked and i said it's girl stuff and he said you know what kay one day i am going to stop caring. Now that kind of stuff happens weekly. My thing is this, I am not the nag type...so i feel like I am already trying to work with him on the big spaz out stuff that I don't even want to bother him about things like why did you not save me some fries or why did you eat the entire sandwich except for 2 bites when you were supposed to split it with me? But that kind of stuff makes me a little sad and I just don't want to put a lot of pressure on him to be "perfect" cause that is what he is always saying "you know i'm not perfect and i'm really working on it and you should have seen me 2 years ago" and he is studying spiritual books so I know he has goals... but what do I do in the mean time to get through it? Do I just mention every little thing that bothers me? Sometimes i have felt like the only way to get through to him is to do it back but i am just so past that behavior and i feel like if i have to do that then I am not with the right person...but i feel in my heart that he is my soul mate, i just don't know how to keep it going. Sometimes I feel like I have to teach him how to be in a relationship, but he does SOOOO many things right! Like Important things. But he can be SOOOOO mean sometimes :( Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to seem like a victim, I don't feel like that...I feel like I have faith in what I feel he is and what he feels I am and that is each other's soul mate...cause i could leave but I really want to make it work and I know he does too, again he is really hahah he is really trying and that's what's so sad is to me it's like why in the world would you need to try so hard to be consistantly nice and considerate to someone? So I don't want to just be like Fuck you and leave after I get a job, I want to make this work for the long run...how do I deal with this? How do I pick my battles? How do I let stuff go? When does it go from letting him know when soemthing is wrong to nagging? Are my expectations too high? I don't feel like they are cause I treat him very well and he has like NOTHING to complain about...the worst he can come up with is when I am on my period I don't like to be touched and I am less patient with his BS and when he says something mean i get sad and those are literally the only 2 things about me that REALLY bother him. We have talked about it. What are you all doing out there to get through these types of things? and there's sooo many other things that I can't even get to covering with him, like more romance, because of this stuff...Thanks again and sorry for the length but I had to give some examples :)

So... What is this important stuff he does right?
Pays the rent until you get a job?
Puts gas in the car when you're low on funds?
Dear, that's all material things, and one cannot buy happiness.

The important things are the things he's doing wrong. Go back and re-read what I just read.

Do you feel loved?
Does his actions make you feel loved?

I'm afraid he'd make me feel like eight day old dog shit that's been baking in the summer sun.

I know you want to work it out, but after 2 years, he still behaves like a man who can't control himself?
Are you sure you want to work it out?
Are you sure this behavior is something you want to put up with for the rest of your life?

Strong words of advice:

MOVE BACK HOME.
ALONE.


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okay i already know how awful this is.. so thats beside the point.... :/


So about two summers ago, me & one of my friends started hooking up, & basically we have been ever since. When we first hooked up, he had a girlfriend, but i was single. (i know its still bad) but, a few months after we were hooking up i got a boyfriend. & we've been together ever since. Hes still with his same girlfriend. But, both of our relationships are off and on things. I do love my boyfriend alot, but i've had these feelings for my friend for so long. I get soo excited whenever he comes over, & im so happy when im around him, he just gives me this tingling feeling inside. I don't know if he feels the same though. like hes so cute when hes with me and stuff, but blahhh idk. I know this hasnt directed any certain question. But, give me some advice on what to doooo. I cant continue doing this, it has to stop somewhere.
thanks soooo much

Yah. You're right. You can't keep doing this. So stop.

Well, unless you want to continue being assholes together with zero regards for the feelings of others who have put their trust in you, and their hearts into your hands.

It's up to you to end it.


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