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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I'm in Europe for vacation over the summer, but I live in the US. I have the Iphone 4. My phone still works internationally, but i'm not using it as much because it is really expensive. I haven't talked to some of my friends in a while and would really love to talk to them. I got the app TextPlus which allows you to text other numbers for free (so it claims). I am just really confused on how this all works.. I'm outside of the US- will it cost me money to text using the app?
My dad tried to explain it to me but i'm still confused. He said as long as i have WiFi, I can use it and it won't cost money. But he said if I don't have WiFi (and something about data roaming???) then it will be expensive.
I'm just so confused haha. Can someone please give me a straight-to-the-point answer on when can I use the texting app without it costing money? When should I not use it?
thank you!
If you are using WiFi (Wireless internet) Then you aren't using the phone server internet.
As long as you use wireless it is free, If you go on the internet on your phone look up at the left hand corner.
( I have Iphone 3) Now this is just an example;
If on the top left hand corner it says something like "AT&T E) You are not wireless, therefore you are using the internet that comes with the phone plan.
If it says this (AT&T) With a signal connection then it should be wireless.
Go into the settings menu on the phone you will find a WiFi symbol click it and choose wireless.
Anyway for a quicker advise; Long as you use wireless you should be fine.
I got my belly button pierced about a week ago. I clean it with salt water and I put antibiotic ointment on it. I clean it 4 times a day and add the ointment on every time I clean it. But now there is a red circle around the piercing about the size of the top ball and its peeling. It doesnt hurt anymore unless it gets snaged or its pushed on. I dont touch with my hands not even to put the ointment on I use qtips. In the morning there is crusties but I was told thats normal. What is wrong with my piercing? Is this normal? What do I do to fix it? Should I take it out? Please help. Thank you.
It's healing
The only time I would be concerned is if it starts to puss, That is a sign of infection.
Belly Button piercings can take up to a year to fully heal.
Good luck!
22/F
Ever since middle school, I have always made up friends. I always thought it was normal. I just wanted to show people that I had friends out of school. Then, I start creating fake Facebook and myspace pages for them. I know it's weird but it made me feel better. I would post things on my account, and with the fake accounts I would reply to myself. I am aware that this is really weird, but everytime I reply to myself I feel a lot better. I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and PTSD... So it's like I get comfort Through true fake accounts even though I know itself. Not only that, but I talk to myself. A lot. And many times I feel like I'm talking to another person, but I know it's myself.
Could I be schizophrenic? Or what is this? I am really tired of it all.
Nobody here can tell you whether you are schizophrenic or not as this would need to be determined by a doctor.
It sounds to me that you are lonely and want friends, People who are schizophrenic often hear voices, see things that aren't really there and are actually convinced they are talking to someone as well as not knowing what is real and what's not. You also stated that you know you talk to yourself, Many people who have schizophrenia aren't aware they are hallucinating.
If you are concerned I would recommend seeing a psychiatrist who can properly diagnose you.
Here are signs of schizophrenia
http://www.schizophrenia.com/diag.php
just wandering do guys like girls that scream alot when they touch them anywhere? or even during intercourse? Or do guys not like so much screaming and shit? female and male sex lol...so yehhh lol thankss
Moaning is fine but screaming is a bit much.
Whatever you do don't fake, Fake is what is a major turn off.
my boyfriend for 2 years just cheated on me. a part of me wants to forgive him because i love him so much, but the other part just wants to give up, although it seems to easy to give up. ive tried moving on and it just doesnt feel right.i cant stand him with this other girl. its slowly breaking me, he told me he will always love me but that is only making it worse, but at the same time, im happy to hear him say he loves me.. Should i forgive the man i love for sleeping with another girl?
Hell no
Forgiving someone who cheats is like saying it is okay to betray you. Your "boyfriend" lied, If someone loves someone they don't cheat no matter what the situation was. This guy saying he loves you is just bullshit.
It's a game, "I love you" is your weak point right? Sometimes guys just tell a women what they want to hear and sometimes those words aren't always the truth. Your "boyfriend" is guilty and he knows it and these words are his way of trying to win you back. Don't fall for it, Don't buy his excuses and certainly do not fall for his "Sorry's" The fact is, You don't cheat on someone you love. There is no what, if's or buts about it.
Move on, Find someone who will respect you and love you for who you are. Not someone who will leave you on the back of the band wagon while he is out fetching for his bone. I'm not trying to be an ass but this guy had no problem moving on and toying with your feelings why the hell do you care about his? Screw him and the truth IS once a cheater, Always a cheater. Be the stronger one and realize what is the right thing to do. If you forgive him how would you ever trust him again? and most of all you just told him it is okay. No way curb stomp the jerk.
im talking to a guy who is 21 and im 17. i really like him and he says he really likes me. but i heard the only reason he is talking to me for sex. my friend asked him and he said no. what should i do. should i keep talking to him or not. im still a virgin and he isnt.
This guy is 21, The chances of him wanting to get in your pants are way over the 50-50 mark. If you feel he is using you then curb stomp his ass, No women deserves to be taking advantage of like that.
Also, This guy is a few years older than you. You're best bet is to find someone your own age and not some pig that wants a piece of ass and yes, He is looking for ass.
I'm just wondering if washing my face with a warm/hot cloth twice a day, will actually help me get rid of pimples, aswell as prevent them? If not, whats a good, cost-free way to get rid of pimples as well as prevent them. thanks for ANY advice :)
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Yes, It will help. Washing your face is very good and it erases all sweat glands, dirt and oil.
If you want to prevent future pimples as well, Avoid greasy foods and too much makeup.
Proactive is a good product but stay away from the oily face cleaners!
I'm an 18 year old female and I have a problem connecting with people. I'll try to explain it but it's pretty complicated.
Ever since my first bf of 3 years and I broke up senior year of HS (i am now approaching my sophomore year of college), I have never let myself connect with people. Since then I have had sex with 5 people who I care nothing about and I have hooked up with like 30 guys (all in which i was drunk). I used alcohol to "get some and get gone" and I was happy doing that because I never wanted to get close with anyone again. I am a pretty screwed up person because all I do is hook up with people.
Recently this summer I hooked up with this one guy and I planned on ditching him like I do with every guy. But he was extremely nice and cute and actually pursued me further and we sorta had this fling. We knew it would be just a summer thing bc he was leaving to go away for like half a year. So this guy is the first person I ever felt connected to at all. And he changed the way I feel about myself and made me want to change the way I act. But now he's gone. And I can't get these feelings to go away. I don't think I'm attached to this guy as much as I am attached to the feelings I discovered I am capable of having. I feel torn because I don't want those feelings to go away because I don't want to revert to the emptiness I felt before. But at the same time I do want them to go away because they hurt so much. I don't know what to do. It's not a typical "heart-break" situation because neither of us hurt one another or expected more of anything so I don't want to delete him from my life. But I can't stop thinking of how happy I was when I think of him and that drives me crazy. What should I do?
You need to come to terms with the fact that it is over between you and your old boyfriend. Assuming it has been 2-3 years that is a long time to still not allow yourself to meet other people.
If you don't want flings anymore then stop, Stop hooking up with people. It is not healthy and it is a careless thing to do. It is okay to move on, It is okay to be in a relationship and it is okay to date. This is what you need to realize, You can't allow yourself to be stuck on the past. This old relationship has happened a few years ago. Was this your first relationship?...... If so sure we never forget our first but at the same time we all learn one way or another that 99% of the time our first is only an experience. You may not realize nor want to accept the fact that maybe this man may want to have a relationship with you. Something about this man has attracted you and you are scared and don't want to accept it. Instead of running away, Go for it! It could turn out to be something positive. However, You also need to keep telling yourself the old relationship was years ago and you need to move on.
what song is this ... it sounds like linkin park but idk the name and here are the lyrics
theres a place so dark u cant see the end
skys cocks back a shotgun which cant defend
the rains sends drippin
a city questions forcefully
the power of suggestion
with the eyes shut lookin throught the rust and rotton dust
a small flash of light floods the floor
then the eyes ease open and its dark again
This is a great song by the way!
It's Linkin Park - Forgotten
My mom says I cant because you have to have your period for 3 years because of the chemicals in the dye. My sister said that thats true to she went to beauty school shes now a hair stylist so I think she know. But is that true? Because I really want to dye my hair!
This is the biggest excuse I've heard yet, As far as I know this is very untrue. I don't see how chemicals can have anything to do with having your period or not these are two completely different topics!
If you want to dye your hair go for it but you might want to start of with temporary dye first and have someone you know do it for you. (Adult)
somedays ago i found a woman aged 43 on facebook who was ready to adopt me..since no one loves me..she was ready to love me..she was single and divorced..she wanted a son and i wanted a mom..everything was going ok..but then i contacted her friend..and asked some question about her,.her friend told her about it..and she got mad at me and now she wants me to stop contacting her..she means my family and my world..i cant live without her..i can do any thing to get her..i love her a lot..plz help me ..i need a mom to love me iam 17 now and my name is brock
You are 17, In a few more months you will legally be considered an adult and you will be an independent.
I don't know the entire situation, Your given details were very brief. Adoption is a very big decision and I'm going to assume I could be totally wrong...
It could be she is stressed, confused or she could of even changed her mind. If she wants you to stop contacting her then all I can really say is you need to stop. This women doesn't want any further contact for whatever reason is to her to know. You are 17, You've made it this far and soon you will be 18 and free to do whatever you want.
So I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost 6 months and he is amazing. A really sweet, genuine person and very considerate towards everyone. That's also how I am so we match well.
My boyfriend has this friend, Mia, who is a girl that he's known for almost two years now. She is dating one of his childhood friends, Miguel. My boyfriend met the girl when his friend brought her around as his girlfriend, so he's only known her as his best friends girl. He tells me that she is also one of his best friends. This girl is fun, outgoing, nice, etc. and I've become friends with her also, but the problem is that I think my boyfriend is a little too attached to her. The reason I say this is because (and I've noticed this over time) if her and Miguel dont want to go somewhere, even if all our other friends are going, my bf doesnt want to either. Wherever she goes, he wants to be also. And he doesnt care if his friend goes, as long as she does. He tells me that she is his best friend so I didn't think anything of it, but the other day something happened that made me rethink the whole situation. Mia and Miguel got a hotel room and invited a bunch of people to party there, and the Miguel didn't invite my boyfriend and ignored all his calls that day, which is significant because we always hang out. So after that, they kept doing things and leaving us out, ignoring my boyfriend for days and he got really depressed about it. It's understandable when your childhood friend acts like an asshole towards you for no reason (he is known to be an ass even my bf told me so) but we were driving home last night in the car and my bf was kind of drunk and we had been hanging out with all of them earlier and he was telling me how happy he was that he was able to reconnect with them. And I told him that was great but not to get his hopes up because they pull shit like that on him all the time just ignoring him for days. I told him "Some people care more about themselves and dont think about others as much as you or I do" And he goes "i know, i honestly don't even really care about Miguel he's always been an ass, we actually had a falling out two years ago and Mia brought us together" And I realized how much he truly cared about her friendship. She's oblivious to this and I know she doesn't care as much either because she's right there with her bf ignoring him and turning her back. So I decided to ask him "why do you care so much about your friendship with her?" and he answered "I really don't know, I guess because I remember the old times when we would all party together and how close me and her were and how we would talk everyday and she has the same party personality as I do, and dadadada..." you get the point. Clearly the boy loves her, if only as a friend, it's still love. And I'm not really too sure how to handle this because I'm not jealous or angry about it, I just know she doesn't care about him nearly as much as he cares about her and it saddens me to see it. I don't really know what to do, if I should do anything or just leave it alone, or if I should talk to him about it. This whole situation really bothers me though :/ any advice?
This is not a friendship, He is attracted to Mia it is pretty obvious from what you've said above. If I got it correct you stated your boyfriend likes to go wherever she goes whether his friend is around or not, Your boyfriend has the hots for Mia and doesn't seem to care whether his friend is in the picture or not. Perhaps they are both cheating and he may not be the only one, Sounds fishy they'd both hang together alone. You want dirt you may have to dig for it but I'm going to say something is up and you may need to give him the boot.
My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we are both in college.
Please hear me out, but keep in mind that this is my probably-heavily-biased side of the story.
We have a lot in common, but our differences drive me insane at times. For example, he's a night owl and I'm a day person, up at the crack of dawn. I like having plans and a set schedule (maybe to an extreme; I am always planning out my future class schedules and what classes I will take which term to make sure I have a good plan). He, on the other hand, is a last-minute-plans kind of guy.
He is also a last-minute-cancellation kind of guy. Which, when tied into his sleeping habits, really ticks me off. Because he'll say things like "Let's do so-and-so tomorrow", and we'll make plans. I will then make no other plans and the next day, will have to wait for him to wake up (which can be anytime from 3 to 6pm), at which point he is prone to cancel on me, IF HE EVEN REMEMBERS WE HAD PLANS TO BEGIN WITH.
To be fair, he doesn't flake out on me ALL THE TIME, but it's just often enough for it to stress me. And while at times it's not even his fault, the fact that I have to waste an entire day waiting for him to let me know nothing is happening is irritating.
It bothers me that, the day before we are supposed to hang out, he doesn't compromise. He knows that I'm up early, but rather than sleeping a little earlier that day and say, waking up at noon (which would be pretty much a halfway point between our normal wake-up times), he stays up all night and sleeps in. The only thing that gets him to agree to this is a long and tedious negotiation / argument. And usually, when I ask him to sleep earlier, he says he can't help it, as if he is being forced to sleep late. Now, I understand that it is difficult to break from some sleep schedules. But then can someone please explain to me why, when we're together and it's around midnight and he lies down and is undisturbed for a few minutes, he falls asleep? He tells me that it's hard to fall asleep when he's awake, but he seems to have absolutely no trouble doing so when I'm around.
The reason I'm posting isn't just about our plans, though that is a big part of it. He is exceptionally bad at coming through with any sort of promise or anything. Once, I asked him for help with something for a job I was applying for. I needed it ASAP, but even with my constant nagging, it still took him a week (by which point it was already too late). And this happens all the time. If I ask him for something and he agrees, he will forget all about it unless I nag him until the end of time.
And every time he fails to keep his word or cancels on me, I just get VERY UPSET. I can't help it. It makes me feel like I'm not worth waking up a little early for, or like he can't set aside some time from his ridiculous gaming habits to write a reminder post-it note to help me out.
What do I do about this? Am I simply expecting too much of a video-game-obsessed, impulsive guy with a shit memory, or is the problem with him? or with both of us?
You seem to be living two different lives, You are up at the crack of dawn while he is up doing whatever and sleeps till noon time. Your boyfriend is lazy, irresponsible and is not convenience to you. My best advise is to talk to him, Tell him what you've told us, You feel he isn't totally on the same page as you and you don't feel the commitment on his part.
If it doesn't seem to get through to him and he doesn't agree to shape up and start working on things then I would find someone that is more suitable for you. It is awfully rude to leave someone high and dry, It's even ruder to give them a last minute call. I'll be honest but sounds to me you may be too good for him.
how can fuck at first time
Wait until you are older, mature and more educated. Ask again in another 6 or 7 years
Okay so my boyfriend and I just had a baby 8 weeks ago. We started having sex the 3 week after. I bled the fourth week for 4 days then it stopped. We had sex without a condom idk how many times but he never came inside me. I know about precum but i want to know what are the chances that i am pregnant again? We're buying a test and taking it tomorrow but its killing me to not know at the moment. Someone please give me some idea of whether i should be worried or not :( i feel nauseous, dizzy, depressed, etc. And idk if its from pregnancy or postpartum or just stress from the entire situation. HELP!
Your chances are high if you don't use protection, That is just the way it is. They say that women are more likely to get pregnant again once they've already had a child. If your boyfriend didn't cum in you it does not mean you are out of the dark. Things happen even if we use protection. You just gave birth 8 weeks ago, If you aren't pregnant then I would highly recommend using protection as this is not at all enough time for your body to recover.
If you are depressed now......God help you if you have another on the way.
My boyfriend of 1 and half years was confused about what he wanted, and all he kept saying was "Im confused, i love you and thats why we cant be together :/" No, not a long distance relationship, No,both our families know and are completely okay, he just doesnt want me and doesnt know how to end it basically right? im not an idiot, im just wondering. thanks. =/
Sounds to me that your boyfriend may be confused about his sexuality, This usually defines the male term of "Confused". Voice is right, Men don't generally use that term.
There are many more men out there just try and find a man that knows and wants to be with a Girl.
Good luck!
hi my daughter is 11 is she going to have her period soon
Girls/Women are all different, They all start at different ages.
The average age to start a period can range anywhere from 11-15 yrs. Sometimes even later all depends on the girl.
I own a 1-year-old laptop running Windows 7, and like all PCs, it's begun to slow down over time.
What are some (free) things I can do to get it running more quickly? Are those registry repair programs a good idea? If so, what is a good free one I can download?
If you are looking to clear out virus
AVG is a good one
Here is another one
http://www.microsoft.com/en-us/security_essentials/default.aspx
To wipe your computer clean and back to day one you would need to wipe the hard drive.
You could try doing a defragment on the computer which would wipe unused files and create more space by going to Start-Program-Accessories-System Defragmenter. You could to to restore your computer back to date but do not get in the habit of restoring your computer often. Again, Start-Program-Accessories-System restore.
I'm sure they have more free virus protection websites out there but you'd have to google them up, Many offer trials for 30 days but AVG is offers a free program.
So I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and we just recently started having sex. I'm 17 and I've been on the pill since I was 15. We're both eachothers firsts and I just wanna know if I really can have sex without a condom. Like all doctors say always use a condom but they're so gross and the lube always burns me. We've both been tested so I really just wanna know if the pill really does mean I can have sex without one. Are there things I need to do? Only specific times during the pill cycle I can have sex without protection?
Listen, Nothing is ever 100% safe. You can be on birth control, Have your tubes tied, You can even use both condom and birth control and although these things lower your chances it is still very possible.
If you don't want a baby, I recommend using both condom and birth control. It may be uncomfortable and annoying but it is better to be smart then to be sorry and regret what you did. There is no specific time, Pregnancy happens whenever it wants to happen.
if i had sex with out no condoms 2 days before my period and my period was 5 days late is thier a chance i can be pregent .?
Both previous answers are wrong
There is always a chance of pregnancy, Pregnancy can happen at any given time. There is nothing that is 100% safe, Many women get pregnant due to various reasons and it is very possible to fall pregnant even if you get your period as you had sex two days before hand. It takes 7-14 days to detect a pregnancy with a home pregnancy test.
If you don't want to become pregnant I highly recommend protecting yourself. Seek condoms or some sort of birth control it is a better to be safe then sorry.