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Q: well right now my hair is short and blonde heres the pic: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a92/Linds1819/121212.jpg but it has more blodn highlites in it now

would it look bad this color? :http://photobucket.com/albums/a92/Linds1819/?action=view¤t=yuvthishaircolor.jpg

with maybe bleach blonde highlites over it or underneath? orrr dark brown underneath? thankss

OMG no way. It would look totally cute that color. I really like it and I think it will be fine. I would definitly go for it!

Q: I am a dancer and i have developed so much muscle. My arms and shoulders are very muscular and every time people see me without a shirt on they go "are you a swimmer?" My thighs are also pretty muscular. Do guys mind this?

I'm a dancer as well, and I am muscular on my legs. It's SO much better to be muscely then all boney. Most guys don't mind it... as long as you are not more muscley then him of course cause then he may be wimpy. :]

Q: ill rate 5's - sry if this is long.

ok so .. i am not the skinniest person in the world but i am on this diet and i am loosing weight. i've already lost 10 pounds and im continuing so by summer i should be able to look good in a bathing suit.

heres my problem. last summer i wasnt really comfortable in my bathing suit. i only wore a bikini becuase everyone else did and i thought people would idk if i didnt so its hard to explain.. so ithink my friends talked about mebehind my back and stuff wehn i wore one because they are like skinny as anything and theyve never had problems with weight.

i dontknow what to do.. i mean i know i am trying to get skinny by summer so i will look good. but why would my friends do this? andhow do i talk to them about it beca use i dont want to just be like so you think i look bad in a bathing suit...

ill rate fvies thanks soo omuch

I think you asked me this question to my advice colum.. sorry I didn't get back quicker, I haven't been on advicenators. Well, in my guidance class, we are learning about how people shouldn't influence you... you are getting influenced by your freinds to wear a bikini. Belive me, no one will be like omg, look she's wearing a tankini and all her freinds are wearing bikinis. No one will say that, because people don't usually think that way. Make sure the diet you are on is HEALTHY, not like a starvation diet. You are maybe just built that way.

Talk to your freinds about it...

Kris, Meg, and I will listen, Sara.

Q: okay so ive liked this guy for a loooong time, and well his friends always joke and say "stop flirting with your girlfriend" and "okay we're here to play basketball not flirt with brittany!" and i want to know if they are just teasing or theres some truth beneath all that.. how can i get him to honestly tell me if he likes me without throwing myself out there and seeming all desperate? please help

Well, usually when guys say those things, that means that the guy likes you, expeccially if they are his freinds. Maybe ask your freind to ask his freind if he likes you... that always works for me! Good luck and HAVE FUN!

Q: My mom is making me get braces soon and i think i have a choice of colors. What color would you pick and why?

Thanks

I would say navy, or pink, or light blue. Nothing too bright and def. not brown, yellow, or red. They show off and look kind of weird. Purple are good too. Good luck!

Q: Ok well somedays ago i went to this party.....my best friend was there but his g/f wasnt......so he was flirting and doin all that shit with this other girl.....his g/f found out and they broke up.....so we started talkin and she said she was likin me more and more everyday and would consider goin out with me sometime.....well a minute later her "boyfriend" called and siad he wants to get back together with her and he lied to her just so they could get back together.....so she pretty much abandoned me. but she did say "I really do like you maybe as just a friend but you mean a lot to me" I need help!!! (will rate 5's for any)

Well, I don't think you should give up just yet. Maybe your freind will do something stupid again and something will happen and then you could be there to cheer this girl up. Keep on talking with her and continuing your relationship and then if you think there is absolutly no hope, there are plenty of girls out there who probably would die to go out wiht you!

Q: Hey all. I was wondering if you guys thought I made a smart choice. Here it is: for freshman year, I am not continuing Spanish and going to Spanish 2 Honors, but instead I'm taking Italian 1 because I think it's different and a beutiful language. Please tell me if you think I made a smart choice. Thanks!

I think it is a good decision. Itailian and Spanish are very much alike and its good to expand your horizons and take the challenge. I would say most def. you made a good choice!

Q: i dont know why but all the sudden im VERY queit,not outgoing,not noticed,i just hate it!! im not lucky and i say EVERYTHING at the wrong moment.how can i become more outgoing? i need to find my true self! i need to become more outgoing and fun befor i seep into the walls! if this help... 13/f/aries.

It's good to be reserved like that people respect you a lot more. You are 13 and trying to find your place in school, in your freinds, and in life, what I would say is just to be happier. Go into school with a smile, leave wiht a smile. Laugh at funny things and enjoy yourself.. you can't go wrong with that!

Q: ok does anyone know if L'Oreal SUBLIME GLOW Daily Moisturizer Fair Skin Tones makes you look orange? because i dont want people to think im using fake tanner and if i go from white to orange people will know so please give me you best experiences and what things work. (im very pale but i tan easily)

It does work, but I recomend Jergens Natural glow it works GREAT! You can get tanner in liek 3 days.. I sware by it.

Q: im a 13 year old girl. im really nervous that ill get my period one day in the middle of school. are there any signs that will let me know if im about to get it?

It's different for every girl. Here are some signs:
-bad mood
-cramps or your "stomach" hurts
-you've been getting a lot of discharge
-it's around the time when you mom got it
-if there is brown stuff in your underwear
When I first got it, it was very little and no big deal. I didn't even need a pad or anything. Just go to the nurse and ask for a pad if you are really scared when you get it. Otherwise, don't worry and be thankful that you don't have it yet! :]

Q: Is breaking up over the phone okay? Or should I make an effort to do it in person?

In person is always better but if you are afraid you are going to like die in person then do it over the phone. Or do it over teh phone and then confirm it in person the next day and say, "I'm sorry I did it over the phone, I just didn't want to embarrass you or anything.

Q: Ok im female and 17 and i got the worst belly ever its like im having a baby not like really fat but like theres a pile of fat that sticks out and im really embarassed i feel im putting on more and more weight i used to be slim and now im all Fat!!!!! i won't let my bf touch my belly when i see him its like a fear!!! is there anything i can do please help. x x x many thanx

Every night before you go to bed, do 20 sit ups. Do that for a whole week. Then, the next week do 25 and each week keep on adding five. When you get home from school, eat a sandwich, a fruit, or vegtables instead of junk food. Work hard in gym class and befoe you know it you will lose weight!

Q: 14/f
In the morning I wake up at 6 o clock so I can catch my bus, but the thing is, no one in my family wakes up till' like 7:30 so when I get up they are all sleeping. Whenever I walk around adn stuff because no one else is awake it makes me really annoyed and just want to sleep. Does anyone have any ideas that will keep me awake when my family is sleeping?
Besides coffee.

I usually turn on some music.. or watch tv. Music works best though. It keeps you awake and more lively.

Q: okay so i am in 8th grade and i go to a private school. i am always told that i am a very smart person at home. but then i see myself as really not smart. but really stupid.

so anyway, i am doing VERY bad in science class. like i am at risk of failing and i am soo scared. i can't even sleep at night anymore. cuz then i strart brething really fast and sweat and all this stuff because i am stressed. so my teacher sent me something, saying i can fail. but i got it b4 my parents and tore it up. i am sooo scared to tell them. i planned on telling them but i keep procrastinating. so i don't know how to tell them. i am also doing bad in 2 other classes. but not as bad!!

i am thinking of just oging to public school next year, so i can start over new and have a fresh start. so i dkn. should i? is there anything bad about public school?
how do i tell my parenstr?
sorry this is soo0 long.
i will rate high!

Don't worry about almost failing! I am actually failing a class and it's not a huge big of a deal cause I have A's in other classes. Try to get extra help from your teacher, or get a tutor, or even ask a freind. What I would do is ask the teacher for help then that night tell your parents that you are almost failing but you talked to your teacher. That way, it will show that you care about your grades and are responsible. I go to a public school and i LOVE it. I couldn't ask for a better one. I recomend it, but talk to your parents, they know what's best for you! Hope I helped!

Q: well i like this boy and he liked me back well and then i was really mean to him because i was in a bad mood and i never meant all that stuff i said well i never said i hate you ore anything i just never answered him :-( well so now he just pretends i dont exsist and everytime i look at him he looks away and i really like him! so does he still like me? please i really want to know! THANKS :-)

The best thing to do is apoligize and say that something happened that day and you weren't completely thinking. Say that you are so sorry and that you hope that he can forgive you. Say that you think he's a great guy and you like him. He may still like you!!

Q: I NEED HELP!!!!!!! WHOEVER ANSWERS THIS ILL RATE 5!!!!!!!!

okay...well i recently found out that im a lesbian...and the other day my friend (shes a girl and didnit kno i was gay) came over. we were working on our homework and then...it happened ...i koodnt control myself...i just jumped on her and we started making out and stuff....we went rlly far if u know what i meen and she said she had a great time but didnt want this to happen again,....i love her sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much and dont know what to do...any advice out there????????????????????

You need to respect your friends wants and listen to her. There are other girls out there that you can hook up with. Just find someone else maybe and maybe every now and then your friend will want to hook up wiht you for fun!

Q: okay so over the winter i got myself a little belly.. i mean i only weigh 113 pounds and im 16.. but i have like a gut and its not very attractice, i just want a flat stomache. I dont wanna run out in the cold because it hurts my lungs but i wanna get started now on fixing my stomach so its nice by summer. Does anyone know anything i can do like a certain cruch or sit up or take or diet pill or something?!?!

What I do every night before I go to bed is do 20 sit ups. Then, the nest week, I do 25 and everyweek I keep on adding 5 sit ups. It works really well! My goal is to have a flatter stomach by spring break, if I reach my goal, I will reward myself!

Q: My friends and I go to South Padre for spring break every year. Well this year, my boyfriend’s first baseball game of the season is 2 days after we leave. He said it was really important to him and that he can't come with us which I understand but going without him is just going to plain out...suck.

We've been together for 2 1/2 years and he's been able to go before because our spring break used to be the 3rd week of the month, now it's the first week this year. And there weren't any "big" games scheduled during that time so he could get out of them.

So now I'm not sure if I should go or stay. If I go I'd be thinking of him the whole time and might not be able to enjoy myself. If I don't go I'll be missing out with all of my friends. But there are other beaches we can go to around here but I don't think it'd be as much fun without EVERYONE. Oh the dilemma...

The whole point about spring break is to have fun, enjoy the time off, and hang with your friends. Perosonally, I think you should go because you may not have many spring breaks left.(depending on what grade you are in) Bring a picture of him, call him every night but don't force yourself to stay home because of a baseball game. Tell him you wish him the best of luck. Also, don't change your freinds plans by going to a beach closer to you, that may cause a bigger problem. Well, i hope i helped and i hope u have a great time!! xoxo

Q: Ok. So when I write
Favourite
And
colour.

And I spell check the things I wrote. The spell check says it’s
favorite
And
Color

Now I was wondering, what’s up with that?! Cause- according to my dictionary, my way is the good way,

PLEASE HELP I RATE

the british way is colour in english it's color. and the british is favourite and in english it's favorite. hope i helped!! xoxo

Q: so recently ive been trying to lose some weight. running, eating right (or trying) and mentally training my mind. ive lost some weight but i just cant seem to lose anymore.. and its really making me rethink the whole process and just want to give up. what should i do?

I would say continue what you are doing. Here'e my tip, everynight before I go to bed, I do 20 sit ups. Then the next weak I do 25, and I keep on adding 5 to each week. I want to try and lose a certain amount of weight by spring break, if I reach my goal I will reward myself. This is a way to continue to do it! Hope I helped! xox

bio

Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts