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bikiniii ... ?
ill rate 5's - sry if this is long.
ok so .. i am not the skinniest person in the world but i am on this diet and i am loosing weight. i've already lost 10 pounds and im continuing so by summer i should be able to look good in a bathing suit.
heres my problem. last summer i wasnt really comfortable in my bathing suit. i only wore a bikini becuase everyone else did and i thought people would idk if i didnt so its hard to explain.. so ithink my friends talked about mebehind my back and stuff wehn i wore one because they are like skinny as anything and theyve never had problems with weight.
i dontknow what to do.. i mean i know i am trying to get skinny by summer so i will look good. but why would my friends do this? andhow do i talk to them about it beca use i dont want to just be like so you think i look bad in a bathing suit...
ill rate fvies thanks soo omuch
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I think you asked me this question to my advice colum.. sorry I didn't get back quicker, I haven't been on advicenators. Well, in my guidance class, we are learning about how people shouldn't influence you... you are getting influenced by your freinds to wear a bikini. Belive me, no one will be like omg, look she's wearing a tankini and all her freinds are wearing bikinis. No one will say that, because people don't usually think that way. Make sure the diet you are on is HEALTHY, not like a starvation diet. You are maybe just built that way.
Talk to your freinds about it...
Kris, Meg, and I will listen, Sara.
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first thing how do you know your friends talked about ? is it a gut feeling if it is i totally understand ask them about last summer say something like remember last summer and bring up cute bathin suites and how they looked. then decide if you trust to be their friends or not
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ok well I am self consious so i get what you are saying ALL my friends say they are "fat" and i just look away, more or less im the most curved one and i am chubbier than them... then again im 5 feet taller. Listen, it depends on your mood. If your not comfortable in a little bikini do what I do, try looking for a bathinf suit with a skirt, they cover up alot {i mean if your uncomfortable) or you could wear bathing suits with attachable shorts. they give me confidence and you know what, you don't need to be pencil thin for any one because they talk about you. Also your not sure... if they did right? So maybe they just commented on your bathing suit or something. Well you should work out in the morning {this is what i do to lose weight if you want to know) like turbo workout on uhm tv was good. Dance for 20 minuntes a day, it boosts utr metabolism and will make u digest food faster.
For the friend thing... ok ask your closest one first, and really tell her you are trying to slim down and need their support. Tell her to help you also, and just smile and be nice don't try to say "You guys or "You did" Say like "I feel horrible I didn't no or "I need you guys to help me. If they are nice relient friends, there will be no other explanations nessassary.
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Umm first of all if your friends talk about you behind your back they arent your friends, if you feel the need to impress then 24/7 they arent your friends, and you shouldnt feel the need to wear a bikini just because everyone else is. Now the other part, if your loosing weight and your not fat that means that your normal, normal looks better in a bikini than skinny, try to find a bikini that fits your body type. Try haulter tankinis, because they make you look thinner and they create an even curve. You can also try boyshort bottoms or skirt bottoms thry can be cute if you go to the right store. Or if your feeling risky and are trying not to care what people think of you, you could find a cute 1 piece. I wear 1 pieces all the time, mostly because when i swim its for swim team and i hate how bikini are hard to have fun in, you cant dive, jump, move around comfortably in the pool, and its even worse in the ocean with the currents. My thoughts are talk to your friends tell them to stop being bitches and accept you for who you are! Noone deserves to be treated poorly jut because of their size! good luck and skinny isnt good looking, most guys even prefer normal/curvy!
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If you don't feel comfortable in a bikini then just don't wear one. There are tons of trendy styles out there right now (that are not bikinis) that you can wear instead.
The point is to wear something that flatters your figure and makes you feel comfortable. Of course you're going to look awful if you wear something that isn't made for your body. Anyone will. If you wear something flattering, it's going to look great and so are you. Bikini or not.
About your friends, it could have just been something as harmless as they thought the suit looked bad but didn't know how to tell you. If their ridicule wasn't blatant, then they probably meant no harm by it.
If it truely bothers you and you want to talk to them about it, then do it. If it's off in the past, forget about it. Girls will be girls. All you need to worry about is how YOU feel about the way you look because that's really all that matters. Most girls will find fault in you no matter what you have on anyway.
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well..i always question whether i look good in something or not..i never wear skirts because i hate my legs but my friend kept telling me i look good in it..so i wore it and i got a lot of compliments..basically what i'm trying to say is listen to your friends..if they really care about you they won't let you wear something that you look bad in..plus if they're gonna hang out with you then they won't want you to look bad..lol..so you should talk to them and ask them..."do you think i look bad in this bathing suit?"..it's good that your working to lose weight though..i don't know how much you way but if your losing weight i'm sure you'll look good..hope i helped...bye
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