I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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i'm not sure if i'm allergic to anything.. but while i was working at my job, in a restaurant, my arm started itching out of nowhere... i don't do anything that deals with food, i didn't eat anything either. i'm a hostess, and i was just waiting for customers to come in. i scratched my arm, and little bumps came up. like how you have goose bumps? it came out like that, it kind of started itching, so i started scratching. and now it's red... my parents tried putting on different kinds of medicine, but none of them seems to be working. it's really worrying me, how my skin is always itching all the sudden when it used to not be like that. what's happening? please help me! (link)
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I would make an appointment with your doctor, because if your usual remedies aren't working, it could be something more. I can't think as to what it could be except for a really bad rash of some kind.
But seriously, get it checked out by a professional before doing anything else.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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How does on calculate the right dosage for herbs. (link)
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It depends as to what kind of herb it is, what it's going to be used for, who/what it is for, how strong the herb is, are adults of children taking whatever it it? A lot has to be considered with herbs and with the correct quantities. Here are some sites which might help:
http://www.righthealth.com/Health/Right_Dosage_for_herbs-s?
http://www.optimumhealth.co.uk/abouthrb.htm
http://www.righthealth.com/Health/Calculate%20Dosage-s?lid=goog-ads-sb-7559422948
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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15/f
My friend Kris is like amazing
and he calls me every single night to talk, and He calls me like several times a day, and he told me im very unique, im not sure if he likes me or if he just thinks of me as a good friend, he also laughs at like everything I say, and he picks on my for being a freshman again all the time....So whats going on in his mind!!??? (link)
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There is no easy answer to this. As you said, it could go either way. The best way in which you can tell is if you ask him yourself as to how he thinks of you: as a friend or as something more than a friend, and see where that gets you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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so theres this guy in my history class, and he sits behind me. i never talk to him much, but hes really cute. so i had a dream about him. and in my dream we were going out and i had like MAJOR butterflies, i didnt know it was possible to actaully feel butterflies in a dream, but i did and i woke up right after i got them. so then the next day i saw this guy it was kind of awkward for me [not for him] and then we started chatting alot. so i think im falling for this guy. just because of my dream. is this normal?!?! (link)
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Dreams are a way in which we can see and feel our inner emotions which we might've not been so aware of before hand. So considering the fact that you saw him in your dream and felt something for him, tells me that you like him.
There's nothing wrong in falling for a guy after a dream, trust me, I've been there before. But don't expect him to feel the same way. Get to know him well (to the point where you know him inside and out), before decidng that you want to go out with him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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does canada listen to the same music as the u.s does? like lil wayne, rihanna, chris brown, t.i, cassidy, etc.
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Don't see why they shouldn't. Canada is part of America and all artists cna be listend to where ever you are in the world.
triquetra
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my best guyf riend two years ago and i stopped being friends like 6 months ago cause we became friends with beenfits and it just stopped working out. we got into way to many fights. now he wants to be my friend again and said we can forget teh past but im scared i dont want to get hurt again i cried over him forever. i decided im going to be his friend but if somehting happens again how can i handel it matturely without making a huge deal about it and dreading not being his friend? (link)
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Well, you know now as how to avoid getting into those fights again. And if you do, sort it out in a clam way in which you feel comfortable and in control. And should it get out of hand, remind him of what happened the last time you fought like that and how you don't want to get hurt like that again.
Talk to him about it and see if you can figure out a good way to get through your issues without it resulting in a break up of a friend ship. Considering the fact that he wants to be your friend again tells me that he's willing to listen and work things out between the two of you.
Friends should work together, not butt heads. So if you just spend some time and listen to each other and work through your issues in a clam way, then the results will be more that pleasing
I hopet this helped,
triquetra
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okay i'm 17/f. i can't get a job till december, but what can i do to get some money? what are like any genius ideas, like the craziest ideas to make money? lol, any help appreciated. i know you can think of some, i even thought of alot, it's just i don't think i'm able to do any of them, haha. (link)
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Just out of curiosity, why wait until Decmeber? You're 17 which means you can start work now. I really don't see as to what is stopping you unless it is school or somthing of that nature.
As for ideas, why don't you have a jumble sale (ask your parents for permission first) or do some local newspaper rounds. The problem is, is that most ideas which are coming to me are only ones which involve you getting a job of come kind. Don't your parents give you an allowence? Or you can ask them to do odd jobs around the house which they could pay you for.
Well, those are my thoughts as how to get some money.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Alright, so there's this guy that I'm friends with and right now I just want to be friends with him, but I think he wants to be more than that. I'm 16 and female. I told him that I didn't want anymore than friendship right now, and he understood. But, now I just want to hang out as friends, but I think he might think that I'm ready to be more than friends and it's only been a couple of weeks. I like him, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I mean, I think I like him, but I don't know if it's just because he's the first guy that's actually seemed interested in me in a while, or if I'm just being a bitch and I'm going to break his heart if I don't show the same feelings for him. I don't know what to do. Thanks for the help! (link)
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Well, the first thing I would do would be to ask him as to how he feels about you. And then you can decide where this relationship can go.
You aren't being a bitch at all, you're just not feeling the same thing that he is and that is completely normal. You're not doing it to hurt him, you're doing it because you feel that you're not ready for a relationship and that should be fine with anybody, even this guy should understand and he should respect your decision.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Well, my friend sam is dealing with a death and im REALLY close with her, well i was. I helped her out ALOT because she was my best friend, we had so many inside jokes.
i said i'd go to the funeral [but i didnt know the girl that died, but id go as a friend and for sam to cry on me for etc] and now she be-friended me but she cant tell her herself! shes making my best friend tell me, wtf?! i offered, i couldnt go though bcos i was gunna be on vacation. i have no ide awhat to say to her bcos she can be a huge bitch, bigger than i can be. and sam is in my lunch and she told my friend that shes gunna sit with me but hate me at the same time. because she doesnt have anyone to sit with. should i not allow her to sit with me? should i ignore her when she sits with me? what should i do? what should i say to her? its pissing me off that she got pissed for me OFFERING [but being not able to go] to be there for HER. and only HER. she came crying to me because of the girl that died. i dont know what to do! helppppp! (link)
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So, let me get this straight: you want help with a friend whom got a little upset when you offered to be there at the funeral with her? I have to say that your letter is a little confusing at the beginning and not exactly clear as to what the problem is.
Reading your extra information, it seems that you've sorted things out with your friend. But just to clarify, could you inbox me with your problem clearing stating what the problem is and what is happening at the moment.
triquetra
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So, I met this guy J last month. He liked me, but I didn't like him like that.
Keep in mind, that although he's only 18, he's been forced to grow up alot. Well, he started dating this girl a few weeks ago. She's 25, and has a 2 year old child, and they're engaged. I'm 17, by the way, if that helps.
Well, he's been calling me every single day for three days in a row. He's going through alot right now, and his family has just pretty much disowned him for reasons that he doesn't even know. He needs his fiancee to keep a roof over his head, or else he's out on the street.
I feel like I can tell him anything, and me and him can talk for hours on end.
To top things off, my parents have already judged him, and they don't like him because of the situation that's going on right now.
I can see the downside to what's going to happen, and I can't do anything to stop it. Someone's going to get hurt.
There's another guy in my life. But, I'm not having much luck with him at all. I'm so afraid to call him, because last time I called him he got so high, and didn't even remember me.
Please, don't tell me to push J away. What do I do? I'm so confused. (link)
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Boy, this is tough. Ummm. I think that the best thing which you can do for him right now is just to be there as a friend to him. I wouldn't concentrate on your boyfriend at the moment as your friend needs more help that your relationship does.
Try and find out as to why his parents disowned him for the 'reasons he doesn't even know'. It's not poking your nose into other people's business, your just concerned for J. And see whether it is a valid reason to disown him, and if it isn't then they shoudl re-consider as to letting him back. Because not only does he need th support of his friends, but the support of his family. Do the best you can. But if you don't feel able to then ask your parents to do it. I know that they don't think much of him, but if they could do it just for you then that would help.
I would also say that his girlfriend needs to help him out of this situation. BUT of if she can support him and the child for the tie being.
As for J, he needs to go and get a job. You say that he's been forced to grow up a lot? Well, this is the next stage of that, he needs to get a good, stable job which will help him keep a roof over his head, put food on the table etc.
As for you, you can do something to change the downsides and that is by trying to do what is written above. You're a caring person and you'll know what to do when something happENS.
Good luck,
triquetra
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um yeah so i think there's some sort of a facebook virus going aroundd cause i've been getting wall posts from people about male enhancement and i really don't want to get a facebook virus so like what can i do to avoid getting one? do you get it only if you click on the link? i'm really worried.. (link)
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Yeah, I've been getting them as well, and I don't really think that there is a way to block it. And the best thing really to do is to delete the wall posts which come up. And as for the links....I don't think that they don't do anything but to be on the safe side, don't click on them. Until this dies out, I'd just suggest that we all sit tight and wait it out really.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay im having so much touble writing a song. i have the idea of what i want it to be but i have no idea where to start. it's about a girl who likes a guy and theyre great friends. they talk a lot and would tell each other anything. she feels like she has a chance and regrets not doing anyting about it. she always thinks about him.
thats basicly it. if anyone has any ideas that could possibly help me i will gladly except them =D
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"I was so in love with you,
But you never, ever knew
All those things that I dreamt at night.
Without you, I can't survive.
There is not one day that the thought of you doesn't go through my mind, boy without you I can't survive..."?
Something along those lines?
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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so i'd like a song about, a couple, just breaking up. she loves him, he doesn't love her, they're still kind of talking and she misses him.
any ideas? (link)
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The following songs are by Mariah Carey:
We Belong Together
Don't Forget About Us
Can't Let Go
I Still Believe
My All
Without You
Endless Love (duet with Luther Vandross)
I Wish You Knew
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok so,heres the problem at first my brother likes my boyfriend the problem is..?!in School..all my classmates were tellin' rumors about my boyfriend that were together...cuz like we were keepin it on the down low...They found it out!and all our teachers like knew about it,...and my brother told me whatever you guys are doin you gotta stop it now!so he said if i ever go out, I should have a shaperown who he can trust.....And I dont know what to do...? (link)
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I would have to agree with Razhie on this one.
Your brother is a very caring person and evidently doesn't want to see you hurt in way. But he needs to understand that it is your choice about who go out with, not his. He can put in his opinions about your boyfriend, but he can't tell you whether you can go out with him.
But I would first ask him as to why he doesn't trust your current boyfriend, because he needs to base his whims on something solid and something which he makes him compelled for him to step in and tell you not to go out with your boyfriend. Not trusting somebody just isn't a soild enough for him to do that. He has to have a reason not to trust him. Find that out, then you could find a way to get around that. You can't make him trust your boyfriend, he needs to do that in his own time and space.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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What are signs that you're falling out of love with someone? And that someone's falling out of love with you? (link)
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When YOU'RE falling out of love:
You begin to get interested in other people around you. You begin to want to spend less time with the person which you're with and more time with somebody else (like calling/talking/e-mailing/texting etc. less). When you begin to be bored of the realtionship and want to find someone new. Plus, you begin to get irritable with your partner and wanting them to go away. And you don't have the same feelings for this person as you did before.
When THEY'RE falling out of love with you:
Exactly the same as above. You just need to look for the signs.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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can any body please tell me some songs for really very sad mood... like you have been ditched by somebody or you are fed up of your stupid kinda life...etc etc... but shud be really very emotional kind... am writing a few examples down here...
apologize- timbaland
kim-eminem
when i'm gone- eminem
cry me a river-timberlake
numb-linkinpark
lonely-akon
my happy ending-avril
i know they are quite old song but then if i knew any new ones then what was the need of coming here...
plz help me ...
thanks all you kind helpin people out there
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'Bye Bye' by Mariah Carey is a really sad song in my opnion. It's about remembering a family memeber who has passed away and saying 'bye bye' to them and never forgetting them.
'One Sweet Day', also by Mariah (duet with Boyz // Men) is similar, but saying goodbye to a friend, but one sweet day, you'll be together again.
That's all I can think of.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok, so im going to a private high school this year and i dont know anyone else whos going.
people keep telling me that everyones in the same situation and that ill make new friends but i dont know. im really nervous that i wont and that people will hate me :[
any advice? (: (link)
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Three years ago, I was exactly like that. I was also going to a private school and I didn't know anybody in my year who was going. I was really nervous about meeting people whom I've never heard of before and having to live with them (it's a boarding/day school). I first thought that I wouldn't make any friends at first because of being new and I was scared...really scared of being rejected by the group. To my dismay, I found that some people had come with their old friends, so I thought that that would be it, I wouldn't make friends.
But three years on, I've got a nice group of friends whom I can rely upon. What did I do? Well, at first I was closed up and un-willing to mix with the others. But about a year ago (give or take a year and yes, it is a long time before doing anything), I began to sit with them and I talked to them and with them and very quickly, I settled into the group and I made friends in a short space of time.
So my adive to you is: is to take a huge leap of faith and talk to the others. I found that hard. And if they ask questions about you, be honest and tell them about yourself. Ask about whom they are as well. But be sure that you don't do what your friends do just to fit in and be 'cool'. Just be yourself.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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hi,
is there a way to improve your physcic abilities so you can see the future or read mind or move things with your thoughts
i have a tiny bit of physcic in my i think and is there any way to know if you have the gift? (link)
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Let's put it this way. You can't strengthen something which you're not sure you've got. You've either got it or you haven't, there's no 'I think' or 'maybe'. There can only be 'I know', because that shows that you've got confidence in a power which you're proud of.
Telekinesis is very hard to strengthen because of the amount of mental power needed to perform the task which you want to perform. Precognition can occur, but randomly but it will grow by itself. Telepathy is incredibly rare, so I doubt that you've got it.
triquetra
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i was typing kinda fast and it was late..
he broke up wit me. all beacuase we had trouble seeing eachother.
my mom didnt like him , so she would only take me to see him every once in a blue moon. but you see his mother loved me'~!! she loves me to death & hasnt even met his new gurlfriend. and i told her about his new chick & she was like he never told her about her...
and she was like we'll if he aint tell me about her then it must not be that serious.,but you see we were messing around with eachother and we had seen eachother at the mall..but we werent goin together we just were doin the stuff we usually did when we did go out , like kissing and stuff.but you see i kinda blame myself for this happeining beacuase whern things were cool with us ...one of my friend told me he was tryna talk to some girl...and i got mad.. and i starting goin with this boy. and he was really jelous. but i kinda just ignored him & reminding him he went out wit 2 chicks without me knowing,.anyways when he started going out wit this chick he told me that the only reason he went out with her is because of what i did and he told me that oiwasnt there for him and she was ...and iim like wtf??? i was there when your uncle died and when u got into arguement wit yo mom..and then he was like okay yea u righ you was there for me..but please help me to get over him..i really love him with all my heart.. and he broke my heart so bad.... (link)
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Sorry for taking so long to get back to you.
It's hard loving somebody so much, but then having your heart broken. I was in an almost similar situation to you once....but not quite. A while back, I was in love, deeply in love. But I kinda knew that the realtionship would never work (for personal reasons) so I had to get over the love of my life. And that was hard. Really hard. I'd never felt the way I did then ever before. I didn't want to let go because it would mean that it was never going to happen even though I wanted it to.
There is no easy way to 'get over somebody', if there was a magic formula, everybody would use it....hell, I would use it. But the point is, to get over somebody, you've got to want to get over them. And that implies not seeing them for a period of time, not talking to them for a while (not a long time, just until you feel ready). And it is even worse if they were your first...I was in love for the first time as well, so you can kinda realte to this in some small way.
Okay, true it wasn't exactly the same as your situation, but I still had to get over this person as well.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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so i dated my x for about a year..and we broke up when i moved & we stil basically talked and saw eachother alot...and he dated 3 girls behind my back& i found out from my friends.. i forgave him and moved on..but there was this party..and i went to it just to see him..and when i walked in ,,,i saw him..but it was so dark so i didnt know if he saw me or not..anyways...he out of the bue starts dancing with this chick & she's grinding all up on him! and im standing no less that 8 feet away from him in the corner with my friend..then after they stop dancning, he s lookin around the room...then he glances at me & then walks over to me and is like wasup? i didnt know u were here! then he was like... when did u get here? and he was like oh, my bad you had to see that ...and im like wtf?anyways..long story short...i got pissed...and i kinda cheated on him and got fingered...i didnt have sex wit the dude....but yea i love him so much and i had to be honest with him so i told him and he was mad at me for like a month then he let it go..then things where cool between us...and now he is dating this gurl and it was this big ass drama shyt goin on wit us cause i messaged her out of jelousy...and yesterday i found out that they had sex,,,,and im crushed ...my feelings are so hurt:(...and he was my first..& i was his first..i just never thought that he would do it yet with someone else...and it really hurt so bad...i cry all the time....
and when we talked on the phone he talked about my bf curently & was like he called me a bitch and im gonna fight him(hint of jelousy)but yea anyways we talked for like and hour...and then he like totally rushed me off the phone and was like i gotta go call my girl...but when he broke the news about him and her having sex....(since she had told me when we got into that lil arguement , but i didnt believe her so i asked him) and he told me it was true...i was just pure silent....and then he said who knows ..we could get back together in the future... im just living my life...and he wouldnt tell me if he was in love with her or not...and he told me it was none of my buisnesss....my questiion is ....so you think he stil loves me at all?? (link)
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I'm confused. You broke up with him, yet you care that he had sex with another girl, well after the breakup. I know that he was your first, but when you 'move on' from a realtionship, you don't really care as to what your ex does with his/her life. You just let them live it the way that they want to.
I think the real question here is do YOU still love him? Not the other way round. It seems to me that he's gotten over you, but you still haven't gotten over him. Get back to me on that one.
triquetra
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